Mother of the Year here!

[DVCLiz]

Wow...just wow. Taking an 11 year old to see "Hostel", a movie so violent that even the commercial scared me (and I am 48 years old)? Taking an 11 year old to a movie during which someone's toes were going to be clipped off with pliers (according to the commercial I saw)? And being able to justify taking someone else's child? And did I read you correctly - you let an 11 year old child see "Saw", too? Wasn't that the one where someone had to cut off his/her arm, etc.?

There is an award I'd nominate you for, but it's not Mother of the Year.

 

[tekmom]

I have to agree with the other posters. I can't imagine what you were thinking to even take your 11 year old to see Hostel. Anyone who could read a review would have to have known what this movie was about. The massive sex is one thing, but to even want your kid to see a movie where the only plotline seems to be sex, sex and hideous torture is just...... I am by no means a prude and on occasion enjoy a horror flick like anyone else, but I hope you had permission to take someone else's kid to see this. I can't believe that you almost seem giddy with this.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

yes, the movie is rated R. There were some articles a couple of weeks ago on the issues of why on earth this thing wasn't rated NC-17.

Quentin Taranntino did not direct the movie. Someone named Eli Roth (?) did, who looks like he has been mentored by Tarantino.

yes you are correct. Quentin Taranntino did not direct, his is the Executive Producer of this movie.

 

[laura001]

Sorry, but if I was the parents of your daughter's friend, I would be very upset. You may not censor what your children see, but I think you should have taken the other child into consideration and left.

Being a Mom, before I let my child go to a movie with another parent I would check out the movie myself, read reviews etc. If I let my child go to the movie, it is not up to the other parent to censor it. I would hope that I, just as this Mom has, instilled the values that either they would leave themselves, cover their eyes etc etc.

I haven't seen the movie, nor know anything about it, but I would check it out before I took my child to see it. Although, the ratings on these movies are sometimes very difficult to understand. I took my older kids to see "something about Mary", and the youngest tagged along, I was horrified (can't remember what it was rated, but am sure it wasn't R or anything), yet other movies that are rated R, you have to wonder how they got that rating. Anyway, that is MHO.

 

[justhat]

Don't let the other posters make you feel too bad. I saw plenty of films like Hostel and worse when I was 11 or even younger and I am fine. No permament damage done to me. I saw Silence of the Lambs, Sleeping with the Enemy, and the Godfather (all 3 of them) when I was 10, Goodfellas at 12, Natural Born Killers around 14, and the list goes on. I saw all of these with my grandparents who were very liberal with what they allowed me to watch (as were my parents, though not as much as my grandparents) and even brought a friend to see Sleeping with the Enemy. None of those movies scarred me for life, or even a day, and I actually enjoyed watching them.

 

[disneymcgraw]

I have to say that I would never take an 11 year old to see Hostel. I'm sorry but I don't know what the OP was thinking.
I remember when From Dusk to Dawn came out, hubby and I went to see it and a couple women came in with child of about 6 or so, we couldn't believe it.
Different strokes I guess but does an 11 year old really need to be exposed to that kind of violence and sex?? I can't believe the OP was waiting for the sex to end and the violence to start. I'm sorry if others disagree but that's just wrong.

 

[BelleMcNally]

My own parents were very strict about what I watched, but a lot of my friends watched graphic movies when they were as young as 11. I'm sure you don't consider this your most shining parental moment (as is conveyed by the sheepish and self-mocking tone you used in your post), but I hardly think it's as bad as some are making it out to be.

I can't imagine my parents forcing me to end a friendship or taking a friend's parents to task over something like this...

 

[Minnesota!]

Don't let the other posters make you feel too bad. I saw plenty of films like Hostel and worse when I was 11 or even younger and I am fine. No permament damage done to me. I saw Silence of the Lambs, Sleeping with the Enemy, and the Godfather (all 3 of them) when I was 10, Goodfellas at 12, Natural Born Killers around 14, and the list goes on. I saw all of these with my grandparents who were very liberal with what they allowed me to watch (as were my parents, though not as much as my grandparents) and even brought a friend to see Sleeping with the Enemy. None of those movies scarred me for life, or even a day, and I actually enjoyed watching them.

Agreed......

 

[CheshireVal]

I think there's a difference between movies like Godfather and Silence of the Lambs, which actually have plots, and a movie that is essentially nothing more than a vehicle for explicit sex and torture scenes. Definitely not appropriate for an 11 year old.

 

[justhat]

Silence of the Lambs does indeed have a plot, but do you really think a 10yo gets the plot? Yeah, I 'understood' the movie, but nowhere near the capacity I do now. Back then, to me, it was just another scary horror movie and I thought it was pretty cool. Plus I would not trade in those memories with my grandparents for anything. I'm sure the OP's daughter will look back on this day fondly when she's older, not with bad feelings towards her mom about it.

 

[Crankyshank]

There's significantly more violence and nudity in Hostel than any of the other movies mentioned. This movie was borderline on an NC17 rating. there's many other movies to see in the theater if the OP wanted to have a fun bonding afternoon.

 

[poohbears5]

Silence of the Lambs does indeed have a plot, but do you really think a 10yo gets the plot? Yeah, I 'understood' the movie, but nowhere near the capacity I do now. Back then, to me, it was just another scary horror movie and I thought it was pretty cool. Plus I would not trade in those memories with my grandparents for anything. I'm sure the OP's daughter will look back on this day fondly when she's older, not with bad feelings towards her mom about it.

Yep what hallmark moments are made of.

 

[N.Bailey]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Yep what hallmark moments are made of.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

no, I agree that Silence of the Lambs and the other movies you listed are nowhere near the same as Hostel. It would be more comparable to one of the classis slasher Horror flicks with lots of Sadistic sex and other crap thrown in. Just because a kid likes or enjoys something, doesn't mean that it is good for them to be there. Some things are just meant to be reserved for older teens or adults. There is no harm in waiting for a certain level of emotional maturity to develop. The word NO was invented for a reason.

I'll be honest, as much as it disturbs me to think of young kids at this movie, it REALLY disturbs me to think of two 11 year old girls sitting far away from their chaperone/mother and watching this movie. If I was in the theatre, I sure wouldn't want to be sitting next to two unsupervised Grade School girls. It just isn't an appropriate place for kids to be and if you do insist on your right to take kids in there, then I think you at least need to recognize the duty to stay with them.

So no, not a great Mothering moment imho.

 

[pixiemomma]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

Me too.

 

[justhat]

Yep what hallmark moments are made of.

My point is that believe it or not, not all 11yo would be scared or scarred by watching a rated R movie. And (gasp) some might even enjoy them. It's really not the end of the world by any means like people are making it out to be. My grandmother passed away 6 years ago and I am very happy to have those memories of spending time with her, even though it apparently makes me insane to some others. I in no way look back on those times with disgust, hatred, anger, or anything like that so clearly it didn't harm me.

 

[nwdisgal]

Is it possible she had the parents permission?

That is a very good point. I know when I used to take my DD friends to the movies, if we were going to a PG movie, I'd always ask the parents before hand and tell them what movie we were going to see.

 

[noseybuddy]

Just a hug for the OP. I love these boards, but I hate the mob mentality with the holier than thou attitudes.

Gotta agree with this!