moms help~reasons to be happy having a boy

[myprincessgirlisa]

i need help moms!!

a coworker is 5mths pregnant with her 1st

she was told about a 1 1/2 ago that it was a girl & she had a 2nd ultrsound today & its a BOY !!

she & her DH are devastated (DH has 2 boys from previous marriage)
at least its healthy!!

so what im looking for is a FUN & CUTE list to give her titled
"Why you will love having a boy"(or something like that)

so pretend your Dave Letterman & lets here those cute reasons why she will love to have a boy!!!

 

[nessz79]

Wow. I can remember being disappointed when I found out my 1st was going to be a boy. I had no idea what I would be in for.

It's been awesome. I don't know if I can do Dave Letterman, but I can speak from the heart.

1. Your kids are your kids. Not the bratty little boys you used to have to babysit as a teenager. Not the rude boy down the road. You will raise them according to your own values and you will adore them because they are YOUR little boys.

2. All boys are different. My 1st and oldest is quiet, sensitive, studious, and artistic. My 2nd is boisterous, talkative, and active. They are both the sweetest boys. They have hearts of gold.

3. Boy toys can be lots of fun. I personally haven't bought them things like toy guns, Transformers (they're just not into them yet), etc like some of the really boy stuff can be. They play with legos, play castles, stuffed animals, they draw a lot, and anything else that requires an imagination. Sometimes they play shoot the alient (with their hands), but I'm willing to be a girl wouldn't mind playing that either.

Boys may be different than what she's used to, or maybe she's had bad experiences with boys. But she will love them and if she wants them to grow up right she will have to show them how. Boys and their mothers can have a very special relationship. It's hard to describe how wonderful things can be- she'll have to find some of this out on her own.

My #1 advice is not to go into this expecting bad things, but expecting good things. You can create your own reality in both good and bad ways.

 

[tinkerlisa]

I was a little dissapointed when I found out with my first it was a boy. When I found out my second was a boy I was really upset. I thought that if I had one of one sex, what would be the chances of having two of the same sex? So I figured I would just have a girl. But now, I am glad I have boys. My youngest(now 1) is so curious. Just the other day he found a worm outside and was playing with it! That's when it hit me: If I had girls, I probably would not have experienced the worm thing. Sounds crazy huh? But now, If I get pregnant again, I look forward to having a boy. They are fun. Plus, when I go to Disney, I won't have to stress about trying to get ressies at the much coveted Cinderella Castle!

 

[janey99]

i need help moms!!

a coworker is 5mths pregnant with her 1st

she was told about a 1 1/2 ago that it was a girl & she had a 2nd ultrsound today & its a BOY !!

she & her DH are devastated (DH has 2 boys from previous marriage)
at least its healthy!!

so what im looking for is a FUN & CUTE list to give her titled
"Why you will love having a boy"(or something like that)

so pretend your Dave Letterman & lets here those cute reasons why she will love to have a boy!!!

OP - I am not flaming you at all - I know you are just trying to help your friend get in the spirit, but if my co-worker told me she was "devastated" over the sex of her baby, I would tell her to get the bleep over it! There are so many people who aren't blessed with a baby at all, or who are dealing with other difficult issues in conection with their kids, that it just seems really awful for her to have the reaction she's having. A healthy baby is a happy event, full stop!

A friend of DHs told him once that he "couldn't even hold" his two brand new baby girls in the delivery room because he was so disappointed they weren't boys - eeeek - I'm a firm believer in karma, and those kinds of thoughts, and the ones your co-worker is having, are ones you simply don't express.

Jane

 

[tinkerlisa]

Wow. I can remember being disappointed when I found out my 1st was going to be a boy. I had no idea what I would be in for.

It's been awesome. I don't know if I can do Dave Letterman, but I can speak from the heart.

1. Your kids are your kids. Not the bratty little boys you used to have to babysit as a teenager. Not the rude boy down the road. You will raise them according to your own values and you will adore them because they are YOUR little boys.

2. All boys are different. My 1st and oldest is quiet, sensitive, studious, and artistic. My 2nd is boisterous, talkative, and active. They are both the sweetest boys. They have hearts of gold.

3. Boy toys can be lots of fun. I personally haven't bought them things like toy guns, Transformers (they're just not into them yet), etc like some of the really boy stuff can be. They play with legos, play castles, stuffed animals, they draw a lot, and anything else that requires an imagination. Sometimes they play shoot the alient (with their hands), but I'm willing to be a girl wouldn't mind playing that either.

Boys may be different than what she's used to, or maybe she's had bad experiences with boys. But she will love them and if she wants them to grow up right she will have to show them how. Boys and their mothers can have a very special relationship. It's hard to describe how wonderful things can be- she'll have to find some of this out on her own.

My #1 advice is not to go into this expecting bad things, but expecting good things. You can create your own reality in both good and bad ways.

I totally agree with you on this.

 

[XYSRUS]

I have 4 boys! Boys will always side with Mom. They love me to bits...no matter how much I yell at them! My husband calls them my minions. It's her first, so she should be thrilled. All babies are ADORABLE!!!!!!!!!!! I, personally never "get" how people could be disappointed in the sex of a baby. The docs and nurses were alway so cautious to tell me the sex of my kids but I was just thrilled to be able to have another. Best of luck to your friend.

 

[tazdev3225]

I was a little disappointed when I found out my 1st was a boy, I had 4 brothers. He has always been a great kid and still turns to mom for help even at the age of 26. We even co-coach his son's baseball team together. The disappointment will lift the moment that precious little guy is placed in her arms and she sees him for the first time. I wouldn't let DH near my son for at least 15 minutes. I was completely in love with the boy I had wanted so desperately to be a girl.
I agree boy toys are fun. I have 4 grandsons and I love watching their imaginations as they play with dinosaurs, monster trucks and cars. And at least with boys you don't go through that wonderful PMS hormonal time, my girls drove me nuts. I was actually hoping that my newest grandchild was going to be a boy, no luck its granddaughter number 2. Now if I can just learn to like the name.

 

[Poohbug]

I have alot of experience with this.

1) You will never have to share your clothes or jewelry.

2) You will save a TON of money not buying all the cute girl clothes.

3) Boys are usually not so dramatic.

I can understand the feeling of disappointment. I felt it when I found out "boy" every time. But then I felt really bad about feeling disappointed. I have three very healthy boys that I am grateful for.
Now I have a little niece, so when I get that urge to do girl stuff, I do it with her. You are a good friend to help her look at the bright side-she will see how blessed she is.

 

[pixiedust_in_ak]

Let's see:

Boys force you to get up and get moving!

You will become less of a neat freak when you have boys

You don't have to pay for weddings

They won't steal moms clothes

Dads get to have a little helper

You'll quickly discover that brown is the in color

You'll get a great education in bugs, snakes, and frogs

Dad will have an excuse to buy and play with legos, transformers, water guns, and video games

Boys let mom have an excuse to get out and get dirty!!


I am a mom of three boys and one girl. Each is truly unique and such a blessing!!

 

[Not so Dumbo]

Tell her that once the baby is born and she holds him for the first time, it won't matter anymore.

But as far as possitives go:

Boys don't whine like girls do( I was completely not ready for that! ), girls are born with hormones, boys are born with energy and she will save $1000's of dollars in clothing, shoes, hair acessories, make-up, ect.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

It's really hard to be told what you are having and then have that change. You start imagining what the child will look like and you really settle into the idea of having that child. When you are told that the initial information was wrong, it can be devastating at first. You feel like you lost something because the child you were imagining is gone, even though it never existed. But, then you get your head around it and start imagining what you will have and everything is fine again.

I can totally understand what your co-worker is going through because I was initially told my 2nd child was a girl (my 1st is a boy). I started buying pink things and thinking of her as "Katie." For several months, I carried my "girl." At 37 weeks, another ultrasound revealed that Katie was, in fact, a healthy boy. It was a huge shock. It's not that I wouldn't want and love another boy, it's just that I felt like Katie was already part of our family and suddenly she was gone. I packed up the pink things and cried a few times. Then we started talking about boy names and taking out all of our first boy's little clothes.

I had him a week later and we named him Ryan. I couldn't love him any more than I do and don't know what I would have done if he hadn't come into our lives. I love that my boys each have a brother to grow up with.

So, what your co-worker is feeling is a very real sense of loss. But, tell her that she will get over it and move on. She will love her new son just as much as she loves her other boys. She may feel like she lost something but she's also gained something new - a brand new son that she hadn't imagined would be hers. I understand what she's going through but can assure her that it will turn out just fine.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

OP - I am not flaming you at all - I know you are just trying to help your friend get in the spirit, but if my co-worker told me she was "devastated" over the sex of her baby, I would tell her to get the bleep over it! There are so many people who aren't blessed with a baby at all, or who are dealing with other difficult issues in conection with their kids, that it just seems really awful for her to have the reaction she's having. A healthy baby is a happy event, full stop!

A friend of DHs told him once that he "couldn't even hold" his two brand new baby girls in the delivery room because he was so disappointed they weren't boys - eeeek - I'm a firm believer in karma, and those kinds of thoughts, and the ones your co-worker is having, are ones you simply don't express.

Jane

i understand what you mean, but she actually was told she could never have kids & then she got pregnant...i guess because she had an ultrasound & they said it was a girl & then today she finds out its aboy...it was hard...you know how hormonal you get when your pregnant.All i want to do is cheer her up & point out the good...get her to look forward to a boy & not dwell on the fact it was supposed to be a girl...she has already got ALOT of pink/girlie items..they were both excited & they still are

 

[KristinU]

I love being a boy mom!

No wrestling with pony-tails, pig-tails, braids, bows, etc.

Home haircuts with a good ol Wahl clipper.

No worrying about matching the right shade of pink socks with each outfit.

Very limited touching of anything is necessary in a public bathroom - teach them to stand from the get-go and use your feet as a step stool.

Slightly less drama (though my dude can get pretty dramatic).

No worries about wanting to wear make-up too early or skirts too short.

Save thousands on toys - just about anything they pick up can be used as some sort of pretend weapon.

 

[doodlesmommy]

1. She'll save a fortune on accessories!

2. No saying "on your mark" before dialing the Disney reservation number to get the impossible castle dinner reservations.

3. No weddings to pay for.

4. No drama for that Momma! (Girls can pour it on.)

I have one of each and no matter whether it is my daughter or my son, they each have their own funny qualities that I wouldn't trade for the world. I wish your friend luck; once she holds that little guy she'll be in love forever.

 

[janey99]

i understand what you mean, but she actually was told she could never have kids & then she got pregnant...i guess because she had an ultrasound & they said it was a girl & then today she finds out its aboy...it was hard...you know how hormonal you get when your pregnant.All i want to do is cheer her up & point out the good...get her to look forward to a boy & not dwell on the fact it was supposed to be a girl...she has already got ALOT of pink/girlie items..they were both excited & they still are

Thanks for the extra explaining - I have a 13 week old, so I remember the hormonal thing VERY clearly!

Both my kids are boys, and one thing that was great was not having to tape bows to their little hairless heads so people would know what sex they were - baldy = boy with confidence!

Jane

 

[NatMomto2]

I have one of each. When we found out #2 was a boy, I admit I was disappointed. I grew up with my mom and sister and had no idea what I would do with a boy. I really saw myself with two daughters. Everyone is right, all doubts or disappointments fade away once the baby is placed in your arm. But I will say this...there is something very special in the relationship between mother and son that is not present in the mother/daughter relationship. I think the same is true with father/daughter. This does not take anything away from the same sex relationships but it is somehow different.
I will also echo the whining thing (boys don't seem to do this) and the clothes thing (I mean how many pairs of navy pants does a boy need, on the other hand a girl could have a closet full of pink dresses and it still probably wouldn't dissuade you from buying another!).

 

[FayeW]

I was very upset when I found out my second was a boy. Our daughter was the light of our lives and we wanted another child "just like her". Thank God I didn't have another "just like her" or I would have been in the funny farm! Sometimes God knows exactly what you need, even when you think you need the exact opposite.

Simply put, boys are waaaayyyy easier than girls. They don't have the complicated social dramas that girls seem to have. I thank my lucky stars that I have this wonderful boy in my life. There have been some pretty dark days with my daughter and my son is the only thing that got me through them. Happily, those dark days seem to be behind us. My son will be 12 next month, but he will still hold my hand and give me a kiss in public.

 

[puffkin]

I was very upset when I found out DS was a boy. My whole family is boys (brothers, cousins, cousins kids, etc). I just really wanted a girl. But now that he is here (and 2 1/2 already!) I couldn't imagine anything else.

1. Boys are cheaper. I would be broke buying all the cute girls stuff at the sotres.

2. Disney is cheaper. There isn't nearly as many boy-themed opportunities there (which is good for budget, but stinks for them).

3. Toys for boys are more fun. They just have neater things to play with....plus I agree that they make weapons out of anything.

4. You learn very quickly to not be a hovering parent....he gets into everything, climbs and jumps off of everything and is constantly banged and cut up. Nothing surprises me anymore, I just patch him up and off he goes.

5. You don't have to entertain boys. They find plenty to do on their own.

 

[PollyannaMom]

You could drown in those mountains of hair clips and scrunchies.

Girls hold grudges, boys just slug each each other and get over it.

YOU get to dance with him at his wedding, Mom.

No bathroom.....no problem.

Those cheerleading outfits are reeeeeeally expensive.

Head lice and girls = hours of work;
head lice and boys = buzzzzzzz...over.

Matchbox cars are WAY easier to keep track of than Barbie shoes.

As long as the tag isn't scratchy, he'll wear whatever you pick out.

One pair of sneakers matches everything.

Your grandchildren will have the same last name as you.








(P.S. - Please don't think I actually have anything against girls! - I love my nieces to pieces!!)

 

[justcantwait]

I'm surprised no one has thought of this yet... NO PMS! Also, not spending a fortune in "feminine hygiene products!" And yes, no budget-busting princess stuff (although my DS does well with Pirate stuff, and video games, and Pokemon cards, and...). MUCH less drama from DS than DD. Less accessories "needed". Just as a "for example," DD is getting her ears pierced tomorrow. She already picked out a number of pairs of earrings (at the jewelry counter, not that cheap costume stuff) for her birthday (6 this month), and for Christmas, and then of course she'll need a jewelry armoire to put them all in . And I like the idea about not having to tape the bow to baby's head! If she had trouble conceiving, once that baby is in her arms and not in her belly, she won't care WHAT sex it is! Wish her the best from us here at the DIS!

Kathy