Looking For Control Freaks & Worry Warts too........

[pbharris4]

I am dealing with my anxiety again. I have never talked to a doctor about it and have never taken medication but on days like today i sure think about it. I just get so crazy around the holidays trying to work everything out so that everyone is happy. I wish I could just do it without giving myself this constant nervous stomach ache over it though. Oh well. I tell myself ALL the time that there are people with A LOT worse problems then I have. I just wish that that would get rid of the anxiety!
Thanks for listening.
Debbie

The medicine does help! I am control freak/worrier/panic person myself. And it has really helped. You sound like you are overwhelmed (which all of us get). We get the anxiety because we really just can't control everything and when try to keep up with it, there is just more stuff to do.

I saw a saying once from a calender I had. I think it said:

["Feeling overwhelmed is like the little dancing top on the pressure cooker. It is a safety device that is warning us to take notice. We can ignore the warning and if we do, something will blow."

Easier said then done, but the medicine has helped. So I am still the planner and worrier, but not as bad as I used to be! If I catch myself getting a little too controlling, I take a few hours to myself and just watch TV or get on the computer or browse the mall or something.

 

[pbharris4]

The very day we got back from WDW in July, I said let's go for Xmas and I was back at the computer planning that day! But besides ADRs and hotels.... we are doing WDW Freestyle..this Xmas! It's may be hard, but I just need to do it!

 

[Momof4girls]

Another one here, too. Major control freak.

I started shopping for our trip six months ago.

I make lists of everything - ADRs, especially.

I take cards into each park that have cheat sheets of what we're going to eat that day and where our reservations are.

I lay out the kids' clothing months in advance to see what else we might need.

I coordinate their outfits for the parks (jungle theme for AK, Princess for MK, etc.)

I coordinate their outfits to eachother - they all match.

I ziplock their outfits together with hairbows and rubberbands for each day.

I have to drive to WDW because I don't trust airlines with my strollers and carseats.

I have to drive with our carseats because I don't trust car rentals, the safety in the vehicles, and the quality of their carseats

I plan out everything - from our snacks to the parades - the park days, the swimming days

I get laughed at by the bakeries when I call to schedule special occasion cakes four months in advance

I lay awake at night and try to figure out if I have forgotten anything and hope that we have enough room in the resort

I email WDW to ask them to kindly remove the spiders from the ferryboats

 

[Debbie6221]

It's always so nice to talk to people who understand. I felt like if I created a thread like this I would find people I could vent to who would know where I was coming from. I feel very alone sometimes because if you talk to someone who doesn't understand they will say "what's the big deal, let it go, no biggie...." and no matter how much you tell yourself that..... it doesn't work. I guess now seems a little more tolerable because when I stopped nursing in 2003 I felt like I needed to be commited the anxiety and nervousness was so bad. I just want everyone to be happy...nobody to be mad and everything to be smooth sailing all the time. It would take a whole lot more time then I have to go into why I get stressed out at the holidays exactly and I still don't think I would post it for fear someone I am typing about would see it and I would hurt thier feelings, etc. etc. I can be parinoid too!

Don't you ever wish that someone worried about OUR state of mind (feelings) as much as we worry about everyone elses. I bet there's not one of you out there that thinks of yourself first. Am I right?

The medicine does help! I am control freak/worrier/panic person myself. And it has really helped. You sound like you are overwhelmed (which all of us get). We get the anxiety because we really just can't control everything and when try to keep up with it, there is just more stuff to do.

What kind of meds do you take?? I want something that will let me still feel like myself and that I only have to take when I am having a bad day.

The very day we got back from WDW in July, I said let's go for Xmas and I was back at the computer planning that day! But besides ADRs and hotels.... we are doing WDW Freestyle..this Xmas! It's may be hard, but I just need to do it!

We got back in October and before the plane even landed we were discussing and planning a November trip for 2007.

I miss WDW really bad today

 

[pbharris4]

Deleting this post.

 

[pbharris4]

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I email WDW to ask them to kindly remove the spiders from the ferryboats

Eww! They had some HUGE ones just dangling from the corners this summer! It's giving me the Heebie Geebies just thinking about it!

 

[Debbie6221]

Thanks again! I'll be back!

 

[tkhkroberts]

My husband absolutely hates this trait, but what can I do. We leave in 9 months and I have everything laid out on a schedule from what parks to where we are eating along with alternative schedules in case I do not get the ADRs in the order I want. I have already booked everything also. I told him this time we are doing the DDP because usually I have to make sure that we are in budget every day so that we do not run out of money. This way far less budgeting while we are there and more enjoyment. I know this is a sickness.

 

[Debbie6221]

I've decided my anxiety is seasonal and part of my problem is I don't have a WDW trip to focus my attention on (an awesome distraction). I WISH I had ADR's to worry about!!!!! (BTW..we liked DDP). Instead I must worry about the holidays for now!

 

[disneyohana]

I feel better reading all these posts. I have been to the dentist twice this week and had to clean like crazy for my dh's b-day. I tried to get every speck of dust. I don't know why I go so crazy when I have company. I'm so stressed lately, and a little depressed. I liked that remark about people telling you to relax. It almost feels insulting. You feel stressed and instead of trying to help they just take the easy way out and use those words. Well, Hope everyone has a good weekend.

 

[Debbie6221]

It is nice to read these posts to see there are other people who go through the same things as we do. I always feel worse when the weather is like it is too. I haven't been able to spend as much time as I would like on the computer lately. Crazy days. Sometimes when I have so... much going on though I can get a bit distracted in a good way. My DD's Birthday was today and we had a great time. I too have company coming over and will spend the whole day cleaning tomorrow!

Boy I wish I had a WDW ticker!!!!!!
Hope to talk more later.
Debbie

 

[Debbie6221]

Oh ....I am having a melt down today because I couldn't get my DD High School Musical Concert tickets! I feel so bad I couldn't pull it off. I tried ALL morning! It is so depressing! My DD just turned 4 (today actually) but she LOVES that movie!!! I wanted so badly to surprise her with the concert.

 

[disneyohana]

Debbie,
Sorry you couldn't get the tickets. I haven't seen the movie. Have to try to make the time though. Everyone on here seems to love it. Sorry I haven't had a lot of time to get on the computer either. When I do I usually come to this thread first. I feel like everyone on here understands and I feel for them also. Thanks for starting it. I'm glad your dd's b-day was good. Hope her party is just as fun.

 

[Debbie6221]

Well I broke down and bought tickets for HSM on Ebay. My DD is one lucky, spoiled little 4 year old. My Mom said she would give her the tickets for Christmas though so that was an awesome surprise! I really feel like I got a good deal by Ebay standards too. If you are a control freak, worrier, anxiety prone person like I am, having to get tickets on line with thousands of other people is not good! I thought I was going to puke over it. I take days to make descisions and now I have to make one in a split second. Oh it was awful!

I have been doing OK lately which is nice I hope all you guys are doing good too. I know I will stress about Thanksgiving as that gets closer and I don't even have the holiday. I just get all stressed about driving to one place and then having to be the person who tells my DH we have to leave to go to the next place.

I am envious of those of you who have trips coming up to WDW. When ever I am stressing I really just sit back and imagine myself there. That's how I fall asleep too. I must find a way to get back there sooner than later.


FromscratchMom how have you been?
DisneyOhana you cam PM me anytime! I DO know how you feel.
Pam..thanks for your PM's I love chatting with you. We are soul sisters of a sort!
All you guys are. We understand each other!
Talk to you guys later!

 

[pbharris4]

Well, I finally sat down to make a list of what we're going to be doing and change an ADR for our Xmas trip. But that 7 month DVC window on Dec.4th is fast approaching..which means MORE planning. Don't have a problem with the lodging: already booked VWL for 3 nights and Dec.4th will book a 1 bdrm at OKW for 7 nights. Already have tickets. What's the hardest for me is the ADRs. The 180 day mark is Dec.24th, but I'll call I guess the 26th or a few days later. Maybe I'll just wait until after Jan. 1st and the holidays are over. I got all my Xmas shopping for others done today and all that's left is the kids. Of course, THAT'S the big thing!

Deb...glad you got tickets to HSM. Your DD will be so happy! My 3yo watches it with her older sister and there's this one part that my 3 yo starts to cry. Why I don't know. She cries every time a slow song is on TV.

 

[Debbie6221]

Where do you want to get ADR's at?? We are the ADR family! I think we had an ADR for every day!

 

[pbharris4]

Not quite sure yet. That's the problem. I need to get in planning mode again, but once I start I'll be on a role. LOL

 

[fromscratchmom]

Hi, everyone. I don't know why, but disboards quit sending me emails for the most part. I'm subscribed to several threads, some of which have tremendous amounts of activity. But during the last few days, while I have been too busy to search all of my threads, when I checked email, there just wasn't anything there. Today at least 4 threads sent me notice of new posts. Very strange. Oh, well. I'm glad that I got to see what y'all have been posting. I'll try to join in more, but we have a ton of stuff on our calendar for this week, so we'll see if I stay sane enough to come back and report.

 

[disneyohana]

pbharris4 - I also have to make ADR's. My problem is deciding which places to eat at. I would like to try so many but I would also like to relax a little on vacation instead of worrying about getting to the restaurant. This will be my first time getting ADR's.

FromScratchMom - Nice to see you back.

Debbie - Thanks. I wasn't sure if you minded the PM's. I don't want to be a nuisance.
I'm trying to get my info. ready for my DME reservations & decide on ADR's while I have some kind of flu, I think. It is chest congestion & a non-productive cough along w/weakness. And yesterday we got a flat at the mall so I had to call AAA. My dh was working and I didn't want to bother him. AAA was great. I'm glad I got it for the discount on CBR. After they put on the spare I stopped and got the tire patched. That took them almost 2 hrs. Luckily my sister was at the mall w/me and took my dd to her house. I can't imagine going through all the waiting w/her.
Hope you guys stay healthy.

 

[Debbie6221]

Hi Guys,
Welcome back FromScratchMom...by the way do you bake from scratch????
We missed ya!
My computer sometimes sends me the post emails in doubles! That's annoying too!

Lisa...I don't mind PM's. We have to appreciate that we have each other to talk to when no one else understands. I'm sorry you are sick. I hate being sick. It's hard enough getting stuff done when you feel good. When I taught kindergarten I was sick ALL the time!!!! Now I am a germaphob! I have been really healthy since I have had children and stopped working so now I am more of a germaphob over the kids. When I go to DDs classes or to the store all I can hear are all the coughs and sneezes, and all I see are dribbling noses. It practically sends me into a frenzy! I run home and double up on my vitamins everytime! Friday the kids are getting flu shots.

Back to stressing...My friend told me that she read that there are statistics now that prove peoples anxiety does increase this time of year. I think it has to do with less sun. Am I nuts?

I've started to get worked up over a few things and I am just trying to snap myself out of it. I still am debating about talking to a GP about it all but then when I'm fine I think I've been over reacting. I am also trying to talk myself down when I am overreacting to stuff. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. I have been giving my kids big hugs when I am stressed and reminding myself that there are bigger problems then mine out there. It actually has helped.

Now on a lighter note....

I am so envious of all of you leaving me to go to WDW without me over the holidays! I would give anything to make an ADR!!!!! If you guys want to ask me anything just let me know because we make tons of ADRs. It is a lot of scheduling though. We did the DDP too and that's a lot of food!
Hang in there!!!
Debbie