Love at First Sight

[Kuzco]

Totally random cause I was thinking Kuzco from The Emperor's New Groove

I know...was just kidding!

 

[rpmdfw]

Wally can call me lovey names, he's cute...just no touchie.

I read this to mean "Wally is cute, but he has no tooshie"

I was wondering how you knew that?

 

[wallyb]

I read this to mean "Wally is cute, but he has no tooshie"

I was wondering how you knew that?

I do to have humps

 

[OrlandoMike]

I do to have humps

Antibiotics should take care of that problem!

 

[wallyb]

Antibiotics should take care of that problem!

Will they take care of YOU!

 

[OrlandoMike]

Will they take care of YOU!

We can find out in Mexico! No prescription needed there!

 

[RAPstar]

Hate to be a downer too, but I 've stopped believingin love almost onthewhole. Maybe its just Dallas. I literally have not had a serious relationship since I came out in the 10th grade (2000?). I know part of it is because I don't go out, but I don't care for bars, and don't know how to approch guys. I've tried online sites, but the few that aren't on there justfor sex are already taken ornotinterested. Or they seem interesting but then they stop responding (am I that annoying?) So, yeah. I find it slightly ironic that the only person who's interested in me is my ex-girlfriend.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Hate to be a downer too, but I 've stopped believingin love almost onthewhole. Maybe its just Dallas. I literally have not had a serious relationship since I came out in the 10th grade (2000?). I know part of it is because I don't go out, but I don't care for bars, and don't know how to approch guys. I've tried online sites, but the few that aren't on there justfor sex are already taken ornotinterested. Or they seem interesting but then they stop responding (am I that annoying?) So, yeah. I find it slightly ironic that the only person who's interested in me is my ex-girlfriend.

Have you thought about volunteering? You will meet TONS of terrific people and it is NOT the bar scene. Even if you don't meet Mr. Right you might make some new friends, and one of them might introduce you to Mr. Right! I volunteered for many years with AIDS Arms LifeWalk. I also did volunteer work with AIDS Interfaith and the Black Tie Dinner. I have good friends who volunteer locally with HRC and DIFFA. Some agency is always having some event. The LifeWalk steering committee works like 10 months out of the year.

 

[RAPstar]

Have you thought about volunteering? You will meet TONS of terrific people and it is NOT the bar scene. Even if you don't meet Mr. Right you might make some new friends, and one of them might introduce you to Mr. Right! I volunteered for many years with AIDS Arms LifeWalk. I also did volunteer work with AIDS Interfaith and the Black Tie Dinner. I have good friends who volunteer locally with HRC and DIFFA. Some agency is always having some event. The LifeWalk steering committee works like 10 months out of the year.

I never really have time to volunteer. I only get one weekday and one weekend day off a week. I usually those to relax and catch up on my Netflix DVD's. I lead very boring life.

 

[OrlandoMike]

I never really have time to volunteer. I only get one weekday and one weekend day off a week. I usually those to relax and catch up on my Netflix DVD's. I lead very boring life.

So you like Disney and DVD's.....what else do you like?

The trick is to find someone who has the same interests as you!

Marry your best friend and you will be happy for the rest of your life!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I never really have time to volunteer. I only get one weekday and one weekend day off a week. I usually those to relax and catch up on my Netflix DVD's. I lead very boring life.

The events are usually on weekends - you could volunteer just to work the events if you are short on time. For Black Tie you just sign up and go to ONE training session. You choose if you want to help with auction set up or help during the actual event. I have been a floor captain for the auction - it is fun! And it gives you a chance to dress up and mingle. Same for the Bloomin' Ball for Interfaith. For LifeWalk I don't think there is training - you just show up and tell them you are there to volunteer! You might phone some of the agencies and talk to the volunteer coordinators. Tell them you don't have a lot of time but you would like to get involved. Being on the committees IS time intensive, but other opportunities aren't like that.

HRC has stuff going on all the time, and so does DIFFA. If you need help finding contact info let me know!

 

[zeitzeuge]

I never really have time to volunteer. I only get one weekday and one weekend day off a week. I usually those to relax and catch up on my Netflix DVD's. I lead very boring life.

I had a friend a few years ago that was basically going through the same things that you are. He was having difficulty meeting someone to date or to even be just friends with. He doesn't drink, didn't get into going to bars at all and worked odd hours sometimes due to being a nurse. He felt like he couldn't click with anyone on any level and form any sort of relationships.

I finally had a come to Jebus meeting with him. I told him how many things there are to do in Dallas, groups to join, etc., that he could look into. As a last ditch effort I told him, well hell...do you like bowling? He said sure. So I got him hooked up with a local Dallas Gay Bowling league. He now has more friends then he knows what to do with. They all meet every weekend for brunch. They go camping together, dinner parties, bowling events. He's even had some dates along the way and one short relationship. Trust me finding that special person for yourself isn't easy, but at least he now has great friends for when that day happens.

His schedule is hectic and yes, sometimes on his days off, the only thing he wants to do is relax and do nothing, but sometimes he has to force himself to get out there. He's happier then I've ever seen him.

All from bowling.....

 

[PghLybrt]

I walked in...Shrek was sitting there....we rented a Uhaul.....and that was 15 years ago.

Yep, I believe!

ME too! Except it was I who was sitting (looking fine in my flannel and freedom rings ) ! And it was also 15 years ago!

Hey, wait a sec!!! I thought you were GUYS????

LOL Right!! I thought we only did that!


Answering the OP , I do think it exisits but I also think that love changes throughout the years.

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I had a friend a few years ago that was basically going through the same things that you are. He was having difficulty meeting someone to date or to even be just friends with. He doesn't drink, didn't get into going to bars at all and worked odd hours sometimes due to being a nurse. He felt like he couldn't click with anyone on any level and form any sort of relationships.

I finally had a come to Jebus meeting with him. I told him how many things there are to do in Dallas, groups to join, etc., that he could look into. As a last ditch effort I told him, well hell...do you like bowling? He said sure. So I got him hooked up with a local Dallas Gay Bowling league. He now has more friends then he knows what to do with. They all meet every weekend for brunch. They go camping together, dinner parties, bowling events. He's even had some dates along the way and one short relationship. Trust me finding that special person for yourself isn't easy, but at least he now has great friends for when that day happens.

His schedule is hectic and yes, sometimes on his days off, the only thing he wants to do is relax and do nothing, but sometimes he has to force himself to get out there. He's happier then I've ever seen him.

All from bowling.....

We have a friend going through this now. He works with my husband and we've done a few things outside of work together. He hasn't told anyone at work that he's gay except for DH and that was only after he found out that DH's brother is gay and DH doesn't care that his brother is gay, it's just his brother. So, he told DH and now they're friends.

Anyway, after hanging out with him a few times he confessed that he's never had a serious relationship. He would love to have one but for some reason never has. He has TONS of friends and hangs out with them all the time but no one to call his own. He does go out to events, he belongs to a great church (awesome pastor who happens to be a lesbian) so he's involved with the community to meet folks that way. . . He's in his 30's.

I wish we knew how to help. DH has some suggestions but doesn't know how to give him advice w/out pissing him off because DH says he is kind of sensitive . . . . as in burns his bridges when his feelings get hurt and that part of the problem is, if you piss him off, he's a card carrying grudge holder forever and ever!! And, DH has to work w/ him even if they weren't friends so he doesn't want him to hold a grudge against him. So, even though DH would love to give him some ideas, he's afraid of pissing him off.

Anyway, didn't mean to hijack the thread or anything just felt the urge to chime in.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I had a friend a few years ago that was basically going through the same things that you are. He was having difficulty meeting someone to date or to even be just friends with. He doesn't drink, didn't get into going to bars at all and worked odd hours sometimes due to being a nurse. He felt like he couldn't click with anyone on any level and form any sort of relationships.

I finally had a come to Jebus meeting with him. I told him how many things there are to do in Dallas, groups to join, etc., that he could look into. As a last ditch effort I told him, well hell...do you like bowling? He said sure. So I got him hooked up with a local Dallas Gay Bowling league. He now has more friends then he knows what to do with. They all meet every weekend for brunch. They go camping together, dinner parties, bowling events. He's even had some dates along the way and one short relationship. Trust me finding that special person for yourself isn't easy, but at least he now has great friends for when that day happens.

His schedule is hectic and yes, sometimes on his days off, the only thing he wants to do is relax and do nothing, but sometimes he has to force himself to get out there. He's happier then I've ever seen him.

All from bowling.....

I knew about Fruit Bowl, didn't know there was a league!

I was looking to see if they still have Gay Bingo - that is really fun!

Mr. Z and I met through my work with LifeWalk. Well, in a weird, backwards way. His ex worked for a caterer who did some work on an event with me. Later on he introduced me to Mr. Z at an awards thing for LifeWalk when i was co-chair. They broke up some time after that, I went on volunteer hiatus. Then Mr. Z and I both ended up here on the DIS and I stalked him until he agreed to go to lunch with me.

I stand by my claim that you meet the best people through volunteering.

 

[rpmdfw]

I stand by my claim that you meet the best people through volunteering.

Strangely, Mr. Z disagrees . . .

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Strangely, Mr. Z disagrees . . .

Hush, you. Some gay crush you are turning out to be.

 

[rpmdfw]

Hush, you. Some gay crush you are turning out to be.

You know you love me!

 

[soulmates]

So you like Disney and DVD's.....what else do you like?

The trick is to find someone who has the same interests as you!

Marry your best friend and you will be happy for the rest of your life!

Mike, you are SUCH a romantic, I love it! You are right, 100% right!

 

[zeitzeuge]

I knew about Fruit Bowl, didn't know there was a league!

I was looking to see if they still have Gay Bingo - that is really fun!

Mr. Z and I met through my work with LifeWalk. Well, in a weird, backwards way. His ex worked for a caterer who did some work on an event with me. Later on he introduced me to Mr. Z at an awards thing for LifeWalk when i was co-chair. They broke up some time after that, I went on volunteer hiatus. Then Mr. Z and I both ended up here on the DIS and I stalked him until he agreed to go to lunch with me.

I stand by my claim that you meet the best people through volunteering.

Yeah it's funny how you can meet someone, then life circles back around and people come back into your life. See? Some things can come out of an ex relationship. Good friends!

And sorry it took me SO long to respond. It's been a day from hell here at work. I need a cocktail or 12.