I think writing off all of Disney because of construction at DTD is shortsighted and foolish. I just found out there's construction at the grocery store we usually go to; does that mean I'll never go there again? No. If the construction gets too inconvenient, I'll go to another grocery store for a few months and know that when the construction is done at our regular store, it will be bigger, better, and updated. To me, in most cases construction means that they're making improvements - how would it be if they never expanded, never added anything new, never spruced things up? Granted, I'd like Disney to speed things along a bit, but if it's such a big deal that the walls will ruin someone's vacation, then I'd suggest taking a few year break, not NEVER going again.
Within the past year or two, I've helped several families plan WDW vacations, and been in charge of all the planning for our own upcoming trip. Most people have no idea how big WDW is (TWICE the size of Manhattan - that's crazy!), or the kind of planning it takes. I think the people who don't enjoy their vacations are the ones who either don't plan because they're simply ignorant of any need to, or because they simply opt not to plan for whatever reason.
A WDW vacation takes more planning than going to a beach somewhere, but anywhere I go, I'm going to do my research. When you really compare WDW to planning a vacation to a non-resort, it's not that relatively difficult. There are 20-something on site WDW resorts, but how many hotels to choose from in any given city? Similarly, there are something like 240-odd places to eat at WDW (ranging from simple snack stands to V&A), but how many in a large city? Yes, you can go to most cities without planning, but I'm not going to go on ANY vacation without any idea of where I want to stay or dine, or the attractions I want to see. I've known people who go on non-WDW vacations and don't plan those either, and guess what? They don't have a great time, and don't see or do a fraction of what my family sees and does in the same city.
With more people traveling, the parks are obviously fuller, and Disney has to do something to help control crowds. If there were no ADRs, how long would waits be at restaurants? At least by making ADRs, I know I'm getting into the restaurants I want - if someone chooses not to make ADRs, that's their prerogative, and they know the possible consequences. WDW isn't like DLR which has many more local guests, which translates to more people staying in the parks to eat.
I also haven't fully experienced FP+ yet. I did make our FP+ reservations the other day though, and it was easy (8 park days for 7 people done in 9 minutes total, including A+E, 7DMT, ETWB, MSEP, etc) - easier than fighting crowds and waiting 90 mins+ to get on 7DMT or see A+E, making my kids get up for rope drop, or sprinting to a FP- machine. I've heard about
MDE being glitchy, but knock-on-wood, it hasn't been for us. We'll print our reservations just in case, but so far we haven't had the problems others seem to report.
Overall, I wish WDW would hurry up with construction timelines, and finally make announcements for concrete plans regarding DHS. I sincerely hope that big things are coming for DHS (Star Wars, more Pixar) AND Epcot (there are too many un- or under-used buildings), and that the additions to AK are worth the wait. I personally haven't encountered problems with MDE, but since so many people do report issues, they need to invest in more and better programmers. We also haven't ever encountered any rude CMs, but if we did, we'd report it to guest services ASAP because that's the only way things get fixed.
It's sad that long-time guests are becoming disillusioned. I've been going to DLR since I was a child, and WDW almost yearly for the past 11 or so years, and have many wonderful memories because of it. Maybe if I went multiple times a year, it wouldn't be so magical to me. I think going almost-yearly is maybe optimal, because I'm familiar with WDW, I know how to plan, but there are still new things to see and do (and I can also enjoy vacations to other locations, which I think is important).
Also, while I appreciate the ability to make dining/FP+ reservations, 180/60 days in advance is a little excessive. 60 days for dining, 45 for FP+ (for on site guests) would be plenty.