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[MAGICFOR2]

Renee, quick answer - my dad had a stroke in the first part of Dec.

 

[karajeboo]

Kara - Even if I wasn't out of town, I'd lie and say I was. How would she know?

Ok guys - I need your opinion........

Lauren's got this boy coming over. I know who he is - they text ALL THE TIME but she's says they're just good friends; they really like each other, but just as friends. Anyway, this is the first time she's had a boy over and do you know what's she doing? She's taken down all of her Jonas Brothers and Miley Cyrus pix in her room (not that I'd let him up in her room anyway!) and now she's down in the basement, hiding all of her Barbies! I don't want to get all "Norma Rae" on her but I want her to not be embarassed by who she is and what she likes. I say if someone is truly your friend, they won't make fun of you and you should have nothing to be embarassed about. She's telling me I just don't get it.

I'm kind of disappointed because she doesn't seem to have the confidence to be comfortable with who she is and just wants to appear to be like everyone else. Am I over-reacting and making too big a deal out this? Be honest - I can take it.

And, btw - I've just poured myself a glass of wine.

Oh, boy, first of all I would guess that you didn't stop with one glass of wine??? Seriously, Cammie, I think Lauren is a very smart young lady and she seems to have her head on straight, but like Jillian said, I think she has to do what she feels is best right now. It is a terrible time and one that I try to forget, but this is the first time she's had a boy over, right? So she's trying to do all the "right" things, regardless whether we think it's the right thing or not. I agree you should voice her opinion, but then just let her do what she feels is best and roll with it. I can remember trying to do what was expected to fit in, but then I was still "me" with my family and close friends. Again, she's a good kid with a good head on her shoulders, maybe she's just nervous and she's overreacting.

Okay, break time over - back to this crap. Seriously, I'm having chest pain (which I know is anxiety - not heart issues btw) and my neck muscles are so tense. I know we shouldn't eat out tonight, but I think I will do it today. I'm just spent!

WHere is my easy button?

OH, honey, if we all had easy buttons, life would be, well, EASY!!! Hang in there, at least your taking the right steps - remember, baby steps are the way to go! Before you know it you'll get there!

Tammie- I agree with Renee you ARE a saint. I think you deserve a little help. Maybe it is time to make a "Chore Chart I know that is college roomate stuff but if you need the help you need it. Somedays I feel the same way I have been running here there and everywhere appointment errands grocery shopping etc... and Mike comes home from work and plops down and does NOTHING his excuse he worked all day. What the Heck did I do? It is VERY frustrating.

Seriously, if I come back in another life I wanna be a man so I can come home from work and figure out new ways to operate the remote control! There is always so much to do and they just don't see it. I blame the mothers for that. I will make sure Ally knows how to change a tire, check her oil, etc, so that she doesn't have to rely on a man for that. And I think all little boys need to learn basic cooking, cleaning and laundry, so that they don't rely on their wives someday for that. It's so frustrating!

And btw, where does all this laundry come from???? I did 4 loads of laundry last night, folded, put away, and I have 3 more loads going today! And I KNOW I'll be doing the same thing next week! It never ends!!!!

Cammie, you MUST check in later and let us know how the study date went!!! Good luck - and just remember, don't hover! Be a "cool" mom!

 

[MAGICFOR2]

Hi Kara! I agree that girls and boys need to learn how to take care of themselves. My dad taught me all those things. I still don't have the muscle power for most of it, but I know how to do it As for boys, mine learned those things - in fact they were pretty good housekeepers during their Jr. High summers But when they grew up, they don't care! boys are just pigs!

It's funny about the remote control - at our house, it's the person who is holding it who holds all the power! Londynn has caught on to that - she loves to grab the remote, look teasingly at everyone in the room and wave it around like a magic wand!

 

[CRdisMom]

I've decided since it is so darn cold I'm not doing anything today. Bundle up it is headed your way.

 

[Camster0307]

Good morning ladies! It's a very chilly one here today! My WDW trip can not get here fast enough!

Thanks for all of your opinions everyone - you all helped bring me in off the ledge! It still makes me sad. I walked into Lauren's room this morning and saw the bare walls and just felt a pit in the bottom of my stomache; same with the basement - all the Barbie stuff is AWAY!(although I don't feel as bad about that one because the basement does look 100 times neater now! ) Anyway, I've come to the realization that what is making me so upset about this is that it's the cold smack of reality that my little girl is growing up. She swears that tonite she's putting everything back out; but I know the day is coming sooner, rather than later, that it will all be put away for good. I really have a hard time with my kids getting older; I'm going to need to be seriously medicated when she goes away to college!

So Amanda is home today. She didn't have a very good day at school yesterday; very congested, which makes her breathe heavier and faster. Had an ok night but I thought she could use a day home on the vent to help make breathing easier. She happily went right back to sleep this morning! I have to say, while the trach and vent makes her high maintenence, it really, really is a blessing to have it. I think it's what helps cut down on her hospitalizations. I didn't want to mention it at the time because I was afraid of jinxing it, but this past Nov. was the first time in four years that she wasn't hospitalized. She would always get really sick as the weather would get colder; but now that I'm working with a dr. who is easy to get in touch with and works well with me, we make adjustments at home and nip these illnesses in the bud. (watch - I've probably just jinxed us now!)

Renee - Welcome back! It's good to see your name pop up around here again! And, silly girl, don't waste your time going back and re-reading what you missed - that takes too much time. Just jump right back in; we'll fill you in on what is going on.

Kara - Your theory is a good one and I think every girl is well-served learning how to take care of things - without needing a man. As for teaching the boys - in my situation, it backfired. My ex was one of two brothers and did ALOT of things around the house while growing up. Thing was, when he married me, he was so bitter about having had to that he was perfectly content with now sitting back and letting me take care of all things domestic!

Tammie - You are a saint! I certainly hope your sons and daughters-in-law know what a gem they have in you. You certainly do go above and beyond. What are they going to do without you when you and Jim head to WDW?

Jillian - Did I read right? You fell and bumped your head on the bath tub? Are you ok girl? As for the bill left in the car -- I've said it before, and will say it again: if you want something done right, you've got to do it yourself!

Erin - Meant to mention earlier - but Chloe is really pretty and looks a little older, my dear! Your pix from HSM on Ice looked great!

Laura - Ok, what was up with the dancing gators? Did I miss something?

Debbie - Thanks for sending that cold weather our way! It's frigid here!

So I'll keep you guys posted on this homework "date". I was given orders by Lauren as she was leaving this morning:

1. - "Don't embarass me."
2. - "Don't mention the Jonas Brothers or Miley Cyrus."
3. - "Don't talk about me watching Drake & Josh on Nickleodeon."
4. - "Don't tell him that you zip up my coat every morning." (yeah, I do that;
coat has a double zipper & she can never get it straight.)

And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

Now let me just make something clear: I shower, get dressed, and put on a bra EVERY DAY. It's just when I get home and I'm in for the day, I put on comfy clothes and the bra comes off. I don't have big bewbs, so there's no problem there. Certainly, though, if someone was coming over, I would stay properly dressed. I swear, our kids really think we're idiots!

 

[karajeboo]

And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

I'm laughing so hard right now that the dog came in to check on me!!!! I can soooooooo see Ally saying the same thing to me! Do we really embarass our kids already????

Oh, that just made my morning! I'm STILL laughing!

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

And btw, where does all this laundry come from???? I did 4 loads of laundry last night, folded, put away, and I have 3 more loads going today! And I KNOW I'll be doing the same thing next week! It never ends!!!!
!

Honey, mine is at least 4 loads daily! WTH?????

Thanks for the pep talk. I needed it. I know. Baby steps. Just makes me so dang mad to have let it get this bad

It's funny about the remote control - at our house, it's the person who is holding it who holds all the power! Londynn has caught on to that - she loves to grab the remote, look teasingly at everyone in the room and wave it around like a magic wand!

GO LONDYNN!

As for your dad - how could I have missed that he had a stroke! I thought I reread everything! I am so sorry. My grandmother had several, and my MIL had a massive one at 49. PT really helped her a lot though! I'll keep him in my pryaers!

I've decided since it is so darn cold I'm not doing anything today. Bundle up it is headed your way.

We are suppose to be 2 degrees Friday What the heck do you do when it is 2 degrees! I'm use to a coat being optional all winter!

So I'll keep you guys posted on this homework "date". I was given orders by Lauren as she was leaving this morning:

1. - "Don't embarass me."
2. - "Don't mention the Jonas Brothers or Miley Cyrus."
3. - "Don't talk about me watching Drake & Josh on Nickleodeon."
4. - "Don't tell him that you zip up my coat every morning." (yeah, I do that;
coat has a double zipper & she can never get it straight.)

And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

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First, congrats on keeping Ms. Amanda out of the hosp! Proactive doctors really do rock - and I"m glad you can nip it in the bud on the front end, but as you are putting those credits out - please don't forget that wonderful mom who keep such a great eye on her kiddo that she sees these things progressing and gets the proactive dr involved so you don't end up in the hospital --- k?

You and me both girl about the growing up. Mine is I want to hold Nicolas back from kindgerarden next year siting he is a boy and too immature, etc. Honestly, I think I just don't want to admit he is school aged yet. I think I will need major drugs during the college years. In my mind, it gives me an extra year (I'm SITTING HERE CRYING ABOUT IT NOW) but I think the right thing to do is to let him go ... but I don't want to...

As for the "rules" those are good. And yes, they think we are complete idiots. Nicolas gives me lists of things at 4!!! I'm waiting for the "no kiss goodbye" speech any day now.

I promised a little boy I'd have the Wii hooked up and figured out by the time he gets home. I don't want to. I'm spent from yesterday - and still foggy. I had to take Tylenol PM to sleep and I sware I'm really sensative to that stuff.

Hope everyone has a good day.

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

So I'll keep you guys posted on this homework "date". I was given orders by Lauren as she was leaving this morning:

1. - "Don't embarass me."
2. - "Don't mention the Jonas Brothers or Miley Cyrus."
3. - "Don't talk about me watching Drake & Josh on Nickleodeon."
4. - "Don't tell him that you zip up my coat every morning." (yeah, I do that;
coat has a double zipper & she can never get it straight.)

And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

Cammie, Still cracking up over this one too... So I guess that means no "cup of Joe" for you while he is there ... huh?

Now that said, my neighbors commonly go outside in their robes in the morning to let the kids catch the bus. Sometimes Jammies (and I'm guilty of fetching the paper in mine - but their flannel bottomed/tee topped with bra on). But they are in a robe - nothing more - with kids catching the MIDDLE SCHOOL BUS! I die for them when I see that!

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

I busted my but looking for a Wii. Preordered one to ship the end of the month. Low and behold, Target had them in yesterday. I bought one thinking I would cancel the order. GUESS WHAT SHIPPED YESTERDAY?

 

[CRdisMom]

So I'll keep you guys posted on this homework "date". I was given orders by Lauren as she was leaving this morning:

1. - "Don't embarass me."
2. - "Don't mention the Jonas Brothers or Miley Cyrus."
3. - "Don't talk about me watching Drake & Josh on Nickleodeon."
4. - "Don't tell him that you zip up my coat every morning." (yeah, I do that;
coat has a double zipper & she can never get it straight.)

And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

Cammie, Still cracking up over this one too... So I guess that means no "cup of Joe" for you while he is there ... huh?

Now that said, my neighbors commonly go outside in their robes in the morning to let the kids catch the bus. Sometimes Jammies (and I'm guilty of fetching the paper in mine - but their flannel bottomed/tee topped with bra on). But they are in a robe - nothing more - with kids catching the MIDDLE SCHOOL BUS! I die for them when I see that!

I drive Beth to school every morning in my PJs granted you can't them under the 10 million layers of outerwear. I just can see it the car will break down one morning. yuck...

I did spit out my Diet Coke on the keyboard when I read Cammie's post. I love the ideas they come up with. I know this soon will be coming from Beth too.

Renee- My girlfriend has the same dilema about her boy. He is just at the cut of for K. She is going to hold him back. She said that way he won't be the youngest and he will be extra smart. Good luck with that decision.

Love Londynn and the remote Tammie.

 

[DizzyErin]

Thanks for all of your opinions everyone - you all helped bring me in off the ledge! It still makes me sad. I walked into Lauren's room this morning and saw the bare walls and just felt a pit in the bottom of my stomache; same with the basement - all the Barbie stuff is AWAY!(although I don't feel as bad about that one because the basement does look 100 times neater now! ) Anyway, I've come to the realization that what is making me so upset about this is that it's the cold smack of reality that my little girl is growing up. She swears that tonite she's putting everything back out; but I know the day is coming sooner, rather than later, that it will all be put away for good. I really have a hard time with my kids getting older; I'm going to need to be seriously medicated when she goes away to college!

Oh you and me both Cammie i am dreading Cj getting older and she always says she doesn't want to move out because i'll be alone, bless her .... More hugs

Erin - Meant to mention earlier - but Chloe is really pretty and looks a little older, my dear! Your pix from HSM on Ice looked great!

Thankyou .. She is a tall girl just like i always was at school and i think that contributes to her looking older, she certainly (and thankfully) is not a 9 yr old in 13 yr old shoes if you know what i mean! Although i have to say she did start developing very early too early poor love it was hard to cope with for a while ... 3 weeks and she will be 10, yikes double figures here we come


And my favorite one, as she's walking out the door.........................
5. - "And make sure you're wearing a bra when we get home."

Hahhahahahahahahhahaa this really made me laugh

I've decided since it is so darn cold I'm not doing anything today. Bundle up it is headed your way.

Oh yuck is freezing here too Laura i hate the winter yuck .. it rained all day Monday and now has gone back to freezing

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

I just got back from picking Nicolas up. He is all upset becasue the little girls in his preschool program were laughing at him because he brought a DORA yogurt cup to school. The girls promptly told him that Dora was for babies and that only babies watched things like that. I got really ticked off...

I told him to just tell them next time they were being rude and Dora was a really cool show - and if he liked it - it was fine. I told him to tell the girls next time they are being rude with their comments He said that would then make him be rude by saying they are rude. I told him he wasn't being rude - he was just telling them the truth. It is rude to laugh at others.

SERIOUSLY - I am having to deal with this at FOUR YEARS OLD?????

 

[DizzyErin]

I just got back from picking Nicolas up. He is all upset becasue the little girls in his preschool program were laughing at him because he brought a DORA yogurt cup to school. The girls promptly told him that Dora was for babies and that only babies watched things like that. I got really ticked off...

I told him to just tell them next time they were being rude and Dora was a really cool show - and if he liked it - it was fine. I told him to tell the girls next time they are being rude with their comments He said that would then make him be rude by saying they are rude. I told him he wasn't being rude - he was just telling them the truth. It is rude to laugh at others.

SERIOUSLY - I am having to deal with this at FOUR YEARS OLD?????

Oh Renee i feel for you i had so many probs with things like that when Chloe first started school at 4 1/2 it drove me up the wall .. kids

 

[UsNew2Disney2008]

Renee- My girlfriend has the same dilema about her boy. He is just at the cut of for K. She is going to hold him back. She said that way he won't be the youngest and he will be extra smart. Good luck with that decision.
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Twist my arm Laura ------ come on.... DO IT! I don't want to send him. Here the cutoff is end of August. His birthday is early May, but it should have been late May. I'm torn. He is smart. I talk to so many who do and don't regret it. He just seems to love school so much.

DEBBIE - what do you think? He is smart - knows his letters. Writing is so so. Typical boy. Pediatrician recommends all "summer babies" stay back because our county has high expectations. I think they have 100 sight words - etc. I don't want to set him up for failure or have him hate school.

Then, I have my SIL telling me that they laughed at a guy that was 18 his senior year. So my options are send a barely 18 year old off to college or a barely 19 year old . Then she told me that he dropped out of his senior year and his parents could do NOTHING because he was 18!

On a up note, we have the Wii out doing Bowling. This will be so good for him in terms of developing his coordination! Pretty neat for mom too. he he!

Thanks for the pep talk Erin. I just did not realize things like this start so young!

 

[DizzyErin]

Thanks for the pep talk Erin. I just did not realize things like this start so young!

Only wish i had some proper advice .. i don't .. i think you just have to prepare them that some kids say mean things sometimes .. for 3 yrs i had to go to Chloe's teachers to get sorted what wasn't getting sorted, i eventually threatened to blow my top if something wasn't done immediately .. not to say that's what you should do but make sure you keep an eye on it and arm Nicholas with all you can to help him

 

[karajeboo]

Renee - for what it's worth, I am late July so I was still 17 when I graduated high school. I was always the youngest in all my classes. No problems, just frustrating when I was the last to drive!

But isn't Nicolas tall for his age? If you hold him back won't he be that much taller for his class? Just a thought.

My neighbor held her son back because his bday is in September so he was REALLY young for his class, and he's really into sports which always put him at a disadvantage. When they moved she figured that was the best time to do it, even though he was doing well in school. I"m not sure I agree with that since there was no reason to hold him back academically.

OK, Ally has figured out to bring up her instant messenger (only my work IM, my dad, and my sister are on there for her) and open up her webcam. So she does her homework at the kitchen table and IMs me from time to time. It's really cute.

 

[karajeboo]

Oh, and Renee, it only gets worse as they get older. Ally had kids on the bus make fun of her for wearing "baby" jeans. They're really cute and embroidered. She was so upset. I asked her if she liked them - she said yes. And she proudly wore them the next week and when someone made fun of them, she punched his lights out! Just kidding! But she did wear them again and just told the kid, "hey, I like them." As hard as it is to NOT get involved, Jeff won't let me baby her when things like this happen, and he's right.

She was getting picked on riding the bus and wanted me to start picking her up from school. Jeff said absolutely not, let it work itself out. After two days I haven't heard any more about it, and I've asked the neighbor boys too and they said whatever it was it fizzled out. So while it broke my heart to see her upset, we can't fight all their battles for them. After all, who fights our battles as we get older? We need to be there to give good advice and to listen. Hopefully then they can work it out. If not, go punch out the little kids yourself!

 

[DizzyErin]

Oh dear lord help me

I have just had a friend request on facebook from a friend of Chloe's .. she is 9 yrs old

I do not think she should even be on facebook, let alone accept it!!
Oh what do i tell her mum who is a sort of friend of mine???
I just don't think it's appropriate for kids to be on there, i have let cj play games on mine but that is it!!
Oh what do i do???????????????

 

[karajeboo]

Erin - I would jokingly mention it to the mother - maybe she doesn't know? That's crazy though! And I agree that 9 is too young. I have a friend whose 16 year old daughter is on there and she has some pretty risque photos too! Oh, and over 1000 friends. Now you know she's got friends she doesn't even know - that's where it gets dangerous!

 

[DizzyErin]

Erin - I would jokingly mention it to the mother - maybe she doesn't know? That's crazy though! And I agree that 9 is too young. I have a friend whose 16 year old daughter is on there and she has some pretty risque photos too! Oh, and over 1000 friends. Now you know she's got friends she doesn't even know - that's where it gets dangerous!

Believe me the mother knows i'm sure it's her that has set her up on it .. she has friend requested me and my best friend ... nightmare, gonna have to say something!!!

I have 2 16 yr old cousins on there too and have to say think all thats on there is what i would have had on there at that age hahaha thankfully, not sure i could cope otherwise .. in fact its my 19 yr old cousin who worries me the most on there, just the way he seems to be living his life etc .. worrying stuff to be a teen nowadays