moms help~reasons to be happy having a boy

[MickeyWanaBe]

I am a boy mommy times 2! Ten years between them. They are 13 and going on three.

I wanted girls both times and was disappointed when I found out they were boys, but quickly got over it and wouldn't change it for the world!

Youngest DS is my cuddlebug! He will stop playing for no reason and crawl up on my lap just to cuddle, then go back to playing.

With all boys in the house there is no mistaking who is the queen bee! I usually get my way. Any of my boys (DH or DSs) would do anything for me.

A relationship between a mommy and her son is just different. It is a special bond.

DS has always found a way to melt my heart...
When we found out our second was a boy, first DS was the first person we told. We told him he was going to have a little brother and the first words out of his mouth were, "Good now I have a best man for my wedding." This from a 10 year old.

There is lots less drama with boys and they definetly are easier.

 

[JonJor]

2 boys for me....and I love it!

Daddy gets "fighting time"....Mommy gets "hugging time"

They could care less about talking on the phone

and they are very affectionate.


At least she knows in advance....we did not know until the 2nd was actually born. DH had to return a car load full of stuff from Babies r' us after he was born!

 

[imthatgirl]

you wouldn't want to tell her what I would say. Sorry, but Having lost a son, I can not come up with something to say to make her happy in a nice way. I told my nephews wife to just pray he comes out alive, they were shocked. I do wish your coworker the best.

i could have writen this. except my angel is a girl. some people just dont know how lucky they are

 

[sk!mom]

she & her DH are devastated (DH has 2 boys from previous marriage)
at least its healthy!!

Wow, "devastated" to be having a healthy baby. That's a couple that needs a reality check not a list. IMO

 

[notsosnowwhite]

My son's baby book has TWO ultrasounds with "It's a girl!" printed right on the pictures...we found out that boys can use pink blankets and not be emotionally scarred. I can sympathize with the emotions of wanting your dreams of having a son or daughter fulfilled, but here are my top two reasons to love having boys...
1.When playing superheroes I ALWAYS get to be Wonder Woman.
2. I'm the only princess in this family.

 

[disneymom2003]

I remember being disappointed when my first was a boy. I wanted a girl sooooo bad. That didn't last long. He stole my heart in no time. I ended up with 2 of each. Two boys and two girls. I love all my children but always seemed to but heads with the girls, and my youngest son and i have a very close relationship. Boys just seem to be easier to me ( and for all the reasons stated before) I say enjoy whatever each child brings to the relationship.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

Parker's Momma your list was great!! I also liked the posters who mentioned not having to pay for a wedding and not dealing with hormones, shaving legs, etc. The lice "buzzz" was pretty cute, too!! Boys are just more laissez-faire. It's funny, though,my niece is a climber and a very active, independent, fearless girl while my nephew is into reading, cooking, and is a lot more fearful and cautious- so every child is different, just born with a certain temperament.

I am really sorry for those who have lost a child, I can't imagine how every little thing probably brings up that pain. I truly don't think I can understand completely, but I am really sorry that anyone has to experience that. Everyone could agree that having a different gendered child is a lot less painful, something like this is NOT the same at all --but for someone who always dreamed of a daughter, and was told she was having one, and then told "not" - it still could produce feelings of loss.Maybe its financial, too, if she bought so much already? I think what the OP is doing for her coworker is amazing. Rather than let this woman be upset, she is helping her to see all the great things! Just like everyone said, she should be happy with a healthy baby- this is exactly what the OP is trying to help her do. She wants her to see how lucky she is!

I wish every expecting mom had a supportive friend like the OP- maybe support like this would help prevent depression or child neglect or other things that come along with being an overwhelmed expecting mom. I'm a teacher and I see so many neglected kids, anything that could help a new soul entering the world to feel wanted is GREAT in my eyes!

Hopefully, some of those pink things can be traded, sold, etc. Is there anyone in your office, or someone you know expecting a girl? Maybe something could be worked out if they can't be returned. Maybe even repainted? We can get creative.

 

[lovebuzz]

I'm not sure if anyone has mentioned this or not, I don't have time to read all of the posts. ( I have 3 boys and a girl and well you know how it goes ) anyway, the best thing about having a boy is.............



They stand up to pee!!!!
You dont have to worry about germs on the seat. They can use the bathroom anywhere and they make up games while they pee. One time I walked into the bathroom and 2 of my boys were peeing together and moving their hips. So, curious me asks what they are doing and their reply is uhhh we are having a light saber fight with our pee. That's great boys now go get something to clean up the bathroom now. They were about 4 and 5 at the time.

 

[ilovemyjj]

I had to reply to this..my 2nd child, i had 2 sonograms, and they told me it was a girl..well ok im getting a c-section..got the name all picked out..my moms in the hall waiting with the its a boy balloons ok..they pull the baby out ..and there like what is it doc? He's like uhm..well, the nurse is like what? He said its a boy!!! I was like huh??? Hubby was like what??? In my head i was saying well put em back, i wanted a girl!!! But, i said to hubby..well i guess we got another boy. Hubby went out and said well the baby is doing good, but its a boy!!!!!
Needless to say the balloons had to be exchanged, the going home outfit had to be exchanged!! But, 4 years after Jacob, I had a girl!
So, having a boy!!
I dont have a top 10 but..
My boys are so different than my daughter.
And I wouldn't want to trade any of them for anything in the world!!!

 

[kellyg403]

i understand what you mean, but she actually was told she could never have kids & then she got pregnant...i guess because she had an ultrasound & they said it was a girl & then today she finds out its aboy...it was hard...you know how hormonal you get when your pregnant.All i want to do is cheer her up & point out the good...get her to look forward to a boy & not dwell on the fact it was supposed to be a girl...she has already got ALOT of pink/girlie items..they were both excited & they still are

I understand! My first son was a girl while I was pregnant! During my 7th month ultrasound the guy said "Its a girl". So dh and I went out bought all the stuff for a girl, the cutest stuff. Goodness knows it was fun. At 1:46 on Sat Apr 20 when the dr said "Congratulations...a great looking little boy" My dh passed out. Yeah..strange thing but my boy could not have more of my heart! Too bad, he came home in the only WHITE outfit we owned and lived in t-shirts and diapers the first 5 days until we could get out. We were stationed in Germany with no family to help. So...trust me be glad she knows NOW!

While it was fun to shop for all the girlie items and stuff I agree with the others. I never have to share my stuff with him..My teen dd has acquired every pair of tweezers and eyeliner I have ever owned. And I have owned several pairs. I fully expect to find a project somewhere totally done in tweezers and eyeliner pencils. He was cheap for a long time..getting him to take a showere took awhile, getting him to use soap and deoderant even longer. He took forever to do laundry..heck the sniff test worked for him. But, the boy was always on my side. He was the one to sit with me when I was sad. Just sit there...sometimes just watching tv with me so I wouldn't be alone. Mom's and sons...just a little bit more connected in my experience.

Kelly

 

[Just(donald)Ducky]

the point here was to just come up with a fun way to get her exicted about her baby boy...maybe devastated was the "wrong' choice of word "I" used.
& for your sake...i hope that DOESNT happen to her or anyone for that matter...your comments are pretty harsh
dont get me wrong...she is HAPPY she is having a baby..just trying to point out all the fun/good things about having a boy!!

Ok, I appologize: I had a VERY hard day yesterday, and wrote that out of feelings, rathen then out of thinking.

Between the two of us (and our prior marriages) we have four: three boys (5, 5, and four) and one beutiful baby girl between us (2 months).

My son (one of the 5's) was "supposed" to be a girl. EVERYONE said he was going to be a girl (except the doctor... he wasn't sure, but thought it would be a girl).

I wanted a boy SOOOOOOO badly, but even more so just wanted a baby. Lo and behold, out pops Corbin.

Babies are Babies, and are just awesome. At least, once they start sleeping through the night.

Sorry again!

 

[nilseks]

My son's teacher gave me a beautiful gift at the end of the school year last year; it's a book called "Why a Son Needs a Mom". It's a really wonderful book. If you bought it I think it would pretty much sum up all the great thoughts on the thread.

 

[hsmamato2]

I was initially told my 2nd child was a girl (my 1st is a boy). I started buying pink things and thinking of her as "Katie." For several months, I carried my "girl." At 37 weeks, another ultrasound revealed that Katie was, in fact, a healthy boy. It was a huge shock.

My first (of 2 boys) - we were told with 3 ultrasounds HE was a girl.....a closet full of girl items and 9 months later, we had our first son. I experienced NOT ONE SECOND of disappointment- sorry- I'm not adding to the 'fun' tone here,but I don't understand those feelings.
I desperately wanted to be a mom to a healthy child,and I got my wish. (twice)
He wore pink jammies for the first week,then we made a trip to a consignment store- where I consigned evry pink item,and bought a pile of boys clothes. My boys rock!!!
BTW, the last ultrasound telling us it was a girl was the day he was born......

 

[mommy4]

Boys are great!
I have 3 boys (7,5,3) and I have to say that although I was at first a little disappointed that the last one was not a girl, I quickly got over that. My 3 boys are wild and wonderful and there is never a dull moment in my house ! We have now adopted a daughter from Ethiopia and she is quite different from a boy! Where the boys will fight and be done with it, she will pout and whine for a while about something (she's a diva already )
I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but they say that little boys are mommy's boys forever and little girls are daddy's girls forever. This seems to hold true in our family. My 3 boys are definetly mommy's boys(especially my youngest who at times won't even talk to DH) and my daughter is a Daddy's girl through and through!

 

[RadioFanatic]

my best friend who has twin boys told me when I found out I was having a boy (I was happy - just wanted healthy) that now I only have to worry about my boy - if I had a girl, I would have to worry about everyone else's boys.

 

[MickeyMom2Boys]

OK, so I get that every mom wants to have her little princess to dress up and play with dolls and and bond with - and I'm sure that is great, but . . .

The only thing better than a little boy is brothers! I have a son who is almost 5 and one that is 18 months. Let me tell you my house is a regular comedy club. The boys are hilarious! They are so laid back and just go with the flow of things. There is no drama. Whatever happens, they may have their moment, then the get over it and it's back to laughing and playing again. They love being together. Yes, they occasionally fight, but again, they have their moment, then get over it. They are always either exploring or being silly. And Mom always has a bodyguard My husband can't get away with anything! All I have to do is call the boys in and they defend Mom 100%. And the imagintations! One minute they're mechanics working on toy hot rods or big rigs, the next minute they are superheros or all stars. They are the best.

We plan on having another baby in the next year or two and everyone (including DH) thinks I want a 3rd child because I want a girl. That is so not the case. It would be nice to have a girl too, but 3 boys would be just fine with me. I'd like to see how dh defends himself against 3 of them! He wouldn't stand a chance!

 

[d1gitman]

i think it's disgusting for a parent to be dissapointed with whatever sex their child is. That's a horrible predisposition to impose upon a child that they chose to bring into this world. They should be happy with whatever they have, boy, girl, healthy or not. Children are indeed a gift from God and whatever gift God bestow's upon us, we should accept willingly, graciously and joyfully.

 

[imthatgirl]

i think it's disgusting for a parent to be dissapointed with whatever sex their child is. That's a horrible predisposition to impose upon a child that they chose to bring into this world. They should be happy with whatever they have, boy, girl, healthy or not. Children are indeed a gift from God and whatever gift God bestow's upon us, we should accept willingly, graciously and joyfully.

i completely agree!!! ive been reading this post and it blows my mind that the words "baby boy" and "disappointment" are even in the same sentance. it surprises me that girls have become that sought after sex and boys are what you get if you dont get the coveted girl. amazing.

 

[the Fidge]

Well from my experience it had to do with the ability to "relate" with a boy. I only had older brothers and they were considerably older than me so we had not alot of relating between us.

I also have suffered the loss of preganacies and of course any baby is a blessing. It just may have to do with feeling uncertain of oneself as a "boy" mom.

Ok back to the topic of "fun" things about being a boy Mom I can't believe I failed to add this to my list yesterday........

ONLY A BOY WILL CLAP AND WOOO HOOOOO A GOOD BURB, IMAGINE THAT?? OMG, I would have never dared dream of burbing in front of anyone, my DS thought I didn't know how so he taught me how to burb and fart! OMG it was truly a moment I wish I had filmed!

It is great to relive my childhood dreams of playing with the bulldozer, race cars and all sorts of things "young ladies" did not do then. I am in my 40's and we were not permitted to play with the boys toys so in BoyMomhood I got to do it all!! WOOOOOOHOOOO !!!!!!!!

Expelling human gas 101 my DS would be a professor! I spent my childhood being the little lady it was an abosolute blast that day "learning" how to BURB LOL!

 

[nessz79]

i completely agree!!! ive been reading this post and it blows my mind that the words "baby boy" and "disappointment" are even in the same sentance. it surprises me that girls have become that sought after sex and boys are what you get if you dont get the coveted girl. amazing.

Hope I don't get lumped in with that generalized statement. I said that when I found out I was having a boy I was initially disappointed because I had no experience with boys and had no idea what I could be in for. However, I went on to say how much of an incredible blessing my boys are and how I wouldn't trade them for a house of little girls.

HOWEVER, I do agree that it almost seems like our society has been shifting towards girls getting the preferential treatment in our society. Certainly we aren't all guilty of this, but "girl qualities"/stereotypes tend to be more highly favored than boys' qualities/sterotypes.

I had no idea before I had my boys how wonderful they are. I don't think that makes someone bad...simply uninformed about the reality of the wonder of boys.