Married Last Name - Spin Off

[DisneyHardin]

I commented in the Married Last name thread about a woman changing her middle name to her maiden name when she got married and someone replied to my post like that was the craziest thing they had ever heard. Is doing that just a regional thing to Kentucky? I changed my middle name to my maiden name when I got married and most everyone I know did the same.

 

[ronandannette]

I commented in the Married Last name thread about a woman changing her middle name to her maiden name when she got married and someone replied to my post like that was the craziest thing they had ever heard. Is doing that just a regional thing to Kentucky? I changed my middle name to my maiden name when I got married and most everyone I know did the same.

I'm waiting on pins-and-needles for TV Guy to inform us if it's something we all do routinely in Canada. (Sorry - I couldn't resist).

 

[AndreaA]

My mother (in her 70s now) did it and I thought it was just the “done” thing. I ended up NOT doing it mainly because it was going to require more paperwork. We’re in NH, she was raised in CT.

 

[Schneewittchen37]

Definitely not the done thing in my experience. I live in Maryland. Most of my friends are from the east coast - MD, VA, NJ, etc.

The usual variations among my friends and acquaintances are:
1. Take your husband's last name. Most.
2. Keep your last name. A fair number.
3. Or hyphenate to Jackson-Jones, whatever. A few.

 

[rlk]

I did it. I live in New York.

 

[Donald13]

Not here. Live in NY, I changed it to my husbands last name but never changed my middle name to my maiden.

 

[LoveSpringsteen]

I haven't heard of many people here in NE Ohio changing their middle name to their maiden name, but I think it's a really nice tradition.

 

[Meglen]

I just havnt changed my last name.. we keep making disney trips and there under my name so... I don't wanna have to mess around with the reservations lol

 

[design_mom]

I did it in (central) Ohio in the 1990s. My mother did it in Ohio in the 1960s.

I intended to use my husband's last name, didn't want to hyphenate, but still wanted my family name to be part of my legal name.

 

[soccerdad72]

My wife did it - she wanted to keep her maiden name in some form as unfortunately, the family name will did with her (her brother has no kids). But she didn't want to hyphenate.

 

[_19disnA]

The usual variations among my friends and acquaintances are:
1. Take your husband's last name. Most.
2. Keep your last name. A fair number.
3. Or hyphenate to Jackson-Jones, whatever. A few.

I agree, those are the most common variations of people I know. If the person's maiden last name is the same as her husband's last name (i.e. Smith & Smith) it seems redundant to use that as your middle name. I think that is what some were commenting on in the prior thread mentioned above.

Why someone chooses to use 1 of the 3 options above is their business. A co-worker got married and kept her maiden name. You would be surprised at the number of insensitive co-workers who expressed their opinion or implied she should have done something else, when in reality it was none of their business.

 

[PezRuth]

I did. I dropped my middle name and made my maiden name my middle name. I am originally from southern Ohio but have lived in Maine, New York, DC, Boston, and New Hampshire. My mother 50 years ago did not take my dad's last name.

 

[prairie_girl]

I'm waiting on pins-and-needles for TV Guy to inform us if it's something we all do routinely in Canada. (Sorry - I couldn't resist).

Don't forget about our dear friend, Art, who likes to do the same thing too.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

I am in Virginia, married in 1990. Many of my friends dropped their original middle name and made their maiden name their middle name when they married. Husband’s last name became their last name.

I didn’t do it because I loved my original middle name, so I just dropped my maiden name all together when I did the legal name change. Then people started giving me monogrammed gifts with my maiden name initial. Anything with initials or monograms looks way better with my maiden name initial. And Facebook became a thing. I needed my maiden name as part of my name so old friends could find me.

While my name is legally:
first name middle name married name
Most of the time I go by:
first name maiden name married name

I should have just changed it to the 2nd way after I got married, but I didn’t realize then that I’d use that name so much.

 

[china mom]

My mother is from overseas and never had a middle name. I don't think she ever legally made her middle name her maiden but did use it that way most of the time.

I hated my birth middle name so I changed my middle name to my maiden name - I'm in Maryland

 

[Donald13]

I'm waiting on pins-and-needles for TV Guy to inform us if it's something we all do routinely in Canada. (Sorry - I couldn't resist).

Omg.

 

[brittlh]

I’m in Utah and changed my middle name to my maiden name.

 

[Tattylou]

I like my middle name so I wouldn’t have done this and I don’t know anyone who did either. Seems like it’s more common than I’d expect though.

 

[Grand Koalafornian]

My mom added her maiden name to ear middle name, so she has two middle names. She got married in the 1970s.

 

[tzolkin]

While my name is legally:
first name middle name married name
Most of the time I go by:
first name maiden name married name

I was going to reply that my mother changed hers to First Maiden Married, but now I'm honestly not sure if she ever legally did or not. I do know the majority of the time that I have seen her "full" name written on various documents (credit cards, contracts, etc) she uses First Maiden Married, but I do recall seeing the occasional First Middle Married when I was younger. I'll have to ask her.

She was married in 1980 right after high school. New York

I did not choose to keep my maiden name or use it as a middle name because I didn't like it and because we didn't have any close connections to my dad's family. If I had my mom's maiden name as my last name, I probably would have kept it as a middle name because I identify as being part of that family name so it has more meaning for me.