Long Distance Bridal Shower

[LLLBelle]

I am traveling home to Jersey from AZ for my bridal shower next month. I helped my mom make my shower invitations and we were concerned about how to inform people to ship their gift, if possible. I don't want to sound pretentious about getting a gift, I told my mom that I don't care about that and would have preferred just lunch with the girls of my family, but I digress.

How do I tactfully put it in writing in the invitation? DF thinks it's tacky and we should just use word of mouth. I was going to make a little sticker to put on the back of the little registry papers that Bed, Bath, and Beyond gives you for their registry. We are flying Southwest so we can bring an extra suitcase without charge. I just feel like it is becoming more difficult than it has to be.

If anyone has any thoughts, ideas that would be great. TIA

 

[lurkyloo]

I'm afraid there's no way to put it on the invitation without being tacky. It's basically assuming they are going to bring a gift, which then makes it seem like the point of the shower is to get gifts (whick, OK, it IS, but nobody says that! ) Word of mouth works for letting people know where you're registered, so it should work for this too.

 

[Lindsay22]

I think for a shower, it's okay to mention gifts since that is the point of the party... kind of like it's expected that you put the registry card in the shower invitation. I think if you were putting it on your wedding invite it would be a different story.

For my shower (we had the same problem as you... we live in Florida and the shower was in NJ) my mother put it a poem that said something like (i can find the actual wording for you)...

"We're so happy blah blah blah... Ship your gifts to their Tampa abode, they'll be so happy not to carry the load. Put your joy in the car, we're all going to celebrate the future Mrs. Hrabar (ray-bar). "

Everyone wrapped a picture of their gift and that i what I unwrapped at the shower. I also got a lot of gift cards which was really nice.

If it was tacky, no one said that to me and it was so much easier than sitting around after the shower wondering what the heck we were going to do and figuring out how we were getting the gifts home.

 

[pezaddict231]

I agree, I think you can definitely put it in with the registry card since the point of a shower is to "shower the bride with gifts", so it's kinda the one time you can mention it. I like the idea of a little quote or something, maybe on a separate card like the registry info would be? I wouldn't put it on the back because people might not see it then. I also think most of your guests would understand since you don't live in the area.

 

[Nicsnick]

Alot of people asked my mom what to get me for my shower and she told them all gift cards. The couple of gifts that I did get, I took back to Bed Bath and Beyond (great return policy) and rebought when I got home. After I went shopping with the gift cards Andrew and I took a picture with all our new stuff and I included the picture in the thank you cards.