My DS is 6 and LOVES Big Thunder Ranch BBQ. All you can eat Ribs, Chicken, Coleslaw, Beans, Cornbread. We usually get there around 11:30 and don't have to wait to be seated. Entertainment is ok.
I like the Cozy Cones (Chili Cone Carne and Chicken Verde->my fave!) this is more of a snack than a meal as we ate both cones and were still hungry.
Flo's V8 cafe is really good (Brioche french toast and any of their lunch plates)
I like the bread bowls at Pacific Warf.
Taste Pilot's Grill is good. I get their blue cheese burger.
Ghiradelli's is good but I live in the San Francisco Bay Area so for me it's not a must. Although their Sundaes are pretty good.
Corn Dogs-so good!
Dole Whips (or Dole Whip Floats)-esp. on a hot day. There are 2 lines one on the outside of the Tiki Room and one inside. The one inside is usually faster and doesn't have as long of a line.
DTD-We get the Po'Boys at the cafe next to Ralph Brennan's. And the beignets (you can get beignets and mint juleps at the French Market inside DL). Sometimes we eat at ESPN, but that's just so DH can have a little time to relax and watch some sports. Their food is pretty good and the portions are big.
I know your kids are older but we do character breakfast (as it is buffet). Goofy's Kitchen or Minnie's Breakfast (at the Plaza Inn). I prefer Goofy's to Minnie's for food (PB&J pizza-yumm) but prefer Minnie's over Goofy for characters. Goofy's is not located in the parks but inside the
Disneyland Hotel.