Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Bushmills]

HockeyKat - that's an excellent idea! Glad someone came up with the concept. We're up in the cold confines of Canada (Ontario), but will definately take a look for No Kidding, or something similar near us. Maybe we should make up HBV buttons? Then again, you can probably tell us apart by the relaxed, happy expressions on our faces, and complete lack of pablum, saliva, or other bodily fluids on us.

Maddhatir - thanks for the warm welcome! I hear you - drinking has never caused me hallucinations, and I'll leave it at that. Thank you for not pointing out how many ways I've *******ized the spelling of "absinthe" - I'm an atrocious, atrotious, atrosious, horrible speller.

Yes, Bushmills, the finest single malt in the world (with Red Breast coming in a close second). Are you a fan?

PS - I hear Tim Burton's doing a remake of Alice in Wonderland, and that Depp is playing the mad hatter?

 

[maddhatir]

Maddhatir - thanks for the warm welcome! I hear you - drinking has never caused me hallucinations, and I'll leave it at that. Thank you for not pointing out how many ways I've *******ized the spelling of "absinthe" - I'm an atrocious, atrotious, atrosious, horrible speller.

Yes, Bushmills, the finest single malt in the world (with Red Breast coming in a close second). Are you a fan?

PS - I hear Tim Burton's doing a remake of Alice in Wonderland, and that Depp is playing the mad hatter?

Not really a fan of the stuff- DH is though. I prefer other ways to relax!

No, I am not one who finds pleasure in busting on people for their spelling- I am the worst speller- however, for some odd reason, I can spot a misspelled word a mile way- go figure. Spell check is my friend.....

I heard about JD playing The Mad Hatter- I have already went off elsewhere on the DIS about how Mr Depp and Tim need to cut the ties already! How many darn movies can Tim make that forces JD to look white faced and hideous! Give me a brake!

Bring on more JD roles like in Blow, FEAR AND LOATHING thumbsup2 Just thinking about that darn movie gives me giggles! ), even his role as Rochester in The Libertine was pretty good.

But I am anxiously awaiting to hear some movie news on Hunter's book- The Rum Diary

I was excited about JD playing Barnabas Collins in Dark Shadows but TIM has gotten his paws on that too!

 

[Bushmills]

I completely understand and empathize regarding your comment about alternative relaxation techniques. On an unrelated note, I like how your smiley for that line is a bright healthy green. You're an HST fan? NIIIICE! I'm a huge fan of HST, Bukowski, etc. I though Johnny Depp did an exceptional job in being Hunter. Have you seen the video "Breakfast with Hunter"? Sounds superficial but I've always had a soft spot for Bill Murrey's performance in "where the buffalo roam".

 

[maddhatir]

I completely understand and empathize regarding your comment about alternative relaxation techniques. On an unrelated note, I like how your smiley for that line is a bright healthy green. You're an HST fan? NIIIICE! I'm a huge fan of HST, Bukowski, etc. I though Johnny Depp did an exceptional job in being Hunter. Have you seen the video "Breakfast with Hunter"? Sounds superficial but I've always had a soft spot for Bill Murrey's performance in "where the buffalo roam".

I saw Where the Buffalo Roam also! Bill was great!

I have not seen, Breakfast with Hunter- but I recently watched Buy the Ticket, Take the Ride!

How about Gonzo: The Life and Work of Dr. Hunter S. Thompson have you gotten around to seeing that? It is not in many theaters.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

welcome Bushmills!!! Love the HBV term! Might have to co-opt that term!


ok, I have to admit.. I have a huge problem correcting people for spelling and grammatical errors! What can I say, I'm an editor??!! But hey, it's a messageboard, I mess up a lot too! So I just let it roll off my skin and move on!

I'd say definitely look into a No Kidding chapter or something similar. We have Child Free DFW here and we do big get togethers at least once a month or more! So maybe you could find something like that!?

 

[TKDisneylover]

Hi all! It's been a looooong time since I've posted on this thread so I'm sure no one remembers me from back in the day! I haven't had the chance to read a lot of this thread, but I plan to do that very soon. Hope everyone is doing well!

I was wondering if any of you have had to deal with this situation, and if so, how do you deal with it????? July was a busy month for me with lots of summer visiting with friends. We're all in our mid 30's and are busy having children. Well, everyone but me that is..... ALL of my get togethers have included children (kids ages range from 6 to newborn, and many of my friends are pregnant or trying to get pregnant). I actually have a bond with many of these kids so I found myself playing with the kids a lot, giving the parents a break. I like that to a point, but then I missed out on what little adult conversation there actually was... I love my friends dearly, but honestly......I was sooooo tired of having to clean up after kids, entertain them and much of the conversations revolved around kids too. I don't blame my friends for that since it's natural and I'd be worried if it wasn't that way to a point. I have no problem with that really, especially since I genuinely do enjoy children.

Yet, I found myself feeling a real sense of loss. I was longing for the get togethers of the past where we'd all laugh and joke, go out together, travel, etc... On one particular get together, it consisted of 4 friends and 6 children all under the age of 3. I left feeling tired, exhausted and embarrassingly, I cried as soon as I was out of sight of the house. We have so little in common these days. Maybe it will change as the kids get older, I'm not sure. I've considered joining groups of fellow-minded people as well. That may help, but I can't help but feel like I'm in mourning for my old friends. Does that make me selfish?

I'm curious to hear what others think about this situation. Thanks so much.

Welcome Back!

I fourth what Madd said. I would definitely suggest a girls night out, I would assume the conversations would start with kids, but you could always bring up the "old times" and change the direction of the conversations and bring back some of that laughter you enjoy.

 

[TKDisneylover]

As you probably know, wormwood is the second bitterest herb. If you follow your recipe which I am sure uses all sorts of other herbs (I have seen some recipes), it will taste better.

EJKorvette

Okay, I'm going to give this recipe a try and I will post and let you know how it turns out. I'm wondering about the availability of wormwood, will I find it. And I also read something of thujold, is it a different herb or is it what wormwood becomes? I've read a few conflicting things about those two herbs, if they are both herbs that is.

Wow, if you ever want an expedited trip into the surreal, try jumping from the first to the last page in a mult-hundred page post! I went from reading about couples with no kids, straight into Abisynth recipes and talk of mayonaisse (sp?).

Just thought I'd add my 2 cents, as it's reassuring to read about others in our situation. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now (surprised she's put up with me for this amount of time), and have never felt the need / desire to have kids (that and they passed several embarrasing municipal laws preventing me from procreating a few years back). However, like other posters, we've literally lost all of our friends to the HBV (having babies virus). They started having children, evolved their lives to revolve around said children, and over time, grew apart from us (or maybe the other way around). Now in our mid-late 30's, we still love going out and having fun like we used to, but have no friends in the same situation to have fun with. We LOVE Disney, and theme parks, but if we want to go with friends, we have to spend more time around the "child friendly" activities, then what we want to do.

Anyway, I digress, to previous poster's points, we have no kids, don't want children, and find ourselves alone in a sea of diapers and stressed out parents who used to like to have fun. Ah well, maybe we should start a club. We're spending Christmas in Disney again this year, which probably wouldn't be possible if we had youngin's.

PS - isn't wormwood the active ingredient in Absynth?

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Another fan of the HBV! My button would say "never caught on, to the HBV".

I've become addicted to Absinthe, and as you can see above I am going to try to make my own. DH & I are both fans of Bushmill's, however when visiting the local Irish pub we go for Tullemore Dew on the rocks, very smoooooth. It makes for a nice subtle buzz.

 

[maddhatir]

Okay, I'm going to give this recipe a try and I will post and let you know how it turns out. I'm wondering about the availability of wormwood, will I find it. And I also read something of thujold, is it a different herb or is it what wormwood becomes? I've read a few conflicting things about those two herbs, if they are both herbs that is.
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Tammy- this is what I found on thujone

What is the active ingredient in absinthe?

One of the consituents of wormwood, thujone is considered the culprit of absinthe's "added effect". Naturally occuring in many plants and flowers, thujone is found in large amounts in wormwood. A-thujone has a structure very similar to THC (tetrahyrdacannaboid).

hmmmmm- can't compare absinthe to the effects of THC- that is for sure! well......NOT that I would know anythng about THAT!

 

[TKDisneylover]

Tammy- this is what I found on thujone

What is the active ingredient in absinthe?

One of the consituents of wormwood, thujone is considered the culprit of absinthe's "added effect". Naturally occuring in many plants and flowers, thujone is found in large amounts in wormwood. A-thujone has a structure very similar to THC (tetrahyrdacannaboid).

hmmmmm- can't compare absinthe to the effects of THC- that is for sure! well......NOT that I would know anythng about THAT!

Oh my, this is getting very interesting! Now I'm really excited about making this recipe. I did a search and you are right about it being a naturally occuring effect from the wormwood plant. That's obviously the hullucinagenic quality in the absinthe (well at least from the stuff they made in 18th century France). SWEET!

By the way, I never inhaled!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Welcome!

We are now comfortable enough with each other to be able to discuss deviled eggs, mayo and absinthe!

Hmmm... Maybe if you had the deviled eggs w/the absinthe you would see the green fairy?

 

[MistyMoss]

By the way, I never inhaled!

Nobody ever inhaled. Just ask Bill Clinton!!! I graduated high school in 1978. I don't know anything about such things.

This doesn' compare with absinthe but we had some gourmet (yes, you read that correctly) jello shots this past week when we were down at the lake. Margarita, Sex on the Beach and my personal favorite......Chocolate covered cherry. That last one is sooooo yummy. It is just cherry jello, water and creme de cacao. Maybe a little extra on the booze part too.

 

[maddhatir]

Oh my, this is getting very interesting! Now I'm really excited about making this recipe. I did a search and you are right about it being a naturally occuring effect from the wormwood plant. That's obviously the hullucinagenic quality in the absinthe (well at least from the stuff they made in 18th century France). SWEET!

By the way, I never inhaled!

I never inhaled either- Bad- bad- bad!

Tammy- you should just eat the wormwood forget the darn absinthe

Hmmm... Maybe if you had the deviled eggs w/the absinthe you would see the green fairy?

Hey- I am up for the challange!

 

[zima-cheryl]

This doesn' compare with absinthe but we had some gourmet (yes, you read that correctly) jello shots this past week when we were down at the lake. Margarita, Sex on the Beach and my personal favorite......Chocolate covered cherry. That last one is sooooo yummy. It is just cherry jello, water and creme de cacao. Maybe a little extra on the booze part too.

I'm sooo all over the chocolate covered cherry... I know what I'm fixing this weekend!

 

[maddhatir]

It is just cherry jello, water and creme de cacao. Maybe a little extra on the booze part too.

I am so mad- those jello shots always look so good (and what you described sounds crazy yummy!) but since I am a veggie- I do not eat jello!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

ok those jello shots sounds crazy good! Can't say I've ever had any described as "gourmet" Just the good old ghetto kind for us!!

 

[KirklandTutu]

Hmmm... Maybe if you had the deviled eggs w/the absinthe you would see the green fairy?

Oh my dear lord no...

I an't believe I ate a dozen deviled eggs last night.

 

[MistyMoss]

ok those jello shots sounds crazy good! Can't say I've ever had any described as "gourmet" Just the good old ghetto kind for us!!

Oh, the kids brought the ghetto ones. They had so much vodka in them I'm surprised we weren't seeing some kind of fairies with those.

Here is the recipe for the chocolate covered cherry ones if anyone wants it:

Chocolate Covered Cherry Jello Shots recipe
This recipe takes two very popular recipes, Chocolate Covered Cherries and Jello Shots, and combines them to make a great dessert shot.

1 cup creme de cacao
4 oz package cherry jell-o
1 cup hot water


Here are some more I have in my recipe folder:

Margarita Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package lime Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
4 oz. tequila
4 oz. sweet and sour or Margarita mix
Substitute watermelon Jell-O for lime for a melon margarita.

Strawberry Daiquiri Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package wild strawberry Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) Boiling water
6 oz. white rum
1 oz. sweet and sour or Margarita mix

Fuzzy Navel Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package orange Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
2 oz. vodka
6 oz. peach schnapps

Cherry Amaretto Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package cherry Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
2 oz. cold water
6 oz. amaretto

Sex on the Beach Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package orange Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling cranberry juice
3 oz. peach schnapps
5 oz. vodka

The twenty something kids were slurping down the Sex on the Beach ones like they were just jello. They all looked pretty rough the next day too. They haven't learned to pace themselves like us old folks.

 

[Goobergal99]

Oh, the kids brought the ghetto ones. They had so much vodka in them I'm surprised we weren't seeing some kind of fairies with those.

Here is the recipe for the chocolate covered cherry ones if anyone wants it:

Chocolate Covered Cherry Jello Shots recipe
This recipe takes two very popular recipes, Chocolate Covered Cherries and Jello Shots, and combines them to make a great dessert shot.

1 cup creme de cacao
4 oz package cherry jell-o
1 cup hot water


Here are some more I have in my recipe folder:

Margarita Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package lime Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
4 oz. tequila
4 oz. sweet and sour or Margarita mix
Substitute watermelon Jell-O for lime for a melon margarita.

Strawberry Daiquiri Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package wild strawberry Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) Boiling water
6 oz. white rum
1 oz. sweet and sour or Margarita mix

Fuzzy Navel Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package orange Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
2 oz. vodka
6 oz. peach schnapps

Cherry Amaretto Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package cherry Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling water
2 oz. cold water
6 oz. amaretto

Sex on the Beach Jell-O Shot
3 oz. package orange Jell-O
8 oz. (1 cup) boiling cranberry juice
3 oz. peach schnapps
5 oz. vodka

The twenty something kids were slurping down the Sex on the Beach ones like they were just jello. They all looked pretty rough the next day too. They haven't learned to pace themselves like us old folks.

yum

 

[TKDisneylover]

Tammy- you should just eat the wormwood forget the darn absinthe

Now that sounds like an idea because I just looked at my recipe for Absinthe "Liqueur" and it takes 6 weeks & 2 days to "age properly". So I guess I will not be posting my results for quite a while.

Oh my dear lord no...

I an't believe I ate a dozen deviled eggs last night.

Here is the recipe for the chocolate covered cherry ones if anyone wants it:

Chocolate Covered Cherry Jello Shots recipe
This recipe takes two very popular recipes, Chocolate Covered Cherries and Jello Shots, and combines them to make a great dessert shot.

1 cup creme de cacao
4 oz package cherry jell-o
1 cup hot water

The twenty something kids were slurping down the Sex on the Beach ones like they were just jello. They all looked pretty rough the next day too. They haven't learned to pace themselves like us old folks.

Thanks so much for the recipe's they all sound great! I can't wait to make these for a party and impress everyone with "gourmet" jello shots!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

thanks for the recipes!! I'll have to try them out soon! I haven't had jello shots in several years! lol. so it should be interesting.