Mother of the Year here!

[SwedishMeatball]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

Since I was the first poster that made a negative remark, since when is expressing a difference of opinion being part of a mob and coming off as holier than thou?? I doubt the OP posted this expecting lots of hugs, but how sweet of you to offer them.

 

[Christine]

Since I was the first poster that made a negative remark, since when is expressing a difference of opinion being part of a mob and coming off as holier than thou?? I doubt the OP posted this expecting lots of hugs, but how sweet of you to offer them.

Agreed. The problem is that so many people disagreed with what the OP that I guess it seems like a "mob."

So far, no one has gotten nasty with her and that's good. I'm just hoping that the OP stays on board with her thread and doesn't run away. It takes a lot of guts to admit you may have done something that you didn't think was stellar parenting. Obviously she felt that way or she wouldn't have put it out there.

 

[DVCLiz]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

I rarely if ever have been called "holier than thou" but if objecting to an 11 year old seeing this type of movie makes me one, then guilty as charged. I've come back to this thread several times - I still can't believe the judgement of any adult who would allow this. Not to mention the whole "R" rating - why take a child into a movie so clearly marketed at adults???

That's not a mob mentality talking - just my own personal opinion, but not one I'm likely to change, even if other posters continue to insist they saw these same kinds of movies as children and just loved them.

 

[N.Bailey]

Since I was the first poster that made a negative remark, since when is expressing a difference of opinion being part of a mob and coming off as holier than thou?? I doubt the OP posted this expecting lots of hugs, but how sweet of you to offer them.

It wasn't your reply or replies like yours that I was referring to.

 

[vettechick99]

I can see both sides of this. I remember watching gory movies when I was younger (and I snuck in my share of naughty movies) and don't feel that I'm scarred for it.

However, 11 years old is so very young. IMO, they should still be playing with toys, video games and playing with friends. Life is sweet for only so long before you are innudated with violence, sex and pressure to do drugs. Why mature them faster than you have to?

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

I rarely if ever have been called "holier than thou" but if objecting to an 11 year old seeing this type of movie makes me one, then guilty as charged. I've come back to this thread several times - I still can't believe the judgement of any adult who would allow this. Not to mention the whole "R" rating - why take a child into a movie so clearly marketed at adults???

That's not a mob mentality talking - just my own personal opinion, but not one I'm likely to change, even if other posters continue to insist they saw these same kinds of movies as children and just loved them.

I think what bothers me isn't so much that people disagree with what the OP did but that some people made assumptions that weren't fair to make. People are saying that they would be livid if the OP had taken THEIR child to see that movie without their permission. But we don't know that the OP didn't have permission to take the other child to the film. This is what bugs me. I'm ok with people expressing their opinions but let us not leap to conclusions.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I think what bothers me isn't so much that people disagree with what the OP did but that some people made assumptions that weren't fair to make. People are saying that they would be livid if the OP had taken THEIR child to see that movie without their permission. But we don't know that the OP didn't have permission to take the other child to the film. This is what bugs me. I'm ok with people expressing their opinions but let us not leap to conclusions.

In absence of evidence to the contrary (e.g. the OP saying she had gotten permission from the friend's parents), we can only assume what we're told. She made no mention of asking the girl's parents (and I would think she would have made that pretty clear, considering the rest of the story), so it's hard to assume that she did ask.

 

[dmslush]

I can see both sides of this. I remember watching gory movies when I was younger (and I snuck in my share of naughty movies) and don't feel that I'm scarred for it.

However, 11 years old is so very young. IMO, they should still be playing with toys, video games and playing with friends. Life is sweet for only so long before you are innudated with violence, sex and pressure to do drugs. Why mature them faster than you have to?

I agree so much with that statement. I just don't understand why we feel the need to expose our children to so much grown up stuff. When did it become 'wrong' to set limits for your child??

 

[Ragnrok23]

I really don't think it's that bad

I saw my first rated "R" movie at 6 years old- It was Return of the Living Dead- which was a horror spoof of Night of the Living Dead. I also watched all the Nightmare on Elm St. movies in elementry school (and I lived on an Elm St. at the time )

My parents never tried to censor any of my music or movie viewing (although my father who was the one that brought me to a "R" movie when I was 6 tried to take away a Tape I had of a stand up comic when I was 13 because he swore

 

[goofygirl]

Its only a movie. Get a grip, people! Those people are ACTORS. they are not really having sex or being violent!

besides..even Disney movies have violence! And so do video games.

When I was 10, I went with my mom to see Fort Apache The Bronx (sex AND violence) and I lived to tell about it!

 

[Regina]

The OP realizes that she made a mistake. My sweet as honey, devout Godmother took me to a movie once and it was sold out. We went to see a different movie instead. It turned out to be a horror movie with some guy's head rolling down the steps.

My family was spending the night at my Aunt's, and I clutched my Barbie doll close to me when I went to bed. I woke up at some point and felt for my doll in the dark. Her head had popped off.

Did my Godmother intend to traumatize me? No, she wasn't fully aware of the movie's content. GoofieRuthie, 45 years from now, your DD might be telling everyone about this movie experience. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

 

[RitaZ.]

Some parents do allow their kids to watch movies that, IMO, are definitely not age appropriate.

I remember when The Fast and The Furious came out, one neighbor "Mrs. Anything goes" took her daughter and another neighbor's daughter (5 yrs. old at the time) to see this movie. When the other neighbor told me that her daughter had gone to see the movie, I asked her if she knew that the movie wasn't intended for young children. Yeah, she knew and was fine with it. Okie-dokie!

My friend took her son (12 at the time) to see Resident Evil the day after he was released from a Psych Unit for attempting suicide. That one still troubles me.

 

[wvjules]

Its only a movie. Get a grip, people! Those people are ACTORS. they are not really having sex or being violent!

No, really?!?!?!? I never would have guessed that if you hadn't mentioned it.

Besides, that's not the point. Even if they are actors it is still portraying sex and violence and thats not something I'm willing to subject or allow my DD to see at the age of 10.

 

[Bob Slydell]

The OP realizes that she made a mistake. My sweet as honey, devout Godmother took me to a movie once and it was sold out. We went to see a different movie instead. It turned out to be a horror movie with some guy's head rolling down the steps.

My family was spending the night at my Aunt's, and I clutched my Barbie doll close to me when I went to bed. I woke up at some point and felt for my doll in the dark. Her head had popped off.

Did my Godmother intend to traumatize me? No, she wasn't fully aware of the movie's content. GoofieRuthie, 45 years from now, your DD might be telling everyone about this movie experience. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

Yes, but your Godmother didn't spend time beforehand reading reviews of the movie or else she would have realized it wasn't a good idea, I assume?

 

[mickeyboat]

In absence of evidence to the contrary (e.g. the OP saying she had gotten permission from the friend's parents), we can only assume what we're told. She made no mention of asking the girl's parents (and I would think she would have made that pretty clear, considering the rest of the story), so it's hard to assume that she did ask.

And, since most of us feel the movie would be inappropriate for an 11 year old, we assume that the other child's parent would object to the movie if she knew which movie it was.

Denae

 

[disykat]

I was one of the people who assumed - because she never mentioned otherwise - that the other child involved may also have had parents who didn't know what they were getting into moviewise. I doubt the parent told her "please continue to sit through a movie if you deem it inappropriate".

I also assume that this thread was started after reading the censoring music thread just to have a little fun with us. The friend was added to make it a more controversial issue.

 

[laura001]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

With you on this one

 

[dis ms.]

besides..even Disney movies have violence!

Oh, come on! You're not seriously comparing the relatively tame violence in Disney movies to the blood and gore in movies like Hostel, are you?

 

[mommaU4]

I have to say I am feeling much better about the fact that I took my kids (9 and 11) to see Mean Girls when it came out in the theaters.

Actually my oldest (age 11) has seen several rated R movies but we usually watch them at home together so I can fast forward through anything that I feel is just too much for him.

Then afterwards we always watch the making of the movie so he can see how it was all done. Still, there are things that I wouldn't let him see. I love horror movies and have the Scream collection which he begs me all the time to watch but I've told him no, not even with me there. Too violent.

But we all have to make our own choices in this life and then live with whatever consequences may or may not arise from them.

 

[Chuck S]

If the movie is as bad as described, you have to wonder why it received an R rating and not NC-17. Personally, gruesome is not my style of movie, but I know a lot of folks like horror movies, and even after reading the review, I'd probably think "Rated "R" they've seen "R" movies before and not be concerned, until the movie started and I actually saw what was taking place on screen. Remember R rated flicks were pretty tame when we were young compared to today, I wonder how many parents of my generation would have done the same thing, remembering what R rated movies were like when they were that age.