Meg + Rob SBP/ADH/UK Lower 10/12/09 - Roots Photos ONLINE! YES!!!!

[29apr00]

sounds great!!

 

[MegKate]

AND I just want to announce that the tickets to get to Florida in October have been purchased! We're going Southwest out of Boston to Orlando! FREAKIN EXCITED!!!

 

[princess22]

Oh, I want to meet up with you girls!! I had to go out of town last minute and missed meeting up with Sam and them. I was super upset about it! Let me know if you girls make plans!!!!

 

[tiggersam00]

Wow Meg you have got it all together for this trip girl! I am very jealous of your dismeet! I bet you will have a ball, take lots of pics and have a snack for me while your there!

I love your itinerary and can't wait to hear all about your trip when you get back, I expect a TR with tons of pics lol

 

[MegKate]

Hey all,

I need to get this off my chest. I got an email from my step brother today confirming that he, my stepsister in law and nieces can't come to the wedding. For those who haven't been following the story, my niece Emily was my flower girl. My step-brother gave the excuse about work and that they don't have the money to do it because their points and airline rewards don't cover Orlando and Disney.

First off I'm irked because they knew months ago that they wouldn't be able to go. They waited until now to tell me. I had an idea because my step-mom said something. Secondly, they emailed me. They didn't even have the guts to call me. But I'm more irked for all sorts of other reasons now...

I called my step-mother after I got the email and she already knew that they were sending it. I found out that the reasons that they gave me for not being able to go were all lies. My step-mother had offered to pay for them, even though they don't have problems with money. Lucy (step-mom) offered to bring Emily (niece) and step sister in law said no. Lucy offered to watch the girls in Disney so step sister in law could spend some time in the spa, and no. Basically everything that was tried was just no, and I had been lead along thinking they could come. I don't know whether to be or .

I'm not worried about posting this, because this will seem tame next to the email they will receive when I get around to emailing. I'm giving myself a few days to cool off and become objective. I don't want to say something I would regret. I got the news while I was at work, which is considering shutting down due to Swine Flu. So I've been in a mood all day. I did find another flower girl; it looks like my boss' 3 year old granddaughter will be able to do it and come down with her mom and aunt. Which is great. I thought for a while I was going to have to have my friends who are going down there be my flower women and spread the petals down the aisle! There were demands for poofy dresses and big hats, so I think we'll stick with the flower girl. It's great to know I have so many good friends.

But it really hurts being lied to by your family. Ya know?

Thanks for the vent. Love, ME!

 

[lpizzuro123]

Meg, so sorry to hear your news but you will definately be better off with guests that really want to be there for you then those that do not.

Linda

 

[camara381]

Oh Meg I am so sorry you are dealing with this! At least you found out now and not during the wedding week.

 

[DisneyMissy]

I'm new to DIS and just caught up on your PJ. First I have to say, I'm so glad to have found a fellow m*******!! I'm so sorry for you, because you're stuck in Maine. I'm stuck in CT for another month if it makes you feel any better! You have some wonderful ideas for your wedding, and both dresses are absolutely beautiful! I love the idea of using yellow and blue (Belle is my fav!). I'm so sorry to hear about your step brother...that's totally not cool that they didn't tell you sooner if they knew they weren't going to go. Your wedding with be wonderful without them, though, and then they'll just be jealous!!

 

[DisneyMissy]

Whoops...I got censored!!

 

[29apr00]

I'm sorry your stepBIL is acting like such a butthead! I'm sure having them pull out will actually be a good thing, as they won't be downers at your wedding!!

 

[HeatherNJNC]

Meg, so sorry to hear about the FG situation. It seems like there always has to be one downer in every family. I love love love your color scheme, I considered blue and yellow so many times but I am a lover of blue and brown so I just went for it. I absolutely adore the basket you have for your FG! It's so different then the normal frilly ones you see, I would definitely love to find something like that for my girls to use.

 

[MegKate]

Meg, so sorry to hear your news but you will definately be better off with guests that really want to be there for you then those that do not.

Linda

Thanks Linda Good point!

I'm new to DIS and just caught up on your PJ. First I have to say, I'm so glad to have found a fellow m*******!! I'm so sorry for you, because you're stuck in Maine. I'm stuck in CT for another month if it makes you feel any better! You have some wonderful ideas for your wedding, and both dresses are absolutely beautiful! I love the idea of using yellow and blue (Belle is my fav!). I'm so sorry to hear about your step brother...that's totally not cool that they didn't tell you sooner if they knew they weren't going to go. Your wedding with be wonderful without them, though, and then they'll just be jealous!!

Whoops...I got censored!!

Hey Missy! Always glad to have another mass hole here. (For any censors who come along - we like being called that! It's a symbol of pride lol!) Thanks for checking out the PJ - it's interesting if nothing else! Thanks for the good thoughts! BTW - where in Mass?

I'm sorry your stepBIL is acting like such a butthead! I'm sure having them pull out will actually be a good thing, as they won't be downers at your wedding!!

You saying that reminded me of a saying my step-mother has "every party has to have a pooper, that's why we invited you." (She's crazy! lol!) I think in the end it will be good not to have the drama there, but right now it's like a band-aid that got pulled off too quickly. Thanks for the !! Much needed!

Meg, so sorry to hear about the FG situation. It seems like there always has to be one downer in every family. I love love love your color scheme, I considered blue and yellow so many times but I am a lover of blue and brown so I just went for it. I absolutely adore the basket you have for your FG! It's so different then the normal frilly ones you see, I would definitely love to find something like that for my girls to use.

Blue and brown are gorgeous together! If I had thought of it, I probably would have gone with them! The basket is called a Nantucket Basket - found on Ebay or Christmas Tree Shops! Thanks for the

Oh Meg I am so sorry you are dealing with this! At least you found out now and not during the wedding week.

Thanks Carolina! This is true - Thank GOD they didn't (well mostly step SIL) didn't pull this drama in October. Bad enough end of April! If that's my drama quotient for the wedding - let's hope it's filled and done!

 

[Bride-to-be]

Sorry about the FG, but at least you have a new one. Truthfully if part of my family treated me that way and lied and put in all in an email instead of at least calling - I wouldn't want them to be there. I feel bad for the little girl - but as for her parents they don't deserve to go. At times its really easy to be angry.

Here is my advice. If you write back a long email then you are just as bad as they are. You should organize your thoughts and call. That way too there is no written proof of the convo and it can't come back to bite you. Also if you make it appear that you are really angry (which I am sure you are) then it makes it look as though you really care. I would make it seem as though you could care less and have found a better flower girl to take her place. The more you don't care about them not being there - the more it will hurt them - and thats the best revenge!

 

[DisneyMissy]

I'm from New Bedford

 

[tiggersam00]

Ugghhh Meg, I am so sorry you are dealing with that (and I am not sure how I missed all of this till now). Being lied to is horrible and I am sorry you are dealing with this. I think the best action is to call your step-brother and tell him how hurt this makes you and leave it at that. He obviously doesn't have the courtsey to tell you directly, and you are the bigger person here. I think retaliating is a bad decision because it is family (and you always have to see them again lol). I would just be honest with your feelings of hurt and anger and let him know how it makes you feel. Also I would just lay low afterwards and let him be the one to make the next move. You at least have everything off your chest, and then the ball is in his court.

I wish you were closer, I would take you out for a great big ice cream sundae! That always helps! And you know what, you have Rob, and it sounds like the rest of your family is being super supportive during this. And you know if it came down to it, one of us would fly down in october and proudly scatter petals at your wedding, big pooofy dress, hand and all! (Now thats an image lol)

 

[Tink_Kel]

Hi Meg!!! Yay on your planning trip plans!! Where are you going to get your pics done with the Roots? It's funny that we are getting pictures the same day!

I'm so sorry to hear about your FG situation. I swear, family can be such a pain!!

I absolutely love all your plans...especially the special New England touches. Your wedding is going to be absolutely beautiful.

If you don't mind, I'm going to call you this weekend to talk about our plans! I feel terrrible for not keeping in touch more....to say I've been stressed is an understatement.

I'll talk to ya soon!!

 

[MegKate]

Sorry about the FG, but at least you have a new one. Truthfully if part of my family treated me that way and lied and put in all in an email instead of at least calling - I wouldn't want them to be there. I feel bad for the little girl - but as for her parents they don't deserve to go. At times its really easy to be angry.

Here is my advice. If you write back a long email then you are just as bad as they are. You should organize your thoughts and call. That way too there is no written proof of the convo and it can't come back to bite you. Also if you make it appear that you are really angry (which I am sure you are) then it makes it look as though you really care. I would make it seem as though you could care less and have found a better flower girl to take her place. The more you don't care about them not being there - the more it will hurt them - and thats the best revenge!

One of my favorite songs is "Living Well is the Best Revenge", and trust me I live that. I haven't emailed and I won't. I'll deal with it when I get back from the planning session. It's really more that I'm upset about Emily (former FG) not being able to come. They haven't told her yet - as my step mom said "she's going to be so mad and sad all at once". She had been practicing being a FG... <sigh> Good advice though! Thanks

I'm from New Bedford

New Bedford? Yay! I really love having MA brides around. You all can let me know what's going on back home. One more year until we move (hopefully!!!)

Ugghhh Meg, I am so sorry you are dealing with that (and I am not sure how I missed all of this till now). Being lied to is horrible and I am sorry you are dealing with this. I think the best action is to call your step-brother and tell him how hurt this makes you and leave it at that. He obviously doesn't have the courtsey to tell you directly, and you are the bigger person here. I think retaliating is a bad decision because it is family (and you always have to see them again lol). I would just be honest with your feelings of hurt and anger and let him know how it makes you feel. Also I would just lay low afterwards and let him be the one to make the next move. You at least have everything off your chest, and then the ball is in his court.

I wish you were closer, I would take you out for a great big ice cream sundae! That always helps! And you know what, you have Rob, and it sounds like the rest of your family is being super supportive during this. And you know if it came down to it, one of us would fly down in october and proudly scatter petals at your wedding, big pooofy dress, hand and all! (Now thats an image lol)

LOL - Sam you so could be one of the flower women! That Ice Cream reminds me of Friendly's... Reese's Pieces Sundae.. drool... I won't mention that the closest one is 161 miles away in Ellsworth, ME. I'll take you up on that one of these times I get home!

Thanks for the advice though! Still cooling down. Not going to deal with it until after the PS! Then there will be a phone call!

Hi Meg!!! Yay on your planning trip plans!! Where are you going to get your pics done with the Roots? It's funny that we are getting pictures the same day!

I'm so sorry to hear about your FG situation. I swear, family can be such a pain!!

I absolutely love all your plans...especially the special New England touches. Your wedding is going to be absolutely beautiful.

If you don't mind, I'm going to call you this weekend to talk about our plans! I feel terrrible for not keeping in touch more....to say I've been stressed is an understatement.

I'll talk to ya soon!!

Hey Kel - give me a call late Saturday - tomorrow's our Yard Sale and Sunday is my Birthday party (one week early!) I'm uber excited to take pictures at your wedding!

 

[DisneyMissy]

I wish I could tell you what was going on back home!! I'll be moving back in about 2 months...I can't wait! Did I hear correctly...no Friendlys?! How do you survive?! The Reese's Pieces Sundae is my fav!! If there were a drooling smilie I would use it right now!

 

[MegKate]

I wanted to update you all. We have a definite FG now - my boss' grand-daughter Callie who is 3 is going to do it for sure. They're going to get the dress tomorrow. Here's a link to it! I let them pick it out and they picked the mini-version of my dress. Look at this in mind without the veil here. And she's going to have a tiara of course - because she's a Princess! lol. So Callie, her mom, her aunt (who did my original Patriot jersey engagement pictures), my boss and her husband are now going! So I'm of course excited about this! I'm still upset about what happened with my family, but you can't control who your family is I suppose.

One week until we leave for Florida! I have to do more planning, but I'm out straight this week. I have to do 32 hours of internship in four days, finals, 2 birthday parties (for me! yay 28 baby!!), 2 papers, our Yard Sale and pack for Florida! Crazy!

I talked to our WP and realized that I forgot to plan a site visit. Oops. So called the WC and she's on vacation but her assistant is going to try to squeeze it between our tasting session and PS. Or I'll do it Wednesday afternoon, after the Roots, but before Carolyn Allen's. I'll update on how that goes!

I am worried about our engagement pictures with the Roots. Not because of them, of course (because I totally <3 the Roots!), but because my allergies have come on full force! EEK! Red eyes and nose, sneezing, coughing, runny nose blecch. And also it's that time of the month so I've got all that goes with that too - bloated, broken out etc. So I'm just feeling totally UGH! I'm praying that all this goes away by 5/19. I hope they can fix all that in photoshop You know with how cool they are they probably can!

Off to bed - Yard Sale tomorrow! Hopefully the rain holds off!

Later gators!

-Meg

 

[MegKate]

I wish I could tell you what was going on back home!! I'll be moving back in about 2 months...I can't wait! Did I hear correctly...no Friendlys?! How do you survive?! The Reese's Pieces Sundae is my fav!! If there were a drooling smilie I would use it right now!

Well in 2 months let me know! LOL.

Let me tell you - it's good for my Bride diet, but lousy when I want a Reese's Sundae. I've had to subsist on the Friendly's Sundae Cups at the store when I need a Friendly's Fix! Or Breakfast at Friendly's. Oh man, I could sing the praises. When I'm at home in Worcester I have 2 within one mile of my house. 161 miles is just wrong!!