Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Chris Rex]

Welcome Chris!
Yes, we have gotten more sarcastic as we have gone on. If you read them all then you know we got the trolls now and then trying to convince us of the error of our ways. After that we gave up on being PC. Gloves were off and now it is just the childfree.

Great to know. I havent quite read ALL the posts yet, but I'm so riveted that it's inevitable. Thanks for the warm 'welcomes'

Adding to the propoganda, I wanted to put forth my favorite observation: The more that people have trouble with their own kids, they more they seem to bug me about when I'm having some of my own.

Typical phone conversation I seem to be having lately:

ME: Hey Phyllis, how ya ya been?

PHYLLIS: (Sounds of crashing plates in the background) Oh, everything is going well. I'm.. JOEY, STOP HITTING YOUR BROTHER. (Deep breath) Jesus. Anyway, things are the same, my boss gave me a hard time this week. Remember how I told you that (More crashing plates) ... one sec ... KYLE! DID I OR DID I NOT JUST TELL YOU TO STOP PLAYING WITH THE DISHES!.

ME: You know, I can call you back if...

PHYLLIS: No no... why? How's your wife? Is she still... hang on... FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, I WILL DESTROY EACH OF YOU WITH MY BARE HANDS IF YOU DO NOT SHUT UP RIGHT THIS SECOND. (Sound of crashes plates ceases.)

ME: ...

PHYLLIS: Sorry about that. So, things are well with the wife? "When are you having kids?"




With awe,
Chris Rex

 

[TKDisneylover]

Here is another reason why DH and I are thinking of not having children. I was stabbed by one of my students with a pencil. The little "darling" was having one of his daily tantrums because he couldn't get what he wanted and decided to not only kick me but to take a pencil and stab me in the hand. No blood thank goodness but how do you think his wonderful parents reacted? They were angry at me!! I was absolutely floored! This child is spoiled beyond belief. He runs that house but that doesn't fly in my classroom. Sorry bud, but the world does not revolve around you. What was his tantrum today about? He wanted another child's birthday cupcake in addition to the one he was currently eating. Thank goodness I have a supportive admin who shot the parents down. The end result? The little "darling" was suspended for the next week. We will have a week of peace now.

My DH works at a school and there is a "little darling" who attends that actually has a staff person to follow her around everywhere she goes. She will just get up in the middle of class and walk out wandering the halls, yelling and throwing fits about nothing. The parents are Sheriff's deputy's(she's an only child) who talk to her like a 2-year old (she's in the 5th grade). They have been allowing this child to do this for 2 years now! What happens when she gets into middle school?! The other day she kicked her shoe off and it flew in the air and onto the roof of the school. First she wanted someone to get it down for her, but then thougt a second and said, "nevermind, if it stays up there my parents will buy me a new pair!" Good thing they stopped at one kid!

Thank goodness you were not injured severly!

 

[LoveStitch626]

Guess I haven't reached that level of rudeness yet- I try not to lower myself to others' level

Sorry, but it's not rudeness. People where I live are beyond rude. Some parents will say "Let this lady wash her hands" and I give them a grateful thank you. The parents I was refering to are the ones who give me a "aren't they precious" grin like I'm supposed to be amused at their rats playing in the sink. Where I live it's fend for yourself or get run over.

 

[Liisa]

BTW, you've got a beautiful dog. Is he a newf? Dh is wanting to add a newf to our family while I'm wanting to add another saint LOL.

LoveStitch626,

Nope, not a newf (though I know he looked like one). My Yeti was a Tibetan Mastiff. We lost him this past January at the way too young age of 6. I posted his story a few pages back (page 70 I think) - if you were at all interested. We miss him terribly. He was a wonderful guy.

Thanks...he was beautiful! We are Tibetan Mastiff people (although I love almost any big furry dogs. If you have pics of your Saint Bernard, I'd love to see them!!! The one BIG benefit to Tibetans - no drool and they only shed once per year... nice perk on a big, furry guy!)

Liisa

 

[Liisa]

Sorry, but it's not rudeness. People where I live are beyond rude. Some parents will say "Let this lady wash her hands" and I give them a grateful thank you. The parents I was refering to are the ones who give me a "aren't they precious" grin like I'm supposed to be amused at their rats playing in the sink. Where I live it's fend for yourself or get run over.

I have to agree. I would have waited patiently for a few minutes, but when the kid started playing in the sink and the parent didn't keep things moving, I would have leaned over and taken care of myself as well. If a parent is trying, I have no problem giving them the benefit of the doubt. It's when they expect the world around them to cater to their kid, that's when I can't help myself... I think a pointed look at dear old mom and an "excuse me sweetie, my dinner is getting cold" would work wonders in that situation.

 

[luvthemouse71]

I don't know what came over me but I just posted in that "nanny 911" thread on the CB, and said some very blunt things. Namely, that some kids are just born nasty, cranky etc. I also brought up the fact that even notorious psychopaths were once someone's precious little tot. I think I just did the Dis Board equivalent of poking a hornets nest with a large stick...Maybe I'm PMSing.

 

[maddhatir]

Great to know. I havent quite read ALL the posts yet, but I'm so riveted that it's inevitable. Thanks for the warm 'welcomes'

Adding to the propoganda, I wanted to put forth my favorite observation: The more that people have trouble with their own kids, they more they seem to bug me about when I'm having some of my own.

Typical phone conversation I seem to be having lately:

ME: Hey Phyllis, how ya ya been?

PHYLLIS: (Sounds of crashing plates in the background) Oh, everything is going well. I'm.. JOEY, STOP HITTING YOUR BROTHER. (Deep breath) Jesus. Anyway, things are the same, my boss gave me a hard time this week. Remember how I told you that (More crashing plates) ... one sec ... KYLE! DID I OR DID I NOT JUST TELL YOU TO STOP PLAYING WITH THE DISHES!.

ME: You know, I can call you back if...

PHYLLIS: No no... why? How's your wife? Is she still... hang on... FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, I WILL DESTROY EACH OF YOU WITH MY BARE HANDS IF YOU DO NOT SHUT UP RIGHT THIS SECOND. (Sound of crashes plates ceases.)

ME: ...

PHYLLIS: Sorry about that. So, things are well with the wife? "When are you having kids?"




With awe,
Chris Rex

Welcome "Oh childless one"

 

[Liisa]

I don't know what came over me but I just posted in that "nanny 911" thread on the CB, and said some very blunt things. Namely, that some kids are just born nasty, cranky etc. I also brought up the fact that even notorious psychopaths were once someone's precious little tot. I think I just did the Dis Board equivalent of poking a hornets nest with a large stick...Maybe I'm PMSing.

Now I'm heading over to take a peak. This should get very interesting, very quickly. In my experience, many people with kids are PRO KIDS (bold and underlined). I agree, I think some people out there are just mean from the get go and not much mom or dad can do to change that. (where the heck is that stirring up the pot smiley when I need it?!!)

 

[av01bps]

Bravo to everyone who chooses not to have kids. As a happy and married mom of 2 DD (and a High school teacher), I know people who see kids as their accessories and do not "enjoy' the work of parenting. Bravo to all of you who make this perfectly normal and appropriate choice!

How about "Kids would hamper our wild nightlife!" as an explanation to those who feel the need to ask why!?

 

[maddhatir]

Bravo to everyone who chooses not to have kids. As a happy and married mom of 2 DD (and a High school teacher), I know people who see kids as their accessories and do not "enjoy' the work of parenting. Bravo to all of you who make this perfectly normal and appropriate choice!

How about "Kids would hamper our wild nightlife!" as an explanation to those who feel the need to ask why!?

Yes- what would the kiddies say while watching mommy and daddy swinging from the chandelier!

I couldn't give that kind of thing up for a kid!

 

[aclov]

LoveStitch626,

Nope, not a newf (though I know he looked like one). My Yeti was a Tibetan Mastiff. We lost him this past January at the way too young age of 6. I posted his story a few pages back (page 70 I think) - if you were at all interested. We miss him terribly. He was a wonderful guy.

Thanks...he was beautiful! We are Tibetan Mastiff people (although I love almost any big furry dogs. If you have pics of your Saint Bernard, I'd love to see them!!! The one BIG benefit to Tibetans - no drool and they only shed once per year... nice perk on a big, furry guy!)

Liisa

Liisa - just want to say I'm sorry for your loss. My furbaby is almost 6 and it would kill me if anything happened to him. He was a beautiful dog and it sounds like you provided a wonderful life to him and he was very much loved.

 

[druidia]

For those of you who are able to help, please see this link over on the CB.

My furbabies didn't come from the Humane Society, but one of them did come from the pound and the second one was on his way to the HS before we took him from a friend.

Please help if you can!

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1415496

 

[Liisa]

aclov,

Thank you... I still have my moments and my mini-breakdowns. I was devastated (as you can imagine with a 6 year old furbaby of your own). The hardest part was not having time to prepare. One weekend he was pretty much fine (his normal health issues aside), then the following weekend, he was so sick they had oxygen tubes in his nose and he was on a feeding tube. Life just doesn't make any sense sometimes.

Enjoy your little one!!!!
Liisa

 

[Liisa]

Where did everybody go? I'm certain all of us northerners have gone into hibernation!!! Brrrrr.... if ever I needed a WDW trip!

April showers.... bah humbug!

 

[Chris Rex]

Where did everybody go? I'm certain all of us northerners have gone into hibernation!!! Brrrrr.... if ever I needed a WDW trip!

April showers.... bah humbug!

Good afternoon After the 'hell rain' yesterday, we are SOoooooo going to jump in on the free Dining Plan stuff. Need a break from the Northeast, even if it IS half a year away!

 

[Liisa]

We are heading down from Sept 18th - 22nd. No free dining for us though (although I wouldn't trade my DVC for free dining anyway). I wish I could break away for a trip in the next month...but no such luck. I've got a brother in Tampa who is getting married in June so that will be my next vacation. They definitely will be having children which will be nice for my mother... she will make a wonderful grandmother to kids that don't have four paws and furry ears!

 

[maddhatir]

I can't believe as bad as it was raining yesterday- it was pretty warm- I was sitting on my porch DISing on my laptop-- and this morning I woke up @ 5:30am and just stared outside thinking---- "what the?" "is THAT snow?"

 

[maddhatir]

I do have a little story to tell- This weekend I attended a wedding shower- I noticed that my cousin's daughter was not there (she is maybe 20- 21?) and we got to talking about her daughter and her DBF just got back from their first Disney trip together and LOVED IT!

We were discussing her daughter a little more and my cousin told me that her daughter is using DH and I as "role models" in their relationship and DO NOT want kids- I said- wow- I am very flattered!

 

[Chris Rex]

We were discussing her daughter a little more and my cousin told me that her daughter is using DH and I as "role models" in their relationship and DO NOT want kids- I said- wow- I am very flattered!

Do you know how many people that will probably upset? Tell them to keep it quiet... you know that the rest of the family will not be so understanding.

That being said, that is AWESOME!

 

[Chris Rex]

We are heading down from Sept 18th - 22nd. No free dining for us though (although I wouldn't trade my DVC for free dining anyway).

We're either heading down the week of the 9th or the 16th. This free dining thing has us hooked.
After eating in all the best restaurants last year, we returned home only to find our palates hopelessly refined.

Never thought it would happen to me.

It took, no sh-t, about 2 weeks before I could taste my 'normal everyday' food again.

Needless to say, we're hooked now. It's the only vacation where we're not trying to watch what eat. Instead, it's all about 'Ok, We're eating here on Monday, there on Tuesday...' etc etc