Marriage advice needed

[sk!mom]

"Don't go to bed Angry" -Ephesians 4:26

I've, of course, heard this my whole life but recently read this...

http://lydianetzer.blogspot.com/2012/04/15-ways-to-stay-married-for-15-years.html

"Whoever interpreted this to mean that you should stay up after midnight, tear-stained and petulant, trying to iron out some kind of overtired and breathy accord -- was stupid. Shut up go to bed, let your husband get some sleep. In the morning, eat some pancakes. Everything will seem better, I swear."

I've been married for 32 years and that's better advice. After maybe the first 10, there isn't much to fight about anyway. I showed it to DH and he loved it...it seems like it's usually us girls that want to stay up talking it out. In my house anyway.

 

[ceecee]

Whenever your husband starts to "whine," just ask him if he would like a little cheese to go along with that "whine?"

My former boss always asked us that!!!
My mom always said don't go to bed angry, but I didn't know it was a bible verse, I'll have to look that up!
I've heard "happy wife, happy life" a lot. An older gentleman at my garage sale (with his wife) said "I knew when I married her, she was Mrs. Right. What I didn't know was that her first name was Always!" We have laughed a lot over that one.

 

[branv]

How about, "In every marriage comes a day when, for no real reason, you just can't seem to stop getting on each others nerves. When that happens, stop whatever you're doing, sit down and share this bottle of wine. On days like these, it's far better to fill your mouth with wine than vinegar."

I also went to a shower once where they asked everyone to write down a piece of marital advice for the bride. We'd been friends since we were 12, so I went with making her laugh. But I was appalled when the hostess gathered them up and started reading them out loud. Following on the heels of sweet little nuggets of proper advice, and in front of her very old world, conservative grandmother, aunts and mother, my advice was read, "Conserve water: shower together." I thought I was going to die, but all those little proper ladies just fell out .

So yeahhhh...make sure you guys know if these will be shared before you decide on what to write.

Had to edit as I just thought of a funny wine one: "Just remember that husband's are like fine wine. Both get a little ripe if left too long in the hot sun."

 

[moonpie85]

We have an argument candle in our house. When we have a disagreement we sit it on the table, light it, and sit down and talk. You can't blow the candle out until things are better. Which means you can't leave or go to sleep.

I always like to give them as a little side gift. And I'm proud to say that after 7 years we are still using the same little candle ........and we haven't burnt the house down

 

[ElenaRN]

I made a wine basket for my good friend a while back.

Each bottle of wine had a different tag on it that said the following things.

A night by the fireplace
First Dinner Party
Snowed in
Kiss and make up after first fight
One year down a lifetime to go.
Honey, I've got something to tell you (sparkling cider instead of wine or champagne)

I also put a few books about wine and cocktails in the basket.

 

[joeyrose]

suggestion: make sure that neither is a teetotaler or recovering alcoholic.

 

[SetzKitten]

Had to edit as I just thought of a funny wine one: "Just remember that husband's are like fine wine. Both get a little ripe if left too long in the hot sun."

LOL. I like that.

My favorite wine toast is "Men are like a fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it is up to us women to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something we want to have dinner with."

 

[MomToOne]

How about: "Never ask for marriage advice on an internet message board"

 

[lovesmurfs]

LOL. I like that.

My favorite wine toast is "Men are like a fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it is up to us women to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something we want to have dinner with."

Glad I wasn't drinking anything -- would be all over my keyboard.

 

[semo233]

LOL. I like that.

My favorite wine toast is "Men are like a fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it is up to us women to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something we want to have dinner with."

Made me laugh and snort out loud!!

 

[weezyree]

All are wonderful ideas!!! Love the 'argue naked' one...gonnna have to try it. After 17 years of marriage though, the only thing we have truly argued over was a game of Monopoly in our 4th year. Needless to say, we don't play anymore!!!! That is honestly the only arguement where we went to bed upset for three straight nights!!! Never again.

His toast to me as his new bride was cute though!!! It's become tradition in our family now!!

"Here's to a night of sweet repose.
Tummy to tummy and toes to toes.
A moment of bliss....ahhh, sweet delight.
Then fanny to fanny the rest of the night!"


It's always a crowd pleaser!!!

 

[secretpantssam]

Love that argue naked...I'm definitely using that!

After 17 years of marriage though, the only thing we have truly argued over was a game of Monopoly in our 4th year. Needless to say, we don't play anymore!!!! That is honestly the only arguement where we went to bed upset for three straight nights!!! Never again.

haha! This is kind of funny...it's weird how heated we can get over silly things!

 

[Tinker Pam]

If all else fails him him with the bottle.

JK. LOL

 

[DizneyDogs]

How about: "Never ask for marriage advice on an internet message board"

+1

 

[Aidan's Mommy]

If she is doing a wine basket, how about buying the wine to match this poem. You can print out the poem on some cute cardstock and frame it too.

Wedding Night- (white tulle)--Champagne

The night you have dreamed of is finally here.
The future surrounds you with hope and yet fear.
You’ve wanted so long to find your mate.
Sip this wine and toast this date.
The night is meant for you to share.
Enjoy each other a perfect pair.


First Dinner party- (gold tulle) -white wine

As you open your home to all of your friends to entertain and eat.
It’s a place for old friends to catch up and new ones to meet.
When the night is over two great hosts can share this bottle of wine.
But don’t sit down yet pull up your sleeves because now it’s clean up time.

First fight- (black tulle)-red wine

When fights occur as they sometimes will and tempers are steaming hot.
Pour a glass take a sip and be thankful for what you’ve got.
For in a marriage if everyone agreed it would certainly be a bore.
And by asking for my friends hand Jordan’s surely in for more!

Christmas Eve- (red and green tulle)-Beaujolais

A wise man turned to a friend and said wine is better than beer.
And now is the season for friends and fun and lots of holiday cheer.
So pop the cork and relax a bit and when the night is through,
kiss goodnight, close your eyes and Santa will be good to you.

First Anniversary- (cream tulle) -White wine

Tonight you’ve been married a year one wonders where the time goes.
No longer are you newlyweds, soon you’ll be pro’s.
I hope the days have found you both in good health and spirit.
Keep saying I love you one always needs to hear it.
Now toast this date known as the first but certainly not the last.
And as you build your future don’t ever forget the past.

1st Baby-(pink and blue tulle)-Champagne or cider

The news that a baby will soon share your life will make you a mother not only a wife.
You’ll see it through good times and sometimes bad.
Leslie the loving mother, and Jordan the dearest dad.
Now Jordan must drink this one alone, and Leslie with empty glass.
Sit back and relax nine months they quickly pass!

 

[Aidan's Mommy]

Here is another:

WINE:

A basket of wine for a special pair - wrapped in all different colors for you both to share.

We hope that you are both always as happy as today. Please share this wine just the way that we say.

First, drink the champagne - the bottle all wrapped in lace - on your first married night in your new chosen place.

The silver one you must wait to unseal 'til you have your first guests over for a meal.

Love as you might, you'll have your first fight... Drink the blue one while you make up all night.

The gold bottle is for Thanksgiving; to toast to the love-filled life you are living.

The winters in your hometown might get a bit cold, drink the white bottle during your first snowfall.

The green bottle's for Christmas, so put up your tree, drape the ceilings in mistletoe and get tipsy

On January 1st, while sharing some kisses, drink the purple bottle to toast the New Year as Mr.. and Mrs..
Drink the pink bottle, romantic and sweet, when it's time for your newlywed Valentine's treat.

And when your first year of marriage is done, drink the red bottle in honor of anniversaries to come.

Cheers to Bride and Groom on the start of their lives together - may this basket of wine symbolize the beginning of your forever