Men can you back me up on this?

[Kallison]

DH used to date a high maintenance girl in college -- took her three hours to get ready. He was amazed when we started dating and I could be out in the door in 10 minutes. The first time we went swimming and I dove right in the water he almost passed out. I just tell him I"m naturally beautiful. Now I have to wait for him to get ready.

 

[TEENEE]

Sounds like you're looking for the wrong kind of woman. One of the things my husband loves about me is that I don't worry about makeup and getting gussied up. He likes the fact that the woman he goes to bed with is the same woman he wakes up with. We laugh when we see a couple and the woman has lots of make up on and a push up bra. One of us will make a comment about how the guy will be surprised in the morning.

 

[Serena]

There was a Bill Cosby skit about this. He said there is a big difference between going out, and going out. For example, a date requires time and effort. Running to a fast food restaurant doesn't.

Kyle, if you want her to be more spontaneous, then it's up to you to let her know what you want. Make sure you tell her she is beautiful the way she is and she doesn't have to take that extra time for the movies at 10. Although your reaction when she does is what she's looking for. Does she see your jaw dropping when she takes the extra effort, does she see that happening when she walks into the room in jeans and t-shirt, just because you want to be with her?

Your reaction to her and your pride in her when you go out is what she is aiming for. If you show her how proud of her you are when she doesn't do all that extra stuff, she just might be more ready to let that go and be spontaneous.

 

[Indyman]

She'll never change, kick her to the curb.

 

[caitycaity]

i'm the spontaneous one in our relationship. i laways have to wait for dh to get ready.

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by Indyman
She'll never change, kick her to the curb.

 

[TigerBear]

I think I'm with Doc on this one! All women are definitely not like this. I have no problem going to a movie without makeup on - but then again I typically don't wear a lot & I don't even own Dolce & Gabana. If you want a high fashion woman, you should just expect her to behave this way. Isn't it interesting that she doesn't mind watching a movie at home with you, but she can't go to the movie theater? Obviously, it's not too much about your opinion. I really admire women who feel beautiful naturally.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Okay I consider myself a very spontaneous person and low maintenance. If it was a movie I would not take an hour to get ready, I would throw on sweatpants or jeans and a baseball hat. If I was going to a club, thats when I need some time to get ready so I can dress to impress!!!

I swear high maintenance girls never change!!!!

 

[Serena]

LOL, oh well, what do I know. My version of dressing up is new black jeans. I don't have a clue what Dolce and Cabana is either.

 

[holycow]

Sounds like your dating the wrong types of girls Kyle...I have a lovely DD who is in her 20's and because she isn't "BARBIE" (meaning picture perfect every minute of the day) she doesn't get out much....she is an athlete and very spontaneous (gets it from her mom! lol) an a very lovely young lady...it's just the guys like to have "barbie" to go to the movies with.

Good luck!

Holycow

 

[Keli]

lol, I think some women are really caught in the middle on this one. It can be really hard to look really beautiful and yet be ready to go at the drop of a hat.

When push comes to shove, I say go for beautiful. The guy will forgive you for being late if you knock his socks off walking in the door. (I'm just kidding about that, you do need to find a balance in these things)

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Well, my bf is the exact opposite. He doesn't really believe in being spontaneous. Heck, he has a hard time following a schedule. I love him anyways

 

[Rajah]

Originally posted by Dan Murphy
That's the way they are, Kyle. Learn to live with it.

Another wrong.

In my house, I'm the one who can be ready to go in 5 minutes. DH is the one who can't do anything quickly in the mornings and I usually end up waiting at least 15 minutes for him to be ready to go anywhere (except in an emergency).

 

[preshi]

Dolce & Gabana are fashion designers. Think $140 for a plain t-shirt, if not more.

 

[DD2Disney]

Originally posted by disykat
That is not a male/female issue. I'm very spontaneous, dh is least spontaneous person I know.

I agree...I don't even think DH knows what spontaneous means ...lol luckily he has other qualities

Tricia

 

[RitaZ.]

Some men complain that women take too long to get ready, others complain that their women have "let themselves go". We just can't win...

 

[onecoolmama]

I always tell my guy friends that if you are dating a girl that goes to the gym at 7am with make up on...she is an H.M. for sure!

It takes me longer to put a diaper bag together then it does for me to be ready to go out the door. Hair is down if it is a good day..up if not.

Make up - not usually but if I am gong to a daytime party I do eyeshadow, lip gloss, and mascara.

Night time - eyeshadow, mascara, blush, lipstick, and eyeliner.

Takes me all of 5 minutes and some of it I can do in the car if we are in a rush.

I proudly shop at target and walmart and I still look good. It isnt the clothes..it it the way the clothes fit you and those clothes fit just as well as the others if you know what looks good on you.

It's not that I am pretty, but I dont need all that junk on my face or even the perfect clothes to look good. I look in peoples' eyes, smile, and am confident when I talk. All the clothes and make up in the world can't make you feel good on the inside and for me...I break out with all that crud on my face.

So no..we are not all like that and I could never imagine dating anyone, GUY or GIRL, that was like that.

 

[frannn]

Jeans, sweats, and what's comfie is what I wear. If someone mentions food, I can be ready in 10 minutes (that includes changing the baby). I haven't been to the movies since POTC came out, but if someone wants to invite me, I could be ready in 5 minutes! DH isn't very spontaneous, but he will stop occasionally on a whim and bring me a treat, like a chocolate shake! Whatta guy! I get spiffied up when it counts.

 

[Disney Doll]

See Kyle, here's the perspective from the female side.

When I was a younger single girl, I was what would be considered "low maintenance"...still am. I didn't wear a lot of make-up, I could be ready for pretty much anything relatively quickly(in under 15 minutes when necessary). However, when I'd go to clubs with all my "low maintenance" friends, where would all the guys be????? Crowded around the "fake nails, push-up bra, big hair, tight sweaters, caked-on make-up" girls!!!!! Us nice, pleasant, attractive, low maintenance, spontaneous girls were left to languish in the corner.

Then I met my DH, and. extraordinarily smart man that he is, realized quality when he saw it!!!!!!

Take a look at the "kind" of woman you're looking for. My guess is that you have walked by a cute low maintenance girl because standing behind her was a fake nails etc. high-maintenance girl!

 

[Shutterbug]

My GF will not even go out for an egg mcmuffin without putting on some make up. I tell her she is sooo very pretty without the makeup and doesnt need it. If I make her go without it I get the "look" the entire time which I always counter with the rolling eyes look