moms help~reasons to be happy having a boy

[jeepgirl30]

When I found out i was having a girl my first I was scared. I always wanted a boy, they were easier I was told. I admit, I was upset. I knew I should be happy but I was totally scared even being pregnant and thought I'd be a horrible mom especially to a fragile little girl!

The day I went into labor it hit me, SHE had to be a girl! I was so happy holding my little princess. I was still scared out of my mind I'd damage her but we got through it!

2 years later I got my boy. Yes I was happy to hear I was having a boy finally but no way would I trade my princess.

Point is, once that child is born it doesn't matter. She'll feel it after the shock settles in!

My boy was easier as an infant. He is getting easier at 5. However, the time in between? WOW! He knocked out 5 teeth at 15 months from climbing, went through night terrors, refused to give up the binky until over 2 and refused to potty train until well recently. DD was potty trained by 2.

However my boy will always take my side! He told me recently I should go on tv and do my "cooking thing" because I was so good. DD thinks I do nothing right and is a total daddy's girl!

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

you wouldn't want to tell her what I would say. Sorry, but Having lost a son, I can not come up with something to say to make her happy in a nice way. I told my nephews wife to just pray he comes out alive, they were shocked. I do wish your coworker the best.

 

[VeroBeachGirl]

OP - I am not flaming you at all - I know you are just trying to help your friend get in the spirit, but if my co-worker told me she was "devastated" over the sex of her baby, I would tell her to get the bleep over it! There are so many people who aren't blessed with a baby at all, or who are dealing with other difficult issues in conection with their kids, that it just seems really awful for her to have the reaction she's having. A healthy baby is a happy event, full stop!

A friend of DHs told him once that he "couldn't even hold" his two brand new baby girls in the delivery room because he was so disappointed they weren't boys - eeeek - I'm a firm believer in karma, and those kinds of thoughts, and the ones your co-worker is having, are ones you simply don't express.

Jane

AMEN! If one is lucky enough to have a healthy baby, that is blessing enough!

 

[Villainess]

My DS, 10 mos, is such a cuddler - I call him my snugglebug - I absolutely love it! DD, never cuddled!

 

[Jenvenza]

My sister had baby shower invitations all ready in pink with her little girls name on it - "Ava" - when she had another ultrasound and found out Ava was a boy! She was never devestated though - she was happy to have a healthy baby!

The only thing I can think of is that boys are normally "mama's boys" and how can you go wrong with that? Little boys adore their moms!

 

[Just(donald)Ducky]

Devestated?

Wait... what?

Hey, I have an idea. How about you tell your coworker this:

Today, at my hospital, a mother was having contractions, baby was doing fine.

Then, all of a sudden, the baby died in utero.

No idea why.

How about you tell your coworker that?

You can also tell them that they sicken me, and should just be happy that they are having a baby.

Seriously: Pissed off they aren't getting the sex of the baby they want? How about we show that little boy what his parents thought on his 13th birthday. "Oh, we really wanted a girl, and were just devistated that we had you..."

What is wrong with people?

 

[nessz79]

Devestated?

Wait... what?

Hey, I have an idea. How about you tell your coworker this:

Today, at my hospital, a mother was having contractions, baby was doing fine.

Then, all of a sudden, the baby died in utero.

No idea why.

How about you tell your coworker that?

You can also tell them that they sicken me, and should just be happy that they are having a baby.

Seriously: Pissed off they aren't getting the sex of the baby they want? How about we show that little boy what his parents thought on his 13th birthday. "Oh, we really wanted a girl, and were just devistated that we had you..."

What is wrong with people?

I'll admit that "devastated" in the OP's post threw me for a loop and even stirred some angry feelings.

However, I think this is a little over the top.

I think that the OP's friend was disappointed because she was told she was having a girl and had prepared herself mentally and even nesting-wise for a girl.

Boys are absolutely wonderful and she'll be fine. Maybe not the best choice of words, but she's not going to keep being disappointed when she has her baby. I think there are too many assumptions being made in the quoted post here.

 

[SILLYANDI]

Having 3 girls and ALL the drama & work that goes into them, I would exchanged them for boys anyday! (well figuratively anyway). There is nothing like the love of Momma's boy. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughters, but when he calls me "sweet Momma" trying to butter me up, I just love it (and usually give in!) .

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Devestated?

Wait... what?

Hey, I have an idea. How about you tell your coworker this:

Today, at my hospital, a mother was having contractions, baby was doing fine.

Then, all of a sudden, the baby died in utero.

No idea why.

How about you tell your coworker that?

You can also tell them that they sicken me, and should just be happy that they are having a baby.

Seriously: Pissed off they aren't getting the sex of the baby they want? How about we show that little boy what his parents thought on his 13th birthday. "Oh, we really wanted a girl, and were just devistated that we had you..."

What is wrong with people?

the point here was to just come up with a fun way to get her exicted about her baby boy...maybe devastated was the "wrong' choice of word "I" used.
& for your sake...i hope that DOESNT happen to her or anyone for that matter...your comments are pretty harsh
dont get me wrong...she is HAPPY she is having a baby..just trying to point out all the fun/good things about having a boy!!

 

[Siouxstone]

I was told I was having a boy from early on. I seriously wouldn't have cared if that had suddenly been the wrong announcement, but I sure would've had to take back a ton of stuff and would've been desperately thumbing through a baby name book. And, all those hormones would've definitely kicked it up a notch or two. I think the OP was just saying that the person was just shocked. I get that and am saddened by how everyone has just jumped to a bad assumtion.

To the OP: I think what you are trying to do is great. Here are some of my thoughts.

As for having boys:

You suddenly realize that a relationship between a boy and his.... is totally natural. I understand men so much better now!

Peeing on trees... no need for a gas station, just pull over....

You get to say fun things like, "I've got to go, the boys will be waiting on me" even if you have only one child. One boy + dad = boys.

It's a whole new world and having a boy is like getting a key to all that boy stuff: hot wheels, cleats, cups, and sports.

YOU GET TO BLAME YOUR DIRTY HOUSE ON THEM! Everyone knows that boys are messy. Now you get a bit of a pass.

No bows, just a pair of clippers and your done.

Little boy suits. Girls get dressed up at the drop of a hat. If you get to really dress your little boy in an all out suit, it will melt your heart.

Pirates, pirates, pirates!

The phrase "boys will be boys" can be used in so many occasions.

 

[Disney_Angel]

Simply put? Infertility sucked .

I was poked, prodded, evaluated, irritated, medicated and iradiated...


...and that was just in one day!

Once she holds that baby in her arms everything else will fall into place.

 

[Disney_Angel]

You could drown in those mountains of hair clips and scrunchies.

Girls hold grudges, boys just slug each each other and get over it.

YOU get to dance with him at his wedding, Mom.

No bathroom.....no problem.

Those cheerleading outfits are reeeeeeally expensive.

Head lice and girls = hours of work;
head lice and boys = buzzzzzzz...over.

Matchbox cars are WAY easier to keep track of than Barbie shoes.

As long as the tag isn't scratchy, he'll wear whatever you pick out.

One pair of sneakers matches everything.

Your grandchildren will have the same last name as you.








(P.S. - Please don't think I actually have anything against girls! - I love my nieces to pieces!!)

 

[the Fidge]

OK heres somethings I observed about being a "boy" Mom. I was hoping for a girl but so glad God knew better!

10. Its great fun to find creatures in the laundry or dried up under the bed.

9. Boys could care less about where you buy their clothes, school shopping takes all of 2 hours! WOOOO HOOOO!

8. Boys can go topless!

7. You will always be the #1 woman in his life! You can be the Momma in Momma's boy! You always look great to them!



6. They show you a world you didn't kow exsisted, star gazing , every dinosaur ever and the order of the planets!

5. His wife will have to measure up to YOU!!! You know Momma's cooking is always the best!

4. No problem with Halloween costumes! Have you ever tried to dress a girl in her fairy ensembles!

3. Their coaches are always young hot men! Opps did I say that outloud....

2. You know every species of snakes and learn by hospital visits which ones are safe!

1. Its great fun to let family you may not really like so much change their diaper.......and forget to tell them about holding DOWN THE FIREHOSE!!!

 

[wickywinn]

you wouldn't want to tell her what I would say. Sorry, but Having lost a son, I can not come up with something to say to make her happy in a nice way. I told my nephews wife to just pray he comes out alive, they were shocked. I do wish your coworker the best.

My sister could have written this. Her sweet boy was a William too. Christmas will be one year (he stopped moving sometime Xmas day; he was due and born that Friday). She keeps saying "He never got to be mine". But at the same time she's trying so hard to have a baby now and is insistent that it has to be a boy. I don't know what she'll do if it's a girl...I just hope it happens soon, at least before Christmas.

 

[lutherlovr]

Don't know how bad the friend of the OP is, but there are some great forums for gender disappointment at www.in-gender.com
One really hard thing about gender disappointment is that you have to keep it a "secret" because people are really judgemental about it. It can turn into a serious depression condition though. I doubt people would be so up in arms if you posted on here that she had post partum depression. I know it is easy to say "just be happy you have a healthy baby" but it is really hard for some people, especially if you have already prepared yourself for a certain gender.
That's what I would suggest if she seems really depressed about it, don't know if that is the case.

 

[HeatherSue]

you wouldn't want to tell her what I would say. Sorry, but Having lost a son, I can not come up with something to say to make her happy in a nice way.

My sentiments exactly!

 

[parkers*momma]

I haven't had a chance to read all these but I'll give you my take(as a mother of 4 sons and two daughters)...


Top 10 reasons you will love having a son....

#10. You will be able to save more money for WDW since you won't have to hire a lawn service to mow your lawn, you now have a son!

#9. You won't have to worry about your make-up, hairspray, jewelry, and clothing coming up missing (hopefully ).

#8. You won't ever have to worry about the drama, he is be the object that CAUSES the drama.

#7. You will never have to run to the store for a gallon of milk or loaf a bread late at night, just say "can you take the car..." and before you can finish the sentence, they have the keys and running out the door. Boys will do anything for you when they are 16 just to cruise up town.

#6. Boys don't care what they wear or if they have a scar, freckle, or pimple. Just throw them a toothbrush and deodorant and they are happy.

#5 You will NEVER be locked out of the bathroom because they are having a bad hair day, bloated, or have a big butt.

#4. You will still be able to talk on the phone that YOU pay the phone bill on plus the majority of the time the phone will be located on the phone base. Not under a bed, in the basement, or glued to someone's head.

#3. Boys are not as cliche as girls and get over arguments quicker.

#2. Boys clothes are cheaper, stronger, and they'll wear them no matter what anyone says about them. Lil Girl usually have a fashion meltdown and never wear them again after begging for them is another girl says the outfit is lame.

And the NUMBER ONE REASON IT'S GREAT HAVING A SON......................







....................Your Future Daughter-In-Law will LOVE you because you taught him not to have all those annoying habits. Like putting the toilet seat down, putting his dirty clothes in the hamper, no body sounds (belching, passing gas, etc) and shower her with the love you taught him while growing up!

Now who wouldn't want a daughter-in-law who loves you and says thank you for teaching her hubby all those things?

 

[churchpilot]

Everyone should have a man cub to raise...there is nothing like a dirty little boy at the end of the day complaining that he doesn't want the dirt washed off because he worked really hard gettin it all on!!! Reality check now------count your blessings.

 

[minkydog]

Devestated?

Wait... what?

Hey, I have an idea. How about you tell your coworker this:

Today, at my hospital, a mother was having contractions, baby was doing fine.

Then, all of a sudden, the baby died in utero.

No idea why.

How about you tell your coworker that?

You can also tell them that they sicken me, and should just be happy that they are having a baby.

Seriously: Pissed off they aren't getting the sex of the baby they want? How about we show that little boy what his parents thought on his 13th birthday. "Oh, we really wanted a girl, and were just devistated that we had you..."

What is wrong with people?

Oh please Seriously?

My kids are older (22, 15 & 13) but i remember being terribly hormonal--I sobbed for 30 minutes because a fire truck went by, for heaven's sake! When I found out my third child would be a boy I admit, I was disappointed--I wanted a girl,was convinced I was having a girl. Telling a pregnant woman she's horrible for having those feelings is not justified--feelings are feelings. And feelings change.

I bet this mom will calm down in a couple days, realize that its not the end of the world, pray for a healthy baby, and in his teen years they'll all have a good laugh about how silly Mom was.

**Incidentally, I did get over myself. We didn't know that Christian would be born severely handicapped, but we loved him anyway. Now he's 13 and I've never regretted being his mother.

 

[LovePug]

I haven't had a chance to read all these but I'll give you my take(as a mother of 4 sons and two daughters)...


Top 10 reasons you will love having a son....

#10. You will be able to save more money for WDW since you won't have to hire a lawn service to mow your lawn, you now have a son!

#9. You won't have to worry about your make-up, hairspray, jewelry, and clothing coming up missing (hopefully ).

#8. You won't ever have to worry about the drama, he is be the object that CAUSES the drama.

#7. You will never have to run to the store for a gallon of milk or loaf a bread late at night, just say "can you take the car..." and before you can finish the sentence, they have the keys and running out the door. Boys will do anything for you when they are 16 just to cruise up town.

#6. Boys don't care what they wear or if they have a scar, freckle, or pimple. Just throw them a toothbrush and deodorant and they are happy.

#5 You will NEVER be locked out of the bathroom because they are having a bad hair day, bloated, or have a big butt.

#4. You will still be able to talk on the phone that YOU pay the phone bill on plus the majority of the time the phone will be located on the phone base. Not under a bed, in the basement, or glued to someone's head.

#3. Boys are not as cliche as girls and get over arguments quicker.

#2. Boys clothes are cheaper, stronger, and they'll wear them no matter what anyone says about them. Lil Girl usually have a fashion meltdown and never wear them again after begging for them is another girl says the outfit is lame.

And the NUMBER ONE REASON IT'S GREAT HAVING A SON......................







....................Your Future Daughter-In-Law will LOVE you because you taught him not to have all those annoying habits. Like putting the toilet seat down, putting his dirty clothes in the hamper, no body sounds (belching, passing gas, etc) and shower her with the love you taught him while growing up!

Now who wouldn't want a daughter-in-law who loves you and says thank you for teaching her hubby all those things?

This is perfect! After raising my DSD (almost 15), I can tell you this is dead on. I couldn't WAIT for my son. I love watching him play with his truck, watching him get dirty, jump around and try to climb everything in site and, at the most unexpected moments, run over to give me a hug and a kiss. I could not love this child any more than I do .