Mom to be's input for baby shower? long - sorry!

[pearlieq]

also, I think its sad that you know when the shower is. It is always a suprise in our family.

Why say you think it's sad?

What good is supposed to come of it? Did you expect the OP to read this and decide that her shower is totally inadequate and beg her relatives to scrap their plans and throw her a surprise shower?

Or is she supposed to still attend but keep in mind the whole time that someone on the internet thinks her shower is sad because it isn't a surprise?

I'd love to know what the goal was, because I can't think of one other than bringing someone down for no reason.

 

[BelleWDW]

I've been to one surprise (baby) shower.
All the girls at work hosted it for a coworker at another friend at work's boyfrinds house-which was on a large hilly property.

We all hid our cars

It was a hooit to see her shocked face!!

At every shower I've been to -its finger foods-not a plate of food like a meal, though

 

[ohiomom28]

I have never been to one that was not a surpirse. The guest of honor usually doesn't get to chose things for the shower- you walk in , get "SURPRISE" screamed in your face and sit down to eat LOL....but being you have food allergies they should have something there that you can eat!

I have never been to a shower that WAS a surprise. Maybe it's just the area that I live in but I knew about mine and so has every other person I have known.

 

[wdwfan16]

I am surprises at how many who say all were surprises or all were not surprises.

I have been to many of both. Some started out as surprises but the bride ended up putting two and two together. I don't think it is a surprise that a bride-to-be or a first time mom-to-be is going to have a shower. The surprise could be what day or other details. They might give a list so whoever hosts knows who to invite.

 

[SaraJayne]

I am surprises at how many who say all were surprises or all were not surprises.

I have been to many of both. Some started out as surprises but the bride ended up putting two and two together. I don't think it is a surprise that a bride-to-be or a first time mom-to-be is going to have a shower. The surprise could be what day or other details. They might give a list so whoever hosts knows who to invite.

I have never been to a surprise baby or bridal shower. The other party (bride or mother to be) have always been included in the planning...and that means all the details (date, time, place, etc).

 

[kidzmom3]

Why say you think it's sad?

What good is supposed to come of it? Did you expect the OP to read this and decide that her shower is totally inadequate and beg her relatives to scrap their plans and throw her a surprise shower?

Or is she supposed to still attend but keep in mind the whole time that someone on the internet thinks her shower is sad because it isn't a surprise?

I'd love to know what the goal was, because I can't think of one other than bringing someone down for no reason.

Well! I certainly was not trying to bring her or you down and I honestly had no GOAL in mind. I was just stating my opinion that I would be sad if I knew when/where/what a shower for me was being held. Not that the occasion itself should be sad. What was your goal in writing this?? To make me feel bad. Clearly you have an agenda when you post, I however do not. I usually just go with my own personal feelings. Sorry If I offended you, random person who has nothing to do with the OP. I hope your goals this evening were achieved.

The more important part of my post actually had to do with the OP's original question. Her mother has spoken to her aunt about the food allergy and this was the response:
My mom expressed concern because that would be difficult to eat since it isn't a sit down atmosphere and we would just be eating off our laps plus with allergies that is something I can't eat. My aunt said that I shouldn't have a say and should just be surprised.

clearly the Aunt does not feel the OP should have any say at her own shower. Therefore it would have been better all around that it was a surprise. This would have spared the OP any stress leading up to the day.

 

[luvmy3]

Showers are usually surprises, but not always, however, you have food allergies. It seems reasonable to accommodate the "guest of honor".

 

[carj]

I have never been to a surprise shower. Isn't it interesting how all of our experiences are so different? I had several showers thrown for me, bridal and baby showers and have hosted several. None were surprise. I don't think that is sad at all.

OP, I would suggest that you eat before the shower and go with the flow. Perhaps that chicken dish is something that your aunt feels like she does well and wants to show it off. Who knows?

Best wishes to you and your new baby!

 

[Minnesota!]

double post

 

[Minnesota!]

Only have heard of 1 suprise shower. My BFF's mom threw it for her 3rd child (which is why it was a suprise - my BFF didn't want one since it was her 3rd)..

Anyway, she hated it, we hated it. I would be PISSED if I ever had someone throw me a surpise shower...

Anyway - back to the topic at hand..

Tell your mom to make something you will/can eat - tossed salad, buns with butter, etc. Not worth making the family upset about...

It's one meal, one day. They served lasagne or something like that at mine and I don't eat meat. So I had the salad, the buttered italian bread, and I think there were veggies, too. Sure didn't make/break the shower..

 

[Maridw]

I have only been to one surprise baby shower. All the others that I have been to or were given for me, the mom-to-be knew about them.

We will be giving one for my DD probably in April and she already knows that we will be planning one for her. We will definitely take into account things that she can or can not eat (or can't stand to be around) when we plan it.

We have always had finger foods, something easy to eat from a plate in the lap.

I agree with most of the PP's that maybe mom can bring something, but truthfully the people throwing the shower (since they know about your allergies) should be considerate to those allergies and make sure they have something that you will be able to eat. What's the point of hosting a shower if they are not even thinking about the mom-to-be and her food allergies.