Moms, I need serious help!

[MomBoyd]

My husband tells me I should leave it in the Lords hands and so does my couciler. I am trying too, maybe my faith isnt what it needs to be.

I know they mean well, but the are both WRONG! This has NOTHING AT ALL to do with faith and everything to do with a medical condition. If you needed stitches, a cast or an antibiotic would you just "leave it in the Lord's hands"? Of course not. You would get medical attention as soon as possible. The only difference is that this is a matter of life and death[/. Your kids need you, not some possible/mythical other mom. NO ONE could love them like you do when you are yourself. And you will be your self again I promise. I have been there.

Go to your OB today. If they won't see you until next week go to the emergency room. Please don't let this go on another day, another hour, another second! Please PM me for anything.

 

[PlaneJoy1]

I really hope you've called your OB/GYN.... if not, please do it now!

In 3 or 4 days when the meds start to take affect, you'll look back and wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It is such a relief! I remember having to concentrate just to get through the day, almost to the point of having to remind myself to breath sometimes. I took Wellbutrin and the difference was amazing.

Please, get help from your doctor. Your councelor is doing you no good at all, try to find a different if you need it.

 

[rigs32]

Would you be "whining" or self-centered if you were in pain from an untreated broken leg? I think not. It sounds like your councelor has the Tom Cruise approach to PPD. By not being fully honest with anyone treating you with this, they will not be able to help you properly. That's like going to the ER and failing to tell them you're allergic to a certain medication - there might be SERIOUS consequences if you're not honest.

 

[luvwinnie]

I wish she would post and tell us she has gotten the help she needs.

 

[babytrees]

This is slowly killing me. I know my husband gets tired of hearing me whine, and my son too. And my baby well I take care of her needs but to be honest thats about all I can manage. I dont have any help other than my hubby with the kids so Im all they have and I know that if I dont do for them then nobody else will, so I function through this for them. But I know that im not puting out 100%. Im going to tell you something that I havent told my couciler because Im afraid of the outcome. But one person on here said something that hit home. There are times that I get a pressure so built up in me that its all I can do to control it, I just feel like if I "just do it" "just do it" "just do it" it will be over very quickly, like a little shot, you get it and in a second its over. I think about my kids during those times and a part of me says how much they need me and another part says your husband will remarry and find someone who doesnt have all your issues and can fully take care of them. My counciler says Im being self centered, maybe I am, maybe im not, I dont know. I dont mean to be, I dont feel like I am. Im good to people or I try to be. I just cant help myself no matter how bad I want to.

Get yourself away from that counselor fast!! I have read along with this board for awhile. While I didn't suffer from PPD, I know what your counselor said is WAY out of line and you need an ear that is not so judgemental and help. Please know that I and am sure others are praying right now for you and will continue until we see you through to the other side of this!!

Contact your OB immediately!! Please!!

 

[grlpwrd]

PPD is very common and I really, really hope you get some professional help and medication for it.

For now come visit the mothering.com boards for support if you'd like, but get to a dr. now...

 

[Rajah]

Please, please, please find a different counsellor. This one isn't helping you.

 

[babytrees]

OP-

Please come back and post an update!!!

 

[beautybelle]

I wanted to let you all know that I finally went to my ob doctor yesterday and although I didnt tell her everything I told you I did tell her some of it (Im afraid to tell anyone about the suicide thoughts) she gave me a medicine called Effexer and Buspar. I hope so bad that this helps me. Thank you all for giving me courage to go another route and talking to me about this. I feel like I cant really tell anyone the extent this has gotten to and to talk to you about it does help me quite a bit.

 

[bananiem]

I'm so glad yo went in!! Because they got you in so quickly you KNOW they take you seriously. I'm so glad she gave you something but I'd really like to urge you to call her and tell her about the suicide. It's nothing she hasn't heard before, I promise!!!!!!! She won't think you're a bad person. She'll understand and she can't completely help you without knowing everything.
Hugs to you!!!

 

[Mom-to-3]

When I first started taking medication for depression, I told the Dr. that I didn't believe a pill could change the way I think. He smiled and said Just keep taking it. I had dry mouth the first few days but little candies helped with that. After 2 weeks or so, it was true that a pill could change the way I felt.

Would you counselor tell a diabetic to just have faith instead of taking insulin? Would they tell someone with high blood pressure not to use meds? The same is true of depression. If you aren't producing the proper brain chemicals, you need meds.

 

[babytrees]

Yeah!!!

Thanks for taking the first step!! I would also urge you to tell your doc about ALL of your thoughts. They can't fully diagnose you unless they have all the facts. Also make sure to ask for a new counselors name.

 

[becka]

I am so glad you called your OB. I was really worried about you because I remembered how bad I felt when going through the same thing. I have never been that scared in my entire life.

Keep taking the meds and follow your doctors instructions. I would still encourage you to get the name of a new counselor from your OB. I know it is hard to share the scary feelings you have with your spouse or close friend. I still have not shared everything I felt with my DH but sharing it with a counselor who dealt with PPD a lot really helped me.

 

[Chicago Girl]

I’m really happy to hear that you went in to see your OB. I’m sure your doctor informed you that it may take up to several weeks for the medication to take effect, so please keep taking it as prescribed.

 

[Rajah]

Good for you! Keep taking the meds. I'm on Effexor myself and it makes a huge difference, but you do need to give it time to kick in. Thank you for updating us

 

[grimley1968]

Good for you! I hope this is all you need and that it's only needed for a short time. Good luck to you.

 

[redshoes]

Good for you .

 

[DisneyPhD]

I am so glad you saw your Dr. Please continue to, and please share with him or her if you have any new suicidal thoughts (no mater how fleeting.) Remember if these meds don't help, others can.

Please keep us posted. There are a lot of people here who are concerned and praying for you.

 

[binny]

Im so glad you got help!!! Please update us on your progress, Im praying for you~!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

((((((hugs to all involved)))))

you are getting great advice here!