mean bratty kids

[binny]

Do you know kids like this?

We ran into my friends kids today and my Kaylee just wanted to play with their dd. Their dd has always been a little snobby imho but today was TERRIBLE!
Kaylee went up to her and said hi and this girl actually gave her the cold shoulder LITERALLY! She HHMMMPPPHHH and turned her back on her and walked away.

Kaylee asked why she was mad at her. I told her she didnt do anything at all that it was the other girls problem but Kaylee was hurt



I hate seeing my kids hurt ( I know we all do ). I know this isnt the parents fault but I would NEVER let my child get away with acting like that!

Her parents werent there they were out with a family friend.

What do you when someone treats your kids like that?

 

[jamsmom]

Well, do NOT do what I did once. Some kid had been very mean and ugly to DS. So, I told him later that that kid will probably end up in prison some day if he acts like that all through life.

Well, DS decided to tell the other kid that one day. Bad choice.

 

[Mjasp]

I don't know how old your DD is BUT wait till middle school, it gets worse. But I hear high school is much better as they mature.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

Ouch, binny. That hurts! I always wonder WHAT makes some kids mean and bratty. I've come to the answer that they LEARN it at home.

I read the title of your thread and immediately thought "I hate 'em!!"

 

[cgcw]

I have to echo jamsmom....don't do what I did.

I was tired of my DS8 getting dumped on by a certain "friend" so I told him he was treating my son like a "jerk". Guess what the boy did....ran home to tell his mother. The mother called me and asked me if in fact I did tell this to her son. Yep, I confessed but I told her all that prompted my doing so. Not the best tactic. But, it did make the boys decide that they didn't really want to be friends anymore -- which was fine in the end because my son never really wanted to be his friend anyway I was the one who had a tendency to push it. I know, my mistake.

I hate to see a child bullied -- no matter who the child is. I will always stick my nose in to protect the underdog child -- therefore, getting myself in trouble time and time again.

Okay, Binny, where do I find this little girl to have a "chat".

 

[Mjasp]

My neighbor and I was just discussing what makes some kids so mean and we both seem to think they must need to do it to get attention and feel like a big shot, because like someone else said something is missing at home.

 

[Mishetta]

Well, I'm sorry to say but I have one of those "bratty" children but for some reason, he's like that due to his ADHD. When he's medicated properly, he's fine. If I've only given him half a dose or if we've ever forgotten his meds, he's very aggressive & no one wants to play with him.

I feel so bad even just talking about my son here like this but it's true. The funny part is that I have always thought that people would think that he's learned to be mean or aggressive at home but the truth is, my DH & I are very loving, happy people. We never were aggressive or mean but my DS picked that up somewhere. Of course, lately my DS has been pushing us both to the limit & we're starting to get mean at home! I just have to keep giving him the entire dosage of meds to have a peaceful homelife. (I was halfing his dosage due to him losing 12 lbs in one year & he was thin to begin with!)

So I apologize to anyone who has come in contact with my kid over the past 2 months.

 

[Mjasp]

Originally posted by Mishetta


So I apologize to anyone who has come in contact with my kid over the past 2 months. [/B]

Mishetta...Please don't be sorry, your DS has a perfectly good reason for behaving that way and it is curbed by medication. We are talking about the children who do it to be purposefully mean.
And there are plenty of them out there with no reason to act like that at all. Good Luck with your son.

 

[cgcw]

Mishetta,

As you've described your son, I would not put him in the class of bullies I've seen. The ones I have problems with are the ones who say things they know will hurt another child or intentionally (or so it seems) wait until the perfect opprotunity to do another child wrong.

Here's an example of a child I see as a bully. The other day, my DS8 was playing kick ball at recess. The boy who was IT looked around and selected my son as his target. The boy knew my son was going to be able to run away so instead of giving my son the opprotunity to run safely, he stuck his foot out and trip him as he went running. A skinned knee and elbow later, the boy announced that my son was now IT.

Another example, a boy in my sons class stood behind him and jabbed him with a pencil. Was that a bully?? I'm not sure. Did the boy do it to get a reaction? I'll bet he did but I'm not sure I would classify him as a bully. Just a non-thinking/attention grabbing 3rd grader at the moment.

I hope I didn't offend you with my comments. That certainly was not my intention.

 

[firstmickey]

I have this problem with my neighbor's son. He is same age as my son (6) but he is a very big kid. He is an only child who runs the house. Dad tries to be his buddy and mom sits on the ground and says "now honey, don't do that" Drives me insane!
Today he got mad at my son while they were playing a game outside (all of them play out in the cul-de-sac) and he went to hit him with a big shovel. I was standing talking to the mom at the time and she just said don't do that. The kid proceeded to call my son a son of a____ several times. They just told him not to swear any more and let him continue playing.
My kid would have been in his room for the rest of the day for acting like that.

I will never understand why parents let their kids run their household. Unfortunately, if my kids want to play outside, they have to deal with him. I finally told my daughter who is 10 to push him as hard as she could one day because he continuously tries to pull her off her bike while she is riding it. (AND the mom stands right there and watches it!) I don't like to tell her to do that but maybe then he will leave her alone!

Wow, thanks for the vent. Didn't realize how much that was bothering me today!

 

[TLinden16]

Binny, I'm sorry your little girl's feelings were hurt. Kids can be so mean, and when they are little, they just can't understand why some people are like that.

My niece just started middle school, and she's having a problem with some girls on the bus. These are all girls that she was the best of friends with last year in school. My niece gets on the bus at the second last stop, and none of them will let her sit with them. There is one boy who the went to school with who has a friend who gets on at the last stop who he likes to sit with, but the kids try to force my niece to sit with him. Two days last week when my niece got on the bus, these kids all stood up and chantted "Sit down, sit down, sit down" until my niece sat down with the little boy. So now, my niece sits with this boy, and they let his friend sit with them on the seat. The girls are spreading rumors about my niece, telling other kids that she said the boy she sits with on the bus is fat and stupid. Not to sound like a biased aunt, but my niece is a really sweet kid, and she would never say a bad word about anyone. She's also very shy. Most of these girls aren't in the same classes as my niece, and she has lots of other friends, but the 20 minutes each way she spends on the bus each day aren't very pleasant.

My sister is so upset about it (more upset than my niece). It's really awful that kids are like that. I told my sister that hopefully the kids will get bored with picking on my niece and move on soon.

Karen

 

[twinmomplus2]

We had this problem last year with a child in my 9 year old sons class. My son had gotten hurt several times on the playground during recess. Twice severly enough they thought he may have gotten a concussion. Every time I got an Accident report from the nurse. Towards the end of the year he came home with about a 6in gash on his back and said he fell into the fence at recess. I then recieved a call from another mom .... that in fact he was shoved and slowly the story comes out all these injuries were from one child. I went nuts took mine out of school called the state board of education. The school refused to call the other parents to the table said it was my childs word against the others. It was very ugly! Not until they found out that my fathers law partner is the states education attorney did anyone react. Just to let you know this child has 2 active loving parents, One head of youth activitys and mom, the school nurse. so every time my kid was injured was he supposed to tell her that her child did it? The response from the parents was they were not surprised he was doing that as they were having a problem in the house with an older sibling doing this to him. The long and the short of my situation was by the end of the year the boys in the class all refused to play with him anymore and he was left off by himself. As long as I know I can keep him safe somtimes peer pressure wiil work out these little buggers!!!Ok done venting.

 

[4greatboys]

What do you do when its your good friends kids that are like that? One of my best friends has 2 kiddos that act awful. They are rude to my kids always, the oldest lies and says my kids said something they didnt. Her oldest who is 7 encourages his little brother who is 3, to hit my 3 yr old, to take things from him. It goes on and on. When I see her I try to make sure we dont get together when her kids are around. She is really a wonderful friend and person, but her kids get away with 2 much. I could never tell her how much they bad they are.
My kids are not perfect in any way but they are not mean spirited. They will fight with each and with others but not just for the sport of it it you know what I mean.
Mish--I know it has to be hard for you and your ds. He has a problem and needs meds to help him out. I think the kids we are talking about dont have any medical issues, they just like to be mean to others.

 

[goofygirl]

Some kid had been very mean and ugly to DS. So, I told him later that that kid will probably end up in prison some day if he acts like that all through life

Why was this a bad idea? You are probably right! and

If the mean kid thinks he may go to prison someday ,maybe he'll change his ways!

 

[Mermaid02]

"Why was this a bad idea? You are probably right!"

LOL- gotta agree with GoofyGirl this time! Sometimes, kids need to hear stuff like that.

 

[bumcat]

And there's nothing wrong with letting the parents know that their kid will probably end up in jail. Used that line myself some years back.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Last night my family and I stayed at a hotel in Minneapolis. DD and DH were swimming in the pool and I was sitting in a chair reading. There was a large extended family there and they were kind of rowdy. I didn't mind until one of the boys, probably age 6ish came over to me and hit me on the leg! It didn't hurt or anything. I gave him my meanest "Mommy" look ane he backed away. A relative just happened to walk by. All she said was "Eli, you don't hit other people." She said this as she walked by, didn't even stop to really talk to the kid. And she mumbled a "sorry" in my direction.

Who let's there kid hit a complete stranger? That is NUTS!

 

[Mjasp]

I know that this is a little off topic, but Jenn-Lynn's post reminded me of something that happened to us in April when we were in Orlando. My girls ages 11 and 7 were in the pool and met a little girl Kayleigh, who was also 7. Kayleigh had a room key and came and went as she pleased, she'd come down to the pool and swim alone without parental supervision, and would hang with my 7 yr old and eat at the free buffet with us, It got to the point that I was watching her. The manager of the hotel came up to me and said she needs to wear shoes in the dining room, I told him she wasn't mine and I didn't know where her parents were, I don't think he believed me as he came again and told me to please have her put her shoes on. Well then my 7 yr old asked why she can't have a room key, you know how that goes. My 11 yr old said mom, I wouldn't want to have a room key and come to the pool without you or dad. Made me happy, when I explained to my 7 yr old, would you really want to be here without mom or dad, she said no. Whew.
Now I rambled, but this has nothing to do with the topic.

 

[MJames41]

Originally posted by firstmickey
I finally told my daughter who is 10 to push him as hard as she could one day because he continuously tries to pull her off her bike while she is riding it. (AND the mom stands right there and watches it!) I don't like to tell her to do that but maybe then he will leave her alone!

One day I came home from work with my son in his rooms, scared for when I would get home. He was in the 2nd grade. My mom had to pick him up early that day from the principals office. He had been at recess playing with his friend, and the class bully (who had been held back one or 2 years) came over and took my son's friend's toys. My son told him twice to give it back, and got a "what are you gonna do about it?". My son took his backpack and knocked the heck out of him. My son was afraid I would be upset when I got home, and I told him he did the right thing. In my opinion, it's always ok to protect yourself or others against bullys - I was proud of him. By the way, the bully didn't bother my son or any of his friends the rest of the year (wonder why?).

 

[4greatboys]

I know everyone teaches their kids not to hit and things like that but they cant be a punching bag either. My 3 yr old was playing a video gamewith my friends 3 yr old and her ds, who was losing, it mine in the head with the controller so mine reached over and hit him back with his. Her ds was crying like someone tried to cut off his head. Inside I just felt good my ds was taking up for himself. I bet her ds thinks twice before trying that again knowing its going to happen back to him