No, both of those stories were very moving. Thanks for sharing!
I'd like to hear more about your experiences, too! Obviously I have a keen interest in this subject.
Your second story reminded me about this experience:
About 18 mo. after my father died unexpectedly, his father (my grandfather) was stricken with a massive heart attack while he was at work (he was the justice of the peace of our hometown). He never regained consciousness and although his vital signs were good, he was in a coma, without any higher brain function. He ended up passing about a week later after being weaned from a ventilator. It was wrenching seeing this strong, independent man in such a helpless state and we all felt he never would have wanted to linger for months (or who knows how long) in a care center.
Early on in that week, as the events were unfolding I was at my mom's house, in my old bedroom, sleeping. In a dream I saw my grandfather, sitting in the rocking chair in my room, holding his head in his hands, shaking his head. I asked him what was wrong and he said, "I'm sorry, I'm just so sorry...I never meant for it to happen like this..." It was so vivid. As the week went on, I thought I understood what he meant, that he didn't want to end up in a coma, etc. But after he died, we found out that he didn't have a proper will, the instructions were very vague, he'd verbally told some of us certain things but not others, and the real mess came from the fact that my father had predecesed him, making us 4 kids heirs along with my aunt (the only other sibling). My aunt felt that she should be the sole heir. It turned into a terrible situation, and caused a rift between my family and my aunt and uncle that lasted for several years. As this ugly situation began to take shape I remembered the dream, and I feel certain that THIS was what he was referring to when he said, "I never meant for it to happen like this". Very often in the last year of his life (after my dad was gone), he would say things like, "I know when I die you all will be able to work everything out". He just couldn't make himself get his affairs in order, I guess.