Married Last Name - Spin Off

[J'aime Paris]

I honestly have never heard of doing this! Kinda neat if you want to preserve your maiden name!

I've known some people that have named their firstborn child after the maiden name, I guess as a way to honor it.

 

[mommasita]

We here in Quebec keep our maiden name If you married after 1981, which I have. My children took my husbands name.

Even if you married outside Québec but you are domiciled in Québec, you must exercise your civil rights using the surname you were given at birth.

However, in your social life you can, if you wish, use your spouse's surname, which I don’t think I ever have.

 

[ncc1701]

I commented in the Married Last name thread about a woman changing her middle name to her maiden name when she got married and someone replied to my post like that was the craziest thing they had ever heard. Is doing that just a regional thing to Kentucky? I changed my middle name to my maiden name when I got married and most everyone I know did the same.

My Sister & I did this . We live in NJ. I know a few others that did the same thing.

 

[AlohaNow]

My mother legally made her maiden name her middle name, and so did I. I didn’t change my name at all when we got married. We were moving, starting new jobs, and getting married all within two months so I didn’t need the headache of changing my name at that time. I took my husband’s name a few years later and did so via a court order. My college roommate never had a middle name. She was thrilled to get married and use her maiden name as a middle name!

 

[PattiPB]

I did it in 1990 in NJ. I’m the only person I know who did this.

Actually, I merged my first and middle name, made maiden name my middle, and took married name. So I am PatriciaAnne P. B.

My kids have two middle names, the second middle being my maiden name. We told them to keep what they wanted as they grew up. They all keep all four names.

 

[EMom]

I am a Texas who married in the 80s. I dropped my middle name and became First Maiden Married. I always knew I'd do that. It is very common in my region. Many of my friends did the same. I was not about to drop my family name.

If we'd have had a son, DH was determined to use my maiden name as his middle name, which is also common here. (Many use it as the son's first name instead.)

 

[LSUmiss]

I did it & it’s pretty common here. I’m in Louisiana.

 

[Caseheidi]

I have know a few families where they didn’t give any of their daughters middle names at birth, because they expected their maiden name to become their middle name at marriage. I live in the Pacific Northwest, and some of these families are in Idaho and Utah.

As another variation, the sonof an old co-worker and his wife both took her middle name as their married name upon getting married. His relationship with his father was bad, and he didn’t want to carry hisname, so they both changed their last name when they married. If I remember correctly, her middle name was Hope, and they liked the idea of that being their new last name.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I live in the Midwest, I never did it. I know people who use their maiden name as their middle name on Facebook to make them easier to find, but no legal name change.

 

[PrincessShmoo]

If we'd have had a son, DH was determined to use my maiden name as his middle name, which is also common here. (Many use it as the son's first name instead.)

My father's middle name was his mother's maiden name.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Definitely not done here. And as it’s a change not due to marriage or divorce you would have to pay to change it.

my parents choose both my names with love and care. Why would I just discard one? Makes no sense to me.

 

[AppleDumpling]

As another variation, the son of an old co-worker and his wife both took her middle name as their married name upon getting married. His relationship with his father was bad, and he didn’t want to carry hisname, so they both changed their last name when they married. If I remember correctly, her middle name was Hope, and they liked the idea of that being their new last name.

That sounds lovely. I also know of a couple who both changed their last names at marriage, but they just chose a name they liked (much like a baby’s first name), that had no family connection to either. The husband also was estranged from his father, the wife had a long name that was difficult to pronounce and spell, so they opted to start fresh with a new name.

I also know another couple where the wife kept her maiden name, and they agreed, before they became parents, that any female children would take her last name, and any male children would take the husband’s last name. I think this is kind of a nice compromise too. They ended up having two daughters and a son, so the siblings’ names are split, but the kids are proud to explain it to anyone who asks.