Mixed Nuts

[willis37862]

I hate cooking dinner, too.

The girls are having a blast out there! Emily has religious ed. in about an hour, so I have to start getting them prepared to come in which will be a joy...

Good luck with that

I am off for now to fix some dinner. Everyone have a good evening if I don't see you again.

And Liz...don't worry it will be ok.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Good luck with that

I am off for now to fix some dinner. Everyone have a good evening if I don't see you again.

And Liz...don't worry it will be ok.

I can't help it. I AM worried. So much that my back actually hurts today.

What are the odds that he felt sorry for me and called me today?

 

[RobInBigKC]

I agree. They don't worry about stuff like that. And Liz I would have choked too, having things thrown at you. I am proud of you for calling him. YOu might give him a little while and if he doesn't call back, call him back and tell him you just got nervous and didn't want to interrupt his time with his kids but that you wanted to ask him out....or whatever.

Excellent advice, Nic.

what should the time lag be here, ladies?
or perhaps, Godaddy or the Rob-ster have some thoughts here

I'm thinking anytime from Friday (5/4) through the following Saturday (5/12) would be a good window to target.

I have to admit, I was hoping some of the guys might chime in here...I'd appreciate their point of view on this.

All I can think at this point is when I call him, just say I'm sorry for the other night, I was really nervous and it caught me off-guard that he had his kids, because I didn't want to interrupt that, so can I start over...

Sorry Liz. I am terribly busy at work and went out to lunch today so didn't have a chance to post during my lunchbreak.

Yes. Good plan.

Now, wait, that's even harder! I can't just spring it on him...

Where are the boys???

Why can't you? You already made your hey, how's it going call. You already know each other. Go ahead and ask if you want to.

See my previous comment about work.

Okay, seriously though, I really don't think it's half as bad as you're making it out to be in your mind. You have to stop playing and replaying it. That will just drive you crazy and accomplish nothing. Just forget about that. It's in the past, nothing you can do to change it. Then...next step...call him again (Maybe Sunday or Monday) and tell him jokingly that you're sorry about the last call it just surprised you that he had his kids. Don't dwell on that. Just sort of laugh about it and then move on. Then I liked your idea about asking him if you can start over. Then just talk to him and see where the conversation goes. If you get the chance or it feels right, you can ask him out, or maybe he will ask you out. BUT, if neither of those two things happen, it's still okay. It might be better to talk to him on the phone a few times before you go out with him anyway. Okay, stepping down.

Also excellent advice from PJ (and Michele via the phone).

It's hard to explain...if you could have just heard the tone in his voice. When I said I'd let him go, he actually sounded irritated. Now I know that I don't know if he was, we weren't standing right in front of each other, so I couldn't see his expression, but if I go by that tone...he sounded mad. Like "why did you bother calling?"

Um, he probably did wonder why you called other than surely he sees that you were trying to make/reestablish a connection. That still doesn't meant the call went badly.

Okay, so do we all agree that I need to call Ken again at some point and explain myself, rather than writing him a note and putting it in his mailbox (which is, admittedly, very passive-aggressive, although much easier to do)?

Yes, call him or talk to him in person. However, a note would be better than nothing. I still would urge the verbal communication though.

Some of my thoughts: as others have said Liz, it doesn't sound that bad. I know it wasn't how you pictured it but it was fine. He hasn't said no to anything so you are still in the game. Just call him again and do what Nic, PJ, and Michele suggested.

Address last night's phone call but do it with a sense of humor and don't act like it was a big deal. Tell him that it caught you by surprise that he had his kids over and that you then didn't want to be intrusive.

If you have small talk to make on this next call, fine. Make it and then ask for the date OR make the small talk and then say you'll call him again soon (and then on that call, ask him out).

If you don't have any small talk to make on this next call, just ask him out.

I doubt he's replaying the phone call in his mind. If he's even thinking about it, he's probably flattered that you called.

-- Rob

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Excellent advice, Nic.


I'm thinking anytime from Friday (5/4) through the following Saturday (5/12) would be a good window to target.


Sorry Liz. I am terribly busy at work and went out to lunch today so didn't have a chance to post during my lunchbreak.

Yes. Good plan.


Why can't you? You already made your hey, how's it going call. You already know each other. Go ahead and ask if you want to.

See my previous comment about work.


Also excellent advice from PJ (and Michele via the phone).


Um, he probably did wonder why you called other than surely he sees that you were trying to make/reestablish a connection. That still doesn't meant the call went badly.


Yes, call him or talk to him in person. However, a note would be better than nothing. I still would urge the verbal communication though.

Some of my thoughts: as others have said Liz, it doesn't sound that bad. I know it wasn't how you pictured it but it was fine. He hasn't said no to anything so you are still in the game. Just call him again and do what Nic, PJ, and Michele suggested.

Address last night's phone call but do it with a sense of humor and don't act like it was a big deal. Tell him that it caught you by surprise that he had his kids over and that you then didn't want to be intrusive.

If you have small talk to make on this next call, fine. Make it and then ask for the date OR make the small talk and then say you'll call him again soon (and then on that call, ask him out).

If you don't have any small talk to make on this next call, just ask him out.

I doubt he's replaying the phone call in his mind. If he's even thinking about it, he's probably flattered that you called.

-- Rob

Thanks, Rob I've also written down a few things...not word for word, but things I might be able to talk about. Just so I don't forget.

I'm still really nervous, though.

 

[RobInBigKC]

Thanks, Rob I've also written down a few things...not word for word, but things I might be able to talk about. Just so I don't forget.

I'm still really nervous, though.

If you're nervous about last night's phone call and what he thought about it, don't be. It's fine Liz. Honest.

If you're nervous about asking him out or, more accurately, what he's going to say when you do, well, that's certainly understandable. Unfortunately, there's only one person who can answer that question for you and you have to ask him to find out. But, absolutely, stop fretting over last night's phone call if you still are. It's ok.

-- Rob

 

[disneymama73]

Good luck with that

I am off for now to fix some dinner. Everyone have a good evening if I don't see you again.

And Liz...don't worry it will be ok.

Good night, Nichole!

 

[disneymama73]

If you're nervous about last night's phone call and what he thought about it, don't be. It's fine Liz. Honest.

If you're nervous about asking him out or, more accurately, what he's going to say when you do, well, that's certainly understandable. Unfortunately, there's only one person who can answer that question for you and you have to ask him to find out. But, absolutely, stop fretting over last night's phone call if you still are. It's ok.

-- Rob

Thank you for telling her this, Rob.

 

[RobInBigKC]

Hey Rob I am kinda sad now that I know that wasn't you in the photo.

Sorry Nic. I should have let you continue on with your fantasy. However, some of the ladies that post here (those that need glasses obviously) have told me I'm handsome FWIW.

Good night, Nichole!

I chased Nic off again? I love a woman with good taste.

Thank you for telling her this, Rob.

You're welcome Michele.

Best wishes for you Liz! Who knows? He might be home talking to his cat about you right now:

-- Rob

 

[disneymama73]

-- Rob

OMG, too cute. If that doesn't cheer her up, nothing will!

 

[Goofster57]

Seriously, that was no success. That was utter failure. I wish I could describe the tone in his voice, how it changed...first excitement, then it was like, "yeah, let's get off the phone since you obviously have nothing to say and don't really want to talk to me"

Now, wait, that's even harder! I can't just spring it on him...

Where are the boys???

New to this thread was directed over here by Blue

You asked so here is what I think

What this guy has been thinking since you called is

“Would somebody shoot me, dig a hole and shove me in it, why didn’t I say something intelligent? There’s no way I can call her back she thinks I’m an IDIOT.”

What you heard in his voice was not that he didn’t care or didn’t want to talk to you, but nerves, because he had no idea what to say to you.

Just a guy’s prospective; I think most guys have a hard time accepting/believing that someone is interested in them, well at least the ones that don’t have gigantic egos.

I say give him a call again and try and set something up.

I think you will do just fine

 

[disneymama73]

New to this thread was directed over here by Blue

You asked so here is what I think

What this guy has been thinking since you called is

“Would somebody shoot me, dig a hole and shove me in it, why didn’t I say something intelligent? There’s no way I can call her back she thinks I’m an IDIOT.”

What you heard in his voice was not that he didn’t care or didn’t want to talk to you, but nerves, because he had no idea what to say to you.

Just a guy’s prospective; I think most guys have a hard time accepting/believing that someone is interested in them, well at least the ones that don’t have gigantic egos.

I say give him a call again and try and set something up.

I think you will do just fine

to the thread!

And thanks for telling her it was nerves that she heard in his voice. That's what I said, too.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Sorry Nic. I should have let you continue on with your fantasy. However, some of the ladies that post here (those that need glasses obviously) have told me I'm handsome FWIW.


I chased Nic off again? I love a woman with good taste.


You're welcome Michele.

Best wishes for you Liz! Who knows? He might be home talking to his cat about you right now:

-- Rob

He doesn't have a cat. He has a dog...sort of. The ex has custody.

New to this thread was directed over here by Blue

You asked so here is what I think

What this guy has been thinking since you called is

“Would somebody shoot me, dig a hole and shove me in it, why didn’t I say something intelligent? There’s no way I can call her back she thinks I’m an IDIOT.”

What you heard in his voice was not that he didn’t care or didn’t want to talk to you, but nerves, because he had no idea what to say to you.

Just a guy’s prospective; I think most guys have a hard time accepting/believing that someone is interested in them, well at least the ones that don’t have gigantic egos.

I say give him a call again and try and set something up.

I think you will do just fine

Thanks Can you tell it's been a LONG time since I've done this? Let me put it this way...it's been a long time since I've called a BOY. They're all men now.

 

[disneymama73]

Later gators! If I don't get on again, have a beautiful night!

 

[Goofster57]

to the thread!

Thank you, it took me most of the day at work to get through the whole thing, but looks like it is a good thread to be a part of.

A little back story about dating and Guys and Girls

There was a young lady that I was very interested in, but could never get the nerve up to ask her out, I turned into a blathering Idiot when ever she was around. As time went on I kept thinking she was sending me signals that she was interested in me, she would invite me to go somewhere with her and her friends (actually the first place was Disneyland) or start a conversation (Usually one sided, because I was so nervous), of course my mind would snap me back to reality and convince myself I was mistaken.

To make a long story short we will be married 25 years next month (we were children when we got married, never mind Blue we have already been over this), it took me about a month before I realized what an Idiot I was and officially called her and asked her out.

So Liz, don’t give up hopefully he is smarter than I was and it won’t take him as long to figure it out.

 

[PixiePop]

Hi all

 

[babynurse1]

Hi PixiePopalicious

Goofster


Just a drive by.

Good luck LIZ!!! I've been wonderin' about ya today.

Hi Nic, PJ, Rob, Jean, Michele.

 

[RobInBigKC]

New to this thread was directed over here by Blue

Welcome Goofster!

Hi all

Hiya Pixie!

Hi Nic, PJ, Rob, Jean, Michele.

Hi there L&S!

I'm outta here people! Time to go home from work. Maybe, if you're lucky, I'll catch you all later tonight.

-- Rob

 

[PixiePop]

Hey there E and Rob....how goes it?

 

[willis37862]

 

[PixiePop]

Those are some happy bananas you got dancing.