Last one to post........... Part 30

[Mom2Ashli]

Okay I am ready.

 

[tubachick]

DH and I both think she is, but she won't listen to us. I wish she would realize it before she gets married.

Now that they'll have the license I think there is only a three day waiting period. So I would be that they'll be getting sooner than May 19th.

extra hugs

I'm praying that everything works out ok for her because divorce is such a hard thing on everyone and thats such an awful mistake to make at such a young age.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

And the sad part is she will coming running home and you and DH will have to heal all the wounds. And at that time I told you so won't go over very well.

It may not go over too well, but knowing me she'd still hear it!

I am really sorry she feels the need to rush into something.

She's thinking with her heart and not her brain! I think she's in love and she's in love with the idea of being married. But it's not going to be the way she's dreaming of. They're going to have it rough. They have no money and at the rate they're going they'll be scrimping for a long time.

Honestly I don't understand the whole we have to be married now thing. Live together and try and figure out if this is the right move for you.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

extra hugs

I'm praying that everything works out ok for her because divorce is such a hard thing on everyone and thats such an awful mistake to make at such a young age.

Thanks!

 

[tubachick]

that's why even though we're so close to OK we NEVER go there!

good thing we only went one-way the southern route

and it's a good thing you didn't try the big Tx dinner that's A LOT of food

its a lot of food and its not cheap!!! they make you pay the $98 for the dinner before they will even cook the meat. If you finish the 72 ounce steak dinner (meaning the WHOLE DINNER) then you get your money back!!!

DH and I only spent $45 for our whole dinner and he had the huge t-bone steak!!!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Marriage is one hard job, along with Parenting.

Especially when you have to struggle along the way.

It will either make you or break you.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Okay, I need to get off here for a while and go get my comforter out of the washer. Yesterday's plans for the day (the comforter. sheets, etc.) were carried over to today since I went back to bed yesterday morning. By the time I got back up there really wasn't enough time. You have to soak the comforter for 45 minutes, then run it through a rinse cycle, then run it through a full was cycle and then it has to be line dried. I got the shams done yesterday, and they turned out nice, but saved the comforter and the rest for today.

Pam, keep the reports coming 'cause I'll read back when I get back on.

And Kelli I'll try the pic on my laptop when I get back on later!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Okay, I need to get off here for a while and go get my comforter out of the washer. Yesterday's plans for the day (the comforter. sheets, etc.) were carried over to today since I went back to bed yesterday morning. By the time I got back up there really wasn't enough time. You have to soak the comforter for 45 minutes, then run it through a rinse cycle, then run it through a full was cycle and then it has to be line dried. I got the shams done yesterday, and they turned out nice, but saved the comforter and the rest for today.

Pam, keep the reports coming 'cause I'll read back when I get back on.

And Kelli I'll try the pic on my laptop when I get back on later!

 

[Mom2Ashli]

10 mins. until lunchtime. I am so hungry. And you guys are not helping talking about steak and prime rib, shrimp and salad.

 

[tubachick]

We didn't stay at the wigwam, because my A-type personality was kicking in and I was looking at the time/days we were on the road vs when I had to get back for school, so I calculated "how far" we had to get inorder to get home by sunday-- I am such a buzz-kill --

but in hind sight we prob should have stayed there because the next area with hotels was flagstaff and they were pretty much booked. We found a room at a holiday inn express, and lets just say we could have done better sleeping in the car. Well, the H.I.E. had a breakfast, so we ate it and hit the road. we had a car museum, and a route 66 museum in our future. Kingman AZ here we come. This part of AZ is on the southern rim of the grand canyon so as you drive through this part of the country there are a ton of senic bluffs and places to take pictures and many indian reservations (I am not sure if they are called reservations anymore or not) with shopping!!!

When we reached Kingman AZ there were a ton of original buildings some hotels that advertised "new cool air rooms" and diners. we stopped here at lunch at the "hot rod cafe" and went to the museum.

we had a ton of fun, and made sure to check the car out before we hit the desert into CA.

Now the last time I had been to CA was when I was in college, and I was with the band-- so I was pretty geeky then, but I didn't remember it being like a foreign country Dh and I were cruising along I-40 (its not recomended for this part of rt 66 to stray from the highway as it is a long desert with few services) at about 80 mph-- cruise control set and the AC on, and then all of a sudden there is like a traffic jam, in the middle of the desert!!! its the CA boarder!!!

they have a blockade up then when you get to the guard they ask "what is your purpose in CA?" "Where are you coming from?" "do you have any fruits or plants?" WHAT??? I hope they don't ask us for passports, I didn't realize we needed them

after we were successfully allowed entrance to the great state of California, I remembered reading in one of our rt 66 books of the boarder patrols during the great depression.

--- side bar for a brief history lesson (thats the teacher in me)

CA was not greatly effected by the great depression because it was isolated by mountains and a desert so when word got out that CA was the place to get work many dust bowl and midwesterners headed to CA. The CA government decided to put up blockades and not let them in, and did. Many people died in "camps" just outside the CA boarders due to the desert heat and cold.

-- ok back to the trip.

when they tell you no services for 106 miles they are not kidding. even their rest stops were closed for rehab!!!! so it was like 180 miles for potty breaks!!!


we made it to Barstow CA without any harm and bladders intact!

we had wanted to go to a car museum here but they only had hours on sat and sunday-- so we peeked in the window anyway.-- off to the ocean!!!

wed was almost over!!!

 

[tubachick]

the desert in CA between Kingman AZ and Barstow CA is not what I expected. There is a lot of bushes and small plants. I think the elevation has something to do with it, but it is quite barren.

 

[tubachick]

We stopped for dinner in San Bernadino CA and we looked at the map (and the gas prices it was $3.55 for regular!!!!) and decided what our thursday would look like since we had to head back on Friday.

DH wanted to stop by the Boyd Coddington Hot Rod shop in La Habra CA near Santa Ana (and Anahiem) so I asked if we would have time to stop at Disneyland, and DH said of course what from the man who self-proclaims to hate all things Disney???? so of course, I did what any sane person would do, I started to call for a room in the area. Got one!!! for two nights at DL!! we had a room at Paridse Peir for two nights. Wed and Thurs. So now to figure out how to get to Boyd Coddington's shop.

So I mapped out a route from San Bernadino to La Habra (which suprisingly was not far off of rt 66 so we would still be able to finish our route) and we stopped there and took some pics. Boyd Coddington FYI is a car "customizer" and has his own tv show on the discovery channel I think, he was way famous in the car world before the tv show though.

now off to the ocean then Disneyland!!!

 

[tubachick]

ok-- back to work for me, so as they say....


the rest of the story later.

 

[trappednabox]

Everything sounds great Pam! I can't wait to get the rest of the TR

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Just popping on here to post 'cause I need a shoulder (shoulders) to cry on.

DD just called. They got their marriage license. I was wrong - there is no waiting period. So I expect we'll be getting a "we're married" call any day now.

What has me so upset though is that she called to say they were heading back to Charlotte. She had told her boss she'd be late, if she came in at all, but she said if they leave now she may make it on time. That's a bunch of b***. She usually doesn't care if she gets there on time, and her boss wouldn't care either. She (they) just didn't want to come out to the house. And I really don't think it's her as much as her fiance. She was 15 frickin miles from the house and couldn't come out to say hello. I haven't seen her since she came home to visit three days after I got home from the hospital.

When she first called at 10:30 she asked if DH was home. I told her he was still sleeping but was getting up soon and going to work. I asked her if they were coming over to talk to DH. She said no. This is an on-going problem. DH wants to talk to her fiance and wants him to be proper in asking for DD's hand in marriage. DH has some questions for him. Originally when DD came home at Christmas time and announced her engagement she said that her fiance was going to talk to DH then. Supposedly he got nervous and never talked to DH. There have been several times that they were going to come up to talk and "something came up." They were supposed to come up and talk the Sunday after I came home from the hospital. (That's been 5 weeks!) She called and said they were on their way, then she called and said that they'd be late 'cause they had some minor car problems, then she called at 7 p.m. and said that they wouldn't be coming. When I talked to her the next day I found out that they got into an arguement and that's when "they" decided that they weren't coming to the house...at that time, they were 2 miles from the house! This whole thing has hurt both of us but the fact that DD has let the situation go on without her fiance talking to DH has really hurt DH. Now he's past the point of being hurt and he's just plain mad. Now he says that he won't go to the wedding even if he is invited. (But I doubt we will be.)

We've had so many problems with DD over the years but things were starting to look up last summer. She had even admitted to screwing up and hurting her family and had told us how important family is to her. And now this.

I really feel that her fiance is the cause of her not coming home for visits. I think he's trying to pull her away from her family. She may have accepted the fact that we don't support this wedding and we chose not to throw her a wedding, but I don't think he's accepted it and I think he's trying to make us suffer for it.

I am so upset right now. I've been crying since she called and I'm literally sick to my stomach. DH is mad at me 'cause I let it get to me. I try not to and I've done very good lately about not letting it getting to me but this just hit hard. How can you be so close and not at least come over to say hello to your mother, especially since I've been sick. I'll probably never see her again before she's married.

I'm sorry for crying on your shoulders. I just really needed someone to "talk" to. I know there's nothing I can do, there's nothing anyone can do. But it's just so hard to be hurt over and over again. And it's just so hard to sit by and watch her make a mistake.

Thanks guys!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Kelli - I tried downloading the pic on my laptop and it did the same thing. I can't get it any bigger. I told DH that he's going to have to try to figure it out for me.

 

[thmar]

Just popping on here to post 'cause I need a shoulder (shoulders) to cry on.

DD just called. They got their marriage license. I was wrong - there is no waiting period. So I expect we'll be getting a "we're married" call any day now.

What has me so upset though is that she called to say they were heading back to Charlotte. She had told her boss she'd be late, if she came in at all, but she said if they leave now she may make it on time. That's a bunch of b***. She usually doesn't care if she gets there on time, and her boss wouldn't care either. She (they) just didn't want to come out to the house. And I really don't think it's her as much as her fiance. She was 15 frickin miles from the house and couldn't come out to say hello. I haven't seen her since she came home to visit three days after I got home from the hospital.

When she first called at 10:30 she asked if DH was home. I told her he was still sleeping but was getting up soon and going to work. I asked her if they were coming over to talk to DH. She said no. This is an on-going problem. DH wants to talk to her fiance and wants him to be proper in asking for DD's hand in marriage. DH has some questions for him. Originally when DD came home at Christmas time and announced her engagement she said that her fiance was going to talk to DH then. Supposedly he got nervous and never talked to DH. There have been several times that they were going to come up to talk and "something came up." They were supposed to come up and talk the Sunday after I came home from the hospital. (That's been 5 weeks!) She called and said they were on their way, then she called and said that they'd be late 'cause they had some minor car problems, then she called at 7 p.m. and said that they wouldn't be coming. When I talked to her the next day I found out that they got into an arguement and that's when "they" decided that they weren't coming to the house...at that time, they were 2 miles from the house! This whole thing has hurt both of us but the fact that DD has let the situation go on without her fiance talking to DH has really hurt DH. Now he's past the point of being hurt and he's just plain mad. Now he says that he won't go to the wedding even if he is invited. (But I doubt we will be.)

We've had so many problems with DD over the years but things were starting to look up last summer. She had even admitted to screwing up and hurting her family and had told us how important family is to her. And now this.

I really feel that her fiance is the cause of her not coming home for visits. I think he's trying to pull her away from her family. She may have accepted the fact that we don't support this wedding and we chose not to throw her a wedding, but I don't think he's accepted it and I think he's trying to make us suffer for it.

I am so upset right now. I've been crying since she called and I'm literally sick to my stomach. DH is mad at me 'cause I let it get to me. I try not to and I've done very good lately about not letting it getting to me but this just hit hard. How can you be so close and not at least come over to say hello to your mother, especially since I've been sick. I'll probably never see her again before she's married.

I'm sorry for crying on your shoulders. I just really needed someone to "talk" to. I know there's nothing I can do, there's nothing anyone can do. But it's just so hard to be hurt over and over again. And it's just so hard to sit by and watch her make a mistake.

Thanks guys!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

good thing we only went one-way the southern route




its a lot of food and its not cheap!!! they make you pay the $98 for the dinner before they will even cook the meat. If you finish the 72 ounce steak dinner (meaning the WHOLE DINNER) then you get your money back!!!

DH and I only spent $45 for our whole dinner and he had the huge t-bone steak!!!

$98! Wow! But it still might be worth it for a once-in-a-lifetime type of meal!

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

10 mins. until lunchtime. I am so hungry. And you guys are not helping talking about steak and prime rib, shrimp and salad.

So, what did you end up with for lunch?

I'm fixing Easter leftovers for dinner tonight so at least I don't really have to cook!

 

[trappednabox]

Just popping on here to post 'cause I need a shoulder (shoulders) to cry on.

DD just called. They got their marriage license. I was wrong - there is no waiting period. So I expect we'll be getting a "we're married" call any day now.

What has me so upset though is that she called to say they were heading back to Charlotte. She had told her boss she'd be late, if she came in at all, but she said if they leave now she may make it on time. That's a bunch of b***. She usually doesn't care if she gets there on time, and her boss wouldn't care either. She (they) just didn't want to come out to the house. And I really don't think it's her as much as her fiance. She was 15 frickin miles from the house and couldn't come out to say hello. I haven't seen her since she came home to visit three days after I got home from the hospital.

When she first called at 10:30 she asked if DH was home. I told her he was still sleeping but was getting up soon and going to work. I asked her if they were coming over to talk to DH. She said no. This is an on-going problem. DH wants to talk to her fiance and wants him to be proper in asking for DD's hand in marriage. DH has some questions for him. Originally when DD came home at Christmas time and announced her engagement she said that her fiance was going to talk to DH then. Supposedly he got nervous and never talked to DH. There have been several times that they were going to come up to talk and "something came up." They were supposed to come up and talk the Sunday after I came home from the hospital. (That's been 5 weeks!) She called and said they were on their way, then she called and said that they'd be late 'cause they had some minor car problems, then she called at 7 p.m. and said that they wouldn't be coming. When I talked to her the next day I found out that they got into an arguement and that's when "they" decided that they weren't coming to the house...at that time, they were 2 miles from the house! This whole thing has hurt both of us but the fact that DD has let the situation go on without her fiance talking to DH has really hurt DH. Now he's past the point of being hurt and he's just plain mad. Now he says that he won't go to the wedding even if he is invited. (But I doubt we will be.)

We've had so many problems with DD over the years but things were starting to look up last summer. She had even admitted to screwing up and hurting her family and had told us how important family is to her. And now this.

I really feel that her fiance is the cause of her not coming home for visits. I think he's trying to pull her away from her family. She may have accepted the fact that we don't support this wedding and we chose not to throw her a wedding, but I don't think he's accepted it and I think he's trying to make us suffer for it.

I am so upset right now. I've been crying since she called and I'm literally sick to my stomach. DH is mad at me 'cause I let it get to me. I try not to and I've done very good lately about not letting it getting to me but this just hit hard. How can you be so close and not at least come over to say hello to your mother, especially since I've been sick. I'll probably never see her again before she's married.

I'm sorry for crying on your shoulders. I just really needed someone to "talk" to. I know there's nothing I can do, there's nothing anyone can do. But it's just so hard to be hurt over and over again. And it's just so hard to sit by and watch her make a mistake.

Thanks guys!

Don't be sorry Kathy!! you know we're here for ya I'm sooo sorry they're doing this to you!!