I just found this thread and read all of your entires. Wow, God Bless You and all the stress you have been under. DH and I are expecting and my doctor has tried to get me to have the first trimester screening. It is currently scheduled, but at my last appointment I told the Dr I didnt think I wanted to do it. Ive heard of so many false positives and as I read this (before I knew the outcome)-- i stressed with you. I know at 16 weeks you also get a type of test, so im thinking ill wait and do that one. What are your thoughts. If you could go back and not have that test, would you? The test is just something they have started doing around here- and i have to go to a different office and everything.
I admire all of your strength. You are a very inspirational person and I can say I admire you. I don't know how you held it together, under the stress you were under, when you did.
Congratulations on your release from the HR dr too! Id love to see her room!! It's almost time for Ella's grand appearance. I know that little girl will truly be loved!
Hmm..if I could go back and do the test again, would I? Yeah, I think I would.
These past 6 months have been trying, and depressing at times, but because regardless of what was wrong, abortion would never be an option for me.. if there had been something wrong, I could have prepared for it (and for a significant amount of time, we did prepare). Depending on what IS wrong (heart defects and such) some can be fixed in utero. WIth what we thought was wrong (Downs), we were able to read up on it, and join groups with parents of down syndrome children, and grew a whole new appreciation for parents of challenged children. It also was good for us, because I think giving birth to a child with an abnormality without any preparation would have been harder to deal with, and I wouldnt' want that added mental stress to go along wtih actually caring for the child.
There are obviously many times the doctors are wrong...so take heart in the fact that any test is not 100% accurate, but I'd rather have some knowledge of the possibilities....
Yeah, Ive just never really understood why the first trimester screening and then the test at 16 weeks. The test at 16 weeks would prepare you as well. I asked my doctor and she said that they compare the two tests, which i assume makes the second test more telling. However, what are your opinions on skipping the first test? I guess im saying that at 16 weeks you would still have time to prepare and whatnot, and might eliminate another test which might add stress (where the false positive rate is very high). Im just confused as to what to do... and I, like you, will keep the baby regardless.
I'm praying for you to have a healthy baby. But even if that's not meant to be...I never met a Down Sydrome child I did not adore.![]()
Went to both doctors today...regular and high risk...
Good news is... The High Risk Doctor released us today...no need to go back! Ella is now in the 19th percentile and weighs approx 4lbs 3oz!! All her measurements are looking good, no cleft lip present and all her vitals and organs look great!
She is dropped pretty low, so we'll see if I make it to April 3rd....
Thanks everyone for the support! Although I am eternally grateful that all has worked out for us... this emotional roller coaster has made me so much stronger and so much more appreciative for all the good I have. I will never look at life the same, and for that, I think this journey was intended for me.
So glad to hear that she's doing great! Is the middle name still Victoria?![]()