Major PD Needed for DBF and Me

[CourtasanSatine]

cadburysmom: without going into the whole mess DBF told me his folks like me(parents are divorced) but things have been testy for some time.His dad and roommates like me so that helps.From tonight's call his sister's husband may have something to do with this

 

[llebrekniT]

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I'm sure things will smooth out, be patient. Whatever it is, try to be strong and take care of each other. You know you can come to us and we will be ready to listen.<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_1_22.gif' border=0></a>

 

[CourtasanSatine]

I'm just hoping we'll get to be together tommorow night(so far so good on that front).I'm hanging in there and so's DBF and having our nightly phone call does help.I know I can only be there for him and he's there for me

 

[Bichon Barb]

Hugs going out to you!

 

[CourtasanSatine]

update: hopefully things will get better with DBf's family today and if all goes well we'll be together tonight or Saturday

 

[HuggaBaloo]

I did the long-distance thing for over two years and know how hard it can be. Truckloads of PD and hugs to you both! How about a care-a-van!

 

[cadburysmom]

So happy you get to see him and hope you have a wonderful time together....I'm sending more pixie dust in hopes that everything will be resolved in your favor soon....

 

[ohanafamily]

Well, as I see it, you are about 3-4 hours away from here, want me to come over and beat 'em up for you?


Just kidding, but PD and prayers for you. I Hope you have a fun weekend!

So His folks and roomates like you, but His DBIL is causing problems...It could be a lot worse:My Father hates (notice the current tense) my RRBB because of her weight (she really isn't that heavy either). Short story...I was made an example of. He wasn't even going to come to the wedding...RRBB can tell you more, but it wasn't a very nice time or feeling.

If there is anything we can do, let us know...but you are not alone...

 

[CourtasanSatine]

Ohana : Here's what I know so far.

DBF's folks and roommates have met me but they they knew about us being a couple for sometime and just wanted to put a face to a name.DBIL is blaming him for something he did not do and me and his mom know the truth.He did tell me that he's made it clear to his family that nobody messes or talks bad about me.His parents are divorced and my dad died when I was in HS so we both come from broken homes.DBF and I will hopefully be together tonight and I'll post updates as I get them

 

[Lewski709]

I don't understand what's going on?

 

[ohanafamily]

understanding is not necessary, compassion is...Caring is too.

I hope it all works out, but it must be nice to be on such a high pedastal...

PD to you and DBF

 

[Lewski709]

If I knew more about the issue, I could offer some advice maybe. I hate to see anyone having a problem and hope it works out.

 

[llebrekniT]

Well, I'm about as confused as a person can be. Wish I knew what to say, but since I don't know exactly what the situation is I will just keep you in my thoughts.

Let me know if we can help in some way.

 

[ohanafamily]

Sorry Lewski709, I didn't mean to snap at you...

Seriously, I have had problems in a close area to what CourtasanSatine seems to have now, and it can be very difficult to talk about. I think we can hold her in her thoughts, send her PD, and if she lets us know who is being mean to her, we can unleash the Axe-Murderers on them


Seriously, Family issues can be very upsetting and personal. If she and her DBF truly love each other, this will pass. I know that I gave up an awful lot to marry RRBB. Would I do it again, Yes. Regrets, I have a few but in the end I did it my way....

She will get through this. after this round her relationship will be stronger. When family tries to strong-arm one another it always gets messy. I remember a quote from the book Illusions : The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach. Never be ashamed of anything you said, especially when you are misquoted.

It seems a DBF family member got upset by something he thought CourtasanSatine said or did.
She didn't do it.
The Family member in question is bad-mouthing her.
The Family member in question is tormenting other members of DBF's family with how bad CourtasanSatine is.
DBF is upset because he knows the truth
CourtasanSatine is upset because she wants acceptance from DBF's family, and this can put a crimp in it.
CourtasanSatineloves DBF and fears his family will try to break them up
DBF is coming over to hopefully hold her and proclaim his love.

I think I am close, but if I am wrong, we will still be here to support her.

 

[CourtasanSatine]

Here's what I know:

DBF is accused of stealing from BIL and me and a few others know the truth.BIL is using me as a weapon somehow from what I know

 

[CourtasanSatine]

more to the post:

We lost each other once before when we lost touch in our pre dating days.We've been a couple for a year and a half now and this is our first big crisis we've faced and I love him with all my heart.I'm being there in spirt since I'm a hour and a half away along with our nightly phone calls.Hopefully tonight we'll have some much needed time together and keep the vibes coming(things can only get better).We're hanging in there and our love for each other is helping us both

 

[ohanafamily]

If you know for a fact that he didn't steal, there might be a reason that BIL suspects your DBF. If there is no convincing BIL of your DBF's integrity, then that part of DBF's family will be lost to you until BIL comes to his senses. From my experience, once a family member has lost faith in another family member it lasts an awful long time.

I would find some unimpeachable proof, and show him that DBF didn't do it. At any rate, when you two are together later on, you probably won't be in the same city anyway....

Hang in there...

 

[CourtasanSatine]

that's our goal,to somehow escape his family and live somewhere else in time

 

[ohanafamily]

Good Luck, and when does he get into town?

 

[CourtasanSatine]

hopefully tonight if all goes well