I have always said that I would never have kids. I don't want them, I don't really like being around them for long periods. I have 9 neices and nephews, and 4 god sons. I love being able to give them back at the end of the day. I work as an RN in Pediatrics, and love coming home to a relaxed environment. Granted, I work in an area where every child I come into contact with is incredibly sick....some cases terribly sick. That is in itself, my form of birth control. Do I hate kids? No. Am I a terrible person because I don't believe that every person in the world should create children? No. I think it is a personal opinion - plain and simple. Some people believe that just because you are in a relationship, married, or living together, you have a rightful duty to bring a child into this world. I am SO sick and tired of telling people that I am not and will not have kids simply out of "duty" to my relationship. My boyfriend and myself both know how the other feels and are content knowing that we will be childless.
That being said, we understand that we have goals and dreams in our lives that do not include children. For instance, I would love to utilize my degree and travel and do volunteer work. With children, this would not be as easy, especially in some of the countries that I want to go to. Yet, some people still insist that I need to have children to visit me when I am old. I don't know what I have to do or say to these people anymore. Just the other day, I literally got into a disagreement with a man at work because he said where he comes from, it is expected that people have children. I told him it wasn't that way here....yet he insisted that I will one day regret my decision. Again, I cannot stress how sick and tired I am of hearing these comments, like I am some kind of freak living in this world and not wanting children.
All I have to say is....if you love your children, that's great. If you cannot understand why someone wouldn't want a couple bundles of joy, then try to see it from our perspective....we wonder why you want to have multiple bundles of joy. If you are happy with them, great....but don't assume that everyone else in the world would be.
