Moms to be Part 4

[cmskok]

Thanks for everyones concerns and wishes. The whole time I was laying in that hospital bed I was wishing and hoping they would just induce me. I'm so close anyway what difference does it make?! If nothing starts happening soon, I'm going to get kind of irritated. I'm having contractions now but they're SOOOO far apart! I have an OB appt Wed if I don't have her before then and maybe at that point he'll schedule something, but I kind of doubt it. For a guy who was worried about the size of my baby before, he's kind of relaxed about when I have her. It's my understanding the longer she's in me...the bigger she'll get! I'll let you all know how it goes!

good luck EmALee! I hope all is well and that you are holding that little girl in your arms very soon!

 

[kpm76]

LOL, I know, I know, I'm already in love with this little guy, but I'm really starting to think I'm so not done with having kidlets!

I'm an only, so I reaaaally have no clue about brothers! I have two make cousins, but they're a little.. uh... different. Other than that, I know very very little about boys, the only ones I really have interacted with have behavioral probs, so that scares the bejesus out of me!

I'm totally afraid of having a DIL, I've thought about that, too! Eeep! OMG what if she's a brat?! Eeep! (SIL's a total brat--DH's sister)

My sister just had a little girl and when I was packing up my DD's stuff for her I said to DH "not sure I'm done." He'd be all for a third, but he'd prefer to have another one right away We will see I guess......

Yes, the thought of a DIL totally scares me!!!

 

[phragmipedium]

How many ultrasounds have you had? I had 3 total between January 1st and the end of April. Reassured me on her gender though!

This was my third - the very early one, the anatomy scan, and today's. We want to be surprised and haven't found out what we're having, so we were sure to mention that so the tech wouldn't say anything.

We had a flat tire after the appt - DH dropped me off for lunch at then took the car a couple blocks away to Les Schwab and then walked back and ate with me. Afterwards, we walked back to the car together. I'm hoping that walk after all my bedrest is the reason my feet/ankles are really swollen right now. My fingers were a little swollen over the past few days, and I gained five pounds between Friday's appt and todays (!) but the doctor said that might just be normal end-of-pregnancy swelling since the protein levels in my urine were higher but still in the safe range, and because my bp is holding steady at 140/90ish. I noticed my sandals were a bit tight when we left for the appt, but when we came home after all that and I took a nap I noticed my feet were really swollen. If my swelling gets worse or doesn't go down overnight, or bp goes up or anything like that, I'll call the doctor's office. I also had some crampy contractions after the walk, but they settled down after a half hour or so. I didn't know whether to be relieved or disappointed.

Other than that my appt was good - the baby's so big in there we couldn't see a lot in the ultrasound but we did get a couple cute face pictures.

 

[TSRE]

Hi everyone! I just got back from Disneyland late last night, and just caught up with you all. It would take too long to quote everything, but EmALee, I hope everything is going well for you.

I love the crib, it looks really nice, and congrats on the baby names! We picked ours over the weekend (if I don't change our minds a few times ) It will be Katia DeeAnn or Caden Wesley. We use family names for middle names - the girl name is DH's mother that passed away when he was 17, the boy name is my Grandpa. We have used up most of the boy names from our family that we like - we were down to Edwin, Eugene, or my personal favorite - Ivy. That was DH's grandad, and his wife was named Fern. Cracks me up - I loved him so much, but not so sure about a kid named Ivy. So Wesley it is.

Boys do love their mommies! I love cuddling with them, and mine are 10 & close to 8 now. I think there is something to the Mom/son, Dad/daughter connection - that is part of why I am hoping for a girl this time. I think it would soften DH a little I am dreading the DIL thing, though. Hoping for good ones, and planning on telling DSs what to look for (now if they only listen )

I have to say, I feel for all of you that are facing bedrest, restricted diets and the like. I have never had any issues like that at all, and being pregnant is still hard enough. Good luck to all of you, and hang in there!

It also struck me that I am really glad to have the OB I have while I was reading some of the stuff on here. He is an old fart (like in his early 70s), but he loves babies so much, and has a heart for women facing what they do. Plus, he's heard everything there is to hear, so never discounts any little complaints - just tells me how to deal with them. My SIL was talking very negatively about the one experience she had with him, but I realize now I really like him overall. Plus, he does u/s at every appt., and last time he induced me at 5 days overdue just bc he knew I was tired of being pregnant. I am lucky in that regard.

Oh, and two moms in a fist fight, really? Wow. I hate WalMart, too. Make myself go there to save money sometimes, but always end up back at Target. So much nicer - and normal people, too.

I've totally chatted my head off now. Overdid it at DL and came home sick and soooo achy. Thank God the hot tub there was no warmer than a bath - it saved me. I had such great plans to take it slow, and thought I was, but apparently my definition of slow is different than my pregnant body's! It was so fun though - we got a great picture of our first trip to Dl as a family of 5, and I think my DH is even ok with my possible plans to become a family of 6 He did tell me to talk to him again AFTER I've been through one more labor - hah!

 

[WDWAurora]

TSRE-we ended up with Edwin as a middle name. It was DH's granfather's name, and I love it. I would have used it for a first name.

 

[TSRE]

That's great - I meant no offense at all. I'm sorry if it came across that way. I don't have a great association with that name, but I'm glad you do! Sorry again if I hurt any feelings at all.

 

[WDWorBUST]

Did anyone else have a really hard time sleeping early on? I'm just over 14 weeks now and I am having a horrible time getting comfortable to sleep. I mean it's ridiculous. The good news is I think I have come up with a girls name (if we get so lucky) - it came to me at like 2 this morning so I guess that's something good about being awake at totally ridiculous times My middle name is my daughter's middle name and is my mom's middle name and my grandmother's middle name. So I was wanting to name this baby after my DH "Shane Lee".....well he absolutely hates Shana or any other feminine version of Shane so I was dwelling on it because I don't particularly like Lee. Then it came to me....DD wants to name her (if this is a boy it's really going to throw a wrench in our plans....at least we have a 50/50 shot) Isabella so although I haven't gotten approval from DH yet I think we will name her Isabella Shalee (kind of like Shelly but with a long a sound instead). So what do you guys think? Is it dumb sounding?

 

[WDWAurora]

That's great - I meant no offense at all. I'm sorry if it came across that way. I don't have a great association with that name, but I'm glad you do! Sorry again if I hurt any feelings at all.

Not at all! I was just sharing that I liked it-we can't all like them all!

 

[EmALee]

Hi Ladies

Just popping in to say hi. Emalee -good luck.

I hope things keep progressing....maybe your doc will admit you after your next appt if nothing has happened by then.

good luck EmALee! I hope all is well and that you are holding that little girl in your arms very soon!

This was my third - the very early one, the anatomy scan, and today's. We want to be surprised and haven't found out what we're having, so we were sure to mention that so the tech wouldn't say anything.

We had a flat tire after the appt - DH dropped me off for lunch at then took the car a couple blocks away to Les Schwab and then walked back and ate with me. Afterwards, we walked back to the car together. I'm hoping that walk after all my bedrest is the reason my feet/ankles are really swollen right now. My fingers were a little swollen over the past few days, and I gained five pounds between Friday's appt and todays (!) but the doctor said that might just be normal end-of-pregnancy swelling since the protein levels in my urine were higher but still in the safe range, and because my bp is holding steady at 140/90ish. I noticed my sandals were a bit tight when we left for the appt, but when we came home after all that and I took a nap I noticed my feet were really swollen. If my swelling gets worse or doesn't go down overnight, or bp goes up or anything like that, I'll call the doctor's office. I also had some crampy contractions after the walk, but they settled down after a half hour or so. I didn't know whether to be relieved or disappointed.

Other than that my appt was good - the baby's so big in there we couldn't see a lot in the ultrasound but we did get a couple cute face pictures.

I'm sorry you're so swollen! I haven't had any problems with that really this pregnancy. A little bit here and there but nothing major. Try keeping your feet up as much as possible...I know that helped when mine would swell!

Hi everyone! I just got back from Disneyland late last night, and just caught up with you all. It would take too long to quote everything, but EmALee, I hope everything is going well for you.

Thanks everyone!
And now for my VERY exciting news...

I'M BEING INDUCED TONIGHT!! I didn't expect this at all when I went into my OB's office today. I expected the usual "Her HR is good, your cervix isn't dilated, your weight and BP are good. See you in a week." Everything was the same except instead of see you in a week he said, "Well, we have a couple of options." All of which were inducing me tonight or tomorrow! I'm so excited!! He's using Cervadil (Sp?) so it will take awhile to work but I'm ok with that, just getting the ball rolling will be awesome!

I hope everyone has a great rest of the week and weekend and I'll try to post the story ASAP afterwards!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Emalee!! That's awesome, awesome, awesome. I'm so happy for you. I hope everything goes swimmingly, and I hope you have a great birth experience.

 

[EmALee]

Thanks Mrs. Charming. I've been trying to stay zen and calm about the whole thing. Keeping a calm mind will help I think (hopefully!).

 

[Mrs. Charming]

My sister just had a little girl and when I was packing up my DD's stuff for her I said to DH "not sure I'm done." He'd be all for a third, but he'd prefer to have another one right away We will see I guess......

Yes, the thought of a DIL totally scares me!!!

I was thinking last night... haha, I was up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom (surprise surprise) and I came to the conclusion that if I wait another 2+ years to have another kid and try for a DD... my DD's will be too far apart in age to appreciate each other anyway. So I guess it's just a lost cause. Oh well. I suppose there are always little surprise pregnancies, but... I dunno.

Sorry to be Debbie Downer... I'm just cranky today, my mom really upset me this afternoon and I just want to crawl into bed and pull the blankets over my head. It's no real shocker coming from her, but, oye it stings. Like the one person in life (besides a DH) that you really think should be in your corner... isn't. She's an unhappy person who needs to hold grudges, and make you feel like smeared poo when she's not happy. It's like a rattlesnake ready to coil.. you hear the rattle (the catty snotty comments) and you just wait for the strike. And the venom keeps me questioning myself all day... ugh.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Thanks Mrs. Charming. I've been trying to stay zen and calm about the whole thing. Keeping a calm mind will help I think (hopefully!).

You go girl, you can do it!

 

[phragmipedium]

Congrats Emalee, hoping it all goes smoothly!

 

[irisbud]

Good luck Emalee! Soon you'll be holding your baby girl!

Mrs. C: Big hugs for you. Difficult mothers are really hard to deal with emotionally I know it's hard, but try not to let her get to you

 

[leith78]

EmALee: Good luck!! Can't wait to hear about your little girl and how everything went. Yea!!

Mrs. Charming: Sorry to hear about the family woes. It is definitely hard when you have a family member (especially a parent) that isn't supportive. I suggest having some comfort food for dinner, some ice cream to top it off, and watch some mindless TV tonight. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

 

[LaurenLC]

EmALee: Good luck with everything! I hope everything goes smoothly and that you have a happy, healthy little girl!

Mrs. Charming: I'm sorry your mom is being less than supportive! I hope thinks get better soon!

 

[kpm76]

I was thinking last night... haha, I was up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom (surprise surprise) and I came to the conclusion that if I wait another 2+ years to have another kid and try for a DD... my DD's will be too far apart in age to appreciate each other anyway. So I guess it's just a lost cause. Oh well. I suppose there are always little surprise pregnancies, but... I dunno.

Sorry to be Debbie Downer... I'm just cranky today, my mom really upset me this afternoon and I just want to crawl into bed and pull the blankets over my head. It's no real shocker coming from her, but, oye it stings. Like the one person in life (besides a DH) that you really think should be in your corner... isn't. She's an unhappy person who needs to hold grudges, and make you feel like smeared poo when she's not happy. It's like a rattlesnake ready to coil.. you hear the rattle (the catty snotty comments) and you just wait for the strike. And the venom keeps me questioning myself all day... ugh.

I'm the oldest of 4, 2 brothers in the middle and my sister is on the end and we are 7 years apart. Honestly, we are really, really close. Now, I can't say we "played" together as kids but we have always had a close relationship and now the age gap is really insignificant....so, don't give up because you think they'd be too far apart in age. One of the reasons we'd have another one right away is because of my age.....I'm 33 and while that is certainly not old, I am a super duper worry wart and DH (rightfully so) thinks that if I am pregnant past 35 and have to deal with the general concerns that come from AMA, it might send me over the edge

So sorry you are having a tough time with your mom Family can be great and can also be very challenging......hope things get better soon

 

[EmALee]

Hey everyone, just checking in. I'm dilated to 2 cm as of right now. This has not changed since 7 this morning so my OB is coming in this afternoon to check me and see if he can break my water to speed things up. I'm hoping before 10 pm to have this little one! I'll update again later

 

[Nette]

Hey everyone, just checking in. I'm dilated to 2 cm as of right now. This has not changed since 7 this morning so my OB is coming in this afternoon to check me and see if he can break my water to speed things up. I'm hoping before 10 pm to have this little one! I'll update again later

As weird as it was that your OB was not concerned about your labor incident a couple of weeks ago, I really like the sound of this guy. Sounds like he is nice and laid back, and in no hurry to make you have the baby on his schedule. He's going about "inducing" you in the most natural way... (unless you have already had pitocin). If I was going to be induced that is how I would want it... Cervadil, followed by membrane rupture and then and only then if I wasn't progressing pitocin. It's supposed to be SO much easier on your body if you don't get the pitocin.

Good luck! Can't wait to see pictures!