Looking for advice from all your ebay experts. Here is the situation: I won an auction in the end of august and paid via paypal. I apparently had an ebay msg around dec 7th from the seller saying that i had not paid and asking if i still wanted the item. I did not see this msg. To be honest I totally forgot about this item. The seller never filed a complaint. Fast forward to yesterday. I went into ebay and notice that i had 4 items that i had not done feedback on. I have been buying individual pieces of a dish pattern. So i quickly went and marked all the feedback as good. After i did this, i realized the one item had not shipped. i emailed the seller and she indicated that she never shipped it because i never paid and that if i thought i paid, i should dispute with paypal. I went to the paypal record and it indicated that i did pay so i filed a dispute. they immediately said (auto message) i was not eligble and marked it as closed. So at this point, i paid, left positive feedback but never go the item. what would you do?