Moan about a so called friend

[Lizzy Lemon]

Can you remember me feeling jealous of friends of ours who own a lovely 4 bed detached house in a nice area compared to our 3 bed terraced in what has to be said is in an area swarming with less desirables! Well now they have extended the roof so they have a 6 bed house (need the space, the bedrooms are diddy). Well they came over for a chinese on Saturday night and all night long my so called friend pulled Disney and Mickey down. Constant snide remarks about why don't they talk to you, its only a person with a mouse head on etc. She ridiculed my soft toys and just made me feel stupid. DH thinks she's jealous of us going, she mocked me about looking up the menus in order to book the restaurants. I've kept quiet about this holiday but DH told me to get the MNSSHP tickets out that have just arrived this week to show them, he was impressed with them and wanted to show them off. I know I can bore people who are not interested in Disney but to blatently say unkind things to me was a bit below the belt I thought. Good job I've got you to share my obsession with. I laughed it off at the time but after they had left got to thinking goodness only knows why I call her my friend.

 

[mssocks]

I'm so sorry they acted that way! You have got it right the first guess - they are jealous of your plans. There's nothing to be ashamed of for planning and having plush reminders of a place that makes you happy. Sounds like they could use a place to make them happy.

There are friends like this - their focus is on themselves, not you. Be a genuine friend but guard your heart from hurts like this. To be honest, they simply do not get it. Feel sorry for them!

I on the other hand would love to hear your plans! For the life of me I can't find someone to go to WDW with me......that's a good thing I guess because I have this sudden trip to Birmingham coming.

 

[KayleeUK]

Wendy

Your 'friend' is very rude. Tell her how you feel, you should be able to share your plans with your friends not have to hide them.

 

[Kristina]

Don't let her get you down, remember instead that there are maybe even millions of people who understand just why you love Walt Disney World ! We get it and we are happy, thrilled even to be plush owning mouse posing parade watching attraction riders who dole out the big bucks to do it again, and again, and again! Just pity her that she's outside the loop, poor dear! It does sound like jealousy to me because I have unfortunately heard it all before . Hopefully she is a good friend otherwise?

 

[DisneyJo]

Definately jealous and should not call herself your friend if she can't be nice, taking the mickey is one thing but being cruel is not on!

 

[natalielongstaff]

your friend sounds very rude to me my best friend has no interest in disney but will happily let me whitter away for hours on the subject

 

[ely3857]

your friend sounds very rude to me my best friend has no interest in disney but will happily let me whitter away for hours on the subject

Which is exactly what friends are for



Jodie

 

[carolfoy]

I have to agree with most here that she doesn't really sound like a true friend - more of an acquaintaince perhaps? my best best friend hates Disney and all things 'fake' yet she'll watch my holiday dvds and pics and even humours me when I say I'm going to take her newborn DD there when shes 5, in fact NONe of my good friends really 'get it' they wonder why I'm not on cruises constantly or sunbathing in the caribbean in all inclusive resorts but thats their choice not mine. I'll do what makes ME happy thanks very much, and I've got you lot here to share my excitement!

 

[Minniespal]

Wendy ~ Your friend could certainly have been more tactful. You don't need to get 'Disney' amazingly there are some people that don't but at least they can share in your enthusiasm for it.

 

[florida sun]

your friend sounds very rude to me my best friend has no interest in disney but will happily let me whitter away for hours on the subject

Same with me Nat, and the worse thing is I just know I'm boring her to death, but once I start I cant stop, hugs to you Wendy

 

[wils]

She obviously has never experienced the 'magic'

Please tell us all your plans - we won't be rude or bored!

 

[irongirlof12]

I think your friend is jealous...she may well be on the way to 6 bedrooms but you have a rich life...what is worth more?

 

[Deedee]

I agree your friend probably is jealous because you are enjoying life. She is probably one of these people who are all "top show" as i call it they have everything on the outside but she is probably so bored with her "life of luxury" she finds enjoyment in making you miserable. I would much rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable any day. I hope that has come across the way i was thinking it!!!!!!!!!

 

[arieljasmine]

Hugs for you, Wendy I'm sorry to hear that your friend was cruel. You should bring her round here - you can't move for Pooh bears and every other thing has Pooh on it! We are always happy to hear your plans. I am super duper excited about MNSSHP already too, and hoping to do it twice this year.

Laur's

 

[natalielongstaff]

Same with me Nat, and the worse thing is I just know I'm boring her to death, but once I start I cant stop, hugs to you Wendy

that is so true

 

[mandymouse]

Definately jealous and should not call herself your friend if she can't be nice, taking the mickey is one thing but being cruel is not on!

I totally agree, a real friend wouldn't behave like this. Thank goodness we can all come on the Dis and know that we're all Disney Bonkers and we don't care !!

Mandy

 

[Lisash]

Take no notice Wendy. It's something we all seem to get on the Disboards. I rarely discuss my plans any more with work colleagues etc as they just groan and go 'oh no not Disney again' my answer is don't knock it until you have tried it. We can all use a little Disney magic now and again. All your DIS friends here are always happy to share your excitement

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Ah thanks guys, I can always count on my Dis friends. I put up with her as she's the only 'friend in the flesh' I've got. DH works with the husband which makes their friendship easier, as DH has real difficulty being sociable so its either them or no one. DH thinks its me being touchy, but all through the last few years its been one comment after another and I think Saturday night I'd just had it. Even their children aged 13 and 9 are following in their mums footsteps. The 13 year old girl was staring Ashley out (he's my son on the autistic spectrum, and finds eye contact difficult) and the 9 year old son spend the night in the bathroom saying he felt sick. We'll have nasty comments about our local chinese takeaway next time we see them. I'm going to let things lie low for a moment.

Thankyou for letting me share my plans with you but I think I've probably gone through them all already! I realise that true friends should be there for you in times of need and encouraging you when you do something you've always wanted to do and do you know what - everyone on here has done both of those things. Conclusion - I've got tons of friends, wish I could meet you all.

 

[saratogagirl]

I agree with everyone else, at some point or other we have all come across someone like this, you have us to speak too ....

Rise above her

 

[Kona*Queen]

Try not to let her get to you. Some people get a buzz by putting others down sadly.