Mean spirited posts

[ron808]

Just because some people doesn't agree with your POV it doesn't mean that they are rude.

The world doesn't revolve around you or Disney. :lol:

I am not afraid to show myself. I like to tell it how it is but I keep an open mind. Facts and figures vs opinions and observations. But ofcourse it doesn't always fall on the right track. Oftentimes, I end up biting myself. We're only human to rationalize things.

LOL at the one who thinks people here have "onion" skins. IMO, I don't think so. This is a jolly, kiddy message board.

PEOPLE, don't think too much and try not to lose some sleep due to some provocative posts. There's always challenges in every aspect of everything.

 

[Robindianne]

it's .02¢

No it's not. It's $ .02 or 2¢ (unless you mean 2/100 of a cent).

 

[DisnyMama]

I have noticed a drop in the number of posts and/or threads since I came to the DISBOARD due to the issues that have been raised in this thread. When I first came on board there were so many threads on the Community Board that I could not get through a days worth in one evening. Now, that number has dropped significantly. Sometimes you post a thread for advice-not a debate. Another may need support - not criticism. As it was previously said before, it is very easy to say things through your keyboard and hide behind your computer but would you come right out and say these same things face to face? One observation that I have made about a specific few of the very critical Disr's here on the boards is I never see them posting threads anywhere on the boards! Could it be that critical people do not want to chance leaving themselves open to the possibility of criticism? I find this very interesting.

 

[Rudegrle]

I sometimes visit another online forum and a lot of people have noticed the amount of bickering on these boards and don't like to visit them and mock them due to this. Just something to think about

It's OK to disagree w/ someone, it's human nature. But when people start to attack, either direct or a sideways jab, it is just mean spirited and cruel. If you have to think about whether your comments are too harsh, then maybe you should not post them.

 

[Robindianne]

I sometimes visit another online forum and a lot of people have noticed the amount of bickering on these boards and don't like to visit them and mock them due to this. Just something to think about

It's OK to disagree w/ someone, it's human nature. But when people start to attack, either direct or a sideways jab, it is just mean spirited and cruel. If you have to think about whether your comments are too harsh, then maybe you should not post them.

Can I ask what boards? Disney-related? I like to read all I can find about Disney.

 

[Rudegrle]

Can I ask what boards? Disney-related? I like to read all I can find about Disney.

Just PM'd you

 

[JohnnySharp2]

I am from the UK - I have seen a few confrontation's on these boards, the majority do not necessarily involve anything to do with Florida.

There is nothing wrong with an exchange of views but it is knowing when not to take matters too far.
I have seen instances where it appears people say thing just to start controversy and argument, whilst I accept different opinions will always be evident sometimes it can go too far - these boards should always be friendly.

 

[WaltD4Me]

I've been on alot of discussion boards and believe me the bickering here is nothing compared to almost any other board I've ever been to. Of course, this IS a DISNEY board so you except a little more Disney-Like behaviour, but anywhere you gather this many people together, there are going to be debates and yes, sadly, some of them will get nasty.

I belonged to a teddy bear collectors board that was absolutley unbelievable...this board is sweetness and light compared to what went on amoung of bunch of teddy bear collectors! I was also on a scrapbooking board that got so bad I finally just stopped going there...I still can't quite believe some of it to this day!

That said, I enjoy this board because, first I love Disney and I love talking and reading about Disney, but also because for the most part the posts are friendly and helpful and Disney-Like. Sure there are some threads that get carried away (Can you say "ECV?" How about "strollers?"... ) but I mostly know the "hot topics" now and avoid them for the most part. I think one of the keys is to ignore that 1st nasty or mean post. Alot of threads start fine, but then the mean or sarcastic post pops up and everyone goes a little nuts...ignore that 1st troublesome post (there are some people who just love to cause trouble for trouble's sake) and alot of the problem will probably go away because it won't get started in the first place.

 

[Rudegrle]

...ignore that 1st troublesome post (there are some people who just love to cause trouble for trouble's sake) and alot of the problem will probably go away because it won't get started in the first place.

Good phylosophy I say

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I do alot of training at work and one of things we stress is that its hard to tell someone's feelings when reading an e-mail. Are they being sarcastic, witty, laughing, screaming, etc. - you get the point.
I know the smilies are great but even when you use them people will mis-read, take things too personally, etc.
When I see posts that get nasty I just don't read them anymore.
I got blasted once, replied and then got blasted for my reply. The only way to get out of that situation is to turn the other cheek. Trust me - if you knew me personally, you would know that I am not a "turn the other cheek" type personality but on message boards I guess you have to.
And that's my $0.02.

 

[bicker]

I have noticed a drop in the number of posts and/or threads since I came to the DISBOARD

Just a note about this: The number of posts has steadily climbed, year-over-year. There have actually been over 110,000 posts since the beginning of the year, reaching about 12,000 per day, for every day except just after the holiday.

 

[aka-mad4themouse]

I think the perceived rudeness and snarky comments are a reflection of our society in general. I find that people are less polite than they were even 10 years ago, whether it's on a message board or at the grocery store. The anonimity of the internet makes it so much easier to be that way. Some of the comments made here would never come out of people's mouths, yet they fly from fingers to keyboard with ease.

For the those that you believe to be continually rude or constantly looking for controversy, there's the ignore list. I admit that I have a rather long one. There are just some people whose comments I consitently find to be lacking in any value. So I'd rather than get irritated or get baited into an argument, they're on my ignore list and I never see their posts.

 

[goofy4tink]

Most DISers 'play' nicely. Sure, there are those who love to stir the pot, so to speak. Most of us recognize those pot stirrers and just move along. I try not to post unless I have something new or constructive to say. I have been sarcastic in some posts, just as I am in real life. I have tried to stop that, since there are those on these boards that don't realize I'm being 'funny'!!! You can't see someone's expression so you can't be sure.
The moderators can't be here 24/7.....believe it or not, they actually have lives outside the DIS. I know, hard to believe. They do a pretty good job of 'keeping us honest'....thanks guys!
Sure, there are differing opinions....just read those refill. mug or pool hopping questions. Now, those are scary. I sometimes think that if people would just do a search or take the time to go back a few pages, they would find the answer and not have to open a can of worms, yet again. I mean...how many times can we answer the mug question!!! No wonder we sound negative at times.
Nope, people think their opinion is the right opinion...just human nature. If we try to keep an open mind and realize that others feel differently, then things will go along smoothly here. Otherwise, people are going to feel insulted, jumped all over and attacked. Try to answer a question as though you were standing in the middle of a group of people, rather than sitting at a keyboard, with no one able to see you. It's the same philosophy as putting on a smile as you pick up the phone.....you just have a better attitude!!!!

 

[bettyann29]

It will get real boring, real fast without some friendly jabbing and differing opinions . . .

Some of the posts Ive seen lately are not on a differing of opinions.. Just people being plain flat nasty.. Thats what I think we could do without..

 

[GoofyGirlnPrincessV]

Great post. A while back someone asked for help with making an autograph book and someone else posted a wicked sarcastic post. I actually felt sorry for the first poster. All she was asking for is help..

I know every board goes through phases, so lets hope this sarcastic phase passes quickly.

 

[boomhauer]

Try not to take it by heart - this happens in many forums.

Happens in ALL forums.

It's simple. The way someone is coming acorss through written words can be taken very differently by different people. That person can be meaning well and not trying to be rude, but someone may take it that way through their own interpretation.

When I first met my wife, we used to IM each other back and forth at work. We almost always ended up in a fight. That's when we realized - We simply don't communicate well via written words. Never happens when we're speaking to each other.

And of course, there are those like me who just annoy people with good intended sarcasm.

 

[mickeyfan2]

If I've ever tried to help someone and been wrong, the next person behind me has never been rude or hateful, and instead only corrects it. Again, I think everyone here is really nice and helpful.

Some take a post that corrects wrong information as a person attack and thus the person posting the correction MUST be rude.

 

[Dznefreek]

I have noticed a drop in the number of posts and/or threads since I came to the DISBOARD

Then why has the number of "Server is busy" messages I have gotten steadily increased. . . .

 

[bicker]

This is the most heavily posted-on travel-oriented discussion website on the Internet, by almost a factor of two.

 

[cleo]

Just a quick reply to the comment about 'if the boards were monitored more closely this wouldn't happen'.

All of the DIS moderators are volunteers. We don't get paid for this, we do it because we love the Disney experience and we want to contribute in some small way to the enjoyment others get from the Disney experience. We have full, rich, sometimes complicated lives, too. And we have jobs.

If we removed every post that offends someone there would be relatively little left.

The boards don't have to be a 'love-fest', differing opinions are important to a well rounded view, and if people think carefully about what they post and are slower to take offense, this would be a non-issue.

The DIS is a reflection of the people who post here. Ultimately, the best moderator is your own common sense.