Moms to Be Part 3

[WDWAurora]

We ordered the Storkcraft Tuscany off of Amazon. DH fits in it (6'5", 220ish) but not as well as I do, of course. I'm happy with it. It's not high-dollar, but it will work for us! It was easy to assemble, too.

 

[Piecey]

Question for those of you that spent time TTC...

My best friend has been TTC. She got pregnant in late June but miscarried at 7 weeks. She went to a doctor and they discovered that she had a thyroid problem. She is now treating it with medication.
Thing is, she's all about baby now. It's only been a few months but she's DOWN on herself and mostly miserable because she can't get pregnant again.
Everytime DH and I spend time with them she'll make comments to her husband along the lines of "I might have to just go get a sperm donor if you can't get me pregnant" or something like that. It's hurtful (and really makes my DH uncomfortable) and we've noticed an obvious decline in their relationship. Almost every conversation we have she'll find a way to work in TTC or pregnancy.

Anyone have any advice I can give her or a book to get her for Christmas? I don't think she has any because she borrowed my pregnancy books awhile back and is still reading them.
I want to support her but it's difficult for me because she asks questions and doesn't like the answers (I got pregnant my first month off BC) and then she's just moody.
She is only 22 and it's only been a few months but she doesn't want to hear that. She's ready to go see a fertility specialist NOW and get pregnant tomorrow.

I hope you guys don't mind me asking.

 

[DMickey28]

I don't have any suggestions of a fertility book. I would get her Taking Charge of your Ferility. It's a great resource of our bodies in general but will really help her understand her cycles and stuff.

She is letting TTC run her life and her relationship and it's going to hurt her relationship with her DH, sounds like it already is. Everyone is different and the road to get PG is different for everyone. It took me 8 months to get PG with DS with one loss and 10 months to get pregnant with this one with one confirmed loss and one suspected loss. It's a tough road, no question, but you need to learn how to balance it with the rest of your life.

Perhaps reading the TCOYF book and learning to get some control over her month and her cycle would help her.

Good Luck.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Well, I will be set to bring Elliott home from the hospital. Ordered a car seat from Babies R Us on Cyber Monday and it is getting delivered today! Now I just need a crib, and a dresser, and bedding.

 

[hulagirl87]

I had my glucose test today. Man that drink was sweet! It made me nauseous. Fingers crossed that all is well.

And man am I having some bad acid reflux the past couple days. It just keeps getting worse.

Regarding the glider question... we got ours from Babies R Us, but there were a lot of them that did feel really narrow. DH fits comfortably in it, but I don't let him sit in there too long. I've been sitting in it every day rocking in the hopes of getting the baby used to it early on And I read her a story every day. I hope she likes my voice!

 

[cappygirl]

We got our glider from Babies R Us too. If I gain any more weight in my thighs it might be a tight fit but for now it's comfy!

Just had our 34 week check up today. My doctor told me that my platelet count is "on the low side" at 140 and apparently they won't give you an epidural if it's below 100 so she's going to have me get it checked again at 36 weeks. She assured me that a drop from my normal count of 165 to 140 is normal for pregnancy and she doesn't think we'll have an issue....but I'm a little freaked out. My birth plan all along has been to avoid pain...how do I do that without an epidural???

Other than that though, everything looks good! I'll just be relieved when we can get that blood test done and hopefully find out everythings fine! (Gonna try to stay positive!)

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Piecey,

I found that when I was dealing with a miscarriage and then TTC only to miscarry again my world revolved around it. I was very depressed and didn't see how bad until later. It took me about six months to start feeling myself emotionally after the first miscarriage. I avoided people and I was very moody. Acupuncture helped with the depression and also to TTC. DH was so supportive...he was going through a rough time emotionally as well. Had he not been as supportive it could have driven a wedge between us. I could see how that could happen very easily. I started feeling better after the first m/c then found out I had MS and then got pregnant and then m/c again..all within a short period of time. My close friends were wonderful and supportive and so was my family. Some friends I had to distance myself from because they did not understand and I felt they were insensitive. I also know I couldn't stand pregnant women or anything to deal with pregnancy as it was just a reminder of how my body had failed me. Even when I got pregnant with this baby I couldn't stand other pregnant women because I was living one day at a time waiting for the carpet to be pulled out from under me.

As somebody that has been through the wringer with a lot of this stuff I would suggest that having a supportive and understand friend would go a long way. I wouldn't talk too much about my own pregnancy just because she may not be in a position to listen to it right now. I would however say something about the comments she makes about her DH. I am sure he is feeling the pressure a lot and those types of comments can hurt a lot. Not the type of environment that is conducive to baby making. I hope she listens.

Don't forget her hormones are out of sorts and playing on her emotions.

TTC is not fun and you live your life one cycle at a time and it does make you crazy.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Oh my Lord, what a blizzard we have going on here!!! I had planned on attempting to snow blow my driveway this morning. Thankfully, my mom called me last night and told me there was no way she was going to let me blow the driveway, that my dad would come pick me up and bring me to work. So far we have gotten about 13 inches of snow, and it is still snowing. I had to walk out to my dad's Blazer this morning, because he couldn't pull in the driveway, and the first snow drift I stepped in was up about mid-thigh!! Holy crap, this is insane!!!

 

[hulagirl87]

Just had our 34 week check up today. My doctor told me that my platelet count is "on the low side" at 140 and apparently they won't give you an epidural if it's below 100 so she's going to have me get it checked again at 36 weeks. She assured me that a drop from my normal count of 165 to 140 is normal for pregnancy and she doesn't think we'll have an issue....but I'm a little freaked out. My birth plan all along has been to avoid pain...how do I do that without an epidural???

I have this - thrombocytopenia (low platelet count) I have to go every month to get my blood tested. My lowest was 125 but last month I was 145. I hope that it stays up. I want the epidural too! I'm sure you won't go below 100 though if you are at 140 now.

 

[cappygirl]

I have this - thrombocytopenia (low platelet count) I have to go every month to get my blood tested. My lowest was 125 but last month I was 145. I hope that it stays up. I want the epidural too! I'm sure you won't go below 100 though if you are at 140 now.

Thanks!! I hope we're both able to stay above 100 and get our epidurals!!

 

[justhat]

Is the thrombocytopenia pregnancy induced, or do you always have it? My cousin is pregnant with her 2nd (due Friday actually!) and she has lupus which I guess can cause thrombocytopenia, so it's something she always deals with, but it gets slightly worse while pregnant. Her counts have to be between 80,000-100,000 to get an epi at her hospital, I think it's that they prefer 100, but they'll do it as low as 80 if necessary. She skipped the epi with her 1st kid and is hoping to avoid it this time around too (her own fear really, as her counts have been over 100, and her dr is fine with the epi), but if she's not out by Monday they are inducing and she's so afraid her count will be low, she'll be in more pain because it won't be spontaneous labor, and won't be able to get an epi.

Anyway. We're back from Tucson, and I am quite exhausted. We got in at midnight and I wasn't in bed till 1:30am. And my throat sort of hurts so I hope I'm not getting sick. For as tired as I am though, my husband had to get up at 5ish for work this morning and now just found out he needs to stay overnight as the resident on overnight call got sick or something and he has to cover for her. I can't imagine how tired he must be and I rarely have sympathy for him regarding sleep.

His interview went well, but we don't hear anything definite for another month which is mildly frustrating. I did like the area and would move there, but I will admit I like Phoenix much better so I have a mild fear that we'll get to Tucson and I'll still long for Phoenix and we'll end up moving again in a couple of years, which I would like to avoid. Ugh, it's such a difficult decision, and it is complicated by the fact that I keep thinking about the people and things I will miss about DC, plus the pregnancy hormones making me nostalgic for stupid stuff and I think that is all clouding my judgement. If the Phoenix job offer he has were more stable, I would go in a second, but it's shaky (new group, only working a year or 2, only 3 physicians, and we'd be on our own for malpractice insurance and other high costs) so it seems like a bad idea to move out there and take this job when we have great security staying here and/or with the Tucson group, assuming they offer him a position. He has a job offer in NY too, but I do not think I can move back to NJ so I'd really like to rule that out. Pays a lot better than here, which is nice, but I think if I went back to NJ I would be stuck there forever and I really don't want that.

I need to get my kids in bed. They are both grouchy and exhausted cause my mom did not get them in bed remotely on time. Hopefully then I'll still be awake and can catch up with the rest of this thread.

 

[hulagirl87]

Is the thrombocytopenia pregnancy induced, or do you always have it?

pregnancy induced. One of the nurses contacted me after some bloodwork early on in the pregnancy. She told me that I had to see a hemotologist, which I did, and now am going monthly for bloodwork.

Good luck to your DH with the job!!! fingers crossed!!

 

[sherry7]

Hello everyone. I just found this thread, so I thought I'd introduce myself to you all. I'm 16 weeks along, due on May 25. We don't know what we're having yet. I'm dying to find out the gender, and I'm hoping the baby cooperates when I have my next ultrasound on December 23.

Is anyone else here an "older" mom? I'm 39, so I fall into that Advanced Maternal Age category...which means that I'm having a ton of testing that's not so typical for younger moms. This is my second child...my first is a college freshman. How's that for an age gap?

 

[hulagirl87]

Hello everyone. I just found this thread, so I thought I'd introduce myself to you all. I'm 16 weeks along, due on May 25. We don't know what we're having yet. I'm dying to find out the gender, and I'm hoping the baby cooperates when I have my next ultrasound on December 23.

Is anyone else here an "older" mom? I'm 39, so I fall into that Advanced Maternal Age category...which means that I'm having a ton of testing that's not so typical for younger moms. This is my second child...my first is a college freshman. How's that for an age gap?

Congratulations and welcome!!!

I consider myself an "older" mom. I'm 34 and having my first. I would hate to think of 34 as old but I know as a pregnant woman that's ancient

I hope the baby cooperates for you on the 23rd. That ultrasound appt was the most exciting!!

 

[justhat]

POOHDRMR ... due December 28... It's a boy!
Jenny-momof3 ... due January 17... It's a surprise!
Cappygirl ... due January 20... It's a surprise!
apress ... due January 23... It's a surprise!
disneylovr1 ... due January 24... It's a surprise!
amandaluvsgoofy ... due January 25... It's a girl!
BabyTigger99 ... due January 30... It's a boy!
HerdEar ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
justhat ... due February 2... It's a girl!
casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
arubio0801 ... due March 8... It's a boy!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
christym ... due April... It's a surprise!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 17... It's a surprise!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a surprise!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
​

Welcome and Congrats Sherry! You must be so excited for your ultrasound in 2 weeks.

My plan to catch up last night fell through cause I felt too sick and tired. Today I see why: there are little white patches in my throat. So I'm off to call my OB and see what I should do. Never a dull moment with this baby.

 

[BabyTigger99]

I will get my final look at Elliott this afternoon. Well, final look until he makes his entrance into the world. If my placenta is still low, then we will look at scheduled a C-Section. I am fine either way with whatever the decision is. Although, it would be nice to know exactly what date he is arriving!!

 

[Nette]

Hi there everyone! I think I might be the most junior person here. EDD is 7/09/10. This is baby #2, I'm 34 (been TTC on and off for 6 years) other DD is now 7.5yo.

Got a look at my little one today and oh my is (s)he a wiggly little thing. I've been wondering if I was actually feeling her wiggle, and then sure enough felt a bump at the same time as I saw one on the u/s. That has to be some sort of record... I'm only 10w1d! Of course, maybe I just have very coordinated gas?

 

[hulagirl87]

Hi there everyone! I think I might be the most junior person here. EDD is 7/09/10. This is baby #2, I'm 34 (been TTC on and off for 6 years) other DD is now 7.5yo.

Got a look at my little one today and oh my is (s)he a wiggly little thing. I've been wondering if I was actually feeling her wiggle, and then sure enough felt a bump at the same time as I saw one on the u/s. That has to be some sort of record... I'm only 10w1d! Of course, maybe I just have very coordinated gas?

Congratulations!!!!

I had an ultrasound early on, at about 9 weeks (due to some bleeding) and the tech said "wow, that's an active kid you've got in there!" Though I couldn't feel it at the time, now almost 20 weeks later I'm definitely feeling it. She moves all the time!!

 

[justhat]

Welcome Nette! Congrats on your pregnancy! Have you told your daughter she will be a big sister yet? How are you feeling so far?

POOHDRMR ... due December 28... It's a boy!
Jenny-momof3 ... due January 17... It's a surprise!
Cappygirl ... due January 20... It's a surprise!
apress ... due January 23... It's a surprise!
disneylovr1 ... due January 24... It's a surprise!
amandaluvsgoofy ... due January 25... It's a girl!
BabyTigger99 ... due January 30... It's a boy!
HerdEar ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
justhat ... due February 2... It's a girl!
casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
arubio0801 ... due March 8... It's a boy!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
christym ... due April... It's a surprise!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 17... It's a surprise!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a surprise!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a surprise!
​

Tigger - How did the ultrasound go? Do you have a date set?


We tried to see Santa in the mall today but there were seriously more people in the line than there are for Space Mountain in any given moment. So instead we saw the Princess and the Frog. It was cute, but I was sort of annoyed cause in WDW we got free kids passes and of course didn't have them on us at the time. So we paid $34 for the 4 of us, and my son fell asleep halfway through!

 

[BabyTigger99]

Only 6 people ahead of me on the list??? 6?!?!?! YIKES!!!!

Ultrasound was good. It is amazin how different he looked!! You could see the fat in his cheeks, and the technician said she could tell he has hair (how, I have no idea!). My DSD and I both said how he doesn't look like Skeletor, like he did in the 20 week ultrasound.

Placenta is good, so we are on track for a regular delivery. Head is waaaaay down and ready to go!! Seven weeks left!!!