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My aunt's green jello, a combination of lime jello, pineapple, and cream cheese. I just know all of us kids LOVED that stuff!
Ah, the American Jello mold "salad" tradition. I grew up in an immigrant family, so we never knew those were a "thing" at holiday meals, though we had seen them at summer picnics we had been invited to. In the late 1980s, my first job out of grad school, I had moved to a new city and didn't plan to travel home for Thanksgiving; I was planning to just hang out at home and read and have a turkey sandwich. My boss found out about that and insisted that I go to her home for dinner.
I couldn't figure out a way to gracefully decline, so I went, bringing along a couple of loaves of good French bread, which I figured was generic enough that no one would object to it. We go into the dining room, and I encounter not one, but THREE versions of jello salad on the table. One contained mandarin orange slices, green jello, and some kind of white substance which was probably a cream cheese blend, but the other two appeared to be savory, and contained things like carrots and olives. I was simply speechless, and had no clue if I was supposed to treat them as a vegetable side dish or a dessert. I put bits of both on my plate but just moved them around without eating them. It was a large gathering and I didn't know a soul except my boss, who was busy playing hostess. I ended up with a headache and excused myself early to get out of there.
After that I made it a point to imply that I would be traveling home for the holidays even if I wasn't, because I didn't want to end up in that situation again. (It's one thing to go to a significant other's family home, but not your boss'.)
PS: FWIW, mincemeat was traditionally used as pie filling because the spices and orange peels were expensive, and by baking it in pie you could stretch it further, but it wasn't meant as a dessert, exactly; more like an appetizer or a party treat, and it didn't have any added sugar. It's actually middle-Eastern in origin: the original meat was lamb, and the idea for the filling was brought back to England by returning Crusaders centuries ago. It's really like a chopped, condensed version of a something similar to Tagine, that features meat cooked with a sauce of fruit and nuts. Suet (either rmutton or beef) is specific to it; no other type of fat will give you the same result. Like I said, my mom wouldn't even try if she couldn't get proper mutton suet.