Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[zima-cheryl]

As of yesterday, DW and I have a niece. We're going to visit DW's brother, sister in law and baby tomorrow.

Keep your fingers crossed that seeing the new baby and all the attention being lavished on her (first grandchild on either side) doesn't give DW any crazy ideas!

I've got 5 nieces & nephews and not one of them has triggered any urges.

Keep in mind along w/seeing all the attention happening for your SIL & new baby you also get to see the dirty diapers, nursing, exhastion from minimal sleep & other things that happen w/a new baby too.

I find watching my SIL for about 2 seconds convinces me I could never do that.

That said go enjoy that new niece. When she gets older you can spoil her rotten, hype her up on sugar & send her home!

 

[Hixski]

We have very dear friends that now live in California. They came to see us last year so we will go this spring to see them. They have 2 girls that are now 8 and 10. We adore them and they adore us. They will stick to us like velcro the minute we get there. We will have a great time but by the time we get on the plane 3 days later we will be glad to go. They are really great kids but 3 days of nonstop kids is exausting.

 

[freemore]

DH and I have 3 married adult children and 4 grandchildren who we have had to our house for Sunday dinner almost every sunday for many many years, for the last several years we have taken them out to eat for Sunday dinner because it was getting crowded and noisy at our houise. But now DH is retiring in a few months and we feel we can no longer afford to take them them out to eat the way we have been. My husband told them we woulding be able to afford taking them out to eat on Sundays when he retires in a few months and wondered would they like to take turns having dinner at each other's houses. Only one child responded positively and the subject hasn't come up since. Any ideas?

 

[maddhatir]

DH and I have 3 married adult children and 4 grandchildren who we have had to our house for Sunday dinner almost every sunday for many many years, for the last several years we have taken them out to eat for Sunday dinner because it was getting crowded and noisy at our houise. But now DH is retiring in a few months and we feel we can no longer afford to take them them out to eat the way we have been. My husband told them we woulding be able to afford taking them out to eat on Sundays when he retires in a few months and wondered would they like to take turns having dinner at each other's houses. Only one child responded positively and the subject hasn't come up since. Any ideas?

Only one! Wow- sounds a bit selfish of the other 2! I would make arrangements for the one family to have dinner at their home and see if the rest follow along- however, suggest each family brings something to dinner- like a pot luck

 

[freemore]

Thanks, that sounds like a great idea!

 

[danv3]

For the record, it doesn't seem like DW got any crazy ideas from seeing our new niece! She liked holding her, but she also liked passing her back to new mom and dad after a while.

 

[TXTurtles]

For the record, it doesn't seem like DW got any crazy ideas from seeing our new niece! She liked holding her, but she also liked passing her back to new mom and dad after a while.

Good. FWIW, I've found that working with kids is the best child-deterrent I could have. Nothing like seeing what it's really like (crying, diapers, and all) to get you to re-evaluate just how much you want those nursing home visitors.

 

[maddhatir]

For the record, it doesn't seem like DW got any crazy ideas from seeing our new niece! She liked holding her, but she also liked passing her back to new mom and dad after a while.

Well THANK GOODNESS she passed the test! One less thing to worry about!

I found this little guy to explain the feelings (I) get around kids........................

eeeeek!

 

[Chellymouse]

DH and I have been married for 7 1/2 years, celebrated our honeymoon and 2 anniversaries at WDW and are plenty happy about. People have finally stopped asking us why we have chosen not to have children, however, we had to get to the point of near rudeness to make people understand that while it is their privilege to have children, it is our privilege not to have children. Another couple (good friends of ours) also do not have children and the 4 of us spent a week at WDW together this past August. We had a wonderful time, especially at PI. No need to worry about paying for babysitting service or having kids "ready to go" long before we are. Also a great way to take advantage of those "late night" extra hours! Congratulations to you for sticking to your guns and doing what's right for you!

 

[danv3]

Not to get all political, but what's up with extra tax rebates to people who have kids? They already get several significant tax advantages. Now we're going to reward them even more?

DINKs spend money too!

http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/01/24/economic.stimulus/index.html

 

[Hixski]

Not to get all political, but what's up with extra tax rebates to people who have kids? They already get several significant tax advantages. Now we're going to reward them even more?

DINKs spend money too!

http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/01/24/economic.stimulus/index.html

At least we get in on this one too. The last rebate they had was JUST for people with children. Of course with this one they will get the one we get and then get an extra $300 a child on top of it. So what else is new?

 

[myladyisatramp]

You have no idea how much it cost to raise a child???? So the government giving us 300.00 per child (of course mine are grown so I won't get it)
Thats just a drop in the bucket, it may buy someone some diapers, formula or hockey equipment, or better yet pay tuition to school somewhere. My husband and I would probably have a nice nest egg right now, if we never had our 3 children between schools and activities college's not to mention weddings in a few years, but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. To each is own, I say.

 

[WDWguru]

You have no idea how much it cost to raise a child????

Certainly it's expensive, but it was YOUR CHOICE to have them. If someone can't afford them perhaps it would be best to wait until they are a little more financially stable. God forbid someone put a little forethought and planning into their DECISION to have children. It shouldn't be up to the rest of us to subsidize YOUR choice. Nobody subsidizes mine.

 

[Hixski]

Certainly it's expensive, but it was YOUR CHOICE to have them. If someone can't afford them perhaps it would be best to wait until they are a little more financially stable. God forbid someone put a little forethought and planning into their DECISION to have children. It shouldn't be up to the rest of us to subsidize YOUR choice. Nobody subsidizes mine.

We live in a nice area with good school districts. We pay extra on our real estate taxes because of those nice school districts. We have something in Missouri called personal property tax that you pay at the end of the year every year. Most of the money goes to those nice school districts. We pay extra taxes every year so other people's children can go to those nice school districts. That has always been a pet peeve of mine.

I think they should prorate those kinds of taxes on if and how many children you have. We as CF would still pay our real estate taxes but we should not have to pay as much as someone who has say 3 children in those schools that we also pay for. We have people a few doors down with 6 children. They live in the same exact style house we do. So their taxes are the same as ours. They have 6 children attending those schools. We have none. That is what I don't think is right.

I know someone will come and flame me but I get tired of getting nickeled and dimed to death for other peoples children. Even my mother who never complains was complaining this year about how high their real estate and personal property taxes were. She said it seemed to be going mostly to the schools and why do they still have to pay for others children. By the way my parents are 75 and 76.

 

[myladyisatramp]

I certainly can afford my kids, it just will be nice to get a little bonus, from the government instead of always putting out.

 

[PhotobearSam]

I certainly can afford my kids, it just will be nice to get a little bonus, from the government instead of always putting out.

Just wondering and this is not a jab, but why would someone who has kids frequent this thread?

I just don't get it.

 

[maddhatir]

Just wondering and this is not a jab, but why would someone who has kids frequent this thread?

I just don't get it.

We usually have to question that about every 6 months!- THEY seem to slip in and add their 2 cents.

You have no idea how much it cost to raise a child???? So the government giving us 300.00 per child (of course mine are grown so I won't get it)
Thats just a drop in the bucket, it may buy someone some diapers, formula or hockey equipment, or better yet pay tuition to school somewhere. My husband and I would probably have a nice nest egg right now, if we never had our 3 children between schools and activities college's not to mention weddings in a few years, but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. To each is own, I say.

I say I don't give a rat's patootie how much it costs people to raise their kids- that is THEIR choice!

I chose to KEEP my money for myself- what does that mean, I have to be penalized?

 

[KirklandTutu]

I say I don't give a rat's patootie how much it costs people to raise their kids- that is THEIR choice!

I chose to KEEP my money for myself- what does that mean, I have to be penalized?

Word.

 

[maddhatir]

Certainly it's expensive, but it was YOUR CHOICE to have them. If someone can't afford them perhaps it would be best to wait until they are a little more financially stable. God forbid someone put a little forethought and planning into their DECISION to have children. It shouldn't be up to the rest of us to subsidize YOUR choice. Nobody subsidizes mine.

I would like someone to subsidize my upcoming Mexico trip- oh, nevermind, I guess the Government has no sympathy for CF me and DH.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Certainly it's expensive, but it was YOUR CHOICE to have them. If someone can't afford them perhaps it would be best to wait until they are a little more financially stable. God forbid someone put a little forethought and planning into their DECISION to have children. It shouldn't be up to the rest of us to subsidize YOUR choice. Nobody subsidizes mine.

Oh my word. Best post on the DIS. Ever!!!!!