moms help~reasons to be happy having a boy

[jeepgirl30]

I just put my lil man on the bus for his first day of school this morning. As we were walking to the bus stop he says to me...

"Don't worry mommy, even i will STILL love you and not forget about you when I go to school".

Now that is a boy's bond with his mama!

 

[Ducky4Disney]

To all the women who have endured a loss, I am truly sorry. To all the women who have gone through infertility treatments never to reach the goal, I am truly sorry. But please stop posting here. The OP didn't ask for your opinion on this lady's remarks, or say that the woman was going to have the baby aborted becuase of its sex - she was told X is having Y and has a few Y's all ready. She's disappointed and that's understandable, please don't belittle her feelings.

I wanted a girl the first time around - found out it was a boy and was a little disappointed. I felt like I could relate to a girl better. I had no idea how to deal with boys. Once we picked a name, a theme for his room, and got some clothes I really started to bond with him - and he is my Little Man. He is the best!

Now I am PG with #2 - totally thought it was a girl. Nope, another boy. I sobbed in the arms of my friend after finding out. I felt like this was a rerun - it's going to be the same as before. No new clothes or toys; more trucks, bugs and dirt. No little princess. No blushing bride for Daddy to walk down the aisle.

I went over to daycare to pick up DS(2 y/o) and when he came running over to me, "Mommy! Mommy!"... my heart melted and I knew it was OK.

This boy is going to be different than DS#1. They will be different people with different ablilites, likes, dislikes, and personalities. I am looking forward to finding out what they will be! Same sex does not equal samer person or same experience - it took me some time to realize this.

What I am starting to like about having 2 boys is; NO accessories, NO PMS, NO clothing battles, and less drama. It's going to be a lot of fun! And who knows, maybe I'll try again.... and if it's another boy, so be it.

D4D

 

[Eeyore's Wife]

With all the challenges, there are plenty of wonderful experiences with boys!

1. When you potty train, you get to drop cheerios into the potty as targets!

2. You get to witness toast chewed into the shape of a gun, regularly.

3. For Valentine's Day, someone just might pee "MOM" and a Heart into the snow and actually mean it as a sincere sign of love and appreciation.

4. You get to hear the words, "I want to marry somebody just like you!"

5. Mid-school boys don't ask to wear string bikinis, thongs, belly shirts, or hot pants.

6. I have yet to have an older high school girl tell my son is "mature" and encourage him to go out with her.

7. When boys are in their teens, they are also in their growth spurt, so as long as you provide large tasty meals, at least three times a day they will be happy with you and rather contented.

8. Little boy clothes don't come equipped with scratchy lace, scratchy crinolines, or require wrestling a wigglly toddler into tights.

9. Baby boys do not grow up and have PMS!

10. I get the satisfaction of knowing that I have done a MUCH better job preparing a man for adulthood, being a husband, and father than my Mother-in-Law.

--Eeyore's Wife

 

[AbbyPan]

To all the women who have endured a loss, I am truly sorry. To all the women who have gone through infertility treatments never to reach the goal, I am truly sorry. But please stop posting here. The OP didn't ask for your opinion on this lady's remarks, or say that the woman was going to have the baby aborted becuase of its sex - she was told X is having Y and has a few Y's all ready. She's disappointed and that's understandable, please don't belittle her feelings.


D4D

Ducky-You took the words right out of my mouth.

Cori-I really hope that the positive posts have helped you come up with a good idea for your co-worker!

 

[ChrisandDon'sMommy]

Let's see:

Boys force you to get up and get moving!

You will become less of a neat freak when you have boys

You don't have to pay for weddings

They won't steal moms clothes

Dads get to have a little helper

You'll quickly discover that brown is the in color

You'll get a great education in bugs, snakes, and frogs

Dad will have an excuse to buy and play with legos, transformers, water guns, and video games

Boys let mom have an excuse to get out and get dirty!!

I agree!

You also learn not to sweat the small stuff. I have two boys and I adore them. If I had two girls, I'd be more dramatic than necessary!

 

[Syrreal]

1.You get to find out that boys clothes are actually cute!
2. You get to see what the term "fearless" really means
3. You get to see all the Cougars come out in packs

 

[marcyinPA]

I have two boys. Boys keep things light....body functions are funny (I can't help but laugh when my 9 year old lets one rip and the whole house stinks and he thinks he's just hysterical! ) You learn to get over being "proper" and just go with it. It's a stage (although I asked my DH when the boys would get over this stage...the body function stage....and my DH asked me what I meant! )

 

[tonga]

I can understand the initial disappointment of thinking you'd have a girl, and then finding out you're having a boy. We're in the middle of an adoption process, and initially thought we'd be adopting from a country where most likely we'd be referred a little girl. Last year at WDW, we bought all kinds of cute little girl clothes. We had a name picked out, and were excited about having a daughter.

Now, for various reasons, we've switched programs and will most likely be referred a boy. I did go through a short grieving process for the daughter I'll never have - even though she never existed anywhere but in my imagination. I really had to switch gears. But, I can really see myself as a mom to a little boy, and I'm looking forward to all the boy activities!

 

[JVL1018]

I have one of each and have to say it bugs me when people put down girls to build up boys..not necessary, boys are great without dissing the girls!

Good things about boys:

Clothing-wise:
little baseball hats!
overalls!
those old man pajamas with the button up top:nothing cuter than that on a 2 year old.

Specifically about my boy, which is also true for a lot of boys:

He's a little Jedi-I love his obsession with Star Wars(even though I am not into it), he's so into it and has been for years!(he'll be 7 tomorrow).

He loves all things boy, such a stereotype, but it's Star Wars, cars, fire trucks, Superheroes, Legos.
Legos..I love love love buildoing his Lego models with him, it's fun!
He is so stinkin' funny!
It's fun, it's everything i imagined having a boy would be.

Even though he is my little man and is rough and tumble and a ball of energy(!!), he has a sensitive side: He loves playing Little Pet Shop with his sister, He's very into his Build a Bears, he loves Webkinz and Beanie Babies.

He does whine, so don't let anyone tell you it's only girls that whine, he is way worse than my daughter. LOL

All in all, he rocks.

 

[imthatgirl]

Hope I don't get lumped in with that generalized statement. I said that when I found out I was having a boy I was initially disappointed because I had no experience with boys and had no idea what I could be in for. However, I went on to say how much of an incredible blessing my boys are and how I wouldn't trade them for a house of little girls.

HOWEVER, I do agree that it almost seems like our society has been shifting towards girls getting the preferential treatment in our society. Certainly we aren't all guilty of this, but "girl qualities"/stereotypes tend to be more highly favored than boys' qualities/sterotypes.

I had no idea before I had my boys how wonderful they are. I don't think that makes someone bad...simply uninformed about the reality of the wonder of boys.

i didnt direct it at anyone specifically. its just that by reading this you would think that having a boy is like getting the consulation prize.
i would also hope that by disappointed you really meant nervous? i get that, to be nervous about having a baby, its so unknown. but really any child should bring those feelings up. every child is different. i have 2 boys and a girl. the 2 boys are like night and day. just because i knew how to relate to my first child, doesnt mean i had any idea how to relate to the second.
anyway, i didnt mena anything by it, i dont think any one here is an awful person. this whole post is just sad, thats all.

 

[nessz79]

i didnt direct it at anyone specifically. its just that by reading this you would think that having a boy is like getting the consulation prize.
i would also hope that by disappointed you really meant nervous? i get that, to be nervous about having a baby, its so unknown. but really any child should bring those feelings up. every child is different. i have 2 boys and a girl. the 2 boys are like night and day. just because i knew how to relate to my first child, doesnt mean i had any idea how to relate to the second.
anyway, i didnt mena anything by it, i dont think any one here is an awful person. this whole post is just sad, thats all.

I know what you're saying.

 

[MSSANDRA]

I admit if God had let me choose, I might would have choosen a girl. Thank God we do not get to choose. I was never disappointed in having a son and have loved EVERY minute of the last 16 years. A few highlights:

-I have learned about star wars, power rangers, legos, match box cars and a hundred other other things I had never been exposed to.

-I learned to LIKE football and at least understand most other sports.

-I experenced the joy of the bath water turing completly brown from a happy but dirty little boy that had a wonderful day.

-I learned bushes make GREAT potties.

-I have experenced the happiness of a four year old telling everyone he is going to marry his mommy.

-I never have to pump gas, take out trash, or kill spiders

-I spent less than 200.00 on back to school clothes!

-I get to raise a man the right way!! Yes, he can wash clothes and at least fry an egg.

-I get the love of the best kid in the world.

 

[nessz79]

I admit if God had let me choose, I might would have choosen a girl. Thank God we do not get to choose. I was never disappointed in having a son and have loved EVERY minute of the last 16 years. A few highlights:

-I have learned about star wars, power rangers, legos, match box cars and a hundred other other things I had never been exposed to.

-I learned to LIKE football and at least understand most other sports.

-I experenced the joy of the bath water turing completly brown from a happy but dirty little boy that had a wonderful day.

-I learned bushes make GREAT potties.

-I have experenced the happiness of a four year old telling everyone he is going to marry his mommy. My 5 year old says he wants to live with us in our house forever. Melts my heart. My 4 year old wants to marry me. 5 year old just grew out of that

-I never have to pump gas, take out trash, or kill spiders

-I spent less than 200.00 on back to school clothes!

-I get to raise a man the right way!! Yes, he can wash clothes and at least fry an egg. Amen to that! What happened to gentelemen, too? Glad we can raise them the way we'd want them if we were going to date/marry him!

-I get the love of the best kid in the world.

I love these!!! Especially the ones I highlighted.

 

[SLK1]

I don't have time to read the entire thread, but my main reason to be glad she's having a boy is NO WEDDINGS TO PAY FOR!!!

I have one boy, then three girls. All four are GREAT kids and all very different. My boy is the quiet, sensitive, gentle one, my girls are more into sports and none of them are as sensitive as him. Also tell her she is not raising a boy, but raising someone's husband.

I know many people will say she should just be happy she's having a baby and yes, a healthy baby is the #1 goal, but I think to be truly honest, many people would say they had a preference. I know I did!

 

[KarlaG4Kids]

I am blessed enough to have 2 boys and 2 girls (all grown). Great reasons to have a boy.

1. You get to continue to be the boss because boys don't get the bossy gene the way the girls do.

2. You have guys that can fix things and build things for you for free (Make sure they sign up for shop in school....you get neat stuff).

3. They change flat tires for you...even in the middle of winter in the cold.

4. Tuxes are cheaper to rent than Prom dresses are to buy!!!!! BY FAR!!!!

5. Jar and bottle openers are not needed anymore.

6. You don't have to ride the emotional roller coaster with them when they are teenagers. (At least not nearly as often as you do with girls).

There are SO MANY more reasons...some mentioned here, and some you will find out as time goes on and that little guy grows into the type of man you can only hope and pray he will be. Tell your friend best wishes!

 

[the Fidge]

HEy you never hear the statement "EWE thats gross". I failed to mention earlier that in some old european cultures its customary to extend sympathy if you are having a girl. The bold congrats for a boy. You know its a sign of how strong a man is the quantity of boys one has.

Have you ever seen the delivery room or the maternity ward when a father of a boy walks down the hall. The rooster strut!!!! Just think all you did was give him a baby with a handle! You would have thought my Dad and DH carried that baby themselves. To tell you how proud my Dad was after all the late nights growing up I tested his patience. One of my fondest memories is my Dad tossing the ball with my son. The last thing he did before he passed was throw the ball with my son. My son has his glove on his headboard along with his cap that he will use loud and proud. I will see my Dad looking me right in the eyes one day in my sons eyes. No greater gift could a father give his daughter.

My DH and my Dad were so PUFFY with themselves that it was a boy! Naturally too he was the longest and the biggest until 5 minutes before I departed. They would check continually to make sure no other baby came in bigger or longer to break their little linebackers stats!

Now is there nothing cuter than a baby boy in his Dad's team jersey?? Ahhh yes when he wears Moms team colors ahhh haaaa!!!

 

[karinbelle]

Boys LOVE their mommies! My DS is so sweet!

 

[Syrreal]

BTW, you don't always get to get out of paying for the wedding if you have a boy. my ILs paid for our wedding and for our honeymoon.

 

[spencers_girl]

With a boy during the teenage years you only have to worry about one boy with a girl you have to worry about ALL the boys.

 

[PollyannaMom]

With a boy during the teenage years you only have to worry about one boy with a girl you have to worry about ALL the boys.

I love this quote!