My buddy

[LisaR]

My thoughts are when you adopt dogs, you adopt them for life. Not just for when it is convenient or when it is easy to have them. For life! When you make any move you need to consider your dogs and what kind of space you will have for them, and how you will care for them.

If you are worried you won't be able to come home and let them out, consider having a fenced in yard and putting in a doggie door. Or hire someone to come walk them once a day. Or put them in daycare. There are options besides giving them away because it is too hard to figure out how to handle moving them.

I am going to go out on a limb here, open myself up to flaming by the masses, and say I disagree with this.

Here's my story. We adopted a great dog years ago. We visited him three days in a row at the shelter and got to know him the best we could to make sure he would be a good fit with our family. He was very docile. As soon as a leash was put on him, he was extremely submissive. I'm guessing he was abused.

We brought him home and he was wonderful and great with the kids. He was very mellow...... FOR ONE WEEK!

I don't know what happened but apparently he became comfortable with us and turned into a completely different dog. Still wonderful and still great with the kids but he turned into a dog that was full of energy (he was 4 y/o). He LEAPED over our fence on a daily basis. He ran free in the neighborhood while we searched high and low for him only to have him turn up a few hours later. DAILY!

We went in front of our city counsel and begged and pleaded to be allowed to put up a wooden privacy fence but we were denied. The only thing we could do was chain him up in the yard. As soon as any type of chain or leash was put on him, he became submissive again. So he didn't get any exercise even though he was full of energy because the only time he ran was when he was without a leash. We paid a good sum of money for private training. It didn't help in the slightest.

Some friends of ours had recently moved to a farm. They were having an open house and invited us and told us to bring the dog. Their girls loved him and they said he could run around like a crazy dog while we visited. OMG! That dog was in heaven! He ran with the horses, he ran with the kids, he just ran and ran and ran. He had a blast. The other family saw how happy he was and they offered to take adopt him (knowing how many problems we were having over the past year).

So yes, while we planed on adopting him for life, he was happier and safer with the other family. He was going to get hit by a car where we lived or he was going to be confined to a chain. Was it a hard decision with many tears? Most definitely. But because we loved him, we knew we had to do what was in his best interest. He thrived with that family for years until he passed away. While a tough decision, I have never doubted it.

This thread is one of the most judgmental ones I believe I have read on the Dis in a long time. Every circumstance is different but most of you have a one size fits all attitude. Sometimes doing what is in the best interest of the dog tops being able to say you are the "wonderful owner who would never re-home their dog no matter the circumstances even if the dog is unhappy."

 

[FlyingDumbo]

I am going to go out on a limb here, open myself up to flaming by the masses, and say I disagree with this.

Here's my story. We adopted a great dog years ago. We visited him three days in a row at the shelter and got to know him the best we could to make sure he would be a good fit with our family. He was very docile. As soon as a leash was put on him, he was extremely submissive. I'm guessing he was abused.

We brought him home and he was wonderful and great with the kids. He was very mellow...... FOR ONE WEEK!

I don't know what happened but apparently he became comfortable with us and turned into a completely different dog. Still wonderful and still great with the kids but he turned into a dog that was full of energy (he was 4 y/o). He LEAPED over our fence on a daily basis. He ran free in the neighborhood while we searched high and low for him only to have him turn up a few hours later. DAILY!

We went in front of our city counsel and begged and pleaded to be allowed to put up a wooden privacy fence but we were denied. The only thing we could do was chain him up in the yard. As soon as any type of chain or leash was put on him, he became submissive again. So he didn't get any exercise even though he was full of energy because the only time he ran was when he was without a leash. We paid a good sum of money for private training. It didn't help in the slightest.

Some friends of ours had recently moved to a farm. They were having an open house and invited us and told us to bring the dog. Their girls loved him and they said he could run around like a crazy dog while we visited. OMG! That dog was in heaven! He ran with the horses, he ran with the kids, he just ran and ran and ran. He had a blast. The other family saw how happy he was and they offered to take adopt him (knowing how many problems we were having over the past year).

So yes, while we planed on adopting him for life, he was happier and safer with the other family. He was going to get hit by a car where we lived or he was going to be confined to a chain. Was it a hard decision with many tears? Most definitely. But because we loved him, we knew we had to do what was in his best interest. He thrived with that family for years until he passed away. While a tough decision, I have never doubted it.

This thread is one of the most judgmental ones I believe I have read on the Dis in a long time. Every circumstance is different but most of you have a one size fits all attitude. Sometimes doing what is in the best interest of the dog tops being able to say you are the "wonderful owner who would never re-home their dog no matter the circumstances even if the dog is unhappy."

These circumstances are very different. See you did this in the best interest of the dog, not what was easier for you.

 

[maxiesmom]

This thread is one of the most judgmental ones I believe I have read on the Dis in a long time. Every circumstance is different but most of you have a one size fits all attitude. Sometimes doing what is in the best interest of the dog tops being able to say you are the "wonderful owner who would never re-home their dog no matter the circumstances even if the dog is unhappy."

The OP is not trying to re-home their dog because of any kind of issue, other than it being easier on her than taking the dog with her. That is not acting in the best interest of the dog at all. Please don't try and spin this as the OP is only doing what she has to to make her dog happy.

 

[LisaR]

These circumstances are very different. See you did this in the best interest of the dog, not what was easier for you.

I'm not saying I agree with the OP'er. I was responding to the posters that seem to think there is never a valid reason to re-home a dog.

 

[LisaR]

The OP is not trying to re-home their dog because of any kind of issue, other than it being easier on her than taking the dog with her. That is not acting in the best interest of the dog at all. Please don't try and spin this as the OP is only doing what she has to to make her dog happy.

We were posting at the same time. Again, I am responding to those that are adamant on this thread that adopting a dog is a "for life" commitment and there isn't any valid reason to re-home a dog. If you do, you must be a horrible, rotten individual. And yes, I got that vibe from more than one poster.

 

[CathrynRose]

So, leaving 2 secure jobs and up and moving to a place which has one of the more depressed economies, job prospects and tanked housing market in the nation without securing jobs or a place to stay just to be near an amusement park is a good idea?

If that is what the OP wants, good for her. But that doesn't mean that others can't shake their heads and wonder.

You forgot the "with a teenaged daughter".

 

[stargazer2892]

So I didn't read the entire thread ( my time to read is short with a 3 month old who's teething). I'm assuming from the few I did the OP is getting flamed for not bringing her cold weather dogs to FL. She is doing what SHE FEELS is best for HER dogs. Husky's are extremely active dogs who have to be outside and running, which in the heat of summer in FL will be dangerous for them. DH's family breeds them up in MA and RI and has offered to drive down with a puppy for us, which we had to decline as much as we would LOVE a Husky puppy from an amazing home it's just to darn hot down here for them. Yes, I believe that when you adopt a pet it's for life, but guess what? stuff happens, things change. I love my cat almost as much as my DS however if DS were to become allergic to her then, we would have to find a new home for her and it would break my heart. My parents just moved from ME and NC and had to give one of their cats who is a Maine Coon to a cousin because she would not have been happy down here, up there she had fields to roam in and the coat adapted for that climate down here she would have to be a primarily indoor cat, (now before the "indoor cats are healthier/safer/better" thing starts. We adopted her when she was 2 and was a stray so there was no real option for an indoor cat) in a climate she was not suited for. She is now in a very loving, happy home with fields and all the room in the world for her to roam in.
To the OP. I'm sorry you have to give up your babies, it sucks but they will be happier in a new home better suited for them then crammed into a tiny apartment.

 

[robinb]

The other dog is doing VERY well in her new home, in fact I think she may even be happier. They have a young son, who plays with her all day long, and she seems to "fit in" better with their dog than she did with my golden and my husky. And this same dog, kinda fell into us. She was at our local shelter and had, had a liter of puppies. My daughter was volunteering there and when I went to pick her up, I asked to see the puppies. I was told that the puppies had all contracted parvo and passed away. So I asked to see momma. She was sooooo skinny, and her fur was like a scouring pad, I took one look in her eyes, and I just couldn’t walk away from her, so I brought her home. She is now fat and happy, and doing wonderful in her re-home. So no, I will not ask for her back.

The plan was;
A) sell house
B) find employment
C) find a place to live
D) make the move

This is still the plan.

I have typed and erased my response several times. I simply cannot come up with a respose that will not cause me more trouble than you're worth.

Best of luck with your 'plan.'

I've read Taco's post quoted above again and again and for the life of me I can't figure out what is wrong with it and what would you so mad you would say something "point worthy" .

OP, it sounds like your rescue doggie is doing great in her new family. It seems to me that you really have your dogs' best interest at heart and that you originally thought that re-homing them would be the best for THEM. Obviously, 2 out of 3 didn't agree and now you are working on a solution that keeps them with you. If you think that you will be out of the house for an extended period of time and they are used to a noon potty break, would start to get them used to more time alone and longer hours between pottying (little by little until you get up to 8-9 hours). You'll want to get them used to being alone longer before you move and start you new jobs. Good luck!

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I just love the reasons people give to make themselves feel better when they feel "its in the best interest of the pet" to rehome them.

I just sit here shaking my head thinking really? Do you really believe that or is that what you convinced yourself to believe to make yourself feel better?

I used to work with rescue "collie rescue" and some of the reasons we got were just so yes I am passionate about rehoming.
**I'm not saying that at times its isn't nesessary because yes at times it is.**

But I think all too often, animals become an inconvenience and its just easier to convince oneself its easier to find another home for the pet or give it to a shelter or rescue than to put a little extra effort in to keep the pet.

 

[jlewisinsyr]

But I think all too often, animals become an inconvenience and its just easier to convince oneself its easier to find another home for the pet or give it to a shelter or rescue than to put a little extra effort in to keep the pet.

We are a quick fix society...it isn't just unique to diets and pills.

 

[Halloweenqueen]

We moved from NC to WA four years ago. My husband went first to make sure the new job was worth keeping. Once we decided to move we sent our two cats to live with him in WA. It was very easy to find pet moving services. They traveled with a lovely retired couple across country.

We moved everyone once our home sold. We used the pet movers again for our dog.

I can't imagine leaving a member of my family behind. It is very easy to find pet friendly rentals.

I LOVE Disney, but I would never uproot my family to be closer to the parks. Especially with no job or place to stay. Plus a teenage daughter! Good schools in Florida are hard to come by. I lived in Florida as a young adult and I would think Ohio would be a better environment for a teenager.

 

[TacoBaco]

I know I shouldn't bait the hook, but I don't understand why everyone keeps twisting my words, and how you seem to read between all the lines to see only what you want to see...

And come on, from what the OP posted, it could be construed that she was looking for a debate. If she wasn't, why would she post a title "My buddy", upload an adorable picture that would tug on one's heartstrings, proclaim that he was the love of her life and then say, 'oh, by the way, we are getting rid of him?' If that isn't bait, I don't know what is.

For crying out loud, the woman is a realtor and works in a bank servicing loans. You would think she would have a bit of insight on how to find proper pet-friendly housing or at least the knowledge that a local realtor would be the best bet to help her find pet friendly housing. So you can understand why some would think her hand wringing about how she has to get rid of her dogs because she has no idea how to find proper housing wouldn't ring true.

Ok, so you did your home work.. Now please do some more research and show me exactly where the words in red ever came out of my mouth. Because what I remember asking is "Anyone ever made this move with two large dogs? And took them from a home with a fenced in yard to an apartment? Any tips or pointers? What worked and or didn't work for you?"

So, leaving 2 secure jobs and up and moving to a place which has one of the more depressed economies, job prospects and tanked housing market in the nation without securing jobs or a place to stay just to be near an amusement park is a good idea?.

1) not that you would know this or care for that matter,, BUT, the unemployment rate in our area is 9.9 (according to the google search I just did) and its 8.7 in Orland. 2) my DH commutes over an hour everyday for his job and he will have many more opportunities in a bigger city like Orlando.. which will allow for career advancement, and growth 3) We are not moving just to be near an amusement park, we're moving for more opportunities, for no snow, for the ocean, and the swamps, and the beaches, and for something to do other than watch the corn grow...

These circumstances are very different. See you did this in the best interest of the dog, not what was easier for you.

Where did I say this?

The OP is not trying to re-home their dog because of any kind of issue, other than it being easier on her than taking the dog with her. That is not acting in the best interest of the dog at all. Please don't try and spin this as the OP is only doing what she has to to make her dog happy.

Again, where did I say this?

Why is everyone twisting my words?

I have lived in a small town my entire life, all 36 years of it. Is it really so inconceivable to think that I may honestly be that naive... As to life in a big city with large dogs, and for me to be concerned about my dogs happiness and well being? I only know what I've experienced, thus the reason I asked FOR HELP, I have never made a move with two large dogs,,, and the extent of them riding in a car, is a five minute trip to the vet... They have never done an 18 hour car ride before. So I innocently asked what to expect, how to handle it,, what worked, what didn't work...

Of course I have "some insight on how to find pet friendly housing, I am an intelligent human being,, who is capable of making phone calls, and navigating the internet... I never said that I didn't know how to find a place to live... Please, please, please people, please quit putting words in my mouth, and twisting everything around, just so you can pick a fight...

 

[Mickey Fliers]

I am sorry, OP. I am sure it is heart wrenching to think about re-homing your pets.

We are in a similar situation. We just found out we may be re-located to Japan. In the event that happens, we more than likely will not be able to take the dog we just adopted...maybe not even our 7 yo Golden whom I adore! I am currently researching all of my options and it is killing me to even think about finding him a new home.

 

[badblackpug]

<---- That is MY buddy. He is 15, has arthritis and is nearly blind. I give him arthritis medicine and eye drops twice a day. I have had him since he was 8 weeks old. I know that I am everything to him and he is the world to me. This is the friend that sat on my lap and loved me through miscarriages, divorce, infertility treatments and the loss of my father. I can't even say that for a lot of the humans in my life. I would never make a life plan that didn't include him.

I don't think anyone in this thread is being superior. I think that people are passionate pet owners, and those who are involved in rescue are even more passionate because they see the horror stories.

What is irresponsible is that the OP made a life plan that didn't include the 3 defenseless beings in her life. She may not love them as they love her, but she does have a responsibility to them. As a PP said this was a choice. The OP didn't get downsized or transferred. Her house didn't blow down in a tornado.

I am an animal lover. I feel so sorry for those poor doggies. Worse that they are rescues. They have already been abandoned once, and now they are facing it again.

 

[TinkerwithDis]

I am sorry, OP. I am sure it is heart wrenching to think about re-homing your pets.

We are in a similar situation. We just found out we may be re-located to Japan. In the event that happens, we more than likely will not be able to take the dog we just adopted...maybe not even our 7 yo Golden whom I adore! I am currently researching all of my options and it is killing me to even think about finding him a new home.

omg i have a 6 yr old golden and i cannot imagine giving him away. Thats so heart breaking. I hope you can find a way to bring him/ her.


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[TinkerwithDis]

<---- That is MY buddy. He is 15, has arthritis and is nearly blind. I give him arthritis medicine and eye drops twice a day. I have had him since he was 8 weeks old. I know that I am everything to him and he is the world to me. This is the friend that sat on my lap and loved me through miscarriages, divorce, infertility treatments and the loss of my father. I can't even say that for a lot of the humans in my life. I would never make a life plan that didn't include him.

I don't think anyone in this thread is being superior. I think that people are passionate pet owners, and those who are involved in rescue are even more passionate because they see the horror stories.

What is irresponsible is that the OP made a life plan that didn't include the 3 defenseless beings in her life. She may not love them as they love her, but she does have a responsibility to them. As a PP said this was a choice. The OP didn't get downsized or transferred. Her house didn't blow down in a tornado.

I am an animal lover. I feel so sorry for those poor doggies. Worse that they are rescues. They have already been abandoned once, and now they are facing it again.

very well said!!!


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[goofy!]

I know I shouldn't bait the hook, but I don't understand why everyone keeps twisting my words, and how you seem to read between all the lines to see only what you want to see...



Ok, so you did your home work.. Now please do some more research and show me exactly where the words in red ever came out of my mouth. Because what I remember asking is "Anyone ever made this move with two large dogs? And took them from a home with a fenced in yard to an apartment? Any tips or pointers? What worked and or didn't work for you?"



1) not that you would know this or care for that matter,, BUT, the unemployment rate in our area is 9.9 (according to the google search I just did) and its 8.7 in Orland. 2) my DH commutes over an hour everyday for his job and he will have many more opportunities in a bigger city like Orlando.. which will allow for career advancement, and growth 3) We are not moving just to be near an amusement park, we're moving for more opportunities, for no snow, for the ocean, and the swamps, and the beaches, and for something to do other than watch the corn grow...




Where did I say this?



Again, where did I say this?

Why is everyone twisting my words?

I have lived in a small town my entire life, all 36 years of it. Is it really so inconceivable to think that I may honestly be that naive... As to life in a big city with large dogs, and for me to be concerned about my dogs happiness and well being? I only know what I've experienced, thus the reason I asked FOR HELP, I have never made a move with two large dogs,,, and the extent of them riding in a car, is a five minute trip to the vet... They have never done an 18 hour car ride before. So I innocently asked what to expect, how to handle it,, what worked, what didn't work...

Of course I have "some insight on how to find pet friendly housing, I am an intelligent human being,, who is capable of making phone calls, and navigating the internet... I never said that I didn't know how to find a place to live... Please, please, please people, please quit putting words in my mouth, and twisting everything around, just so you can pick a fight...

Just curious, if you really were not trying to and all you really wanted was tips on moving with large dogs, why did you even mention all the rehoming stuff?

A simple "I am moving with 2 large dogs and need tips on a long car ride" and "anybody have any leads on some nice pet-friendly housing in Orlando" would have been all that was necessary IF that is really all you wanted.

Your last paragraph in your OP was all that was needed and you would have received many helpful tips.

 

[TomorrowlandFamily]

What is irresponsible is that the OP made a life plan that didn't include the 3 defenseless beings in her life. She may not love them as they love her, but she does have a responsibility to them.

Did you see that the OP is asking for advice on taking the dogs with her? She is taking the dogs with her! She is being responsible. What more can she say?? I think people like ignoring that she is TAKING HER DOGS with her just so y'all can jump in on the tar and feathering.

If she said she has moved and they have a big home with a big backyard and the dogs are so happy in Orlando, some of y'all will STILL be posting "she should take her dogs!"

 

[badblackpug]

Did you see that the OP is asking for advice on taking the dogs with her? She is taking the dogs with her! She is being responsible. What more can she say?? I think people like ignoring that she is TAKING HER DOGS with her just so y'all can jump in on the tar and feathering.

If she said she has moved and they have a big home with a big backyard and the dogs are so happy in Orlando, some of y'all will STILL be posting "she should take her dogs!"

What I saw is that the OP is taking her dogs because she HAS to. She tried to give them away and that didn't work, so they have to come with her. It was not her original plan to take them, and frankly her reasons sounded more like, "I want to make this easier for me."

Her original plan (as that may be) did not include her dogs. Her original plan was to give the dogs away and move across the country without them. Her original explanation sounded, to me, like she was, essentially saying, "I want to pick up and move and I don't want my plans to be hindered or complicated by the dogs."

Again, others may feel differently about their pets, but I would have never made a plan in the 1st place that didn't include my boy.

 

[Hannathy]

What I saw is that the OP is taking her dogs because she HAS to. She tried to give them away and that didn't work, so they have to come with her. It was not her original plan to take them, and frankly her reasons sounded more like, "I want to make this easier for me."

Her original plan (as that may be) did not include her dogs. Her original plan was to give the dogs away and move across the country without them. Her original explanation sounded, to me, like she was, essentially saying, "I want to pick up and move and I don't want my plans to be hindered or complicated by the dogs."

Again, others may feel differently about their pets, but I would have never made a plan in the 1st place that didn't include my boy.

That's exactly how I saw/read it also.