LuvLuvLuv's Memories TR Starts Pg 73 - Honeymoon Day 6.1

[KristiLyn]

Awww so sorry about all of the family issues. Such a pain. I can definitely relate

But, so happy you got your dress!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[tinkerbell 766]

So happy you got your dress!!
Is the Christina the one by Maggie Sottero? If so, that is my dress and you would be the first disbride to even consider it apart from me, so yay for it being in the running (even if it did come second!!).

 

[irishwishes]

Congrats on the dress!!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Oh deena..I'm happy you found your dress but I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this. Could you post a picture? I'm not sure what happened to make you question if the wedding is happening, but just remember that this day is about you and Dave and no one else! Don't let the drama keep you from the wedding you've been planning for years.

Lol, a picture. I totally forgot after we put money down that I could take one!! I'm going back to get remeasured at the beginning of August so hopefully by then I can get my fat *** into the sample so I can show you!! I'm going to sugar coat an update here after I'm done quoting about all that. I love my dress!!

I'm glad to hear you found a dress.

Hopefully a little private chat with Dave and some quiet moments away from the family will help with the wedding stuff.

Yeah, that definately helped. A meltdown at lunch the next day helped them see how important all this is to me and I think tears work wonders as well

I am SO glad you bought the dress! I can't wait to see it on you--- but you'll look lovely, I know it.

Also awaiting to hear about your wedding stress--- keep your chin up.

Love my dress

Ugh..so sorry about your family mess. That is so not fair to you on what should be one of the most fun times of your life! (buying your wedding dress!) But I'm so glad you got one! I wanna see pictures!!

I know right!! I can't wait to go take pictures of it!! I was so lost in the moment

I'm glad that you found a dress!! But so sorry to hear about whatever issues are going on with the wedding and making it so stressful for you. I agree with the above girls, try to remember that the day is about you and Dave and ignore all of the drama. I hope everything works out for you!

Thanks!!! This has been a whirlwind of a weekend and I have to keep faith that it will all be okay.

Awww so sorry about all of the family issues. Such a pain. I can definitely relate

But, so happy you got your dress!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boo for family -- Yay for the dress!!

So happy you got your dress!!
Is the Christina the one by Maggie Sottero? If so, that is my dress and you would be the first disbride to even consider it apart from me, so yay for it being in the running (even if it did come second!!).

Well we went in the shop with me thinking I was going home with the Christina... until we talked a few things through and we all just fell in love with the Private Label. I'm so shocked, because I thought I was locked in and ready--but after a second look and a few things pointed out--the other was my dress. I wish I could have had both!!! Loved your dress on you!!

Congrats on the dress!!!

Thanks!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Let me start from last week. Dave and I were talking and we were doing some research and reading and wondering if some of the things we were looking into were accurate against the info we were given--and still wondering about things we haven't got answers about. He suggested I reach out a little higher only to confirm that we were good to go since our 16 months was approaching. Not in a bad way--only to double check before we get in over our heads. So I did as he asked, but the person to speak with was on vacation until 7/5 (today). This made me anxious as I wasn't sure if my mental state could wait for answers.

I got so upset about all this that I ended up at the doctor on Friday morning--I have an ulcer. I've been a good secret keeper huh? I've had them off and on for 4 years and I knew as soon as I got worked up and wasn't feeling well that, that's what it was--sure enough.

So my family gets here--we have our dress appointment ordeal as you know... etc. I'm sure not feeling good had NOTHING to do with how I snapped, lol.

So while in the car on the way-- I'm trying to explain to my stepmom about room blocks, minimums, costs, etc... like back to the drawing board from March. I took her with me, gave her the passporter and, well.... you know I got no where but mad. She said... well why don't you 2 just go down by yourselves and do this. because we tried that and you ruined it. She said that she would still come and that's it. I told her she was selfish, then she said well who's more important, friends aren't important, etc etc etc etc... this went badly for about 10 minutes. She finally said no one was coming, not her not anyone. I tried to explain that, that wouldn't help me at this point, but hurt me because of location minimums. She didn't understand that--so as we walked into the bridal salon I was thinking... why in the world do I need a dress when at this point--I have no wedding? This is why I tried to get answers from everyone a month ago. We all said yes to the dress, so I went with it, lol. My aunt loved the fact that the dress isn't even pictured on the internet anywhere so that we wouldn't see it everywhere. She was always weird about that which is why we traveled and spent $800-900 on my prom dresses. So going home we talked some more, and they said it would be best if we went by ourselves. This is when I came home and had a meltdown on the computer. I knew at that point I wouldn't be able to do Wishes because they wouldn't be able to accommodate me. I talked to Dave and he said to just give it another day or two of talking.

Lunch the next day is when everything started coming together. They chose a BBQ place to eat that they love, that in my state of health--was a bit too heavy on my stomach--but I went anyway and nipped on an appetizer. I tried to begin calmly by explaining that I NEEDED people to be there in order for this to all work, because we were not going to have places to do anything otherwise. They kept biting back that this was our idea, blah blah--and I had to come out and say that we didn't think we were given the whole truth about us having a wedding for 2 and that if that's what it was--we would have to cancel. Finally they were getting it. We "discussed" about who would be invited and I'm not sure that's even all settled--but we're looking maybe around 15ish now... told you that would happen. They allowed me to get upset, talk it through and I think they're finally "getting" it. Yesterday we went through rooms, dining plans, costs, reservations, etc. Today they went home and a whole other hurricane came bursting through. That's up next.

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Moving on. This should probably be private, but it's huge and I can always decide to take it out later--which is why it gets it's own post. I had my call with the higher power today and I found out: no characters outside, no Marina for less than 50 people, and that I belong in an Escape package. I didn't even get deep into other things because at this point by body broke down into shock and I was in full panic mode. I was so confused, upset and enraged that I didn't get through my list of questions. I tried to explain that my 16 months was today to which she responded--16 months means nothing to me, 12 months is when everything comes together. Well 16 months to someone who's been waiting almost a year to book is a milestone! My heart was breaking talking to her as my wedding was slowly being dissolved. Because I was basically in shock and unable to think clearly, she then asked what I wanted her to do for me. I replied that I wanted her to figure out why I was told I could have these things that I can't, to find a solution for me and someone get back to me. The call ended here and I just broke down. I got myself together, and made my way into work (I took 3 hours off this morning to get my family on the road and to take the call). I was in the office for about 15 minutes before I got a call from my new coordinator.

She introduced herself to me, was super nice, explained that the Marina was not an option, but because Sago Cay still has a nice view of the castle that we could use it for the Ceremony and the Reception and it would even be more private. I'm okay with this. She asked if I wanted her to walk it and see how it would go, but I told her I'd be there in November and maybe we can do it together. They're going to work on the character thing for me and see how it goes. The nice thing about our talk, is that we both talked--and I didn't run the conversation. She had insight, and that's what I've been looking for. She asked why I didn't choose Escape--and I explained--she understood. I didn't want to get too far with her, as my brain has had a big morning. Once I get myself collected, talk to Dave, etc I may have more questions, but for now--my brain is tired.

I know what happened is a one-off situation, and in no way would ever wish this on any other bride. Things like this can happen, even at Disney World and it's part of our story. I was feeling like I did something wrong by reaching out to a higher up... but if I wouldn't have.... what would have happened to me? I felt like if I complained I would be treated poorly for the rest of my wedding and would be known as a complainer and trouble maker. Although this all shook me up a bit, I feel like I'm now with someone who may be able to work with me like I was hoping a coordinator would. I need someone who is honest and who will give it to me straight--if it's no... it's no. Someone to offer advice without me having to do the research on my own and just asking for a yes or a no. I hope I did the right thing

So there's my beginning of the week update. Sorry I kept this from all of you, but I wanted to see where it ended up first.

I should have a confirm by Thursday that Sago Cay is mine

 

[princesswendy720]

I'm sorry you were given wrong information but I'm glad to hear you stepped up and took the initiative to get a new consultant. There are definitely some great ones and I hope you will start to get the info you need in a timely manner. So are you still Wishes? Are they requiring you to have guests or was it your decision to add them? Sago key is very pretty and a little more private, plus you can do some great things floral wise with those trees. And the telescope things might not be an issue anymore! I'm not sure if they are there or not?

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

I'm sorry you were given wrong information but I'm glad to hear you stepped up and took the initiative to get a new consultant. There are definitely some great ones and I hope you will start to get the info you need in a timely manner. So are you still Wishes? Are they requiring you to have guests or was it your decision to add them? Sago key is very pretty and a little more private, plus you can do some great things floral wise with those trees. And the telescope things might not be an issue anymore! I'm not sure if they are there or not?

I'm still Wishes We had decided already this weekend to have the guests. We decided to have a few more family members and that's fine, as long as everyone understands they're staying on site and what I say goes. I do like that it's unique and that I won't have to spend $8000 to cover the viewfinders, lol. They're not on that side which is nice. I can't wait to walk it and see how I'm going to decorate it!!

 

[princess_ariel_85]

Reading various PJs there seems to be a lot of wrong info given out to future brides. I'm glad you got a new consultant, the other one didn't seem very helpful. It's good to have some who listens and can help with alternatives if something can't be done.

I've seen and read great things about Sago Cay, I don't think you'll be dissapointed.

 

[donald&daisy]

Wow. Sounds like your weekend was loads of crazy! However, I think you have a great attitude. So happy you found your dress and I LOVE Sago Cay. It is much more private and less exposed than the marina. That was Adam's issue with having our ceremony there--he felt like we would be on display for everyone. I'm glad you got some concrete answers. I also agree that 16 months is a BIG deal to someone who has been waiting sooooo long. I was frustrated that we couldn't sign anything until 12 months...I almost wish they had just left the old timeline of book/sign at 12 months. Its less confusing.

And I hope your ulcers clear up soon! You can tell your family they are not only emotionally hurting you, but also physically--and throw in some more tears and they will be eating out of your hand!

 

[tnkr mom]

Hang in there sweetie! It WILL all work out
My sister going through the same thing with her stomach right now, take care of yourself! Maybe some stress releaving yoga in your future!

 

[Bewitch324]

WOW!! You have been on a roller coaster ride, that's for sure!!

I am so happy you got your dress, and I'm sure you will be gorgeous in it, but I am so sad that your family made the experience (well the lead in, anyway) so horrible!! They are unreal!!!!!

And then, add in the Disney MIS-information drama, and I can totally see how you would have a meltdown AND ulcers!!! My goodness!! My heart bleeds for you!!

Try to stay positive and know that we are all here, and we are all rooting for you to get EXACTLY the kind of day that you want!!!

Brooke

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Reading various PJs there seems to be a lot of wrong info given out to future brides. I'm glad you got a new consultant, the other one didn't seem very helpful. It's good to have some who listens and can help with alternatives if something can't be done.

I've seen and read great things about Sago Cay, I don't think you'll be dissapointed.

I'm excited about Sago Cay

Wow. Sounds like your weekend was loads of crazy! However, I think you have a great attitude. So happy you found your dress and I LOVE Sago Cay. It is much more private and less exposed than the marina. That was Adam's issue with having our ceremony there--he felt like we would be on display for everyone. I'm glad you got some concrete answers. I also agree that 16 months is a BIG deal to someone who has been waiting sooooo long. I was frustrated that we couldn't sign anything until 12 months...I almost wish they had just left the old timeline of book/sign at 12 months. Its less confusing.

And I hope your ulcers clear up soon! You can tell your family they are not only emotionally hurting you, but also physically--and throw in some more tears and they will be eating out of your hand!

Thanks!! I'm trying to just take it easy now. I think between the past 3 weeks losing my friend, all this was going on, my family coming, work stuff... it was all just adding up too fast. I think after we sat down with the laptops yesterday that they are kind of excited about all of this We even got my aunt her outfit and luggage!!

Hang in there sweetie! It WILL all work out
My sister going through the same thing with her stomach right now, take care of yourself! Maybe some stress releaving yoga in your future!

Thanks! I hope your sister feels better soon--it's no walk in the park! I think after all this settles I'll be good to go!!

WOW!! You have been on a roller coaster ride, that's for sure!!

I am so happy you got your dress, and I'm sure you will be gorgeous in it, but I am so sad that your family made the experience (well the lead in, anyway) so horrible!! They are unreal!!!!!

And then, add in the Disney MIS-information drama, and I can totally see how you would have a meltdown AND ulcers!!! My goodness!! My heart bleeds for you!!

Try to stay positive and know that we are all here, and we are all rooting for you to get EXACTLY the kind of day that you want!!!

Brooke

Yay for the dress!! I'm ready to be positive! November will be here before we know it... I'll sign my papers, give them some money and it'll all be great!!

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So since I've been at work, I've done nothing Well I've answered the phone, talked about my weekend, taken personal calls, ate lunch, designed and ordered Save the Dates and envelopes from Vistaprint and re-looked at my budget. The STDs are simple, clean and cheap I spent $23.84 for 20 STD's, 20 Custom Envelopes and shipping. I didn't think that was too bad. I was thinking I didn't want to use them... but since we've been so back and forth about who's invited... I thought it would be a nice way to show some of the family where they stand. Delivery said 21 days, but I doubt it'll be that long--so what if it is. I did a front and back. The back explains that destination weddings require planning and to contact me so we can talk about it. I hope they look okay. I ordered a sample pack from them a while ago and they were okay. I don't need or want anything fancy.

I got the confirmation from NikiBryan (Disney Salons and Spas) for my In-Hotel hair appointment the morning of. Check. Now to figure out what color my hair will be that day

I'm waiting to hear back from Misty to see if she's available--keep your fingers crossed! I've contacted Carolyn Allens and am awaiting a response--keep your fingers crossed. I want to re-check in with Rev Jack Day since times and locations have changed. I've also been on a serious hunt for a headband. Now that I know what my dress looks like... I need a headband that isn't going to compete with the bling on the sweetheart neckline. Since I'm on a spending spree... I may look again tonight, lol.

Well I'm going to pick up our new grill that my aunt bought us, then we're meeting FMIL for dinner I really think I'm on some secret reality show to see how far I can be pushed without being sent to an asylum. Have a great night everyone!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Aoy girl! I'm so sorry about all this mess. But I'm here for you 100%! I like the sound of having both the ceremony and reception in the same place and I LOVE your new wedding planner already! I hope it all works out!

I will totally keep fingers crossed for the Characters and for Misty! She's amaze-balls!!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Wow!!! I am fairly certain you have had the most hectic experience with DFTW EVER!!! I am glad though that you should know about your date soon---- and I'm glad everything is kindddd of coming together! And we're having our DP at SCP, so I'm glad you're doing stuff there too.

 

[KristiLyn]

I can't believe how much you've been through with DFTW. I'm so glad you got a new planner. She sounds wonderful!!! Let us know how it all goes!!

 

[irishwishes]

I'm so happy everything looks like it's falling into place. I check for updates on your PJ a couple times a day because there's so much going on. I feel like your life is a whirlwind and I'm reading a book. I can't wait to read what happens next

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Aoy girl! I'm so sorry about all this mess. But I'm here for you 100%! I like the sound of having both the ceremony and reception in the same place and I LOVE your new wedding planner already! I hope it all works out!

I will totally keep fingers crossed for the Characters and for Misty! She's amaze-balls!!

Yay

Wow!!! I am fairly certain you have had the most hectic experience with DFTW EVER!!! I am glad though that you should know about your date soon---- and I'm glad everything is kindddd of coming together! And we're having our DP at SCP, so I'm glad you're doing stuff there too.

Eh... I'm sure some have had worse, but since we're on a live forum--they probably leave it out. I've just had it with paying for something and not getting what I asked for--ya know? Yay for SCP!

I can't believe how much you've been through with DFTW. I'm so glad you got a new planner. She sounds wonderful!!! Let us know how it all goes!!

I think she's going to be fabulous I'm starting to feel a lot better.

I'm so happy everything looks like it's falling into place. I check for updates on your PJ a couple times a day because there's so much going on. I feel like your life is a whirlwind and I'm reading a book. I can't wait to read what happens next

Haha! I told DF that I was going to write a book, lol. Or I could base a sitcom on my misfortunes, lol!

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So after work yesterday I went to Sears to pick up our new grill, then I had time to kill so I thought that spending $75 in Bath and Body Works for Welcome Bag stuff would be a good idea, lol. I met up with DF and his mom for dinner and apparently I was a brat because they both called me out on it. I told him it was none of her business about my medical issues and that I had told her I had a bug. He told her so I was accused of lying then she wanted to know all the details. This is why it was none of her concern. Then after the day I had, he was like... well she's been fighting with Disney all day. And she's like what? why? huh? I got a little snippy by saying that it's over and done with, I'm trying to enjoy my meal and I don't want to talk about it anymore. Do they not understand that the underlying issue of my ulcer is this wedding? Then they want to just work me back up?? What in the hell is wrong with these people? They kept cat calling me "grumpy" and I just picked up my stuff, said thank you for dinner, and left. I didn't want to go in the first place, and I knew I shouldn't have--I even suggested we shoot for next Tuesday. I shouldn't have even gone, now DF is being mean to me because I guess I was mean to his mom. I told him it was his fault for telling her things I told him not to. I'm trying to ignore this and hope it'll all be okay when he comes home tonight.

So today, the day after I place my Save the Date order, I get an email for 35% off Save the Dates, lol. My luck. I've spent the morning on Zazzle doing our Invites and RSVP cards. I'm pretty happy with them... I also added postage into my shopping cart, and when I get the email that we're all set with the location, I'm going to order. I'm ordering 25 to be on the safe side--you never know what this is going to turn into--but one thing I know is no more than 25 will go out. I figure we will send them to the elderly family that have no intention on coming, but will like the invitation anyway. Make sense?

Well that's all for now I think.. I for some reason am all of a sudden in full planning mode. Maybe it's the 16 month thing... but I'm ready to get moving!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Woohoo! I wanna see! I wanna see! Stupid DF and FMIL.. not cool!

 

[BethieTink]

Deena,

Where to begin??? I go away for a few days and all this has happened.

First of all, congrats on the dress. Can't wait to see a picture of it.

Second, *** is going on with DFTW???? I am glad to see that it is coming together for you, but no one should have to go through this at all! It's just wrong. Hopefully, everything will be straightened out now.

Ok, now to family...I am so sorry that you had to go through the whole weekend with your stepmom and aunt. That stinks. I am sure the meltdown wasn't pretty, but maybe it got through to them. In regard to your FMIL, I don't even know where to begin. Serious drugs might help that situation.

Sorry to hear about the ulcers. I had one in college that flares every once in a while, so I know they are no fun. Sending positive vibes that you get some relief soon.

If you don't mind me asking, who was your old coordinator (I think Bill) and who is your new coordinator? Not sure if you read my recent update, but I got traded over the weekend and just wonder if you might be the bride to be named later (or maybe I was). (Just saw your pm, Thanks!! )

Take care.