LuvLuvLuv's Memories TR Starts Pg 73 - Honeymoon Day 6.1

[tinkerbell 766]

Deana sweetie - I know from bitter personal experience how frustrating carrying extra weight can be. I too have a 'tummy situation' going on. My children were born by C section and boy, have I struggled with that tummy ever since. I fear it will ever be flat again, but never mind because I have three lovely children to show for it!!
Know that you are beautiful no matter what size you are and you will be a sunning bride!!

 

[belle2211]

Ok, so I want pics of your dress and save the dates please! As for walking down the aisle with your uncle, if you're being pressured because it's "traditional" to be walked down the aisle, how about saying something about it being traditional with the father, not the uncle and you don't need a replacement? Would that work? And yay for booking your e-pics!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Aha! Famous wedding nightmares! I've been having them too... wrong dresses, lost accessories & strawberry soup. They seem to get worse the closer you get

Joint accounts are great aren't they? the things that can happen with them...

I'm glad things are going in the right direction for you, your big day is going to be fab! x

Thanks Bunches

Girlie, don't stress about the weight. It will come off. You just have to get yourself into a routine and then all of sudden it'll all work out! I promise you. I felt the same way and once I set my mind to it POOF it all worked out. If you also get into a routine of working out it'll work out too. It's awesome. I love it.

I wanna see your dress! I need pictures! hehe. And I wanna see those save the dates missy!

Lol--I want to see my dress too!! I don't even have a picture, lol!! I did take pix of the STDs last night so I'll have to get them on here!

Uck. I understand about people assuming you're pregnant. 90% of any weight I gain goes straight to my tummy. I've been congratulated by random strangers, family friends (awkward when you try to assure the family you aren't pregnant), and even casual friends and coworkers.

It can be a real hit to the self esteem.

But, I agree, eventually it will come off. I lost 12 pounds earlier this year in two months once I got into my routine (now, I just need to get back into that routine and lose what I've gained back ).

Thanks for your words--I just don't like being physically and mentally uncomfortable. The best I can do is try Good luck to you too!!

Deana sweetie - I know from bitter personal experience how frustrating carrying extra weight can be. I too have a 'tummy situation' going on. My children were born by C section and boy, have I struggled with that tummy ever since. I fear it will ever be flat again, but never mind because I have three lovely children to show for it!!
Know that you are beautiful no matter what size you are and you will be a sunning bride!!

Thank you so much It means so much

Ok, so I want pics of your dress and save the dates please! As for walking down the aisle with your uncle, if you're being pressured because it's "traditional" to be walked down the aisle, how about saying something about it being traditional with the father, not the uncle and you don't need a replacement? Would that work? And yay for booking your e-pics!

Haha!! I want them too!! I should have them by November because I need to get re-fitted once I lose like 20 lb. The STDs will be up in the next day or so. I'm trying to get them on Photobucket from my phone... but there's never any service here so we'll see I'm just not sure about the whole walking down the aisle thing. I tried to put it off by saying that we wanted to see our location in person before we make any decisions and if I wanted to, I'd ask over Thanksgiving in person. Then I was told that was too late that I needed to do it now. I feel pressured and I feel like the only solution is to somehow "meet" Dave and walk down with him--hell, I dunno--I haven't even seen where the ceremony is going to be but in pictures, lol. I'm telling her I need to see the place first... then we'll see. I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. He has been there for me pretty much my whole life--but it still doesn't fill the giant void. We'll just have to see!!

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Not too much to update. I talked to my bestest last night and basically put it all out there about how I didn't even know if I wanted to come out looking like I do. Some people at the track are just cruel (he knows who I'm talking about) and I didn't know if I would be able to handle it. He said we didn't have to hang out there after, that we'd grab our group of friends and go paint the town. He was very supportive and said that I should just have a kid so he could have something to play with when he comes to town I told him that Baxter would be offended. I'm so glad that Dave really likes him too. I never had to go through the "one of your best friends is a boy" drama with him. It's nice because when he comes into town, Dave invites him to stay with us--Baxter harasses and snuggles him all night and they play--we all hang out together. I used to travel a lot when I had a different job, no medical bills, and no wedding to pay for so it'll be nice to see finally see everyone after a year. I'm feeling better about all of this today--not 100%, but better.

Last night I bought Clear Inkjet labels for the STDs and Invites. They came in a pack of 300 so they should be good for STDs, Invites, Newsletters and Thank You's

I want my Save the Dates to go out on August 1st so that's 15 months in advance by the time they get them. I need to try to get a hold of my stepmom for addresses today. She has no concept of time or deadlines.

I can't get the photos on my photobucket app... I'll try when I get home.

It's only Tuesday.... Hope the rest of the week flies

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

okay... that's sideways... but hopefully you can read it it's the back and it's in light grey.

and here's my b-man with his sombrero we got him in the mexico pavilion, lol

 

[librarygeek]

Love your Save the Dates - they look so elegant!

 

[belle2211]

I love the STDS...they look so classy! And your puppy is adorable!

 

[princess_ariel_85]

Great job with the Save the dates, they're so classy,

Cool sombrero, he looks so adorable in it.

 

[elleinad16]

Very pretty save-the-dates, Deena! Does the lighter text have a shiny finish? I just can't tell too well.

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Love your Save the Dates - they look so elegant!

thanks

I love the STDS...they look so classy! And your puppy is adorable!

thanks he is in desperate need of a bath and a brushing in that pic, lol. i noticed after i put it up, lol--like he's a dirty boy, lol.

Great job with the Save the dates, they're so classy,

Cool sombrero, he looks so adorable in it.

thanks

Very pretty save-the-dates, Deena! Does the lighter text have a shiny finish? I just can't tell too well.

i think the finish was called "linen" it's not really shiny, but when you have them up close, it's not hard to read at all.

i wasn't for sure if i "loved" them because i paid $24 for 25 of them, plus matching charcoal and black design envelopes with our return address on them. i felt like that was really cheap for all that... but i need to remind myself that they are good for what i paid for them, and they will do the job. after i re-read my wording, i don't like that i said interested and interest in the same sentence, but oh well, i made them quick, paid 0.96 for each plus their matching envelope, they're done and they need to go out. for the most part, i am pleased with vista print and would recommend them.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Awww Deena. Don't be worried about your weight! I think you're lovely! <3 Although, I do know where you're coming from... I've struggled with weight my WHOLE life. I am quite a bit bigger than you, but when I was in high school I was kinda sorta anorexic and weighed a whole lot less. Then junior year of college I was depressed and gained all sorts of weight... and it's mostly just stayed on. Weight Watchers works really well, but I also just REALLY like ice cream.

And the STDs are VERY elegant! I like them a lot.

And don't accept peer pressure about who walks you down the aisle. That is a very memorable moment. And, besides, you are a young, independent woman. No one needs to give you away.

 

[Bippi]

Love your save the dates! Very pretty!
And your pup is adorable!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Super pretty save the dates! And I love Mr B-man! =] He's a doll!

 

[Jilian]

Hahaaaa, I love the B-man shot. That is hilarious! The save the dates are lovely too

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Awww Deena. Don't be worried about your weight! I think you're lovely! <3 Although, I do know where you're coming from... I've struggled with weight my WHOLE life. I am quite a bit bigger than you, but when I was in high school I was kinda sorta anorexic and weighed a whole lot less. Then junior year of college I was depressed and gained all sorts of weight... and it's mostly just stayed on. Weight Watchers works really well, but I also just REALLY like ice cream.

And the STDs are VERY elegant! I like them a lot.

And don't accept peer pressure about who walks you down the aisle. That is a very memorable moment. And, besides, you are a young, independent woman. No one needs to give you away.

Awww thanks I love ice cream too!!

Love your save the dates! Very pretty!
And your pup is adorable!

thanks!! he's a character!!

Super pretty save the dates! And I love Mr B-man! =] He's a doll!

thanks love! lol, you can have him--he sleeps on the pillow with you and kicks you in the head all night--every night if you move him... he comes back when you close your eyes, lol.

Hahaaaa, I love the B-man shot. That is hilarious! The save the dates are lovely too

he is super funny -- he knows the hat is his and will carry it around, lol.

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It's Friday, but I feel like this week took an entire month. Today we have high maintenence guests in the office and it's going to make the day drag. Tomorrow is a giant Dior event at work. If you think you need anything... I'll ship for free and throw some really good stuff in, lol--shameless plug.

A couple things from the week. I realized that I've spoiled Dave with the resorts we stay at normally. After going over finances for the next 15 months, and especially the next 5 months--the November trip is not economical at all. I desperately need to see Sago Cay in person to feel at ease, and we are getting e-pix, so we have a purpose to go besides drinking grey goose slushies and eating at Ohana twice We also had to add a day, arriving the 9th instead of the 10th, to make our e-pix work. Adding the extra day to an already, un-economical trip was giving me a nervous twitch. So I called and switched us to ASMovies, for 5 nights, kept deluxe dining--and I'm happy with the price--and we'll see what a value resort is all about. The refurb will be complete by November so everything should be shiny and new. Dave asked why we were staying with poor people, and I told him because WE ARE the poor people I told him he was ungrateful and spoiled and that maybe the people who stay there choose to spend their money on other things rather than their hotel room. I know he was joking, but it's still not nice, lol. I know we just stayed in a Kidani 1 Bedroom that had amazing amenities and 2 bathrooms... and now we're staying in a box, lol---but it's a short trip and we have things to do and people to see!! I did make a deal with him that we'd get a towncar instead of Magical Express. We saw the All Star line last time and swore if we ever stayed there, we'd rather take a cab, lol. I did the research, and in case you need a good towncar/limo service with a grocery stop-- Tiffany Town Cars Dot Com seems to be the best: 407-370-2196. Round Trip to WDW is $109 before a $5 coupon. Is $100+tip worth it? Probably more worth it if you need the grocery stop for a villa, but super worth it so you don't have to sit at the airport for 3 hours when ME takes you when you leave. I'm glad we're trying it before the wedding--and we won't have to rush our lunch that Monday.

I've called my family 5 times this week, texted twice, and just got a text at midnight that they'll call today. Great--while we have guests and I can't talk. So much for sending my STDs out on Monday.

Yesterday I made a timeline that may be different than what most couples do, but since we have a smaller group, I think it'll work. I am a control freak and want everything in order so I know what's going on at all times, lol. Since my guests are not certified Disney freaks, they will never know my "embellishments" on DFTW rules, lol.

*15 months out: Save the Dates
*13 months out: Pre-RSVP
*Break for the Holidays*
*9 months out: Invitations
*7 months out: Locked down-Everyone Booked-Have all Reservations Done
((allowing a week or two for stragglers after--but all done by May 1 or you can't go!!))
*6 months out: Able to go to Planning Session with a Solid Number of Guests.

What do you think??

Also, since my stepmom has invited herself to my PS, I was kind of wondering how this would work. I want her to be there to taste cake, go over floral, menu tasting---but NOT for the planning the day part. I need to focus, and can't deal with dumbazz questions, interrupting, her saying what she thinks I should do, etc. I need peace, zen and an opportunity to explain that my family is insane before she enters the room. I was thinking of booking her an hour massage at the GF, then she could come over after

Sorry, I'm all hyped up on an Iced Mocha and am on a serious roll. I have so much work to do, but because we have guests, I have to keep my desk clear of havoc which means I sit here, look pretty, type to you and do mindless stuff! I'm going to look up GF Spa stuff for her, and book the towncar.

Let me know what you think about the timeline and PS!! Thanks!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Girl, you are too funny! I'd gladly take Baby B! He can kick me in the head as long as he doesn't take up the entire bed like Peanut does! haha

Everything looks and sounds fabulous! The timeline makes total sense to me. I'm pretty much doing the same thing. My Save The Dates will be sent out in September as soon as I get my engagement pictures done.

Tell Dave not to knock the All Star Resorts! I honestly love them. I always stay there and you get the best bang for your buck. The rooms are always clean and we always make sure we get a premium location. It's worth the few extra bucks to be near the pool, food court, and all that fun stuff. The buses can sometimes be a little bad, but everytime I wait for the Magical Express it's never taken me more than a half hour? I guess I time it really well with our flights. lol. But that's the god honest truth. I'm usually first in line. lol. Tell him to stop making fun of us poor people! Ha. I'd rather have deluxe dining than a huge room that I just sleep and shower in? ;D

As far as your planning session goes, I think the massage is the best bet. Especially since you will be staying together. I wish you the best of luck. I honestly don't know what I'd do. My own mother I would tell to shut up. But she knows better than to butt in when I'm planning with someone unless I ask for her opinion. I go all crazy on her. haha. <3 I'll come to your PS instead! Tell her her spots been taking by your long lost sister. hehe.

I want some Iced Mocha, send some my way! And what kinda Dior goodies do you gots?! ;D

 

[jshora]

Subscribing to you PJ! I've gone back and started reading from the beginning (I'm only on page 8 as of now).

I have to say you are one amazing woman! Wow...

I look forward to reading more and catching up!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Girl, you are too funny! I'd gladly take Baby B! He can kick me in the head as long as he doesn't take up the entire bed like Peanut does! haha

Everything looks and sounds fabulous! The timeline makes total sense to me. I'm pretty much doing the same thing. My Save The Dates will be sent out in September as soon as I get my engagement pictures done.

Tell Dave not to knock the All Star Resorts! I honestly love them. I always stay there and you get the best bang for your buck. The rooms are always clean and we always make sure we get a premium location. It's worth the few extra bucks to be near the pool, food court, and all that fun stuff. The buses can sometimes be a little bad, but everytime I wait for the Magical Express it's never taken me more than a half hour? I guess I time it really well with our flights. lol. But that's the god honest truth. I'm usually first in line. lol. Tell him to stop making fun of us poor people! Ha. I'd rather have deluxe dining than a huge room that I just sleep and shower in? ;D

As far as your planning session goes, I think the massage is the best bet. Especially since you will be staying together. I wish you the best of luck. I honestly don't know what I'd do. My own mother I would tell to shut up. But she knows better than to butt in when I'm planning with someone unless I ask for her opinion. I go all crazy on her. haha. <3 I'll come to your PS instead! Tell her her spots been taking by your long lost sister. hehe.

I want some Iced Mocha, send some my way! And what kinda Dior goodies do you gots?! ;D

we SHOULD get together for a mocha sometime, lol. good to hear about the all star resorts--they look kind of fun to me, lol.

Subscribing to you PJ! I've gone back and started reading from the beginning (I'm only on page 8 as of now).

I have to say you are one amazing woman! Wow...

I look forward to reading more and catching up!

thanks for reading along!! i have a feeling this ride is going to get a lot bumpier soon

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So besides, me, Dave, one member of my family, and Sarah (lol).... we have a secret. Wanna know??

Well the family drama isn't quite over, communication sucks, the walking down the aisle thing makes me want to eat Ativan like a candy necklace and I'm not sure that I can mentally take this abuse for 15 more months. I crunched numbers, and got a spreadsheet together, made a call for a little $ help..... and I'm calling DFTW tomorrow to see if we can have a Memories or Escape wedding on November 10, 2011. I don't really care which one because with the deals going on, they pretty much are the same (you get the AP with the escape but we like the Poly Beach idea). November 10th will make our anniversary easier because that's normally when we go every year. I don't think we're going to make this publicly known--just going to come back from our F/W trip and be like SURPRISE!!! Lol. I know this sounds dumb, but I'm taking a loan against my 401K so we can stay at the Beach Club Club Level--I may be getting married!! I need space to get ready, lol. So I need to find a dress off the rack, like right now--good thing we only preordered the other and it didn't go into production!!

Of course this isn't written in stone... or a for sure in anyway. It's just that lately, we've been having this "lets just go to the courthouse" attitude with all the dramatics and I'm afraid if we don't do it now, that it will come down to that and I will regret it.

I'm going to propose to the family that we do a giant family trip next year--I already have the deposits on my rooms anyway. I'll set up a DP for us and it'll be great.

This could all change if they don't have it available. I know my photog. is available that day because of my e-pix that would now be wedding pix, lol. I'm in no way against my bigger wedding next year---but in my heart, I know this is probably better on my health and finances. I just feel like I'm going to be strapped for a longgggggggg time for these people that don't even care. I'm going to get wrapped into being walked down a makeshift aisle against my wishes and I could make this day intimate, magical, and still have new furniture by January.

Soooooo who's with me on this, lol?? Who's against me?? Is this another one of my crazy, spur of the moment mishaps?? It may not even happen, so I'm not going to get super pumped until the $ is in my account, out of my account, and this is booked.

I'm awake 2 hours before I have to be for work, and I started packing for November already, lol--like a crazy person I'm laying all my makeup for the day out. I have plenty of duplicates so it's not like I'll miss it. I have this rage of excitedness--but also am trying to keep calm until I know if it's a yes or a no.

Dave is for this. He wishes his friends were there, but I barely know them--so I'm not sad, lol! I told him I wanted to do this a long time ago and he said no. He said that the drama isn't going to get any better the closer we get and that this is a good thing. I agree. I'm glad we're on the same page.

Okay, I'm going back to packing. Comments Please!!!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Ahhh!!! Deena, I think you want to give all of us heart attacks!!!!

But honestly? I think it's a GREAT idea!!!!!!!! I really, really do. I think you've wanted something small and intimate all along, and this is It. And you'll still have time to stress out and plan, don't worry about lack of stress! I am a littttle nervous about how your stepmom will react, but other than that, I am really excited and I wish you could find out TODAY!

Now I wish I could come in November to congratulate you! Will you tell all my students I'm sick?

 

[donald&daisy]

I say go for it! To me almost all of your problems have centered around other people and I think its great for the two of you to take care of you first! Plus you already have a trip planned, etc. I would make the call first thing in the morning, see what your options are, and then go from there. I'll have my fingers crossed for you!!

 

[DisneyShamrock]

I agree that you two should do the Memories wedding. With everything your family is putting you through, it comes out as a pretty good plan. It will be a nice, romantic celebration of your love for each other without the drama.