
Arghh - okay, the "Woman 35 and older who've had babies" thread on the CB is depressing me

We're 32 right now, and I'm back on the fence about the whole kids thing. I really wish I could pick a side and stay on it! I definitely don't want kids right now, but I can't help but think that if I ever do, there are only so many years left to do it. And I swear, every couple I know has had fertility problems, regardless of age. I know as least two couples that IVF'd and suspect a third is thinking about it. And it's so unfair that women have a shorter "shelf life", so to speak, then men. I actually made a couple of calls when I was still doing my undergrad to find out if I could have my eggs frozen. AT the time the technology just wasnt there yet. If I ever do have a daughter, I'll offer to pay for hers at 20 just so she doesn't have to feel pressured later
At this point, I think I know myself well enough to know that I'll always wonder what would happen if I'd made the other choice, whether we have kids or not. That's been the hardest part for me about getting older - it feels like every choice I make reduces the number of choices I have left. I know we just need to make the best decision possible with the information we have now and decide that we're going to be happy with it. When I'm being rational, I really do think that happiness is a decision; if you decide you're going to find the things in your life that are good and enjoy them, you'll be happy. If you look for things to be depressed about, you'll find them too no matter how good your life is.
And now my little pity party/hissy fit is over and you can return to your usual DISsing