I liked the Ten Commandments.....this is so true in DH and my situation. Here are some things we have to deal with because we are childfree.
I worked over 420 hours of overtime last year. Did the same amount of OT the year before. I have never left work early in at least the last 3 or 4 years. I have not called in sick in the last 4 or 5 years. Don't even get me started about how much time some people take off.
DH insurance has a family plan. If spouse works they must get their own insurance from their work (common I know) then DH insurance will be secondary. The kicker though is this....DH insurance is great. They have no weekly or monthly co-pay just the co-pay you do when you go to the doctors. The problem is he has a family plan but I pay 32.00 a week to have mine and then his is secondary. He knows alot of people he works with that have the DH and a SAHM and 3 or 4 kids. His insurance pays for everyone with nothing prorated or anything. They complain about how much health care costs are but are doing it to themselves. DH and I pay $128.00 a month on his "family plan" because I work. The family of 6 pay nothing a month because the SAHM does not work. I think this is just crazy.
Rant over now to the following:
Ten Commandments of Workplace Etiquette in Family-Friendly America
1. Thou shalt volunteer to work late so that mothers can leave at 2:00 P.M. to watch their sons play soccer, for a mother's time is more valuable than thine.
2. Thou shalt never complain when important meetings are broken up at 2:30 by phone calls from children reporting in after school lest thou be considered indifferent to the importance of parental bonding.
3. Thou shalt take thy vacations when no one else wants time off so parents can take theirs during summer, over Christmas, or on any other school or "family" holiday.
4. Thou shalt not apply the phrase "equal pay for equal work" to thy company's benefits plan, althought it offers mothers and fathers thousands of dollars in perks thou can't use.
5. Thou shalt willingly do two jobs for the price of one while mothers are on six-month maternity and paternity leaves.
6. Thou shalt never ask for a long leave to write a book, travel, or fulfill thy heart's desire because no desire other than children could possibly be worth thy company's inconvenience.
7. Thou shalt volunteer to take frequent business trips to places like Abilene, Kansas, or Cleveland, Ohio, so that parents can spend their evenings watching ER after they put the kids to bed.
8. Thou shalt promote thy "family-friendly" company as a firm that cherishes women because everyone knows that women equals mothers.
9. Thou shalt never utter the words " but that's not my problem" when a parent rushes out the door during the final negotiations of a corporate merger, explaining that he has promised to take the children to the movies.
10. Thou shalt smile graciously when thy coworker brings her three-year-old to the office and allows him to turn the papers on thy desk into airplanes.
Eventually, the monthly visits go away, but until they're completely gone, you'll experience "spotting", aka a 12-week period. Between that and the mood swings, wasn't too keen on doing the second shot. However, I figured I'd gone through it for twelve weeks at that point, might as well go for the second round and see if was the same or any better. Luckily, it got better, and the next time it was better still. By the end of the first year, it was marvelous - no periods, only had to deal with BC every few months, prevention rate is better than most pills, etc. I did gain weight while I was on it, but I don't feel like I can blame that on it because I was already gaining weight before I started on it. I did lose the extra weight and although I've gained it back (about 25lbs over goal weight) I still feel like that's more to do with too many trips to the bakery and not exercising. I have decided to go off it soon because I do wonder if it's causing me to be depressed at times and I think a lower dose pill might not affect me the same way. I've also read about possible negative impact that it may have on bone density, so that's important to consider too. I had a bone scan a year or so ago just to make sure that I was okay (I was fine). Like I said, it has its good and bad points, but what BC doesn't, right? I think it's a great option for any woman who needs a more permanent BC but either can't or doesn't want to go for sterilization just yet.
