Missing my old life, time to make a new one I guess

[Dian-er]

I want to start by thanking everyone on the Dis for their support over the past 2 years. It has been MUCH appreciated. That being said, I have been in a little funk for the past several weeks. It has taken me awhile to figure out just why. It fianlly dawned on me that So much of my life was wrapped up in the Dis while Bob was alive & all of that life has totally disappeared since he passed away. I was involved, in one way or another, in all the things Bob did for the Dis. I helped with his reservations for the Dis Res part of Dreams, I went to the new attractions/rides & many of the press events with him as well as just going in to re-experience Disney whenever he went in to update picks. He, also ran all his ideas by me when before he acted on them Not that he listened to me when I tried to deter himAll of that has changed & I guess I miss it.
I'm not complaining, it just is. I'm sure the Dis/Pod casr crew don't realize the extent of my involvement, anymore than I was really conscious of it at the time. But it has made for a big open space in my day to dya life-I have been filling that space up with work, but it's time to move on & find other things to do.
I have a 3 plan & I'm starting to work on that. Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest & explain why I've been so quiet.
Dian-er

 

[dpuck1998]

All my best in whatever endeavors you take on. May Bobs spirit and whimsy help keep you upbeat and strong!

 

[DSNY4ever]

That is so nice that you were able to help Bob and share those special times with him. Just hearing the reviews he did of events, he was so enthusiastic about everything, so I am sure he was even more fun to attend the events with! Best of luck with whatever new things come your way, and pop into chat with all of us anytime!

 

[*NikkiBell*]

Hugs to you. I know firsthand that "starting over" and building new day-to-day routines can be difficult and scary. While I am in no way going through the type and amount of pain you are, I can relate. My partner of eight years, who was to be my husband and father of my children, left me this past March. It was sudden and I am slowly changing how I live my life. So many routines are gone, so many traditions, so many memories. I'm still dealing with what that exactly means and will be for awhile.

The reason I bring this up and vent, to an extent, is that I want you to know that it is possible. You will find new things to do and make new memories and traditions. Despite all of this, you will never forget Bob and the joy he brought to your life and the lives of so many others. Have peace in this fact.

Remember to rely on us here. Just because Bob is no longer with us here on Earth does not mean you cannot participate in DIS events and do some of those same Disney-related things. It might bring you some comfort. I hope to see you around again soon. We are always here for you.

<3 Nikki

 

[roomthreeseventeen]

Diana,

I don't know you or Bob (only know Bob through the podcasts), but I do wish you lots of love and peace. There are lots of wonderful adventures out there, and I hope you can enjoy them while keeping your wonderful husband's memory with you.

 

[tlcoke]

I found the DIS a couple of months after Bob's passing, though I have gone back and listened to the Archives and like all other DISers, I grieved for his loss. He was a special Man with a unique personality and Love for Disney that radiated out of him in all he did for the DIS. I wished I could have met him in person.

Prayers & PD to you as you embark to find your "Missing" part as you are now ready to move on to find your identity for your life after Bob.

Know we are all here for you to provide you support as you make this journey.

 

[Dian-er]

Thanks, for the nice comments. I'm doing better everyday & am fine most of the time. Have lots of memories, yes Bob was very special in many ways. Definitely not a one-dimentional person & neither am I. I am already putting new adventures in place & have some fun things to look foreward to.
Nickie Bell, I'm sorry you had that loss. I guess, too, that you are feeling better. You & I know, we have to take it one day at a time.

 

[janjandis]

Hello "Dianer"!
It may be time for you to go back to Disney now. i can imagine doing things you did with Bob will be bittersweet. Some things may be wonderful and some things you may not ever be able to do again. I for one would love to hear you as a guest on the podcast or maybe even sitting in on "the peanut gallery" would be fun for you.
Thank you for sharing your wonderful husband with us!

 

[Minnie Lor]

I've wondered from time to time how you were doing. Hope this new phase in life brings you much joy. All my best to you, Diana!

 

[sjsjbrook]

I often think of you, and wonder how you are doing. Even though I have never heard your voice before, I have heard lots about you and count you as part of my disney family.

I was happy to hear from you today, and glad to hear that you have a plan. Hopefully we will be able to share it with you.



Lots of love and Pixie dust to you

 

[Schrute Farms]

He, also ran all his ideas by me when before he acted on them Not that he listened to me when I tried to deter him

This part made me smile. Big hug to Dian-er

 

[Applemomma]

Oh Dian-er....no explaination required!!!

Sometimes you just have to give yourself permission to do something. Moving on is one of those things. Do something you never thought you'd do. Do something you and Bob joked about doing! Do something your kids would say "Mom, you did what?!"

I'm not surprised to hear Bob ran stuff by you....I figure it was either that or you'd be insane!

He (and you) are never far from my thoughts........

 

[dpic]

Dian-er, I'm one of those that listen to old podcasts and love hearing Bob. Since his passing, I've wondered how you were doing. I couldn't imagine having to go through what you've endured the past two years. The first thing you need to do, though, is get out of that funk. I wouldn't worry about the rest of you life--make tomorrow fun, then after that worry about the next day. String a few good days together and get your feet under yourself. Do whatever feels good--pamper yourself, take a trip--whatever lifts your spirits. Don't make life choices when you're down. Beat the funk, first, then move on to the rest of your life. Good-luck and hang in there.

And Nikki--I'm so sorry for you, too. Don't kid yourself, what you're going through is extremely tough and complex. I'm sure you know that, though. Good luck and Better days are ahead

 

[mainegal]

Thanks for sharing with us, Diane-er. The passage of time may change the way a loss is felt, but it is still there. I applaud you in your perseverance and you plans for "moving on". Best wishes for you in all your future endeavors. And please don't forget us and the magic of Disney and the DIS.

We all miss Bob, too.

 

[Dian-er]

Oh, I have been back to Disney, many times. I still enjoy it. Problem I have now is finding someone to go with me. My housemate didn't renew her annual cause she's a new grandmother & didn't think she'd be wanting to go into the parks much with a newborn.
I do, sometimes go in after work or when I have a free Sat/Sun.
My daughter is coming down in Aug, I'm going to beg a pass from one of my neighbors (have many who work at Disney) so we can go in one day.

 

[SamSam]

Diane-er, I can understand how much a part of the day-to-day of Bob's 'business' life you were. Dh and I have been in business 'together' for years, but it's always been viewed by most as Dh's business and I 'help'. When in reality it's alway's been a joint venture. I imagine it was much that way with you and Bob.
You were much more involved than any of us realized, and I understand (as much as I can) the emptiness you have now. I hope your plans pan out and that you find fulfillment in them. I hope that you stay involved here on some level, but understand if that is not part of your plan.

 

[NC Belle]

Hugs from both dh and me.

My FIL, Andy, had so much in common with Bawb. He loved to involve those around him at the moment...even if it was unloading the dishwasher. Andy was quite active in church and volunteering until his final 2 weeks. He loved going to Disney and tried to get my parents to plan a trip (no trips yet). Andy seemed to always having something up and he was able to keep quiet on a surprise birthday party for dh. He managed to get 2 of dh's friends that we had not seen in years for the family dinner celebration.

In today's mail, my MIL sent us a photo of us and them at Pop Century's bus stop. My FIL said in his last months of life that trip was one of his favorites since he had the chance to do roller coasters and his favorite parks.

My MIL has been travelling a lot in the past 11 months since Andy's death. In fact, she went to the graduation of her 2nd grandson (the other graduating grandson told her it was okay to miss his since he sees her all the time).

It will be hard next week for my MIL since she will be taking her older grandaughter to Ireland alone. This trip was originally planned for June 09 with Andy to go to since they take each grandchild, once the child reaches 12, to meet his Irish relatives. MIL had to change the tradition and the now 13 year old is going and helping to plan the outings.

We are changing our holiday traditions this year too. We are suppose to meet up in Florida and then go cruising during the week after Christmas. My MIL is not ready to go back to WDW yet, but she might go in the future.


Dian-er, you are always welcome to join us for a meal, a snack, or going to a park. We hope to have a date set soon for our next trip (looking at fall 2010).

 

[Dian-er]

NC Belle, tell your mil that the sooner she goes back the better. I went with in the first week after BOB died & though it was bittersweet, it wasn't hard for me. I had my daughter & her best friend with me. We had a dole whip for Bob. the only tme I've had a problem was this past Dec, I went to see the Osborn lights by myself. Not so good, but I got through it.
My 3 plan doesn't mean I will forget the Dis/pod cast. I'll still be here, lurking more than yakking. You are all part of MY Disney family.

 

[OKW Lover]

Dian-er (from somebody that knows that is the correct way to say your name) Val & I only met you once on the sad occasion of Bawb's impromptu DIS memorial meet at the Gaylord Palms, but from listening to Bob on the podcast we knew how important you were to him as well. We've often wondered how you were getting along, but recognized that its a private matter so we didn't press the question.

We are happy to hear that you've established a clear path (as clear as life allows) and you are moving forward. Please remember that you'll always have friends here when dealing with life's hurdles.

 

[Schrute Farms]

My partner of eight years, who was to be my husband and father of my children, left me this past March.

<3 Nikki

As a husband of eight years this February and a father of two this breaks my heart. If you don't mind me asking how are your kids handling everything?