Moms to Be Part 3

[Ciciwoowoo]

Oh, I just found this thread and thought I'd poke my nose in here and say hello to all my fellow moms and moms to be!

I am due February 14th, 2010 and its a boy! (I will be 31 weeks on Monday) We are currently scheduled for a C section on Feb. 9th. I can't believe how fast the time is going! I'm starting to get a bit anxious about the things I still need. I'm sure that once Christmas is over, I'll head into full blown panic!

 

[justhat]

Welcome and congrats Ciciwoowoo and KikiMouse!

POOHDRMR ... due December 28... It's a boy!
Jenny-momof3 ... due January 17... It's a surprise!
Cappygirl ... due January 20... It's a surprise!
apress ... due January 23... It's a surprise!
disneylovr1 ... due January 24... It's a surprise!
amandaluvsgoofy ... due January 25... It's a girl!
BabyTigger99 ... due January 30... It's a boy!
HerdEar ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
justhat ... due February 2... It's a girl!
casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
Ciciwoowoo ... due February 9... It's a boy!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
arubio0801 ... due March 8... It's a boy!
KikiMouse ... due March 14... It's a girl!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
christym ... due April... It's a surprise!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 17... It's a surprise!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a surprise!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a surprise!
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Tigger - Sounds like the ultrasound was a lot of fun and glad to hear you look good for a v birth. I know, it's getting crazy that it's so close. Technically I have 8 weeks, but 1/24 is the most recent projection and based on my other kids I am thinking that that's about the max we have and with no name and basically nothing set up yet, I am going into panic mode. We have pretty much most stuff we need from my other kids, but I do need to wash all the clothes, put them in somewhere, with some sort of organization, get the cosleeper, swing, and bouncy seat assembled, etc. I want to wait till my Christmas stuff is away, but the waiting is not easy.

 

[disneylovr1]

Hi everyone, just checking in. Like usual, it's been a while.

I'm now 34 weeks, I can't believe how close I'm getting. I'e had absolutely no problems up to this point, but I think that night be slowly changing. I started to have swelling in my feet and ankles a few weeks ago, nothing too drastic but also not just a touch. I did mention it at my last appt, but the DR just said that's normal and never even looked to see how much swelling I meant (I had on boots and pants). So I decided to check my BP at sam's club last Friday, and it was just about 140/90 average on three checks. I had one of the nurses check it today at work, and it was again 140/90. Since it has't gotten ridiculously high I plan to just keep my appt as scheduled Friday with MY OB, unless it gets higher. I have had normal BP at all of my previous checks, but I question the accuracy of the MAs checking it. My husband came once with me and laughed after they left the room. He said she cranked it up to about 210, then dropped the cuff like a rock to 80, then quit and said 120/72. He was like, there's no way she actually read that pressure, she stopped at 80 and read 72. They always check it like that. I'm hoping it either resolves, or just stays at very mild PIH, b/c I have way too much to do for Christmas to be restricted, and I really want to keep working so I get my 12 weeks after the baby is born, not before.

On the brighter side, I think we finally got a crib. We decided we wanted one made in the USA, which really narrows the choices. We drove to a place about 100 miles away and found 2 we liked and could get in quickly. Then we went to a local Amish store, and they had a very nice one. We had been worried about safety standards with buying from the Amish, but they do address that and follow the guidelines, so I think we're going to pick that one up. That way we get to support the local economy and buy American Made!

 

[justhat]

Disneylovr - I had a lot of swelling with my first. It was so bad in late December (I was due 3/12) that I could no longer wear any of my rings, watch, and had to wear my husband's shoes one night when we went out to dinner cause no way were my dress shoes fitting. I also couldn't make a fist or bend my knees all the way. My dr told me that was totally normal too and my blood pressure never got too high so he didn't worry about it anymore than to say "buy some costume jewelry".

A word of warning though, the swelling got worse immediately after delivering but then went down after about 3 days. The bad part though was that I actually got stretch marks on my legs (back of my calves) *after* my daughter was born cause the swelling was that bad.

BTW, my dr had said the reason for the swelling is an old 'caveman' safety mechanism. Swelling constricts the blood vessels, which in turn reduces blood loss. So 'cavewomen', so to speak, who had more swelling were less likely to die in childbirth than those who did not because they didn't have to worry about hemorraging. Clearly not something we need now, but that's apparently where it is derived from. And with that said, I had absolutely no swelling with my son and ended up needing a shot to stop bleeding as I had major blood loss. So maybe there's something to that notion.

I now have to go look outside for my son's shoe, as it's not on his foot and it was when he was in the car. He fell asleep so I carried him in and lost his shoe either in the car, my house, or the street. Other highlights of my day include trekking 25 miles to UPS to pick up my package, only to find out they sent it back to the store. Apparently there's a new policy where if you are not home on the 3rd attempt they immediately send it back, no picking it up at the facility like we could previously do. Granted, I only ever had to do that twice, and not in a long time, but a notice that they changed the policy would have been nice as I would have called. It's not even my fault as they tried once at my neighbor's house, not even the right address!!, and counted that as 1 of the 3 attempts, and the other 2 were while I was away last week and my mom wasn't home when they came. Excellent as my kids Christmas pjs were in the box, so now I have to hope the store reships it in time.

 

[cappygirl]

YIKES! I'm 3rd on the list!!!
Other than feeling exhausted all the time, I've thankfully been doing well.
We're schedule for an ultrasound a week from tomorrow and then I guess we're in the home stretch!
I am soooo ready but at the same time kinda freaked out about the whole delivery/recovery period.
Gonna go make cookies and try to stay calm!
Hope you all are feeling well!

 

[cappygirl]

Disneylovr - Apparently there's a new policy where if you are not home on the 3rd attempt they immediately send it back, no picking it up at the facility like we could previously do. Granted, I only ever had to do that twice, and not in a long time, but a notice that they changed the policy would have been nice as I would have called. It's not even my fault as they tried once at my neighbor's house, not even the right address!!, and counted that as 1 of the 3 attempts, and the other 2 were while I was away last week and my mom wasn't home when they came. Excellent as my kids Christmas pjs were in the box, so now I have to hope the store reships it in time.

That is crazy frustrating!! I hope the Christmas pjs make it on time!!

 

[TarzansKat]

Hi! Can I join in here?

The day after Thanksgiving, DH and I discovered we're expecting our second baby, which we're very excited about. We already have a four year old son, he'll be five in February, and the baby is due August 3, 2010.

 

[justhat]

Congrats and welcome TarzanKat! My 2nd was born August 4th and my first also in February.

POOHDRMR ... due December 28... It's a boy!
Jenny-momof3 ... due January 17... It's a surprise!
Cappygirl ... due January 20... It's a surprise!
apress ... due January 23... It's a surprise!
disneylovr1 ... due January 24... It's a surprise!
amandaluvsgoofy ... due January 25... It's a girl!
BabyTigger99 ... due January 30... It's a boy!
HerdEar ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
justhat ... due February 2... It's a girl!
casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
Ciciwoowoo ... due February 9... It's a boy!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
arubio0801 ... due March 8... It's a boy!
KikiMouse ... due March 14... It's a girl!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
christym ... due April... It's a surprise!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 17... It's a surprise!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a surprise!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a surprise!
TarzanKat ... due August 3... It's a surprise!
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Cappygirl - Yes, so frustrating about UPS! I did talk to the store (Gymboree) and they said they'll resend it as soon as they get it back (which they haven't yet...). The reason I ordered the stuff is that we don't have a Gymboree in DC so I can get everything tax free if I order online, and that usually works out fine, till this time of course!

Is your ultrasound for growth/size? I forgot to schedule my ultrasound when I was at the dr's office last week, so you reminded me to call today to make that appt.


Today is not turning out too well in that I feel so overall bad right now. I'm tired, my right maxillary sinus feels like it is going to explode, I'm nauseous, ugh, just an overall crappy day. At least my son decided he wanted to stay for lunch at school so he's there till 3 when I get my daughter, and we don't have anything to do after school today so the day shouldn't bee too challenging.

Sorry, I feel like all I do is whine on here lately! I swear I was not like this with the other 2 kids, must just be the extra energy I am using with my kids, and the time of year being filled with illness and such that is draining me. I totally never got the women who said they couldn't wait for their baby to come out as I was so happy to be pregnant, but this time around I completely empathize with them!



ETA: I forgot to ask for volunteers for the list. I've likely got about 5 weeks till I deliver, so anyone due after me is welcome to take over the list. I promise it's not too taxing!

 

[Adi12982]

Today is not turning out too well in that I feel so overall bad right now. I'm tired, my right maxillary sinus feels like it is going to explode, I'm nauseous, ugh, just an overall crappy day. At least my son decided he wanted to stay for lunch at school so he's there till 3 when I get my daughter, and we don't have anything to do after school today so the day shouldn't bee too challenging.

Sorry, I feel like all I do is whine on here lately! I swear I was not like this with the other 2 kids, must just be the extra energy I am using with my kids, and the time of year being filled with illness and such that is draining me. I totally never got the women who said they couldn't wait for their baby to come out as I was so happy to be pregnant, but this time around I completely empathize with them!



ETA: I forgot to ask for volunteers for the list. I've likely got about 5 weeks till I deliver, so anyone due after me is welcome to take over the list. I promise it's not too taxing!

Hope you feel better soon!

5 WEEKS!! woo hoo!! Then you can come join us on the new mom's thread

 

[BabyTigger99]

I feel the same way, Justhat, that I just come on here to whine!!! Maybe I will tell myself to have a whine free day one of these days....or at least a whine free hour or two!!!

Tomorrow is my baby shower at work. I am soooo excited, since I am not having a family baby shower, since this is my second (even though they are 10 years apart!). And, I finally got Elliott's bedding ordered today from Kohls. As soon as DH gets home from overseas, we HAVE to get the room ready, which involves moving all the kids bedrooms!! Yikes!

 

[justhat]

Tigger - What are you doing with their bedrooms? Will the baby be taking one of the current kids rooms? That is the one relief I have this time around. Since I know we're moving over the summer no matter where my husband gets a job, I am not bothering with the crib and room till we move. Neither kid went into the crib before 5 months and this one will likely be a little older, but we'll manage with the cosleeper or pack n' play till then. Just no way I am hauling out the crib and all that only to move it in a few months.

Adi - I can't wait to move to the new mom's thread, if for no reason other than to be free of the constant nausea. Of course, a newborn brings its own sets of challenges so maybe I shouldn't be too eager....

Speaking of that, Tigger, and other moms with older kids, are you slightly freaked out about going back to babyhood? My youngest is not even 3.5yo, but he's totally independent in dressing, feeding, toileting, etc. So when I think about going back to the complete dependence on me it's kinda scary!

 

[BabyTigger99]

All of the kids get new rooms. DSD will be getting the playroom, DS will be getting DSD's room, and Elliott will be getting DS's room. So a big switch for everyone. Plus, we have to find room for all the crap in the playroom. Our house is a split level built on a slab, and we have NOOOOO storage!

And, yes, I am TOTALLY freaked out about going back to the baby stage. Obviously, since the ones I have are 16 and 10, they are pretty independant, and when we want to do something, we just get up and go. No more of that for us!

 

[justhat]

What you are describing with moving rooms is what I would have to do if I were to make a new space for the baby while living here. Actually, I would likely put the baby in with my daughter in our current playroom since it is larger than the bedroom she and my son share at the moment. Then I'd leave him where he is, but then have to move all the playroom crap to this sort of not-a-real-room/office space. It was a room, but then we built the current kids' bedroom behind that, so the only way to get their bedroom is through this other room. And our laundry room is basically in that room too (it has doors, but again, you need to walk into the 'office' to get to the laundry room). So right now that room has some bookshelves, an art table, desk with our computer and stuff, plus the fish and hermit crab in some sort of wet bar area (which is beyond strange, came with the house). So I figure, rather than go through all that for a couple of months, we are staying as is and I can deal with the rearranging of stuff when we move.

I just made 29 gingerbread men for my son's class and think I should probably buy more dough but don't feel like baking a ton more cookies. Hmm. There are somewhere around 28 kids in his class (that's the max, so probably 26? since a couple move up midyear and I don't know if they have yet or not), but I'm afraid of them breaking and then having kids cry cause they have a broken cookie or something. I'm about to call the school and have them keep my kids till 5:30 and just get the baking done in peace. Today is proving to be very expensive for me in after school care charges! At least it's been pretty relaxing though.


Oh yeah, and that is exactly what I fear. Even though we still have to be sure my son has used the potty before we go out, spur of the moment things are pretty easy to do at this point. We don't have to pack a diaper bag, stop for feedings, carry around jarred food, etc. When I was alone today I realized that I won't be for a long time once this baby comes and it actually had me more nervous than when I was pregnant with my first!

 

[BabyTigger99]

And we haven't even dealt with little kids at our house in such a long time!! If they are hungry, they find something to eat. If they are bored, they find something to do (or somewhere to go!). Plus, we are on the go all the time, to different activities. Elliott comes right at the beginning of tournament season for wrestling, and wrestling is something my DH doesn't really get into, so that has always been my area. One of our friends said he wants me to have to go to at least one tournament HUGELY pregnant, so he can laugh at me (I, um, tend to get vocal sometimes!). So, needless to say, this is going to be a HUGE adjustment for our family!

 

[TarzansKat]

Thanks so much for the warm welcome! I'm going to try my best to post here somewhat regularly, but being in the first trimester, I am flat out exhausted and lucky to get on the DIS at all. Still it's so nice to know there's a little support group here, and I appreciate it.

I'm definitely one of those ones contemplating my loss of freedom/ease of doing things. My son will be five when this baby is born, and on his way to kindergarten. So it's good and bad for different reasons, but still so exciting.

 

[justhat]

Tarzan - I hate to say it, but that exhaustion has not lifted for me yet with this pregnancy! How have you been feeling?

The one thing I am looking forward to about having a 6yo when this baby is born is that she might actually be helpful, unlike when my son was born and my daughter was 2.5yo. I swear she woke that baby up everytime he fell asleep just for the sake of doing it. This time around I am hoping she'll be able to follow basic directions, like staying away from the sleeping child to make things a bit easier. Then it's just my devil son I have to worry about....

So I think that lovely throat infection I had last week has something to do with the sinus pressure I am having today. I really think I'm filling the z-pack prescription tomorrow. My dr wanted me to hold out till I got sicker, but while my throat isn't that bad anymore, this sinus pain is killing me! It's not the normal sinus medication I'd take, but I guess it will do.

I have a bunch of random things to do, but I think I'm gonna go to bed instead. I am so tired and know I will be annoyed watching my husband sleep in the morning while I am up with the kids if I go to bed late. And the reason I suspect that will happen is that he's slated to get home around midnight tonight and has to work a 20 hour shift tomorrow, so I am sure he'll use that as his excuse to sleep in. So I think I'll lay in bed and watch Gone with the Wind up there. It happened to be on tv when I was searching for something to watch, so I figure I should watch it to see how I feel about the name Scarlett when it's over, since it's one of the 2 final choices. It's been years since I saw this, but the name has such strong associations to this movie.

 

[Adi12982]

Adi - I can't wait to move to the new mom's thread, if for no reason other than to be free of the constant nausea. Of course, a newborn brings its own sets of challenges so maybe I shouldn't be too eager....

LOL, I thought that after the baby arrived. Maybe that makes me an awful mom, I love her, but some nights I actually miss her being in the womb - it was easier (sometimes) - but then again you can't imagine life without them! Either way there are challanges!

 

[phragmipedium]

Hi everyone! Hoping I can join you. I'm almost 15 weeks pregnant with our first child; I am due June 10th. We're hoping for a girl but planning (at least for now) on being surprised. I'm finally starting to feel better and a little more like myself, and enjoy being pregnant a bit. We were very lucky and got pregnant the first cycle trying.

However, I had sad news today and hope for some advice or commiseration. A good coworker of mine became pregnant the month before I did. When she announced she was pregnant with her first baby, she's the only one I told that we were trying because I had to tell someone but didn't want any pressure or questions. She just went in for her 20 week anatomy scan and learned they were having a boy! However, they saw that one of the arms/hands looked odd, like maybe it wasn't developing properly. She was scheduled the next day (today) for an appointment with a specialist an hour away, and I heard from another coworker today that she is losing the baby. I'm not sure if that means something went wrong and it's happening naturally or if they had to make a decision or what, but I feel so awful for her. And I feel guilty. Understandably she doesn't want anyone to talk to her about it when she comes back to work, and I just want to be able to melt into the wall so she doesn't have to see me. Our whole office, being a couple dozen people who are exclusively women, has been so excited and happy about having two pregnant ladies there at once, and now of course the whole atmosphere around it will change. Has anyone else dealt this situation with a family member, close friend or coworker while you were also pregnant? I know to give her space but I just don't know what to do and feel so bad for her. And of course, it makes me worried about my own baby also.

 

[hulagirl87]

Hi everyone! Hoping I can join you. I'm almost 15 weeks pregnant with our first child; I am due June 10th. We're hoping for a girl but planning (at least for now) on being surprised. I'm finally starting to feel better and a little more like myself, and enjoy being pregnant a bit. We were very lucky and got pregnant the first cycle trying.

However, I had sad news today and hope for some advice or commiseration. A good coworker of mine became pregnant the month before I did. When she announced she was pregnant with her first baby, she's the only one I told that we were trying because I had to tell someone but didn't want any pressure or questions. She just went in for her 20 week anatomy scan and learned they were having a boy! However, they saw that one of the arms/hands looked odd, like maybe it wasn't developing properly. She was scheduled the next day (today) for an appointment with a specialist an hour away, and I heard from another coworker today that she is losing the baby. I'm not sure if that means something went wrong and it's happening naturally or if they had to make a decision or what, but I feel so awful for her. And I feel guilty. Understandably she doesn't want anyone to talk to her about it when she comes back to work, and I just want to be able to melt into the wall so she doesn't have to see me. Our whole office, being a couple dozen people who are exclusively women, has been so excited and happy about having two pregnant ladies there at once, and now of course the whole atmosphere around it will change. Has anyone else dealt this situation with a family member, close friend or coworker while you were also pregnant? I know to give her space but I just don't know what to do and feel so bad for her. And of course, it makes me worried about my own baby also.

First off Congratulations!!!!!!! June is a great month. My birthday is June 14!

I have had a little experience with your situation. One of my mom's good friends who works with her had a miscarriage right before I got pregnant. I thought that it would be awkward to be around her like I was just a reminder of pregnancy and babies. She's actually super sweet and is excited about my baby and is coming to my baby shower. I'm sure that it just takes time, but I wouldn't "hide" from her. I would just be a friend to her and offer to talk if she wants. I can't imagine the pain that she is going through.

 

[Piecey]

Ditto what hulagirl said.

and Congratulations- my original due date with Lucas was June 9th, 2009!

My SIL got pregnant after I did.. she was due in August. She miscarried at 14weeks and I felt terrible. I already had the bump and everything, though. I tried to stay out of her way for a few weeks but in general when I did see her she seemed to be excited for me and WANT to talk about the baby.
I can only go off of my own personal experiences, but she used the joy of OUR baby to help her get through her own grief.

Now she watches him 2x a week for me.. which is something that I thought would be difficult for her, too. But nope- she says it is nice to have a baby in the house and they are TTC again.

...okay I still lurk. hehe.