Moms to Be Part 3

[MinnieFan4ever]

First - good thing they were able to fix your AC ASAP!!

Second - have you thought of natural methods to get things going??? One your DH will probably like best , walking (early morning or evening would be best b/c of the heat), ankle massages, primrose oil (I've heard you can take it orally or to do that AND insert one), and using a breast pump (or another method for nipp. stimulation). Anyhow, maybe trying some of these would help - thankfully you are able to cope with the idea of a c-section now, just in case.

Well, the problem is scar tissue. I had to have some procedures done to my cervix in my 20's. My doctor said that is the main problem why my body is not "getting ready" so to speak. Hence the c-section. I think since I know this in advance, I am able to mentally prepare. I know what to expect, so it won't be a shock after hours of labor. All I know is I am so ready to have her. Last night was the pits. I could not get comfy at all and ended up in the chair again.

 

[Adi12982]

Well, the problem is scar tissue. I had to have some procedures done to my cervix in my 20's. My doctor said that is the main problem why my body is not "getting ready" so to speak. Hence the c-section. I think since I know this in advance, I am able to mentally prepare. I know what to expect, so it won't be a shock after hours of labor. All I know is I am so ready to have her. Last night was the pits. I could not get comfy at all and ended up in the chair again.

OH - ok. . . I was trying to help. With the time to prepare for it, I'm sure all will be well! Both my mom and MIL were happy with theirs. MIL had three and my mom had two. Hopefully you get some relief soon

 

[POOHDRMR]

Afternoon everyone!I am still feeling better than I was last week(after throwing up from brushing my teeththis morning)I have not felt nauseaus the rest of the day.I went shopping for some new bras cause mine have gotten too tight.I didn't have this problem the first time because I used to joke that the only thing I wanted to grow didn't!I really need to get some new underwear already tooMy husband keeps laughing at me when I tell him they are to tight.I actually lost 5 pounds from feeling sick all the time but my stomach has definatly changed into mama shape already!I am excited that this weekend will be 12 weeks-I found out at 2 weeks(4 by the way they figure it out)so it feels good to be almost 1/3 of the way.We have a trip to wdw planned for the end of Aug and now that I am having some days feeling better I am getting excited-last trip with just daughter so it will be special for her.My daughter had spent the last 2 years struggling with a fear of throwing up that started after she had a stomach virus in kindergarten(she wouldn't eat for days and we had her in therapy all last year)She has been doing so well lately that even when I got sick she kept herself calm.She is happy again and not afraid all the time-it is so great to see.Disney is her favorite place so it will be a great trip.Actually have to go get her off the bus-hope you guys waiting have an easy delievery and all are healthy!

 

[Disney Ron]

Sarah, which print Vera Bradley diaper bag did you get?
I am so jealous. I would love one. I was on the website today looking. I have a couple of pocketbooks my DM has given me. I keep hoping she surprises me with a diaper bag.

I have my appointment tomorrow. I have been so lazy today, absolutely no energy at all.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

OH - ok. . . I was trying to help. With the time to prepare for it, I'm sure all will be well! Both my mom and MIL were happy with theirs. MIL had three and my mom had two. Hopefully you get some relief soon

Thanks. I wish thing could work out the old fashioned way. But if they can't, I am okay with itl. Today is a super active day for her. I was at a meeting earlier, and everyone could see her move. It was like show and tell.

Hope everyone is having a great day and staying cool.

 

[Linzybrooke]

Well, my complaint is a trivial one. I went to Target today to get myself a bathing suit for the summer. I headed over to the maternity section and WOW! all these maternity tankinis! I was stoked because our Old Navy has none - they are all online only. So I pick out a few that will look good and then start looking around for the bottoms. Um...no bottoms. Where are the bottoms? I ask. They don't carry maternity bottoms in the store. Just online. OK fine. I head over to the regular bathing suit section and grab a pair of plain black bottoms. As soon as I get them on in the fitting room they start rolling down the belly. Obviously, regular bottoms won't work if they roll...

I'm completely flabergasted that they carry tops but not bottoms. I just finished ordering (both pieces) from their website. Talk about a waste of a trip!

I have had the exact same problem! Only, our Target has tons of tops, and a handful of bottoms, and they seem to only have maternity swim bottoms in XS and XL, nothing in between. I'm going to check Kohls, I had good luck there last year with swimsuits so I'm hoping this year they will have some decent maternity suits, I really want the shorts style. I hate swimsuit shopping, and shopping pregnant is even worse (except that I feel like I'm allowed to look flabby!)

Afternoon everyone!I am still feeling better than I was last week(after throwing up from brushing my teeththis morning)I have not felt nauseaus the rest of the day.I went shopping for some new bras cause mine have gotten too tight.I didn't have this problem the first time because I used to joke that the only thing I wanted to grow didn't!I really need to get some new underwear already tooMy husband keeps laughing at me when I tell him they are to tight.I actually lost 5 pounds from feeling sick all the time but my stomach has definatly changed into mama shape already!I am excited that this weekend will be 12 weeks-I found out at 2 weeks(4 by the way they figure it out)so it feels good to be almost 1/3 of the way.We have a trip to wdw planned for the end of Aug and now that I am having some days feeling better I am getting excited-last trip with just daughter so it will be special for her.My daughter had spent the last 2 years struggling with a fear of throwing up that started after she had a stomach virus in kindergarten(she wouldn't eat for days and we had her in therapy all last year)She has been doing so well lately that even when I got sick she kept herself calm.She is happy again and not afraid all the time-it is so great to see.Disney is her favorite place so it will be a great trip.Actually have to go get her off the bus-hope you guys waiting have an easy delievery and all are healthy!

I get sick from brushing my teeth too. I have always had a really sensitive gag reflex, and when I was in my first few months I threw up every morning when I brushed my teeth, now it is few and far between. Good luck!

DH and I officially booked our trip to WDW last night, I am so excited! We are going July 1-6 because Chris only had to take off 2 days of work due to the holiday. It is going to be hot, humid and crowded, but I am determined to enjoy every minute of it anyway! I am actually considering subscribing to Tourguide Mike, or another planning site, just for the crowd predictions this time, never done it before, but pregnant it might be worth seeing what he has to say!

How is everyone feeling today?

 

[harleyquinn]

Afternoon everyone!I am still feeling better than I was last week(after throwing up from brushing my teeththis morning)I have not felt nauseaus the rest of the day.I went shopping for some new bras cause mine have gotten too tight.I didn't have this problem the first time because I used to joke that the only thing I wanted to grow didn't!I really need to get some new underwear already tooMy husband keeps laughing at me when I tell him they are to tight.I actually lost 5 pounds from feeling sick all the time but my stomach has definatly changed into mama shape already!I am excited that this weekend will be 12 weeks-I found out at 2 weeks(4 by the way they figure it out)so it feels good to be almost 1/3 of the way.We have a trip to wdw planned for the end of Aug and now that I am having some days feeling better I am getting excited-last trip with just daughter so it will be special for her.My daughter had spent the last 2 years struggling with a fear of throwing up that started after she had a stomach virus in kindergarten(she wouldn't eat for days and we had her in therapy all last year)She has been doing so well lately that even when I got sick she kept herself calm.She is happy again and not afraid all the time-it is so great to see.Disney is her favorite place so it will be a great trip.Actually have to go get her off the bus-hope you guys waiting have an easy delievery and all are healthy!

That should be perfect timeing for a trip. I bet you all will have a great time. Just take it easy and drink LOTS of water. We usually go in August and the best advice I can give is to get up early, take the afternoon break for naps/swimming and go back to the parks for dinner and fireworks...it's the best.

Sarah, which print Vera Bradley diaper bag did you get?
I am so jealous. I would love one. I was on the website today looking. I have a couple of pocketbooks my DM has given me. I keep hoping she surprises me with a diaper bag.

I have my appointment tomorrow. I have been so lazy today, absolutely no energy at all.

This one:

In that fabric too--purple punch--it's so cool cuz it is lined and came with the changing pad too. I want to carry it now! lol

DH and I officially booked our trip to WDW last night, I am so excited! We are going July 1-6 because Chris only had to take off 2 days of work due to the holiday. It is going to be hot, humid and crowded, but I am determined to enjoy every minute of it anyway! I am actually considering subscribing to Tourguide Mike, or another planning site, just for the crowd predictions this time, never done it before, but pregnant it might be worth seeing what he has to say!

How is everyone feeling today?

I LOVE TGM...it takes a bit of getting used to, but his recommendations are right on the money. I've used him for 3 trips--it's the best $16 you can spend. If you need any help with the site, let me know!

 

[caitty13]

This one:

In that fabric too--purple punch--it's so cool cuz it is lined and came with the changing pad too. I want to carry it now! lol!

I got the same diaper bag at my shower. It's holds so much stuff, I love it. The new style is a lot better then the older one, it has a lot more pockets.

 

[Adi12982]

I have had the exact same problem! Only, our Target has tons of tops, and a handful of bottoms, and they seem to only have maternity swim bottoms in XS and XL, nothing in between. I'm going to check Kohls, I had good luck there last year with swimsuits so I'm hoping this year they will have some decent maternity suits, I really want the shorts style. I hate swimsuit shopping, and shopping pregnant is even worse (except that I feel like I'm allowed to look flabby!)


I get sick from brushing my teeth too. I have always had a really sensitive gag reflex, and when I was in my first few months I threw up every morning when I brushed my teeth, now it is few and far between. Good luck!

DH and I officially booked our trip to WDW last night, I am so excited! We are going July 1-6 because Chris only had to take off 2 days of work due to the holiday. It is going to be hot, humid and crowded, but I am determined to enjoy every minute of it anyway! I am actually considering subscribing to Tourguide Mike, or another planning site, just for the crowd predictions this time, never done it before, but pregnant it might be worth seeing what he has to say!

How is everyone feeling today?

I had a horrible time finding a suit, went to department stores and target. I finally broke down and went to Motherhood - they had cute suits in all sizes. I was able to find one I liked and that fit well (bought it a little big, since I have til October to go). It was pricey, $50, but it was both pieces and my MIL treated me to it (she's the best, and not just because she buys me things)!

I too am having issues with my gag reflex, and never did before. As a kid I thought it was a talent I could stick my fingers to the back of my throat and not puke, lol, I know, I was odd. I used to always brush my tongue and now I can't touch it with the tooth brush or I will throw up (thank goodness for mouthwash after brushing, lol). I am having issues swallowing certain foods or foods with certain textures too, and I never did before. I sure hope it goes away upon delivery

 

[Disney Ron]

This one:

In that fabric too--purple punch--it's so cool cuz it is lined and came with the changing pad too. I want to carry it now! lol

Very pretty, that is one of the fabrics I really like.

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I bought my prego swimsuit at Motherhood. I have to say I loved th estyle it was really flattering and comfortable.

 

[harleyquinn]

I got the same diaper bag at my shower. It's holds so much stuff, I love it. The new style is a lot better then the older one, it has a lot more pockets.

Man I want a purse to match...at least the wristlet, so i can stow it in the bag as a wallet...

 

[harleyquinn]

Very pretty, that is one of the fabrics I really like.

It's actually pretty much the ONLY one I like...but I like it a lot! lol

 

[apress]

I just wanted to chime in about the diaper bags, as I too received the the vera bradley diaper bag, but mine is in bali gold. I was so upset when I found out I was pregnant, that my mom went and ordered this for me to cheer me up. I think I am going to get a matching wallet, so that the diaper bag is the only thing I have to carry. I really love the bag too and can't wait to use it.

 

[december]

I love TGM! I used the site for my 2007 Thanksgiving trip-his advice was perfect, and we did everything we wanted to do. I immediately signed back up-even though my next trip isn't until July 2010 (I didn't know it would be that long at the time)

 

[boltfans]

Let me just say, I am not a Vera Bradley fan at all, but I LOVE that print! The bag is so pretty and I want one myself! The colors are great and the pattern is really nice too.

Piecey, I hung around this thread a good month or more after my son was born. I was so attached to all the mommies I met and wanted to stick around with them. In fact, one of the moms I met on this thread who was due the same month as me (she August 1st, me the 29th, but our babies were born 12 hours apart) has become one of my best friends. We've gone to WDW together twice since then and are going back to WDW and on a Disney cruise this August. So really, do not feel like you need to go anywhere! I'm sure you've been around here with many people for months and it's hard to just leave them.

Also, I didn't have PPD, but with all my nursing issues/daughter's weight gain, I did have the baby blues for awhile. Plus, like you, I was pretty young when my 1st was born (23yo) and I think that had some of its own issues. Not that I realy felt like I was missing out on life or anything, but none of my friends had kids, so I was sorta going through everything on my own. My friends all wanted to come over and see the baby, but had no experience to share or anything. So definitely vent away, it's always nice to have a sounding board for all those postpartum hormonal feelings.

And not that this is going to make you feel better, nor is it intended to, but I also did not see my kids first when they were born. My daughter has meconium and was rushed away to the pediatric team to be sure she didn't aspirate and my son was preterm so he was also rushed off to the peds team. I then got to hold them maybe 20 minutes, maybe, and they were taken to the nursery. With my son I did go to the nursery with him, but my daughter was in the hospital with a friend so I couldn't just sit in there 4 hours with him. And my daughter was born at night, so after the 4 hour period it was midnight and I was sleeping so they didn't bring her in till she needed to be fed at like 3am. Anyway, just thought you might want to know you weren't alone and that it bugged me too. I was okay with them being in the nursery the 4 hours, but would have liked the opportunity to hold them longer or seen them as soon as they were pulled out like many of my friends/family, but it didn't happen.

Add me to the list of mommies-to-be who gag/vomit when brushing their teeth. It's insane. It happened every single time I brushed my teeth with my 1st 2 and yesterday morning started up again with this one. I also have this wonderfuly metallic taste in my mouth that I had with my daughter and not only does it make me sick on its own, but it makes me want to brush my teeth more to get rid of the taste, which in turn makes me gag and/or vomit. What a terrible cycle.

Now that the 'morning' sickness has been in full force for the past few days, I think I can safely say this will be my last kid. I always wanted 4 kids, but after being so sick with my son and having a 2yo to care for, I thought 3 might be it. And now with 2 of them and being sick all day, it is truly miserable and I really, really don't think I can go through this another time. Today I took my kids to the Natural History museum to see a butterfly exhibit and between walking to the Metro, walking to and in the museum, and walking home, I was done. Exhausted. I needed to nap more than my 2yo, but still had a 5yo to watch, who would rather die than nap. And I was so hungry and sick there that I had to get lunch in the museum to at least get rid of the hunger pains, but then I was so thirsty cause every drink option made me feel ill. I am so happy I signed both kids up for summer camp most of this summer, cause honestly, it's only been 5 days since school ended and I know I could not last 3 more months feeling like this and having to entertain them. Particularly my son who is ridiculously active, does not play much on his own, and does not watch tv. He's like a wind-up toy that just keeps running till nap/bedtime. In a rare moment, he's watching Mulan with my daughter and I right now, so I should probably take advantage of his relative calmness. Relative because he's rolling all over the couch like a maniac, switching seats, and yelling "Scary! Do sharks eat dinner? Sharks not." The joys of a 2yo boy!

ETA: Poohdrmr, we also did the 1st trimester screening with my son. They didn't really ask with my 1st, though I did have an ultrasound at 12 weeks when I switched OBs. I'm pretty go with the flow, but I would have wanted to know in advance if something was wrong with the baby so I could do some research in advance. So many surprises at the actual birth that I know the last thing I'd want is to find out a life-altering disability and have to research on the spot. Not something I'd handle super easily, but that's just me. So we'll be doing it again this time around too.

 

[Piecey]

You may just have more of a case of the "Baby Blues" rather than true PPD, but if you are concerned you should definitely check with you doctor. It is totally normal to be overwhelmed especially if things didn't go as you had planned. I cried every day for the first 2 weeks- not really because I was sad, kind of because I was happy/overwhelmed/exhausted then things started to get better. Hope you feel better soon, if not please check with you doctor. The time flies by too fast to be missing things with your little one.

That is why I asked DH to give me a few more days... part of me thinks that since I am so aware of the moments of sadness and what is making me sad, that I can pull myself out of it. I would understand PPD more if I wasn't aware of the issues, but I am. I think he DID call my Dr. or at least talked to someone that morning, like I said. I think his mind instantly went to the worst because he's going back to work Monday and he worries. A lot.
He's been really supportive the last few days.
He came upstairs, I'd been crying for about twenty minutes in bed but I'd just stopped and he goes "Honey, why is your pillow all wet?" like he doesn't know ... he's giving me the benefit of the doubt. It's nice of him. He's been great. Amazing, really. I'm lucky to have him.

I hope you feel better soon , I can only imagine how overwhelming that all must be. I would be infuriorated if everyone saw him before me, I have just informed DH that no one is allowed to see the baby before me... even if I'm out for a whole day! He looked at me like this but I told him I am so serious! You spend all that time growing him, feeling him, all the aches and pains etc. and you want to be the first to see him and hold him, it's only natural. Get some rest and take care of yourself, things will settle into a pattern soon

Oh, and stay as long as you'd like! We enjoy your company.

Thank you!... yes, that is something good for DH to know NOW!

I can't remember where I posted this before-- but apparently DH gave Lucas to my labor/delivery nurse (Tonya, she was wonderful!) when they left the OR and went to the waiting room to show him off. After the c-section, when DH got into my room, I asked him if anyone else held him. I was crying and I could tell he was confused by my question and Tonya quickly went "NO ONE held him but Daddy and me." and apparently my mom, MIL and Aunt all asked Tonya to hold him (DH told me this yesterday) and Tonya said "No!".... I'm so glad. I'm sure that is hospital policy, because I can remember the look on DH's face and I know if he'd been holding Lucas he'd of let everyone hold him. He just never would have dreamed that something like that would have upset me.. but Tonya knew. I am at least very grateful for that!

But remember--YOU are your son's MOTHER. You are so important and so special to him. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins... they're all nice and everything, but there's nobody like MOM. It doesn't matter what happened the first few hours of your son's life; he doesn't remember them. You went through so much to have your son, and if he could talk right now, no doubt he would thank you and tell you how much he loves you.

Thank you so much for this paragraph. Stuff like this is what makes these boards so wonderful. Reading this is the first time I cried today (but good tears!)
I told DH I wanted to go out today. I needed to feel normal. It'll be awhile before I can take Lucas much of anywhere by myself (I have a 10lb weight limit for I'm not sure how long.. and Lucas alone fills that, much less trying to lug his car seat around! ) so we went and showed him off, got some food and bought a vacuum cleaner. How much more normal can you get?
It felt great to get out. The four days in the hospital, the three days at home not being able to do anything... those got to me. I'm an active go-go-go girl so I'm hoping that getting out today will help!!

I think since I know this in advance, I am able to mentally prepare. I know what to expect, so it won't be a shock after hours of labor. All I know is I am so ready to have her.

I think that makes a world of difference!
Good luck with everything.. I'll be lurking (or not lurking, really, as I'm still posting ) and will keep an eye out for new babies!!

L

Piecey, I hung around this thread a good month or more after my son was born. I was so attached to all the mommies I met and wanted to stick around with them.
Also, I didn't have PPD, but with all my nursing issues/daughter's weight gain, I did have the baby blues for awhile. Plus, like you, I was pretty young when my 1st was born (23yo) and I think that had some of its own issues. Not that I realy felt like I was missing out on life or anything, but none of my friends had kids, so I was sorta going through everything on my own.

Yeah.. I can definitely understand that thing about friends. My best friend (who I've lost touch with horrible since I got married- she can't understand that I can't just do whatever/whenever anymore) saw Lucas today and when she asked how it was and I started telling her about the delivery and started tearing up she goes "Oh, I was hoping you'd tell me it was a cakewalk."
Uh. Grow up. Part of me wanted to go "Are you kiddin' me? A cakewalk?" Then I realized that she's 22. She lives at home. She has no commitment. She's so naive to everything there is in my world- a husband, a baby, a mortgage. She just doesn't get it.. and it made me sad.
I'm 22... but I got married a month after I turned 21. I got pregnant 5 months after I turned 21. I never got to go "party" or be immature or anything like that, my life is just so different from hers and I think I realized today that it's a dead friendship. I fit in better on threads like this than with anyone in my face-to-face life.
I have one friend that is married and trying to get pregnant, but has had no luck so far. I cross my fingers for her every month because I so want a friend who can relate. She is a nurse and was waiting in the hallway after the c-section and waived as they wheeled me out. It was so nice of her.
I'm rambling! Sorry!

 

[harleyquinn]

Yeah.. I can definitely understand that thing about friends. My best friend (who I've lost touch with horrible since I got married- she can't understand that I can't just do whatever/whenever anymore) saw Lucas today and when she asked how it was and I started telling her about the delivery and started tearing up she goes "Oh, I was hoping you'd tell me it was a cakewalk."
Uh. Grow up. Part of me wanted to go "Are you kiddin' me? A cakewalk?" Then I realized that she's 22. She lives at home. She has no commitment. She's so naive to everything there is in my world- a husband, a baby, a mortgage. She just doesn't get it.. and it made me sad.
I'm 22... but I got married a month after I turned 21. I got pregnant 5 months after I turned 21. I never got to go "party" or be immature or anything like that, my life is just so different from hers and I think I realized today that it's a dead friendship. I fit in better on threads like this than with anyone in my face-to-face life.
I have one friend that is married and trying to get pregnant, but has had no luck so far. I cross my fingers for her every month because I so want a friend who can relate. She is a nurse and was waiting in the hallway after the c-section and waived as they wheeled me out. It was so nice of her.
I'm rambling! Sorry!

I totally understand and I'm 29! I just don't get to talk to my girl-friends about the stuff we all talk about and I'm praying everything works out for my bff and they are pregnant in the next couple of months. If she manages to get preggers right after Lily arrives, I can be there for her and she can learn the ropes of being a new mom right along with me!

At some point we have to meet up...it was you that I missed that weekend when we both went to Ikea in Pittsburg on different days right? Maybe some day we can plan a trip to Hershey or something?

 

[Piecey]

At some point we have to meet up...it was you that I missed that weekend when we both went to Ikea in Pittsburg on different days right? Maybe some day we can plan a trip to Hershey or something?

I forget how close we are! You're just a straight shot up I-77 ( 77 goes to Cleveland right? )
I'm not sure how far Hershey is from here? I've never been. That would be a fun trip to make sometime when the kiddos are older. Lily and Lucas would enjoy it, I'm sure!

...okay, and in true mommy fashion I am going to post some Lucas upon your thread. I'm trying to hold back but I can't help it, I'm a picture freak and the little kiddo is just too darn cute..

This one is entirely for Veronica-- I thought of her when I opened this gift at the baby shower!

This one is just cute.

And in this one.. he just looks like he is up to something in. I see a gleam in his eyes that terrifies me a bit for when he's older.
Also, I look at the picture-- and how long he is.. and wonder how on earth he fit inside me and I could still breathe! (He was 5days old when I took this)

....I am also crossing my fingers that we get as lucky tonight as we did last night, we put a radio in his room and he slept through the night except for every 3.5-4 hours when we got up to feed him and he promptly passed back out. We slept until 11:30 because we didn't have an "alarm clock" in the other room...

 

[boltfans]

Piecey, Lucas is so adorable! He is getting cuter as the days go on.

I find the same thing, that relating to people my own age is often difficult. I just turned 29 on June 1st and most of my friends are 8-12 years older than me. It's just now with this baby that I think I might actually meet other parents my age.

It's just like you said, we were married young, had a kid young, had to deal with school, work, a baby, etc. My friends were all going out to bars after work and partying every weekend. And though my daughter was a surprise, we had been planning to start trying in the next few months, so it's not as though we were totally caught off guard or anything.

And I had the same sort of falling out with my best friend too. I remember when my daughter was 3 months old and we were going somewhere with her and her then boyfriend (they're now married). His car was crowded with misc. stuff and she told me to hold my baby on my lap and leave the carseat home. Uh, right, okay, risk the life of my precious baby? I'd rather stay home. And she totally didn't get it. She now has an almost 2yo with another due in a few weeks and has yet to spend more than a day alone with her kids. So even now it's like we live in separate worlds.

 

[Piecey]

Piecey, Lucas is so adorable! He is getting cuter as the days go on.

I find the same thing, that relating to people my own age is often difficult. I just turned 29 on June 1st and most of my friends are 8-12 years older than me. It's just now with this baby that I think I might actually meet other parents my age.

It's just like you said, we were married young, had a kid young, had to deal with school, work, a baby, etc. My friends were all going out to bars after work and partying every weekend. And though my daughter was a surprise, we had been planning to start trying in the next few months, so it's not as though we were totally caught off guard or anything.

And I had the same sort of falling out with my best friend too. I remember when my daughter was 3 months old and we were going somewhere with her and her then boyfriend (they're now married). His car was crowded with misc. stuff and she told me to hold my baby on my lap and leave the carseat home. Uh, right, okay, risk the life of my precious baby? I'd rather stay home. And she totally didn't get it. She now has an almost 2yo with another due in a few weeks and has yet to spend more than a day alone with her kids. So even now it's like we live in separate worlds.

Thank you! My friends are older, too! The lady I've been vacationing with is in her 30's... I forget how old, but that makes her at least 8yrs older than me. I fit in with her better. It's weird. I think it baffles my parents, too. Haha.

Lucas was pretty much the exact same as your DD! DH wanted to be a daddy before he turned 30 (he's 27) because for some reason the number bugged him. We were talking about trying, but hadn't decided. His dad died unexpectedly Aug 30.. I should have started a new pack of BC pills the day of the funeral, but I was an hour from home in the middle of nowhere country-small-town WV [seriously, i don't think the entire county even HAS a pharmacy?!] and I let it go. I told DH, so he was at least aware, but we never thought that one month would matter.
I guess DH needed a little bit too much comfort to get over the loss of his dad... because we got a Lucas that month.
I still remember thinking I was late because I hadn't taken the pills that month. I was waiting and waiting and waiting on AF to come so I could start the next pack and went ahead and took a test. I saw the + and just stared at it. I couldn't believe it.
Everyone tells DH it was his blessing from his father.


..and yeah, is she crazy?? Isn't it illegal to not have the baby in a carseat, anyway?