This statement is so telling. Do you think that maybe he feels forced to go to Duquesne? I don't mean that you or your DH forced him to go there. I mean more like his options were limited and he really had no other choice but to go there?
I think in a sense that he did feel pressured to go there only because they gave him the most $. DH and I NEVER made $ an issue and there were 2 other great schools he got into (Pitt and Syracuse) but chose Duquesne.

No update for today--I need an emotional break from him.
