Last one to post........... Part 30

[trappednabox]

Thanks Tracy. I wish I could have that for real! This is not going to be a good day.

I don't even know why she called. She just wanted to let me know that they were going. But did she ask me to come down there - NO!

I just can't imagine doing that to my mom. I'm really so sorry kathy I wish I could be there to give you a real one too

 

[Mom2Ashli]

DD called a little while ago to let me know that they're going to the magistrate's office today to get married.

How romantic...go to class, get married, go to work. (Of course she wasted no time reminding me that they wouldn't be doing it this way if DH and I hadn't "pulled the rug out from under them" as far as having a real wedding. And although in my heart I don't believe that 'cause they still had plenty of time to plan a real wedding - they just no longer had our financing - it still hurt to hear her say that.)

I guess it really is Friday the 13th after all.

Kathy - I am so sorry that this is happening. You right, she had plenty of time to plan a very nice money on a budget. She could have waited or just had a nice outdoor ceremony that didn't cost a whole lot of money. And if her BF loves her as much as she thinks he would totally understand.

I just get the impress she is rushing for a reason. Like there is some kind of pressure or deadline for them to get married.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Thanks Tracy. I wish I could have that for real! This is not going to be a good day.

I don't even know why she called. She just wanted to let me know that they were going. But did she ask me to come down there - NO!

She is acting hurtful and spoiled that is why she called you. And I don't recall you ever talking about your DD being this way in the past which again leads me to believe the BF is behind her actions.

And I agree Joe, she is not being fair to anyone, not even herself.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

I just can't imagine doing that to my mom. I'm really so sorry kathy I wish I could be there to give you a real one too

I just wish she would listen to us and wait a while. Everyone I talk to says that they could never do that to their parents.

Sorry, but I'm probably going to do a lot of whining and boo-hooing today.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

I just wish she would listen to us and wait a while. Everyone I talk to says that they could never do that to their parents.

Sorry, but I'm probably going to do a lot of whining and boo-hooing today.

Go right ahead. That is what we are here for.




I could never do anything that would hurt my Mom. Heck I didn't even want to tell my Mom I don't like the sauage she cooks because I thought it would hurt her feelings. After 7-1/2 years of choking it down, I did say something but I felt terrible about doing it.

 

[trappednabox]

Go right ahead. That is what we are here for.




I could never do anything that would hurt my Mom. Heck I didn't even want to tell my Mom I don't like the sauage she cooks because I thought it would hurt her feelings. After 7-1/2 years of choking it down, I did say something but I felt terrible about doing it.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Kathy - I am so sorry that this is happening. You right, she had plenty of time to plan a very nice money on a budget. She could have waited or just had a nice outdoor ceremony that didn't cost a whole lot of money. And if her BF loves her as much as she thinks he would totally understand.

I just get the impress she is rushing for a reason. Like there is some kind of pressure or deadline for them to get married.

This is exactly what I tried to get her to understand on the phone earlier. She's always dreamed of a fairy-tale wedding. If he loves her as much as she thinks he loves her then he would want her to have that, even if it means waiting for it.

I'm wondering about the reasoning as well. I wonder if it's a visa issue.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

This is exactly what I tried to get her to understand on the phone earlier. She's always dreamed of a fairy-tale wedding. If he loves her as much as she thinks he loves her then he would want her to have that, even if it means waiting for it.

I'm wondering about the reasoning as well. I wonder if it's a visa issue.

That is the first thing I thought of.

There is something that is driving them to move quickly.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Hang in there.

I am going to get ready to head out for the day. I will check back in later.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

She is acting hurtful and spoiled that is why she called you. And I don't recall you ever talking about your DD being this way in the past which again leads me to believe the BF is behind her actions.

And I agree Joe, she is not being fair to anyone, not even herself.

I think the BF is behind a lot of it but DD has always acted spoiled and rebelious. We've had problems since high school. We were thrilled when she decided to go away to school because honestly DH and I couldn't take the thought of her living here much longer. She's always had an "I'm better than everyone attitude." We've always called her the princess...she may not have the material wealth or money to back up the princess claim but she certainly has the attitude. But in the past year things had been getting really better. After she dumped the other BF (last spring) that was always getting into trouble she had some long talks with DH and I and told us she was sorry for what she had put us through, and that she was sorry for not believing us (and all of her friends) when we told her that the old BF was nothing but trouble, and she told us she now realized how important family is and that she never wanted to do anything to hurt that bond! And now this.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Go right ahead. That is what we are here for.




I could never do anything that would hurt my Mom. Heck I didn't even want to tell my Mom I don't like the sauage she cooks because I thought it would hurt her feelings. After 7-1/2 years of choking it down, I did say something but I felt terrible about doing it.

That's the way I always was with my mom! Wish she was here to talk to through all of this.

 

[thmar]

There's so little I can say or do except to say I'm so sorry...and I will pray for you and your family.

 

[kaylajr]

Hello everyone

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Hang in there.

I am going to get ready to head out for the day. I will check back in later.

Oh, that's right...it's Friday...you get to leave early. Are you volunteering at school today??

Well, have a nice afternoon. Thanks for the shoulder to cry on!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

There's so little I can say or do except to say I'm so sorry...and I will pray for you and your family.

Thanks!

 

[trappednabox]

I think the BF is behind a lot of it but DD has always acted spoiled and rebelious. We've had problems since high school. We were thrilled when she decided to go away to school because honestly DH and I couldn't take the thought of her living here much longer. She's always had an "I'm better than everyone attitude." We've always called her the princess...she may not have the material wealth or money to back up the princess claim but she certainly has the attitude. But in the past year things had been getting really better. After she dumped the other BF (last spring) that was always getting into trouble she had some long talks with DH and I and told us she was sorry for what she had put us through, and that she was sorry for not believing us (and all of her friends) when we told her that the old BF was nothing but trouble, and she told us she now realized how important family is and that she never wanted to do anything to hurt that bond! And now this.

I just don't understand I would be so hurt if my mom wasn't there when i got married, even if it was on the court house steps! you have to remember Kathy, that you are an AMAZING mom! your boys are proof of that! you have a great family how loves the heck outta you and you have us who love the heck outta you too!! no matter why she's doing it, she's the one who is gonna have to deal with it in the end. it's just sad that when she realizes what a mistake she's made there may be too many hurt feelings. I really hope she realizes what she's doing not only to you and Al, but to the boys too

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Hello everyone

Hi Kayla!

I had some time yesterday and read a few of the threads on the CB with regards to the "issues" you said were going on over the game. WOW! People are getting vicious.

 

[kaylajr]

DD called a little while ago to let me know that they're going to the magistrate's office today to get married.

How romantic...go to class, get married, go to work. (Of course she wasted no time reminding me that they wouldn't be doing it this way if DH and I hadn't "pulled the rug out from under them" as far as having a real wedding. And although in my heart I don't believe that 'cause they still had plenty of time to plan a real wedding - they just no longer had our financing - it still hurt to hear her say that.)

I guess it really is Friday the 13th after all.

Kathy I am so sorry..............

 

[trappednabox]

Hello everyone

Hey you!!!!

 

[kaylajr]

Hi Kayla!

I had some time yesterday and read a few of the threads on the CB with regards to the "issues" you said were going on over the game. WOW! People are getting vicious.

Yup it is getting hard but I think it will all work out in the end
at least I hope it will

but I can't say anything publiclly