bumbershoot
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But the teacher as a professional does not see it as busy work, so is aggravated about him not completing it. In the future, jobs have busy work too, it is part of life.
While it's true that *some* jobs have busy-work, it's not true that the teacher necessarily sees value in the busy-work she's giving.
And when you're an advanced student, busy-work can be torture. Here's the trick I did when made to do repetitive work that other students needed but was just extra to me...I just wanted to get as many 100% scores as possible, and do it quickly. I liked seeing the stack of papers grow as I did each page. So if he can see it as just racking up the excellent scores, it might give him a new perspective. I mean, he knows the work...he might as well get lots of great little grades on it!
I just spoke with the guidance counselor and she said as long as his grades were okay he would not be held back for missing so many days so that's a relief.
He's not falling behind in the material in his classroom, alot of what he's learning is either very easy for him or repitition. That's why I get so upset with him about his grades falling when he doesn't turn in homework, he doesn't need a tutor, he needs to do the work even though he doesn't like the class/teacher.
Glad he's not being held back.
Is he actually ahead of the class? Any consideration for bumping him up? It was at that age that my best friend skipped a grade...since your son is one of the oldest in the class, being bumped up would make him even. My friend was one of the youngers so being bumped up made it harder, socially, but since he's starting out older it might be nice.
That's a good point and something else to think about in the decision to homeschool. I don't want him to think that every time you encounter someone you don't want to work with you can just leave. At this point I think the only way I would homeschool him is if he's going to be held back on the basis of his absences.
I really really don't think that at this age, he's going to have that as his take-home message.
Since you want to homeschool, and your kids like it...it just pains me that you're not doing it. I get that your husband is against it, but gosh, can't he see that your son is doing great even without doing/turning in the homework, and this grief is happening for reasons that have nothing to do with his actual *learning* of the subjects? That maybe being taught at home would be *better* for him learning-wise? I can't even comment on what his family thinks, as that would be so not on my radar (and it isn't something we think about, what our families think)...
My mom actually kept the fact that homeschooling was a thing that exists from me, because she knew I would beg every day to do that. I *hated* school. Hated the teachers (most of whom were incompetent), hated the social aspect of class (all the way through high school I came home with hives from the nervousness, and every single day I was nauseated and scared of the social aspect the day was going to bring), hated the busy-work that I had to do even though I knew the stuff, etc etc. When I found out about homeschooling in my 20s, I talked to my mom, and she confessed that she'd known about it, but since she worked and was made to feel stupid in her last 2 years of HS (all honors classes, then transferred for a year, transferred back and the classes didn't "count" and was put in remedial classes), she didn't feel it was possible for us. I would have given anything for her to teach me at home, instead of the junk in school (my 5th grade teacher had a full blown nervous breakdown in class...then came back to teach the SAME group 6th grade, what a joy! and that's just one aspect of the "fun" teachers I had).
I'd really really consider it, and not worry so much about his social life. And don't worry about him going from job to job when he decides he doesn't like a co-worker or boss...he sounds like a smart kid, and I highly doubt that this year is going to set up horrid work habits for his lifetime.

. He spent the year at the table with the kids who were struggling so he could help them. It was after that year that I homeschooled him, then we changed districts (moved) and at his new school he had an awesome 5th grade teacher that challenged him. That was at the elementary school.