Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[dolcezena]

I was reading today a article about Pet Etiquette. It basically said that not everyone is a animal lover and there should be "basic rules" such as peeing, licking, jumping on people etc. And I started thinking there needs to be something like this for children that is given to parents.

Here here! (Or should that be hear hear! Darn it, I have to stop reading that grammar thread...)

I'm a pet owner AND (shudder now people) a smoker. I respect other people's feelings on pets & smoking - I don't bring my dogs into restaurants, I don't light up wherever I please, but I'm expected to deal with cute little Sally "expressing her creativity" when she throws her mashed potatoes at a restaurant.

 

[LoveStitch626]

Here here! (Or should that be hear hear! Darn it, I have to stop reading that grammar thread...)

I'm a pet owner AND (shudder now people) a smoker. I respect other people's feelings on pets & smoking - I don't bring my dogs into restaurants, I don't light up wherever I please, but I'm expected to deal with cute little Sally "expressing her creativity" when she throws her mashed potatoes at a restaurant.

Same here to a tee. You know, I've got the "pets live here you don't" thing posted on my fridge LOL so I'm guilty of being a NaziMommytoMyDog but I do put him outside when I know some people are coming over. Maybe parents can just toss their kids out in the backyard when adult company comes over??

 

[ProudMonkey]

This thread makes me feel safe and warm. I feel like I finally found people who understand my wife and I.

We also dont plan on having kids and get TONS of questions why. We got married young also so at first it was always "Why did you get married? Was she pregnant?" Then a couple years later it was "Wheres my grandkids?" and "When you two going to finally have kids?" Like the others nothing helps. I usually say "When you pay my mortgage off and cover our medical insurance."

As for the kids who are always touching you while your in line, I get it a lot also. Apparently I smell like most moms who frequent the Disney parks. I seem to get kids hugging my leg alot while not paying attention. Usually I just look at their parents and stare at them until they get it.

 

[dolcezena]

Same here to a tee. You know, I've got the "pets live here you don't" thing posted on my fridge LOL so I'm guilty of being a NaziMommytoMyDog but I do put him outside when I know some people are coming over. Maybe parents can just toss their kids out in the backyard when adult company comes over??

LMFAOSHISWOMN!!!!!!

Can I use you as proof to my mom that I'm not alone in my pet obssession? She used to spend all her time bitc....ummm, complaining about the dogs when she stayed here!

PS - Try living next door to a daycare, like I do. Granted, most of the kids are pretty good, but it reminds me EVERY day why I have dogs & a cat, not a kid.

 

[luvthemouse71]

This has been a while back. I don't remember what thread this was on, but it was complaining about people jumping all over others. Someone posted that they thought there were alot of angry SAHM's. Of course then it got really ugly. Funny thing was the ones that were peeved the most had already stated they were SAHM's. Go figure.

What really aggravates me is many people don't read a post completely. They find something that makes them angry and run with it..especially the RP's(rabid parents). I guess reading comprehension skills are the first to go when you reproduce!

 

[Hixski]

Hey, I got an apology of sorts. Here it is.

That was a very good comeback!
Some parents do NOT watch their children. I'll give you that. My son is autistic, and he was a butt feeler. We were always pullin him away from somebody's butt. He seemed obsessed with them. He also like to just lean on them. they were the perfect height. If the parents werent paying attention, it should be brought to their attention. We always watched our children. Some parents dont. I just objected to the profanity, not really the action.

Sorry for the flame. It occured to me that I had flamed after I did it and I remember thinking. "Ive been on the DIS too long". I try not to flame. Theres usually a better way to word things to make your point. I slipped.



Now we know why I got flamed. They have a butt feeler themselves. I will have to remember that for a small child a** is a very bad word. Much worse than what is coming out of all the teenagers acting way too cool. Or the father screaming how he spent X amount of dollars using alot of very bad words.

 

[dolcezena]

wow, sanity reigns

OK, I just put that in to see what time cane up - I am now apparently setting my watch by DIS time....

 

[Miss Mo]

I haven't had time to read all this - just thought I'd put in my penny's worth as this is an issue very close to home for me at the moment. I am 33 and have been married to my 2nd (and final!!!) husband for almost a year. We were looking at a showhouse at the weekend and when the woman in the showhouse found out we already have a decent sized house and no children she basically told us not to be so stupid, that we didn't need a bigger house and that we should go home and fill our house with children so that we had something to fill our time!!!!!!!!!

Now this sparked the whole kids/no kids conversation. I am on the fence about it and genuinely REALLY confused. I LOVE my life the way it is, I love my husband, my house, my job, my lifestyle and I don't want to lose that. I am terrified after one bad marriage of doing anything that would ruin the great relationship I have now. On the other hand I see the fun that all my friends are having with their great kids and can see the attraction ... but I also see their lack of money and lack of social lives!! My husband works shifts so our social lives together are limited anyway and I wouldn't want it to disappear altogether.

And to top it all if we are going to be parents I don't want to leave it til I'm much older!! How do people make such a big decision??? Terrifying me to death!! I am also so fed up of everyone asking us when I don't actually know what I want myself! Grr!!

mo x

 

[maddhatir]

This thread makes me feel safe and warm. I feel like I finally found people who understand my wife and I.

We also dont plan on having kids and get TONS of questions why. We got married young also so at first it was always "Why did you get married? Was she pregnant?" Then a couple years later it was "Wheres my grandkids?" and "When you two going to finally have kids?" Like the others nothing helps. I usually say "When you pay my mortgage off and cover our medical insurance."

As for the kids who are always touching you while your in line, I get it a lot also. Apparently I smell like most moms who frequent the Disney parks. I seem to get kids hugging my leg alot while not paying attention. Usually I just look at their parents and stare at them until they get it.

Welcome to the thread! WOW and you chose us to make your first post!

 

[maddhatir]

I haven't had time to read all this - just thought I'd put in my penny's worth as this is an issue very close to home for me at the moment. I am 33 and have been married to my 2nd (and final!!!) husband for almost a year. We were looking at a showhouse at the weekend and when the woman in the showhouse found out we already have a decent sized house and no children she basically told us not to be so stupid, that we didn't need a bigger house and that we should go home and fill our house with children so that we had something to fill our time!!!!!!!!!

Now this sparked the whole kids/no kids conversation. I am on the fence about it and genuinely REALLY confused. I LOVE my life the way it is, I love my husband, my house, my job, my lifestyle and I don't want to lose that. I am terrified after one bad marriage of doing anything that would ruin the great relationship I have now. On the other hand I see the fun that all my friends are having with their great kids and can see the attraction ... but I also see their lack of money and lack of social lives!! My husband works shifts so our social lives together are limited anyway and I wouldn't want it to disappear altogether.

And to top it all if we are going to be parents I don't want to leave it til I'm much older!! How do people make such a big decision??? Terrifying me to death!! I am also so fed up of everyone asking us when I don't actually know what I want myself! Grr!!

mo x

Welcome! You came to the right place- you will soon learn to use sarcasm when addressing the idiots out there who do not know how to keep their mouths shut!--

 

[kennancat]

We were looking at a showhouse at the weekend and when the woman in the showhouse found out we already have a decent sized house and no children she basically told us not to be so stupid, that we didn't need a bigger house and that we should go home and fill our house with children so that we had something to fill our time!

All I can say is . Clearly this woman needed a refresher on her selling skills. I think I'd try to call her supervisor and let them know that you were really interested until you encountered this employee.

 

[plgrn]

Welcome to the thread! WOW and you chose us to make your first post!

We feel special!

I am on the fence about it and genuinely REALLY confused. I LOVE my life the way it is, I love my husband, my house, my job, my lifestyle and I don't want to lose that. I am terrified after one bad marriage of doing anything that would ruin the great relationship I have now. On the other hand I see the fun that all my friends are having with their great kids and can see the attraction ... but I also see their lack of money and lack of social lives!! My husband works shifts so our social lives together are limited anyway and I wouldn't want it to disappear altogether.

And to top it all if we are going to be parents I don't want to leave it til I'm much older!! How do people make such a big decision??? Terrifying me to death!! I am also so fed up of everyone asking us when I don't actually know what I want myself! Grr!!

mo x

Fencesitter here too! You've come to the right thread.

 

[plgrn]

Madd! Where were you yesterday? The freebie board was hurting without ya. You didn't go off and get a life outside the Dis did ya?

 

[plgrn]

OK, I just put that in to see what time cane up - I am now apparently setting my watch by DIS time....

Now you know the obsession!

"soon you will be the master"

 

[maddhatir]

Madd! Where were you yesterday? The freebie board was hurting without ya. You didn't go off and get a life outside the Dis did ya?

all morning!

I called the pharmacy to find out what to take to make it stop- they asked me if I was pregnant NOOOOOO!

I was lying in bed all day long.

I am feeling a bit better today- at least I am able to be vertical with out any consequences

 

[plgrn]

they asked me if I was pregnant NOOOOOO!

AT least you got a good laugh yesterday! Sorry you are feeling bad. "The plague" is going around here too. Feel better!

 

[maddhatir]

AT least you got a good laugh yesterday! Sorry you are feeling bad. "The plague" is going around here too. Feel better!

Thanks!

 

[dolcezena]

Now you know the obsession!

Trust me, the obssession bit me on my a** many days ago.

Work??? I have to work today??? Crap - oh wait! Work = pay cheque = $$$ for Disney!!! The animals can learn to LIKE generic pet food! They don't need special little "flavour pockets" in their food!!

 

[dolcezena]

I did it again - expressed an opinion on the CB - I need sane, normal non-judgmental/judgmental to talk to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[plgrn]

I did it again - expressed an opinion on the CB

What were you thinking?