A_Princess'_Daddy
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I don't think it rises to that level of conscious malevolence. If you think about it, the logical inverse of the very American belief that anyone who works hard can "make it" is that anyone who isn't making it simply isn't working hard enough. If individual merit is the key to wealth, not circumstances of birth or native ability, then it follows that those mired in poverty are lacking in that merit. To admit otherwise about the poor and needy (at least those who are able-bodied/sound of mind) would also be to admit that we're also limited by circumstances outside of our control, and that goes against our most deeply held cultural myths. I think that's what underlies the viciousness of opposition to social welfare programs. It isn't intentional meanness, it is a reaction to the cognitive dissonance of believing in the American dream in the face of contradictory real-world experiences.
I agree with everything you are saying (and actually wrote something similar to what you posted above in the post of mine that you quoted, but thought I was becoming too esoteric so I deleted that portion), but I do not think they are mutually exclusive. In fact, I believe they are interdependent.
One of my secret shames is that I was a bully growing up. Not intentionally. Never intentionally. But looking back on my childhood and even early adult years, I was. Sometimes physically, sometimes intellectually, sometimes financially, and I never thought I was being mean. I actually don't think most bullies think they are bullies. They generally think they are right, as do we all. And therefore people who are bullies, when faced with that cognitive dissonance, end up being mean. And that is what I hate. And ironically even now, I can see myself doing it in this thread. I am doing exactly what I decry on the other side of the coin, and so I will back away because beating people over the head with my opinions is no more right nor helpful than the reverse.
 
				 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 
 
		 Or, if you waited until this time to decide you want cigarettes from behind the Customer Service Desk, when the bagger could have gotten them 5 minutes ago. Or, you can't remember which PIN goes with which card and you need to try a half dozen times...
 Or, if you waited until this time to decide you want cigarettes from behind the Customer Service Desk, when the bagger could have gotten them 5 minutes ago. Or, you can't remember which PIN goes with which card and you need to try a half dozen times... (My ice cream's melting, don't ya know.)
 (My ice cream's melting, don't ya know.) )
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