Mid Life Crisis

[Certifiable WDW Nut]

I've decided I'm beginning to go through a mid-life crisis. Nothing serious, but I've reached the point where I'm beginning to realize many of things I thought I would have in life, I probably won't. Don't get me wrong, I have lots of good things, but they are just a lot different than I thought they would be.

Over the past year and half, my DH has taken a new path career wise and while I generally support it, it means many things are going to be different in our lives forever. He has 7 or so years of heavy duty schooling ahead of him and I will be the sole breadwinner and household manager for that time. A single income means lots of changes and lots of things we probably won't have and that makes me sad. Additionally, I'm realizing I'm never going to be a size 10 beauty, my kids are probably not going to be recruited by the Ivy League schools, and my house will never look like it's been professionally decorated. All sort of stupid things, I know, but still it seems like by realizing I'm not going to have my dreams, I'm giving up part of me.

God, I must be PMS'ing pretty badly. Anyway, thanks for listening.

 

[sajetto]

I don't think most achieve the professionally decorated house, the ivy league school kids, or the complete finacial success that was imagined. It happens for some, but for most it is an illusion. Keep the postitives in you life in mind, because I am sure there are many

 

[Aidensmom]

I don't think most achieve the professionally decorated house, the ivy league school kids, or the complete finacial success that was imagined. It happens for some, but for most it is an illusion. Keep the postitives in you life in mind, because I am sure there are many

This is good advice.

Always look at the good things that you do have, most people don't achieve the "ideal" and there is nothing wrong with that. Who decides a professionally decorated house is better than a close family, fun day at Disney, or even a fulfilling hobby is better anyways?

 

[poohandwendy]

I think most people have been through that. I would venture a guess that at the end of our lives, we will all have been through it multiple times.

I like to call it a period of 'reflection and gaining momentum for the next phase'. I went through this, the first time, when my youngest child was almost 3 and I was 30. I guess I was reflecting on the fact that I was done with the baby making phase of my life and I sort of felt a little bit lost because I didn't know what my next goal was, kwim?

Of course, this phase was short lived and it propelled me onto another new phase. It's about coming to terms with what you are used to (and comfortable with), putting it behind you and embarking on a new journey.

There is something really empowering and mature about actually accepting that the fairytale isn't reality and that it is ok ...that there are other more important things in store. Facing disappointments and moving forward. I see it as personal growth.

If you can find a way to look at it as a positive and exciting change, I think it can be exactly that. I think it is when we dwell on the disappointments that we can get stuck.

Good luck to you. You are not giving up you, you are evolving into a new you. Staying the same you when life brings changes creates stagnancy. (is that a word, LOL? Ok, if not, it is MY new word. You can pencil it in your dictionaries at home, after stagger and before stupid)