Men are such fools.

[jemgumby]

Oh and if the majority of you think I am so off base by being disgusted by older men lusting after younger women/girls then why do you think child prostitution is able to flourish? Especially in other countries little girls are sold into prostitution and they are kept in business by much older men. DISGUSTING!!!! As one older male comedian said "Of course I want to have sex with young girls that is why there are laws against it!"

 

[Jennasis]

Eewwww......

Wow. How judgemental. And rude.

 

[Boxley]

Oh and if the majority of you think I am so off base by being disgusted by older men lusting after younger women/girls then why do you think child prostitution is able to flourish? Especially in other countries little girls are sold into prostitution and they are kept in business by much older men. DISGUSTING!!!! As one older male comedian said "Of course I want to have sex with young girls that is why there are laws against it!"

I think this goes without saying that maturity isn't judged by age, but rather by experience and some intelligence as well as an open mind. If the boss was dating someone younger then the legal age, then that would be wrong, but this woman in question is 28 and therefore a consenting adult who can make decisions for herself.

 

[C.Ann]

How do YOU know it is JUST for money?That makes YOU look like the fool...I LOVE older men! How can you sit there and judge these people unless they come up and say "hey look I got a young chick,she is just here for the money"? Maybe she has her own money.This post was just down right rude and judgemental! It sounds like something a person (not saying you) who got dumped for a younger would say.

I was going to ask the same thing.. How does OP know for sure that it's "just for the money" and therefore this man is a "fool"?

My late DH was 15 years older than me - could have been 30 years older than me and I would have married him anyway.. No "money" - just love..

I also have a friend who married a divorced man who was 40 years older than her.. He was a mechanic.. They enjoyed a long, happy marriage.. Had 9 children together.. Remained married till the day he died - when he was 90 years old..

Unless people are psychic, I don't know how they can make these sort of assumptions based solely on "age" and "financial" status..

 

[KirstenB]

My sister's second husband is 25 yrs older than her. He's close to my parents' age. They have 2 young children. I do worry a little about as he ages, etc. How it will impact their kids, etc. Even now, he doesn't do anything with the kids. He didn't have any until he met my sister, and I think he's maybe too set in his ways.

I truly don't mean that in a cruel way. I can tell the difference in my energy level between having our first daughter at 32, and our younger one at 39. I can't imagine suddenly having young children when you're 60+.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Oh and if the majority of you think I am so off base by being disgusted by older men lusting after younger women/girls then why do you think child prostitution is able to flourish? Especially in other countries little girls are sold into prostitution and they are kept in business by much older men. DISGUSTING!!!! As one older male comedian said "Of course I want to have sex with young girls that is why there are laws against it!"

You can choose to be disgusted with anything you like. That doesn't mean I'll agree with you. Older men have always lusted after younger women. It's a fact of life that's never going to change no matter how disgusted you are or how much you want it to change.

I think bringing in child pornography or little girls sold into prostitution to make your point is a bit hyperbolic and over the top, though.

Your blanket statement about older men lusting after younger women being equal to child porn is about as offensive as me making a blanket statement about any man who is attracted to, dating or is married to a woman who's a size 2 or smaller being a pedophile. After all, that woman's body he lusts after isn't much larger than your average 10 year old, therefore he must be attracted to children and is using this woman's tiny body as his cover. How DISGUSTING!!!

I think you have some emotional baggage issues about older men with younger women. Just my opinion.

 

[Tink888]

I'm posting this as a Mother also.

But if I had a daughter and SHE was dating a 30 year older man just for the $$, I would not be happy....at all.

I cant believe the MOTHERS on this thread just think its a cute situation???

But the thing is, you seem to be assuming that all men who date younger women are in it for the sex and all women who date older men are in it for the money. And while that may be true in some cases in certainly isn't true for all cases.

As a parent I'd probably have concerns with whoever my child were dating regardless of age. The thing I'd be most concerned about was how this other person were treating my child. Did they treat them well? Make them happy? At the end of the day, those are the things that would matter the most to me, not the age of the other person. JMO

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

So your going to stereotype all people as older as having "emotional baggage".....interesting.

My point is that what usually starts the relationship between a much older man and a younger woman is sorry to say but sex. Don't mean to be crude but he wants the young hottie. Does he want to be with her because of common interests? Not likely? We ALL know why he wants to be with her......That is so shallow. A relationship should be based more on a physical attraction. Whether it is an older woman going for a younger man, etc. The same thing applies. For a relationship to work it takes more than that. That is what I find COMPLETELY disgusting!!!!

Have you been burned before? Your opinion is very shallow.

Everyone deserves someone who is attractive. A person who has gained 50 pounds and lets themselves go MAY not be attractive to their spouse any longer. A person who has no life except the family MAY not be interesting to their spouse any more.

I think people are free to be with anyone they want. And you know what? Good for them.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Oh and if the majority of you think I am so off base by being disgusted by older men lusting after younger women/girls then why do you think child prostitution is able to flourish? Especially in other countries little girls are sold into prostitution and they are kept in business by much older men. DISGUSTING!!!! As one older male comedian said "Of course I want to have sex with young girls that is why there are laws against it!"

If you don't get that there is a huge difference between wanting to be intimate with a 28 year old and wanting to be intimate with a 9 year old then there is simply nothing I can tell you. I think you have a very limited view of the world.
What about women who find older men smokin' hot? Not everyone thinks it is gross or leading them down the road to child prostitution. The two are not even the same!

You mentioned that they can't possibly have anything in common and I disagree. I am not saying anything rude here but you also said that you and your dh waited until marriage for intimacy and you were both quite young when you married. Now I think it is great and that was the choice that you made for yourselves. However, seeing as how you had very limited dating and life experience at that time I can see why you can't understand what two people of varying age could have in common. I am not slamming you for it at all. I just think that there are plenty of us that have had many more life experiences than that and could have plenty in common with an older man or woman.
Again- not a slam against your choices, just stating a reason that you might have a slanted view on it.

 

[Sparx]

Eewwww......

i'll take an age gap over someone who is disgustingly rude any day.

 

[lillygator]

Attended a wonderful christmas party that a wealthy man held for his company/clients. He went thru a bad divorce a couple years ago.

He had his girlfriend in attendance

He's an old looking 55
She is 28 (same age as his kids)

firstly - you got an xmas party, be happy about that. secondly, mind your own business....why do you care about their age difference? I've always been attracted to older men, my DH is 10 years older than me...don't knock it 'til you try it!

Not really

Its maturity, life experiences, heck its the music you like.

I would think his young adult "kids" are mortified.

maybe they are happy he is happy and not "mortified".........

Actually LAST YEAR when it started, it was DH's superiors-all men , who had attended the party-(we didnt)-who were talking nonstop about his too young girlfriend.

maybe because she was HOT and they were wishing it were them instead of what they had to go home to.

http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/2009/06/17/2009-06-17_billy_joel_and_wife_katie_lee_split.html


When I saw them together-I immediately thought of Billy Joel and his current "ex" wife. The looks of this couple are similar-as is the age difference. The girl is in it for the $$$

so what if they are? what's it to you?

All you posters who say there's nothing wrong with it if they're in love blah blah blah. What about the single 40 something women out there who want a man THEIR age and he wants the 20 something year old!!! That is a phenomenom and there have been studies on it. That is unfair to the mature single ladies out there cause they know the majority of men their age are going to go for the young thang......ALOT of you are missing the big picture!

well, the single 40 year old should have been thinking about it before now....it is not UNFAIR, it is life!

I'm posting this as a Mother also.

But if I had a daughter and SHE was dating a 30 year older man just for the $$, I would not be happy....at all.

I cant believe the MOTHERS on this thread just think its a cute situation???

cute? I am sure no one here thinks it's "cute" and none of the posts even elude to that. You almost sound bitter.

 

[LilBlackSheep]

Eewwww......

 

[Tink888]

No I said what USUALLY starts that kind of relationship is based on sex. If I was stereotyping I would have said ALL those relationships are based on sex. Of course men and women can find common grounds of interests besides sexual attraction. I totally agree. I was a virgin when I got married at 21 (and PROUD of it) and my husband was too at 23 (and PROUD of it). Maybe because I was/am able to display restraint I think it is disgusting when I see some old geezer oggling some young woman and wanting a relationship with her based solely on sex. Even with my job (I am a reservation agent) and I guess I sound very young on the phone. I get these old geezers asking me if I want to go to Vegas with them, etc. How do I know their old because I have to get personal info like birth year from them during the course of the conversation. They flirt with me, ask me out, etc. Why because obviously they like my voice (my husband says I am hot on the phone)......is it because of common interests, no. They don't even know me. Then they start asking me questions and I say I am married and have a daughter they are quite surprised. I even had one guy say "well let's keep the fantasy going.".......hmmmm. Also if you watch the shows to catch a predator and see the majority of cases are much older men going after teen girls. Pretty disgusting. I have had young guys flirt with me but it is my job as an older married woman to draw the line because after all I would be the adult!!!

Okay, first off, no, sex isn't what usually starts off those relationships. If we're just going to base things on sex then here are a few facts. Men hit their sexual peak around the age of 18, women at age 30 so logically if we we're all pairing up over sex you'd have a lot of 18 year old guys chasing the 30 year old women and frankly, the older men wouldn't be chasing anyone because they'd be more worried about taking a nap and making a sandwich. Also you just referenced your own relationship, which by your own admission, wasn't based on sex. So for you to make the assumption that older men who date younger women are basing their relationship on sex as the first criteria is a little narrowminded.

Second, IMHO ALL relationships, initially are based on attraction regardless of male or female, regardless of age. We see someone we find attractive and then we get to know that person. We ALL do this at EVERY age.

Thirdly, it is also a scientific fact that men of all ages are more sexually driven than women. They are also more visual while women are more emotional. It's how they're wired. And you know what? That's okay. And while women are more emotionally driven when it comes to sex, we like the visual apsect as well. We do.

That's great that you would only be with someone close to your own age. That's what works for you but for anyone to compare an older man who has a relationship with a younger woman to a pervert, predator, etc. is really shallow. Likewise, women who date older men are not all money-grubbing bimbos with a daddy complex.

Like any relationship.....yours....mine.....all of them - age, sex, looks, money are not the only criteria that go into choosing a mate. You (general you) wouldn't base your own relationship choices are those things alone and it's shallow to assume that others are doing so.

For anyone to call these people fools and be judgmental is just shallow IMHO. To each their own, if relationships within your own age group are what works for you, great and if you like going outside your own age box, more power to you. Bottom line is that everyone deserves to be happy and be with people who make them happy. Personally, to limit oneself to only people who fall within your own age is really limiting yourself to what's out there.

None of us really knows anything about the dynamics of another person's relationship. We only know our own and I certainly wouldn't want anyone who doesn't have a clue about me or my relationship making judgments about it.

 

[Bluestars]

Even if the older person is in it for the sex and the younger person is in it for the money, it wouldn't bother me unless it was my own father. Other than that, I would not care. The reason I would care about it if it was my father is because I wouldn't want some gold digger taking advantage of him.

My dad is eleven years older than my mom. My mother, who is in her 60s, just told me the other day that the age difference was not noticeable until after my dad turned 70. His health started to decline and for the past two years she has taken care of him. Luckily, she is healthy is is able to do it.

 

[C.Ann]

As a parent I'd probably have concerns with whoever my child were dating regardless of age. The thing I'd be most concerned about was how this other person were treating my child. Did they treat them well? Make them happy? At the end of the day, those are the things that would matter the most to me, not the age of the other person. JMO

I couldn't agree more.. "Mom's" don't get to choose who their children fall in love with..

Have you been burned before? Your opinion is very shallow.

Everyone deserves someone who is attractive. A person who has gained 50 pounds and lets themselves go MAY not be attractive to their spouse any longer. A person who has no life except the family MAY not be interesting to their spouse any more.

I think people are free to be with anyone they want. And you know what? Good for them.

You almost sound bitter.

In all honesty, that was my first thought.. Of course I (we) could be wrong..

So for you to make the assumption that older men who date younger women are basing their relationship on sex as the first criteria is a little narrowminded.

Second, IMHO ALL relationships, initially are based on attraction regardless of male or female, regardless of age. We see someone we find attractive and then we get to know that person. We ALL do this at EVERY age.

That's great that you would only be with someone close to your own age. That's what works for you but for anyone to compare an older man who has a relationship with a younger woman to a pervert, predator, etc. is really shallow. Likewise, women who date older men are not all money-grubbing bimbos with a daddy complex.

For anyone to call these people fools and be judgmental is just shallow IMHO. To each their own, if relationships within your own age group are what works for you, great and if you like going outside your own age box, more power to you. Bottom line is that everyone deserves to be happy and be with people who make them happy. Personally, to limit oneself to only people who fall within your own age is really limiting yourself to what's out there.

None of us really knows anything about the dynamics of another person's relationship. We only know our own and I certainly wouldn't want anyone who doesn't have a clue about me or my relationship making judgments about it.

 

[BelleWDW]

I also have a friend who married a divorced man who was 40 years older than her.. He was a mechanic.. They enjoyed a long, happy marriage.. Had 9 children together.. Remained married till the day he died - when he was 90 years old..

Ok so when he died she was 50
Assuming the 9 kids were born when she was in her 30's.-40's
Then she was 30 something and he was 70 something when they started having the 9 kids?????...

 

[TDC Nala]

If they're both single, no big deal.

It may seem unfair, but a lot of men would prefer a younger woman (I mean mature women, not minor children). They just would. Can't really blame them.

 

[Poppinsme]

Hmmmmmm...interesting.
My DH is 13 years older then me.
Married at 19 we have been together 34 years.
I make more money then him because I work a lot of overtime. So it wasn't the money.
Sex? Well we both think its better now then ever. Hubba, hubba.
Oh yeah I drive a sports car. I paid for it. Cash.
I was attracted to him because of his maturity and knowledge and good looks. DH was attracted to me because I have big ****s. Then he got to know me and fell in love with me the person.
Many of my male friends are 20 years younger then me. They think I'm a cool ole lady.

If YOU are happy and of legal age who cares about the age difference? MYOB

 

[Carly_Roach]

I was attracted to him because of his maturity and knowledge and good looks. DH was attracted to me because I have big ****s. Then he got to know me and fell in love with me the person.

I hate to admit it, but I think it was the uniform that first attracted me to my DH. DANG he looks good in that thing. And I tell him that when he uses the ****s reason for why he was first attracted to me.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

All you posters who say there's nothing wrong with it if they're in love blah blah blah. What about the single 40 something women out there who want a man THEIR age and he wants the 20 something year old!!! That is a phenomenom and there have been studies on it. That is unfair to the mature single ladies out there cause they know the majority of men their age are going to go for the young thang......ALOT of you are missing the big picture!

Please don't speak for anyone other than yourself. If you were married at the age of 22 or whatever it was you said and now you're 36, you really have nothing in common from a relationship standpoint as me even though I'm only two years older than you. You have no idea what I would want out of relationship... it certainly isn't someone my own age.

I don't know what your "big picture" is, but mine is that life is too short to worry about what other people are doing.

Surprise Surprise JASON would think a demeaning comment about women is funny.......no men aren't jerks!

Calling a judgmental person judgmental isn't exactly demeaning.

Even though I know the OP didn't mean to offend anyone. I find this thread title a little offensive. Just helps generate a sexual stereotype imho

my .02¢

Bingo. Except that I'm not convinced of the "didn't mean to offend anyone" part.

Oh and if the majority of you think I am so off base by being disgusted by older men lusting after younger women/girls then why do you think child prostitution is able to flourish? Especially in other countries little girls are sold into prostitution and they are kept in business by much older men. DISGUSTING!!!! As one older male comedian said "Of course I want to have sex with young girls that is why there are laws against it!"

You really think that the relationship between the man and woman that sparked this conversation is on the same level as child prostitution? That's disturbing. I'm sure the 28-year-old would be thrilled to be viewed as a child.

Why does everything have to be male vs female? Aren't you equally disturbed by adult women having sex with underage boys?